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Ilekeh:
Nigerian marriages. . . .

shirazlova:
Im a regular contributor here on Nairaland but have had to create a new profile for the sake of being anonymous
My problem is that all my life I've struggled to make or maintain female friendships due to one reason or another. Distance, change of location, falling out/unresolved conflict, jealousy, fake friends etc.. It's something I'm ashamed of and I often feel sad that I don't have my clique of friends especially now that I'm about getting married. It saddens me that at this time of my life where I'm supposed to be joyous and be surrounded by girlfriends helping me with wedding preparations, choosing a dress etc, I have no one to call on. I've had to shop for my dress alone which was quite a depressing experience. Everytime my parents or aunties ask of my friends I come up with one story or another or just change the topic completely.
My fiancée is very much aware of my lack of friends but he's not bothered by it at all. I'm in my early/mid twenties and I feel so saddened to see other girls my age with lots of girlfriends. I have a big family however most of my cousins are male.
How do I go about doing my wedding with no bridesmaids whatsoever! It'll be such a mortifying experience for my wedding guests and family members to notice I have no friends.
What do I do about this?
I'd appreciate matured responses pls.

nairalife2013:
Those who go the extreme must be sure of themselves and what they are doing. @Ngokafo, there are people who stretch farther than the rest. Some women love being unconditionally obedient and respectful to men. Thatz their nature. They can never abuse, workout on or spit at som1, no matter the provocation. They have tongues that only speak of peace and apologies. Thier joy is in caring for all and thier pride is in mediation aided by feminine powers. I know of many of such ladies who would quietly walk away in the face of confrontation, even when they were innocent and should atleast exchange a few invectives with the antagonist to register thier uprightness . I needed that type and if I went the extreme distance to get it, itz all for my good and that of all. Dont do like me. My wife had her own way of appraising me. If am obedient and respectful and feminine to the core, what could be my longterm benefit and that of my kids from this man. Is there any reason to shore up with this? He is more than me in wisdom, age, wealth and everything. Am extremely proud of him and so much inlove. Should I let my longborne pride rub me of his love and care. I am a woman, I must get what I want not by might...
Just this evening,I was in the tennis court when my wife called that she took her suv to the carwash and I should take that route on my way back from the club so she can join me home. When I got there I met an old freind sipping some beverage at a table in the adjoining pavilion. We three sat there and had a chat for about two hours. All the while, my concentration was on my wife and my wife's on me and we held eachother to serries of our usuall ribcracking conversation. As we all made to depart the place, The guy told me to my wife's hearing "man, I see this kind of relationship mostly in movies. This is more than a marriage. This for sure is somthingelse." My wife just smile at him. I smiled too at him. We hear that always from all sorts of folks! Our minds eager to be let alone asap so we can continue chating and laffing and my wife would have more space to continue forming baby and cuddling in my arms an on my shoulder. My wife is a rare breed that cannot survive a day without talking to me or putting her head on my shoulder or holding my hand. If u like shove her away, she will spontaneously come bak to the spot immediately thereafter, like a little girl to her mother! She is incapable of habouring malice in her heart for the sun to return and meet. Only God can explain her ways for mortals to understand. Just forget it and go and rest!

winetapper:
Nigerian parents find it pretty hard to say sorry..
The closest sorry you would hear is
Have you eaten
Is it pride or your opinion.

oloyede252:
hello bae..to slap u dey hungry me but
YOU KNOW
DEM NO DEY SLAP MADWOMAN

oloyede252:
BABA E NI BUHARI ABI.
Oloribuku omoale.

OTI TO KI E KO OSHI YIN KORO JOOR.

oloyede252:
iya mi ti ku abi?
OLORIBU NI IYA MI
RECIEVE



sENse

tearoses:
You need to have a free mind sista
My explanations may not make sense to you becasue they are very simple; You are looking for a big thing where there isnt.
I am too long in the tooth to worry too much about privacy or what will people say. Nothing to hide.

Like I said earlier, a number of very active nairalanders know me very well. Over the years Some have become like brothers and sisters to me. Some have met my hubby and some have met my kids. . .some have even met my mum. Even If I write anything that I later think I dont want, deactivating is not the answer in this situation. I rather delete posts.

I know how much of my time I spent on NL posting and PM's and I needed that time to myself at the point that I deactivated.
I am also no longer a part of Tehn.

I am taking time to explain to you becasue of the respect that I have for you even though you set out to discredit me.

I still maintain that people will deactivate and reactivate due to different reasons at that point. They dont owe anyone an explanation. its a personal choice.

oloyede252:
must you do that.smh.
OLORIBURUKU.

oloyede252:
hello bae.
RECIEVE




SENSE

Dheartless:
[s]don't mind all this hypocrites
they are just here to frustrate any man, whether you deserve it or not
welcome to Nl family section, where a lot of souls are embittered by their own incapabilities


don't expect an advice or even a correction

unless a man comes along[/s]

[ you will do your self good if you can give details of your situation

SAMBARRY:
Why you dense like this



if I sell your brain e no go worth more than one hundred and fifty naira.




guy talent and hardwork dey get location barrier?

oloyede252:
IYA OLOYEDE, RECIEVE





SENSE

agborodun:
How can one handle an arrogant wife?

taryour:
Handle Na object you marry abi human being?

Fablady:
Answered all these questions in earlier posts.

crackhaus: