₦airaland Forum

Kobojunkie:
Divorce is thousands of years older than your "for better or worse" mantras, which only deluded individuals believe in. Reality is that divorce is as old as marriage, and it is a lawful exit from the marriage contract. 🥱🥱

If you go into marriage not realizing that divorce has always been a right path out of marriage, then I seriously question your maturity and intelligence for marriage.

You talking of divorce is making it mild. Maybe it is the one that suits you. Don't forget that you can exit marriage with murder, sickness, disease, disability or death . These are what made it " for better or for worse" It is not for the faithless. So that mantra is still real.

GiftofGod77:
No sir. I never want to make you or anyone think or perceive me as a religious bigot or local champion. What I am saying is something you can help us crosscheck. Marriage is made by an Architect or a Designer. The problem we have, including myself please because I am only a poor sinner who lives by grace daily, is that we live just like I said by our human instincts or nuances instead of adhering to the rules the Architect has set. Let me give you an example, a person who is not mature spiritually will be very irritable and easily annoyed by the slightest provocation or any error committed by a spouse. You will see such spouses whether men or women resort to insults or even physical abuse or eve cheating outside because what is resident in such people is not the Spirit of God. These are carnal people who think living is not by the grace of God but by their own effort or their own capacity. This is what I am saying sir.

Yes, I now agree with you. But before you made it look like God engineers some marriage and not others.
But now we agree that everything depends on our understanding of God's word and how we apply it.

GiftofGod77:
Hahaha it's not a risk if the Creator and Architect of marriage helps and chooses a partner for one then it will be very successful. But when we use our instincts and our nuances we will find it difficult to understand the delicate fabric and stands of marriage. So it can be a risk if it is human engineered but not a risk if it is God engineered. Thank you.

For your information, I am a born again Christian. I do know that God blessed man and gave him the things to live with including his words. God can also intervene in the affairs of men.
You and I know that " we use our instincts and our nuances" to live. But now you want to deny that, to claim that you know God more than others. So all the marriages around us that are in shambles are what? Tell me the ones God engineered and the ones He left unegineered. I don't like talking with religious people.

Gracefilled01:
Fake pastor. What sort of pastor comes online to mock a supposed friend? By the way, there's no such thing as a female pastor. It's unscriptural. Let her keep deceiving herself and gullible followers.

She gave a good lesson which many people would learn from. She didn't mention any name, so she wasn't mocking anyone. As you can see from comments here, many people relate with what she said. I personally relate with it because I know some ladies that held to their self imposed standards and miss the real deal.
Again, there is nothing unscriptural about female pastors. The Bible says that what we agreed in this world will be establish in heaven. The Bible is not rigid. Jesus did not preach in the TV on or on the Internet, now that some pastors are using them to preach. Is it unscriptural. There were no female pastors at the time the Bible was written, but the modern world had embraced them, so heaven has also accepted it as the Bible says.

Kobojunkie:
You want a woman to have to settle for a man in order to be married. When this same woman decides later on to abandon the man after locating the man that meets his standard or decides she no longer wishes to settle, you will come back to stab at her for settling in the first place, right?

But they tell you in the beginning that " it is for better, and for worse" and you signed in the presence of all and celebrate. So why running when the issue was fully disclosed to you and you agreed to face it. Do you think it was a joke?

semid4lyfe:
Not all women will get married. Ditto men.

We agree, but count me out, let it not be my own daughters and sons.

GiftofGod77:
A very good write up and testimony with good advice for those who want to learn. However it is not like a taking a risk of gambling. It is about waiting upon the Lord no matter what.

It is taking a risk. Stop misinterpreting it.

tunjijones:
Na wetin catch my attention too.

Are pastors allowed to marry twice in one life?

What if her first husband died? Would it be wrong for her to remarry?

Kobojunkie:
Your friend is probably lucky she did not engage any of those men you introduced to her. Those Passport-brothers you introduced to her would have likely sealed her death or regret in marriage.

A woman should remain single rather than running around filled with regret in marriage. Africans still have yet to normalize divorce, so it is difficult for many to get out once they are trapped in such situations.

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On another note, something tells me that this woman telling this story is herself a single-married woman, seeing as she is all wrapped up in tales of Boaz and all that religious nonsense— religious delusions —, while openly demeaning her friend for having standards.

Said had said it all. She said that it is a risk. But the risk is worth taking. So it is up to you.
You also need to be reminded that a farmer who looks at the weather will not show.

Leonardo4:
Rice equivalent to 80 bags of rice cooked with just one goat not even a cow . How will it be tasty.? It's as good as no protein

She didn't say one goat. She said 164kg of goat meat. That's more than the weight of 3 bags of rice. If you can imagine the weight of 50kg bag of rice, then you can see that 164kg of goat meat would be up 50 goats of different sizes.

Cheating in a relationship is a human thing. Even as I type this, many people both men and women are somewhere cheating, enjoying it.
What I don't understand is why the same human being hate to hear of cheating and it's outcome with passion.
Even someone that cheated yesterday will participate in stoning someone who is caught today doing the same thing he did yesterday.
Society and you knowing that he/she is your child is stronger than biology saying otherwise. To me parternity test is irrelevant. I cannot try such nonsense no matter the situation I find myself.

thecommunist:
What is the point sef. Just cook, break record, and get hyped by everybody for cooking a big ass pot of rice.
We need to get serious in Nigeria.

Someone is promoting her business, building her brand and you are here complaining. Is there a way the thing affects you. Are you going to lose anything because of this her cooking?

D00msDay:
So Nigeria is safe? My colleague was kidnapped last week while visiting his family in Kogi state from Abuja. One death una just dey compare America to Nigeria security wise.
Last Saturday alone close to 700 Nigerians were murdered across Kwara, Benue, Niger, South KD etc by terrorists. Thousands of Nigerians are being massacred in Nigeria weekly. But na US citizen death una they put for head.
I'll rather be in the US minding my business than being in Nigeria where I can't travel by road for fear of being kidnapped, I can't visit some rural areas for fear of bandits etc.

It is not about the number. The terrorist and the kidnappers operates in lonely places and darkness. Checkout the audacity to kill someone delivering lectures to hundreds of people live.

They will get him in matter of hours. The thing that works for the FBI is the cooperative of the citizens in crime situations This is unlike Nigeria where the Police is a problem to themselves and to the people.

Baba, go and carry wine or do a simple introduction on her head before you claim legitimacy. The world is moving everyday and you are expecting her to wait for you till 5 years time . Stop complaining when you're ready you will get a woman to marry. For now, you are not mature or ready for what you are pushing yourself into.

parags:
There is a difference between protests in a civilized country and a country like Nigeria. Our leaders are ruthless and will have no hesitation in killing all protesters . Let what happened to the Shia and sars protesters be a lesson and an indicator of what will happen .
Besides the nigerian people will always suffer and smile. When Elections come they will connive with the politicians to circumvent the will of the people .during any administration , they join the politicians in looting as evil servants . Violent Revolution will not work . It will quickly spiral down to an ethnic war . Wars are terrible on everybody. Children . Women . Men .

You are seeing it as it is now, but things can always change at any time or year. The Napal we are discussing here is not known as a violent country. We don't know that they exist, but now that there collective freedom is threatened by their government, we have seen the outcome. Don't take a people for a ride they can become one when pushed to the extreme.

franchasng:
Tinubu should rather learn from leaders that used anti people policies to push the citizens to the edge.


Maybe Tinubu's inhumane tax law and other of his wicked policies in the name of increasing government revenue away from crude oil will be the fifinal straw that will break the camel's back and boom, Baba Sope the Lagos landlord will get that people's revolt he has been asking for, just maybe, time will tell.



So Seyi Law abi Seyi Court, don't worry, don't advice Tinubu to reverse his anti people policies, be there trying to gaslight and scare Nigerians with references, e go shock una

You're right. The confused ones are here talking or region and refuse to face reality. Mass protest is not planned by anyone. It doesn't know tribe or region. Any small action or inaction by the government can spark it.
Nigerians are complaining too much about Tinubu's administration, but he seems to be less concerned. Those that love him should appeal to him to listen rather than the useless talk of starting a protest in your region.
Protest don't know of regions.

free2ryhme:
Me i just dey look nothing wey be my own inside the matter

Can't this matter motivate you to open a YouTube channel. Don't you know that even if you only laugh there, you can get your own views. May not be in millions but, you will definitely get something and grow from there.

This is how all the sectors operates and this is why they can afford to publish it in the official website without minding. This is the impunity and corruption we are talking about. Will someone like Tinubu have the time to monitor this type of activity?
The EFCC is after the yahoo boys while the real damage and economic sabotage is being done daily and posted for all to see.
We have a very long way to go as a country. All the Police stations in the country don't know what a computer is. They still take the daily report with notebooks and biro. I use to imagine why the police operations can not be computerized and linked for good results.
But here is why, some people would rather use the money for such ventures to buy cracker biscuits and toilet rolls.
Good governance is a very scarce commodity indeed.

Both are good, but I cannot go back to 9 to 5 after testing the gig economy. I love when I see Nigerians on the field matching it up with the Indians and Pakistanis.
Most of the funds that the government report is diaspora remittance are made by Nigerians at home.
The economy needs to expand with the little contribution from everyone.

MrColdsweat:
Sentence a human to this satanic world, a lifetime of pain and suffering, just to secure your small house.
Great idea.

Not so bros. We live and extend life. That's man's destiny on earth. We can not allow pain or suffering to deny us from fulfilling our destiny. Think about it.

You don't want to call a spade a spade because you people always like to twist things in the name of defending the government. Now it has hooked.
You should have used this your explanation in your interview. We have already accepted that Tinubu is favouring Lagos because it is a no man's land. What are you bothering your self to explain again since you don't want to tell us that Tinubu is favouring Yoruba land.

ogascomax:
2023 is not 2027 the earlier you guys start seeing things the way it is the better for una. Under estimating Tinubu tendencies to do extremely dangerous things to win Lagos and anywhere that he would be mocked the second time is the failure of Obi supporters.

And you think that it is only Tinubu that knows how " to do extremely dangerous things"?

ajalawole:
But those Americian hardly go to church and don't take religion that serious as we do here in Nigeria

Christianity
Is about confessing it. Christ did not come to judge or conquer the world.

richmond500:
So the people UK that brought christianity to us dont even practice the religion and we are herr getting emotional over a borrowed God

UK is a small country by population below 70 million so you don't expect them to make top 11 countries.

heracles1:
I ask you now please show me road

Drop your email or WhatsApp, let me give you some information.

heracles1:
if there are job opportunities a graduate like me wouldnt be betting and begging

If there are no jobs opportunities, there are other opportunities. You just need to ask questions.

yarimo:
Peter obi please decamp to APC and participate in primary election with president TINUBU, just to show how popular you are politically .

And you think that this your write up made any sense?

blaise26abj:
You know one cannot use the full mouth to talk . Of course it is not a story . Some people have just become empowered to become stupidly rich with the new tax laws . Our problem is not lack of ideas . Our problem is the insane level of corruption in all of our civil service and government parastatals.

Yeah, that's it. If you not spending the money allocated to you, others will spend it for you. The situation is worst now that Tinubu is in power.

blaise26abj:
That my brother is What WILL happen ! I know of a story where someone was allegedly owing over two billion Naira in taxes . He settled with about 200 million and paid government about 100 million . That settlement was allegedly at the top of FIRS management .
This is just one of several I have heard.

Not a story. It is actually how it work in Nigeria.

Hexxah:
Good! This is applicable everywhere. I remember my first year working abroad. On filling my returns, I was informed that I was owing the tax regulatory body a lot of money cause they had tracked my extra revenue from my side hustles via my account activities. All Nigerians must pay their taxes. No more anyhowness

It is not about paying the taxes. It is about showing us what you do with the tax, Showing the sources of the donation you are making. This is the only condition that will make us to pay without anyhowness.

Many people talk of subsidy withdraw as the problem, but the truth is that Tinubu attacked the Nigerian economy from all sides. But then his unguided devaluation of the Naira ends up in swallowing everything he is generating. This is why he keep borrowing. At the end his policies benefits no one. The suffering he inflicted on the economy will continue to show.