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Do not be distracted poster, alot of them on here are saying they doubt her love 4 u, since u know ur gurl, if by her acts u know she loves u, dnt be bothered by her not saying I LOVE U, If u just feel like hearing her say that, tell her that u would love to hear her say it, she'll do it i swear, even if its just for once. Nairaland don repair and destroy alot of relationships. so be wise!!

topup:
[color=#008855]Well, it'd be a shame for me if my boyfriend thought that just because I was very open to discuss sexuality that I was a 'slut'. I am naturally a very sexual person and it could come across as that I have had multiple sexual experiences, but then again, I come on Nairaland, I'm knowledgable, open and live in the 21st century where sex is everywhere, if I was to be completely unaware (especially when all you have to do is be in a group of girlfriends who have had experience to know what's what) wouldn't you be a bit suspicious??
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I never took her for a slut just cos she opened up to me, I am pin-pointing on the fact that that could be a lie.

U be fool, u no fit even formulate story well. Biko I go too slap u if I know u in person. ODE!!!

Its rampant amongst our Nigerian men and women, sleeping with another person dnt mean you love them, I mean dnt compare love and sex together, but in other relationships, the commitment is more extreme, that even if ur tempted to have sex with whom u dnt love out of lust, u would not want to do it.

Some pple are not using their senses here, its a simple thing, @ poster, am sure u know if ur gurl loves u or not by the way she acts and all dat, if she does, then not saying I love u is not a big deal, my gurlfriend finds it hard to say it even though I know she loves me. Most gurl feel its a degrading phrase to utter cos they are scared their men would take them for granted, and some just feel too preemptively overwhelmed by what the outcome of the phrase might be on them either by the way its being pronounced, or the judgment thereafter. Lastly, I think if you really just want to hear her say it regardless of the fact that you know she loves u, just tell her that U know she loves u, but u did be very happy for her to say it, even its for once.

dipo2much:
My Guy,she is just like every other girl out there. Her ex didnt only finger her,but he also f**cked her well with a long privates. Thats why she thinks your privates may be too short, sorry

Thought as much too, I have an average looking dick, quite energetic looking with some thick veins all around it, funny enuff, the description I made with my corolla handbreak is quite big, so for her to have downgraded it, mehn she must have had a horse looking like dick.

steve49ja:
Just Bleep the thing and stop increasing the number of annoying threads on here.
Finger bleeping or Dicking Inserting the kitten's been active chop your own and clean ya mouth how else you want make i talk am?

CONFIRM, U DON YARN AM FINISH!!

I have finally moved on, a permanent pause has been set on calls and txt messages and never to return whichever comes my way. Thank you all for making this thread a lively one and picking some points that have finally made me a better person regarding this issue. Thread officially closed.

hollandis:
okay

Good!!

hollandis:
Not even an intelligent doctor can tell if she's had sex or not, unless she was examined shortly after sex.

A hymen or a missing hymen is not proof of sexual activity. They can be torn through many nonsexual means.

So if a doctor cannot tell, YOU cannot tell. You have to take her word for it.

you asked and she gave an answer
see me see wahala

Boil ur point down to 0 degress, I can hardly understand what u are getting @

darqly:
Boy, you seem to have issues with your self-esteem(judging from ur other topics, ), U always need constant re-assurance and pep-talks. Leave the girl be, let her get an education, you should do same while you're at it, instead of looking for a sex-toy.

It is when I am in love and I got issues, thats when I usually need re-assurance, exactly when my inconsistent self-esteem shows its best. I am not always like that. I have moved on now, thanks

smooooooth:
so what were u thinking, that she will end up with a spare parts dealer abi?

anyway make sure you pay her school bills till she graduate b4 she finally

dumps your arse, okay. now go to ya shop and be a good boy.

Na u sabi, lol Nna!!!

soulamanne:
eyonigger, ur name makes me smile.thot u wuld be a 19yr old guy until u put 24!haba guy u r most inexperienced.boys ve said it all here.dont u know young ladies(below 24)are very unstable in their minds.much much much lesss of a 16yr old dummy.take the truth, u wont ve her.she got infatuated with u when she was still unexposed now in univ?(God help u one like unilag!)she will more more pple,guys will come,pressure will follow etc.if afta her 2nd yr u still 2geda,gudluck.but come to think of it 2mths and u think u ve her, o boy u still got a longer way to go.
make use of ur life and be a MAN.what women want is a succesful man.if u are,u will be confident and wont need bother if a babe will leave u or not.let nature take its toil and live ur own life.a poiece of ad, neva try to bug the babe oooooo or else u go just yawa ur sef.cheers

Not my fault bra!!! Luv got me doing childish things, just like I said I have moved on, my life is better, working hard to make it the best, thank u all!!!

waterworks:
WAIT WAIT WAIT HANG ON!!!
Arent we missing the big picture here? You wer dating 4 8 months abi? In the first months she said she was a virgin and the incident in the car…7 months later ure asking nairalanders if she really was? Didn’t u sleep with her? COULDN’T YOU TELL?

go and read my post wella, u still dnt get the picture, besides I have not yet slept with her, only finger fucking,

As u rush in, na so you go rush out!!!

where them niggers@?

Lol, thread officially closed 4 now.

babsongudus:
@poster
Why worry? I think the best option for u now is to find ways n means to build a strong cage n put her in so as no man wld v chance to touch her.
My dear, beta go n make money-wen u gat the dough, u gat dem sweetest girls around u. Stop worrying ursef over noffin

You do not get the picture of what I need an answer on, I did not request advise on how I can avoid her to get along with any guy, all am asking is to sustain my position as her number 1, coz she obviously would get another guy there. I do not mind,,

olanajim:
Mr poster,
you must be older than that girl. In that case, you have to learn to talk things out before making erratic decisions. She was right to say you are evading problems. If you are to break up with every lady that behave funny to you at a stage in your r/shp, then you will have a high stat to show at the end of the day.

If you think she is hurting you, why not discus with her? Study her and find out why she do that.

Talk to her and tell her you want the two of you to be "just friends." If along the line you find that you are compatible for real r/shp, then you will propose formally. Treat her well but don't invest too much of your heart in her. That way, if she dump you, you will not be hurt. Visit her at school. Sometimes with notice, at another time without. But don't stalk her or follow her about. Learn to understand her. Make it clear that you want her, but if she know she does not want you, she should tell you so you can part in peace instead of wasting time.

Be in control. Until you are satisfied. If she persists in her way, look for a better lady.

I have discussed it with her the reason why she is hurting me, she says it aint intentional, stating that pressure and distraction are major reasons for the cause. I actually have a gurl that I really do not love, but she loves me die, I have been communicating well with her now in order to build a mutual feeling towards her, just in case the worse happens.

olanajim:
I think I understand you now, mr poster, after reading your last post. YOU ARE THE PROBLEM! Pls fix it!

How am I the problem sir? Please be specific!!

HOLLASLYD:
The world is not a bed of roses you know. challenges come and you don't wizzle out of them,you deal with them. my point is that before you make rational decisions,you must have thought exhaustively about it.you guys are back together good. The number of break ups and make ups shows there is real love between you two.

Yes we are in love,  I have learnt not to make such decisions without discussing it wit the other party.

steve49ja:
Mehn mehn mehn
Another bro in tangled emotions

I really dunno what to type nor advice cos i'm having a shady picture of this.

If the problem is you being intimidated by other dudes(better looking or richer) then you have to step up your game, i tell you not-so-handsome men end up with beauties and damsels.

Break-up and make-up then break-up again then make-up is crazy!
Understand yourself and what it is you want.

But truth be told bro you berra prepare your heart for the worse cos a girl in Uni would have a whole lot of advances and ''if you never give am belle or marry am you have a higher rate of losing her even if she's a pastor's daughter''.

Get a girl by the side too someone to occupy your thoughts and share your heart,so if this relationship goes the other way you'll have something to fall back on. Try not to be so commited to the relationship whatever she decides should be fine with you.

Visit her once in a while and have her come over too but seriously you have a lot of decision-making issues to treat.

I'll also like to know do you wanna marry this girl? i mean why not let her be and find someone around you who can come over for a dinner or somfin sometime?

Just so you know break-up aint easy if you still have feelings but it takes strength to overcome.DECIDE IF YOU WANNA LEAVE----LEAVE!!!EVEN IF HER MUM COMES OVER TO TALK TO YOU OK??just decide on what you want and stand by it.

Yes I am not investing all my heart into the relationship ever since she left, she also stated that she has nt been seeing better looking people when I asked her if cream boys are there . saying they are just razz as they can be, but today she said she has been seeing admirers that seems to be good looking, my response to that didnt seem that threatening towards myself. With that alone, I am getting a picture that the wolves are drawing near.

I am travelling to Owerri next month for her bday, would one on one observe what her feelings still look like. Finally I still do not want to decide either to leave, but I guess to leave things the way it is and keep looking wud be the best thing to do.

Dr.Tony:
@Eyonigger,
I sure say no b IMSU ur girl dey, From ur post I undastand U dont tink deep abt d consequences,maybe due to confusion 4rm Luv.Give ur chick sum more tym n make sure U see in person b4 taking any action

Nah she is in FUTO, Right now I am giving her time to straighten out herself.

i_laugh:
@poster

It then simply means you are extremely ugly while your mind tells you otherwise.

Appreciation!! You are simply 100% JOKE, It tells from ur nickname,

gabrywyl:
Eyo, dont mind them, to me you look damn cute. 

Ty, I know it and I said it unlike those that are cute but scared to say it out.

waterworks:
oh huni ure cute. u might not be a sex magnet but im sure u can work with that. u have a sweetness about u and i think ur smile is ur greatest asset. ur the kind of guy thatl take a gurl by surprise and make her fall 4 u wen she isnt looking. kudos i know wat it feels like o meet a fineer girl some somwwer even when just before u left the house u wer like ohh im hot! im hot! lol

Lol, ur just so funny,

marydre:
@poster looks more like the orbit's in lord of the ring

Yes I know, post a photo of orbit and mine on the thread and let peeps make differentiation.