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papaejima20199:
This is my first time posting NL , although I've been reading a lot in the last few months . I'll try to be as detailed as possible. I don't even know if I'm asking a question, or advice, or what. I just have to get some things out of my brain.

I’m 36 and my wife is 32. we've been married for 12 years and have two children, twins age 1. I would say happily married. As in, we don't fight, , never any abuse of any kind, no major life disagreements. I love my wife. She is a great mother, a great provider for the family, and we make a great team when it comes to raising our kids. However, she leaves me feeling undesired. Sexually, just intimacy in general, not feeling wanted or desired, missing that flirtatious quality that we all enjoy in a relationship. Our sex life has been on a steady decline, honestly since we got married. Less and less and less every year, and yes, kids make that even more difficult (and provide very easy excuses)

About 2 years ago, I was close to cheating. There was a girl at work that I flirted with often. We started hanging out , and we always seemed to end up talking, touching innocently, flirting, but nothing ever happened between us. The feeling this girl gave me inspired me to tell my wife how I was feeling, what I was missing, etc. I told her how important sex was to me, asked her what I could change, or if she needed to change something. Her response was that she "just didn't really think about it like you do" and that she would try to work on it. Well she didn't work on it, at all.

The flirty girl didn't work with me any more, and I lost that "flame" with her and let it go, and went about life as usual. I've been working a lot of hours over the last six months. I fell into this flirty relationship with one of my coworkers 22 and we just would have a lot of fun with one another. Mad sexual tension. A few months back things happen and she blows me. Its great. Best sex of my life. We set up plans to meet up off work hours and we do.

My coworker is in perfect shape. Its like my perfect woman. I love the way she loves me. She appreciates me, she satisfies me, she matches my sexual drive, and even exceeds it. She is everything I was missing in life, and I'm as happy as I've been in a long time. She is also crazy about me which feels unbelievable. Its been a while since someone has just wanted me to be happy and wanted to please me. I now consider her my girlfriend.

I don't wish to hurt my wife. But I do wish to be happy.

I do not wish for my children to grow up in a home with divorce. I want them to grow up with myself and my wife still being the team we've been so far, doing equal parts to take care of them, and always be there for them.

I realize a lot of what I'm saying are things that can't go together. I want to be with my girlfriend, I don't want to hurt my wife, and I don't want my kids to suffer . I can't have it all. Now I feel stuck

I need help because I can't seem to go through with this alone, and I have no one close enough with the time and level of trust that I can confide in, so I would really appreciate it if you'd offer me some advice.

Thanks for reading

You don't need to leave your wife. She's simply making a mistake a lot of married women make... taking their man's sex life for granted. Her eyes needs to be opened in a gentle but direct way.

My WhatsApp number is on my profile. Contact me and I will give you an ebook that will do the Job and do it well for you. All you need to do is make sure she starts reading it and it will hold her to the end. Her brain will reset after that and she will be the one talking to you about sex and what you want.

This book has worked for numerous nairaland women and even American women on Amazon. They always come back to thank me. Don't take my word for it, ask for proof.

Chears.

americaninja1:
call dere customer care , d cash deposit means u made a deposit via ur card, d C2C means u transferred money from ur bet9ja account to another bet9ja account. Calculate d deposit u saw dere and c if it’s d same as d ones u were charged with. But did u operate ur Acct on 6/2/2020. I guess someone is making use of ur Acct on ur behalf. check d Acct u made d Customer2customer transfer to.. checnk ur be history too. He placed bet with N10,000 today. Someone has ur bet9ja . U saved ur card details in ur account.

Betting pro like you.


Op there you go. Your card was still used

Mubarak1:
I doubt if anyone knows my pin, even if someone does, my card is in my possession and I last use ATM 5-6months ago, Thanks.

Those screenshots say you are ignorant of what is happening to your card. I use Gtbank and that's the kinda alert I get when my card enters the pos shop in my area.

Go to the bank right away. If it can be reversed they will start d process sharply

Mubarak1:
How can dis help in refunding back my account pls?

He doesn't care.

Your mastercard was used at a pos. Rush to the bank and cancel it but I don't think u will succeed.

Someone knows your pin.

husbandsnatcha:
...No my dear

If you ever feel like chating with me on whatsapps I would really like that. My number is currently on my profile

husbandsnatcha:
...

Do you have access to the email connected to this account?

husbandsnatcha:
... Getting angry against inexperienced souls will be a slap on my face ,
...all they do is learn good english ,wisdom zero, humourousity zero...
.....I hope u recognized it ,how idiots mistake fake wellspoken English as wisdom
....... so u are watching me while I rub myself in the gutter with pigs( kh....a n co)
Is just fun and a little hate ( I call it hate game ,but I hate her trust me)

My dear tanks but most times I see myself as empty ,I mean empty soul

Mama you got kids now and so many dedicated friends but you still feel empty. Well, your sexy body is telling you that a man is needed permanently. I am talking grade A union. Don't you Agree?

husbandsnatcha:
...Tell me how dear ? .....

You are beautiful and so gentle, motherly. You don't even know how to get angry well. I know your other flaws and shortcominglings but you are special and never boring. I could watch you all day and keep smiling without saying a word.

It's hard to explain, shows how complex and unique you are.

Cheers!

Rekhina:
Eze2000 good eve ,are u avoiding ladies forever all of a sudden because u are scared

Hi Rekhina. Good morning.

No, I am not avoiding you guys, just reducing my activities on here. Too many foul mannered kids around you see. I don't want trouble anymore.

Anyway, I check up on Amatarasha and husbandsnatcha more often than you know. Ama is gone but snatcha is still there, interesting lady.

Well, I an ok. And so are you, I see. You look lovely and well fed. Are you Fulani? Duhai is good for you.

Danhoys:
I don't know if this is the right section.. Please lala, your help is needed.

Just this morning, I got a debit alert from AlieXpress and was wondering how possible. I thought it must be a problem with Aliexpress since I do shop there.. As i was trying to get to support, I got another debit alert, and yet another.

I had to block the atm through my bank app. I tried looking for my atm and it was nowhere to be found.

It dawns on me that I've lost my atm and someone is shopping with it. Now my question is, is it possible to recover my money through my bank, possibly trace the transaction and know who did it?

You will get your money complete. Do this...

1, Block that card ASAP
2. Go to the bank first thing Monday morning and file a complaint. Time is of essence.
3. You will notice the money has already been deducted from your account but not quite. It's still there as avaliable balance. Check your email. It will be so for about 30 days as your bank sorts things over with Aliexpress following your complaint and then it will return as your actual balance


Been in your shoes before

dominique:
I'm afraid you can't get your money bank from your bank, let's hope the shopping platform respond before it's too late

Wrong!

Speaking from experience

BuhariAdvocate:
They should thank God for the respect that president Buhari have for the rule of law. If not Because of that the protesters supposed cooling in prison.

You don't understand the meaning of freedom but sound satisfied in bandage.

miccolo2:
Chat me up on 0-8-1-38-6--6-36-9-7 for a solution

How is my FB solution coming Up? Or you just want another Score?

vheckthor1 feel free to chat this guy up if u wanna throw away your money.

chichiana:
Man you sound stupid instead..
Dss agent fighting cultism for year and well known by who.?.i pick no interest in the fued between this two people as i perceive its a scam gone wrong on the two parties. For that man to come up online and be typing without common sense shows how dumb he is. I wouldnt blame him more(saynotocultism) if the perceive scammer(trapo) had not written his own side of the story before he commented his own threat.but instead of judging from the available info. He went ahead to comment on how irrational hes brain works. A typical nigerian police man, thats how they act, judge with little or no information.power toxicants.

ChiChi, ChiChi, ChiChi

How many times did I call you? You may thingk you are smart or wise but you aren't. You are just young and naive and this thoughless advice you are giving is about to put our fellow igbo brother in big touble you won't pay to get him out of!

Even if I was Trapo and in the right and a DSS officer asked me to refund or someone posted my info online like, I would give the money back sharply. Why? The trouble I could get is more than 15k, simple.


I Sound stupid? LAMO

Let me ask you a simple question. When Trapo was asking for money to weybill the phones, did he not know that the said phones were 700k plus? Or did you not read that WhatsApp chats above He asked for 20k, they settled for just 15k and he got paid. From that point on it's been one tale after another.

Either you are too young to recognise a cheap scam or you are Trapo with a different moniker, which I find hard to believe because your English is worse than Trapo's. So it is your inexperience with scammers that is confusing you

Listen, there are two types of scammers in Nigeria. The ones that block you or vanish after scamming you and the ones that try to use sense to put you in the wrong after the scam, to make it your fault... (you need to pay service fee... is it cos of ordinary 15k you are disturbing them.... you must apologise first before you get your money.... they didn't see the alert pls... someone else is owning them so they can't pay for now. etc).

I've suffered it all firsthand. I was scammed by one just last week and made a report over in the business section. Get this... this guy is not young. He's had an account here since 2010. Talks nice but once I paid he started doing me Trapo style. That's when I goggle his phone number and saw that he's into all kinds of scam-prone business from phone to fashion. You pay first he delivers. On searching the same number on NL I found that every comment with that number has been deleted. Over 10 pages. I then understood why the guy dropped his number like this 0-7-0-1-4 etc.

So how much did this matured guy scam me for? Just 3k . It was an advance for an 8k website job.

ChiChi there is hunger in the land and people are getting more desperate.

Forget all this trash you are reading. Trapo is a scammer with outdated schemes! Of course, he can prove me wrong by returning money that's not his but that's something that will never happen because he is who he is. I can bet my right leg that he has spent that money and his account is empty again.

IamPlato:
the Mail I Used In Opening This Account Is No longer Functioning. This Is My Mail gmail.com

Taken

Remove your email before it gets mined by bots.
Always write emails this way on public websites if you must... admonadone @ gmail.com etc. Bots can never figure that out but humans can

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chichiana:
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I didn't read but suit yourself!

Trapo:
Shut your broke ass up!

Hurry up and erace this fast. That's a snr. DSS agent who has been fighting cultists for years. He is well known.

You have Stupid!

IamPlato:
i Am Currently Unavailable On Whatsapp, i Just Have Somebody Handling Sales Of My Book On whatsapp.

Are You On Facebook?

Email will be better I want to you something. Send me pm

CruzJoe:



what U need is a premium VPN ( paid VPN)
I recommend

Nord v.pn
Express v.pn
HMA v.pn



I sell the at a very cheap prize in case u want to buy any of them.

I have Nord VPN currently on my pc. It gives me endless headaches, always loving me out and reseting my login details so I have to get ones from the guy that sold it to me here on NL.

The worst part though is that of late it been harder and harder for the vpn to connect. Haven't been able to connect in 2 weeks. The main cause appears to be that the vpn cannot verify my password, it shows the warning on my pc notifications, and yet I logged in

My question now is, which of these vpn connects fast and easy.

And which do u Use? Don't hype something you don't use to me. You won't know of it lol

Iamplato


Come to me on whatsapps we need to talk about you.

ubunja:
I see the book cover is evolving. Nice.

I see you are female today. I dare say you'll be a very intesting person to meet in the flesh.

Maybe someday. I would really like to get in your smart head. Lol

No offence meant. Good day to you!

Ctorch:
A young lady identified as Adedolapo has cried out on social media after her husband who they have only being married for three months has been bathing in the same bathroom with hI'm.


http://community.thenationonlineng.net/forum/my-husband-bathes-with-my-father-everyday-but-he-never-touches-me

Lol


Homosexualisim under your nose and you knowest Not!

Hello,

About two weeks ago my website url got blocked on Facebook and I appealed twice to no avial. I started digging for solution only to discover there are hundreds like me out there with not hope becuase Facebook customer care is super horrible. I found that though I had been apealing the block for 2 day there were those who had been doing it for years! But there was another solution... ads!

The thing was you run an ad on the Facebook page then contact Facebook Ads Support and tell them something is not working. They tell you were you went wrong and unblock the URL within 6 - 72 hours.

I chose to go Ads way and a week ago and contacted a pro who took a lot at my webstie and said bots facebook bots have probably taggeted me. He said his fee was 8k and I would be free in within 3 days. I didn't want to pay that since I already knew the proceedure so I opened a thread over in webmaster asking for a Facebook expert to help me instead.

https://www.nairaland.com/5626011/facebook-ads-expert-needed#85705003

I meet a few guys, most of whom did not understand what I was asking for. But then this guy miccolo2 popped up and said I should contact him on Whatsapp. I promptly checked his profile and saw he was a very old member who mostly went around picking up business by telling people to contact him on Whatsapp. Didn't see any hint of fraud anywhere. I contacted him.

We talked on WhatsApp... Did he have a business account? Yes. Can he fix it within days? Yes. Does he know what he is doing? Yes. He so convinced me that he could do it. He wanted 5k and i paid 3k as an advance. This was on Last Monday. Two days on I told this guy to show me proof that he had contacted Facebook only for him to give me screenshots of the same block appeal form I had been appealing with for 2 days. Same form others had been using in vain for years! This form is freely available to the general public and that where you go to appeal blocks.

I was upset and told him I did not pay him to do something i can do and have done several times. I told him he did not know what he was doing at all and should refund me. He said he is running ad and will contact ad support soon, that I should hold on and give him time. I said ok. That night he uploaded screenshots of a chat with someone that looked like Facebook support but talking bad English like a Nigerian but from the conversation I discovered no ad was being run.

None of this clicked in my mind and I was eventually convinced this guy did not know what he was doing but could worsen my situation in his desire to eat my money legally or illegally. I asked for a refund again but all I got was one story after another. My website is against their rules, my page is, my content is... I suddenly realized that this guy had not even gone through my website to know what it was all about and yet was appealing it with FB. At one point he wanted me to submit my login details to him so he would change me URL to another thing, url I built for years! I refused.

It's a long story and I have the chats. Suffice it to say that this guy is doing all he can to hang on to my 3k while the delay in fix this issue was killing me financially. We agreed he will have till Friday to fix it or refund to I go elsewhere. He has done neither. It's been 7 days today. I even told this guy to take 1k and send me just 2k let me go elsewhere. He has refused.


I paid money in this account.

Gtbank
0035883974
Michael Ugolo


Whatspps number 0-8-1-3-8-6-6-3-6-9-7


Modified.
Just discovered another problem. That whatsapp number is connected to a host of deleted post on Nairaland. Remove the dashes and check.

CC:
Tabbaz
Dominique



.....................

Modified 2

I just did some checking up on that phone number again on Google and found it connected to a Facebook page.
https://web.facebook.com/pg/funbetstoress/posts/

I went to the page and couldn't believe my eyes. The said AD this fraudster miccolo2 was running for me was just to share a post of my page to his page. A post about a book to a fashion page!

I've been dupped good and proper!

tartar9:
America and bullying.
Obama's deal was very ok.I guess the next US president after Trump will also want his new deal.

Oh, you are telling rge US what's ok for them. Don't make me laugh

Mightyhaiz:
This should be a kinda world wonder..





Like a tourist/pilgrimage site




How was that landscape engineered? Was there a kind of earth tremor there?
This looks like a deserted ancient civilisation ..

The well was dug normally but a flaw caused erosion to hit it that way. I have seen such before.

If you don't know what is meant by 'jobless Nigerian youths'' or first comment generation, look at the comments above




Its so sad that even when others are struggling to make nigeria better for all none can even show some support.

Nigeria wont last with this bunch. Fact.

nairalandbuzz:
Oh, I insulted you? Apologies but put your story straight. If you had given all information at first, it won't had gotten to this and I might have helped...

I have both business and personal FB accounts running ads paying in Naira... But... Sorry

The story was straight enough you just assumed it was deceptive and attacked, not once but twice. If i was not somewhat controlled we would be in a war of words now. Anyway, your apology is ok.

I set up a business account today and all that's left is to add a payment method. They rejected my GTBank MasterCard, I guess that cos the thing will expire next month. I will get a new one on Monday. But even so, I am surprised I still can't find the opinion to contact support in the Ad help center as seen in the image below. Is that because I have not added a payment method yet? I'm so confused.

Can you find that link when you visit the Ad Center and have you contacted them before?

cc ThirdWorldThug

nairalandbuzz:
This guy na mumu Sha...

Guy, grow up and stop making unreasonable demands... You need ad expert that will advertise your ads under his own account... Also speak with Facebook to unblock your domain... Guy, do u think someone would want his own account blocks by running an ad that blocked urs,?

That is why u people get scammed ... Na only scammers u go find. Do something straight na lie

Just shut up and read. I am not in the mood for crap.

http://bodiatech.com/how-to-get-your-website-unblocked-on-facebook/

cc dawnomike

nairalandbuzz:
This guy na mumu Sha...

Guy, grow up and stop making unreasonable demands... You need ad expert that will advertise your ads under his own account... Also speak with Facebook to unblock your domain... Guy, do u think someone would want his own account blocks by running an ad that blocked urs,?

That is why u people get scammed ... Na only scammers u go find. Do something straight na lie

This is why I said you were ignorant. No ad bliocked my domain. I overshared to Facebook groups within a short period of time and someone likely reported it as spam. I do not have an ad account or business account.

Goggle the damn thing and stop insulting people randomly.

nairalandbuzz:
You get mind Sha...

Person will use his own business account...

Unblock your own domain...


Guy, Goan look for investigator

Rubbish

You didn't have to comment since you know nothing about the issue and lack common sense.

dawnomike:
Kindly explain what you mean by get your domain unlocked... Didn't get that

For some reason Facebook, bots have flagged my domain and blocked it. I can't post anything with that domain in it on facebook again. This is a very common issues but can be hard to resolve given facebooks lack of customer care services.

I'm given to understand that the fasterst way to fix it is to go through Facebook ads supports. Which is for only owners of business accounts. They can live chat facebook and email too.

I've been trying to set up a business account but the technical staff is just too much and so busy else where.

I'm in need of a Facebook ad expert to run an ad for me.

The person must have an active Facebook Business account and know how to contact Facebook via email or live chat in order to get my domain unblocked and run the ad.

If you can do this please indicate. Those who are looking to collect money and run can try.