letstalksense: There is this lady I plan to marry, which I have made known to her already even before she travelled for her NYSC. Although she just came back from NYSC service recently. We are just discussing the way forward and on the process I was asking her about her sexual life and how recently she had sex. After insisting for her to answer. She opened up and told me she had a sexual relationship during her NYSC service. And the reason was because I didn't call her at a particular time so she thought I have find anther woman. And that was when I was having some personal challenges. According to her, they ended the sexual relationship in the camp. That she is sorry and all that. I didn't really expect that attitude from her as she seem to look responsible and Godlily. I was just disappointed even though I pretended like everything is well. And I was also thinking she had the courage to tell me the true.
Now I have to make my decision, but needs a matured advise and guidance from a mature mind please.
Do think I should continue my marriage plan with her?
Pease what do you advise I do?
Please, do go ahead and marry her. The main thing in marriage is sincerity and understanding. This will lead to unfailing love
preshpraiz: It's 2.47 am here but I can't sleep, I hardly sleep these days.
My whole world is crumbling. I have been a regular guest here for awhile now but had to register this morning, I need somewhere to pour out my heart, somewhere to dump my frustrations.
I came from a good, not so rich home but my parents were so hardworking.I had a good moral upbringing, went to tertiary institution and graduated with good grades.
While in school, I never had a boy friend though I had a lot of "chykers", never went clubbing, didn't socialize much.
Few months to the end of my NYSC, I met my husband. We got talking and boom, I fell in love with him. He is my ideal man....he doesn't drink nor smoke, gentle and soft spoken.
He wasn't earning much but it didn't bother me. I believe in working hard and growing with my man.
Now my regrets... * The "angel" I married has refused to get a job after losing the last one during COVID 19.
He said he can never work in a private company again. His target is multinationals.
I encouraged him to pick up a job with private company while hoping for a bigger fish at least to support in taking care of the needs at home but he said no.
I'm left with taking care of our 3 kids, feeding, school fees and virtually every need at home. All he does is press phone, gamble and sleep.
Now our rent is due, no money. I married as a virgin, married for love and not money, work my ass off, doing so many side hustle to shoulder the expenses at home. I'm tired. I regret all these.
When I see my "unserious" classmates on social media and sometimes offline, I weep. See them living large. I thought all the sacrifices I made way back will pay off now. I have made up my mind that if he doesn't fix the rent, I will move back to my parent's house.
Kindly feel free to advise or bash me. Tankio
Your problem is not that you married as a virgin but because the running cost of the home is choking you. I am of the opinion that you call your brother or sister into this. At best, call your husband's sibling to this. It is unfair but don't allow negative thoughts drive you out of your marriage. More so, the man may be having a hard time without telling you. It is not sane for a man who has a family to abandon the expenses of the home for his wife.
[quote author=stanlink post=125839633]Hello I'm just think if I will get salvation if I indulge in sexual activities early on a Sunday morning before going for service, the thought of guilt is all over my head although I'm married someone please advise [/quote Please, it is never wrong and never will be wrong. The person in question is your spouse it I am correct. Please, go ahead with her demand or yours. The high point of it is fasting. Even at that, you need to seek your spouse consent. Your problem is that you are being indoctrinated. Watch it!
sqlPAIN: The first one has to be solved with the quadratic formula, I know how to solve it with other methods but when I use quadratic, I keep getting wrong answers.....
The second one has to be solved with completing the square method..
I want you to know that all the formula gets to same point. The second has a constant already so instead of completing the square u can use the general formular
“The secrets and scandals that go on in boarding schools should not be heard by parents!“... I think it's the motto of the heads of departments in boarding schools. Is it sex? Drug abuse? Occultism? It's been going on for a long time.
There's an FGGC near where I live. For personal reasons, I won't disclose the location since this happens in almost all boarding schools.
Those minors no longer look like minors because of the forced maturity they forced themselves into.
Is education really respected anymore? I doubt, in the case of Nigeria..of course. The secondary school is now the most vulnerable! From my experiences while I was in the teaching sector, I think the best time to model a child is in secondary. Most teenage pregnancies happen in JSS3. JSS3? What's going on! And most times, the school doesn't “practically“ frown against it since of its management team are only interested in protecting the image of the school.
Day schools are no exceptions because I have worked in a school where even the director was notorious for having affairs with teachers and students. You need to see an environment where students tend to disrespect teachers because they feel they have an upper hand. Such spoilt brats!
I read the case of the Chris land girl and I wasn't surprised. I don't think any Nigerian teacher will be surprised. Even some management team advises you to “mind your business and job“ anyways.
They do so crazy things. They always have threesomes, foursomes, and group sex. Everyone living close know this because, most times, they are caught by people in the neighbourhood. Some are apprehended, while others are not. Some happen right inside the school! But guess what? The school is so determined to conceal their atrocities. It's no disrespect to state the obvious that (some of) their teachers also use them. They do, indeed. And you'll think they'd be disciplined severely by the school. Don't expect much.
And the rate of lesbianism is appalling. Some of these girls who sneak out at night end up in brothels...sex for money...and the majority of them run to their boyfriends like nymphs. Talk about boyfriends and you know I mean anyone ready to furnish their big lifestyles in school. Of course, most of them hustle to use the latest gadgets. If you are still using the iPhone 11 in the iPhone 14 world, you are in a different clique.
The alarming thing there is that youth corps members stationed there don finish these happy-to-be-used misguided teenagers.
I used to think that, most times, it's people who make advances to these little girls. Bit it's all untrue. These girls will gladly throw themselves at you for favors, marks, and all whatnot. Some are occultic...and if you don't recognize their physical advances, you become a threat.
You would want to remind me they have school guardians. Most of these guardians are only hyperactive when they are with you. After that, that's the end of discussion.
Should we talk about the immoral dressing? That will be for another day.
It's surprising to know but this isn't a university. It's a secondary school.
There's nothing new here. Anyone who's had the opportunity to work in any FGGC knows this.
In fact, what goes on there is worthy of consideration as a dissertation topic. Parents needs to know.
The FG really needs to look into this. And parents have a big role to play. Parents need to create time for their kids. Even most teachers I know in boarding schools don't send their kids to become boarders. Parental neglect is harmful.
dear writer I understand your frustrations. You don't need a soothsayer to create an environment of truism. Well, I had some secondary school experience and I did my best to caution them. Only to discover, that some persons took it as a free for all situation. Schooling in Nigeria has taken a different turn. You can't even entrust your lad to some of them without issues. The regulations in secondary schools are not effective. I just hope one day we will realise the amount of damage being done.
ebubeson: If someone gets born again, will the person still be affected by past ancestral Bondages or curses? Please contribute... in situations were you offended someone and the person cursed, you may have to go back to apologize or return what you stole..
Please contribute!
If you are genuinely born again it won't have any binding effect on you. Making restitution after giving your life to Christ will advancely help. When a man is in Christ, he is a new creature.
please this your post is gibberish. Where did they get it from. Even the tomato sellers will not believe this. One thing you should know is that income per capita translates to good living standards. My question now is, do you go to the market to buy stuffs?
victooman: Good day nairalanders,, l met a beautiful and excellent girl during my Nysc, honestly she is everything l need in a woman, We finish our service last year and started life in Abuja, she live with her sister and doing her own business while l live alone in the same town,, The problem now is that this girl mother is already pressurizing her for marriage,, she is 27 yrs and the mother is already making her looks like she is too old for marriage,, yesterday she came to my house looking all moody and worried,, when l enquired she told me her mom is asking her when the man she is dating will come home for introduction,, l took my time to explain things to her,we can't go into any marriage without been financially stable,l have a business l am running and l am looking at stability of that business in 3-4yrs time,,l told her l wont give you any specific date on when to come see her people ,,but l assured her if she stick with me God knows l wont think of any other woman during marriage,,, she told me her plan is to get married at 25yrs and l told her things dont always work out the way we plan them,, honestly l dont want to lose this girl and l also dont want to rush anything,, what do l do nairalanders...
please, what are your plans for her. Let her know. If she can't wait just know she is not yours.
EmiDon11: Member's in the house., I am bout to take a blood oath with my girlfriend but i am afraid, what if we cant marry? How can it be broken? Can the two partners(me and my girlfriend, if the two of us agree) break it? Pls i don't want insult ., I only need matured answers
please, check your reason for taking the oath. Many that were taken were based on infactuation. I guess you are a young adult. Kindly, think twice. The oath can be broken but I'll advice you refrain.
LagosInter: A man is despised and feels less of himself if
(a) he is poor (b) he can't satisfy a woman.
The latter is of concern here.
A serious factor to satisfying a woman is good penile health.
This is two pronged: ability to gain, maintain and sustain an erection; and ability to last long.
The former is worse than death.
Men here will agree that there have been occasions you fail to gain or sustain erections especially from age 30.
I have experienced it too. That day I felt like disappearing.
The lady was already in the mood and I couldn't get it up.
Although in hindsight I discovered I had malaria because I used to fire on all cylinders.
This experience is dispiriting as it leaves the man disappointed and the woman unsatisfied and abysmally frustrated.
Scientific literature agrees that factors such as diabetes, high BP, infections, obesity etc can influence these outcomes.
So please I seek to know practically how men here have been able to deal with this challenge for it's when a good erection is gained that you start talking about lasting long.
How can one care for his health - penis so as to have it function optimally at all times.
How can we have good libido too?
What foods or habits can affect these negatively?
I need first hand input and experience please.
. Please, I will advice you work hard and earn your self a good living. Try and see a medical expert.
evuna: My sister is 26 years and a graduate of Statistics from a federal university in the South East. There is an issue, more like a blessing. She had been writing aptitude tests since and failing but something remarkable is happening this year. She has been passing all the graduate trainee tests and interviews this year. She is at the final stage of Cerdar group, Stanbic, Meristem and Oilserv graduate trainee program. Just waiting for offer letters. She got an offer into Wema bank graduate trainee but rejected it because of 2 years bond. She is currently in Gt Bank graduate training school.
The issue is that KPMG just invited her for their test which is physical on Saturday. The Gt bank program runs from Monday-Saturday. I have been trying so hard to convince her to take take permission from the tutors at Gtb and go to write the KPMG test. She refused that she does not like Accounting as she read Statistics but she was open to it before this year and had been writing tests of different audit firms. I prefer KPMG to Stanbic and GT and want her to give it a shot.
She is 26 and this is her last chance at any graduate trainee program. Please what do you guys think? She is confused too.
KPMG ( yet to write the test) GTB ( in training school already) Meristem ( Waiting for offer letter) Stanbic ( Waiting for offer letter)
Which among the above listed is the better choice for a graduate of statistics and is the KPMG test worth taking the risk. Please I need opinions from Nairalanders as I told her to allow me take my time to think about it.
Mods, please push to front page for more experienced professionals to help us. Thanks
the issue is not about which one is better, it is about her choice. I will advice that she chooses one that will advance her career.
Pls my wound have refused to heal despite applying various medications on it (chloramphenicol, ampicillin, penicillin ointment, injection powder).
It's getting to two months now. I'm really tired nairalanders. Pls help me out, I have spent all the money on me trying to get it healed but all to no avail.
Doctors, Pharmacists, Nurses and experienced health personels in the house pls I really need your sincere advice.
Pls help me get to the front page. I believe there are a lot of experienced folks in this forum. Pls help me out guys.
that is a cancerous growth. Just take up good medical care
Nnewi, May 20, 2022 (MOI) In line with the Anambra State Government's agenda of patronizing locally manufactured products in order to boost the economy of the state, Gov. Chukwuma Soludo today inspected the newly constructed and ready to use tricycles at Innoson Vehicle Manufacturing Company (IVM), Nnewi. Please, how much is it sold for.
The tricycles popularly known as 'Keke' which were manufactured and coupled by Innoson Group is set to hit the road.
Speaking during the inspection, Gov. Soludo represented by the Deputy Governor, Dr. Onyekachukwu Ibezim noted that indigenous manufacturing companies needed to be encouraged and it was the only way the economy could grow thereby reducing unemployment among the youths who were the most targeted.
``Initially, we import all these from China but from what I am seeing here, the tricycles are strong, durable and bigger too.
``Government has started plans to introduce door to door picking of wastes as it is a sustainability plan that is being put in place to achieve a cleaner city.
``We are also looking for indigenous producers of waste bins like Innoson so that we can put structures that would be picked at your doorsteps for onward disposal to appropriate places and recycling,’’ he added.
The Spokesperson of the IVM, Mr. Cornelius Igwe said that Innoson as a manufacturing company always partners and supports the state government's policies and agenda, noting that the production of these tricycles was one of the things the company has done to support the administration.
Mr. Igwe emphasized that the tricycles would be sold at cheaper rates so that the masses could afford to buy them. (MOI)
Successful Screening of Chief Betty Anyanwu-Akeredolu, Aspirant for Imo East Senatorial District
Wife of the Governor of Ondo State and front-line National Assembly's aspirant for Imo East Senatorial District, Chief Betty Anyanwu-Akeredolu, has successfully been screened by the screening committee of the All Progressives Congress (APC).
The First Lady participated in the screening exercise on Sunday at Fraser Suites, 294 Leventis Close, Central Business District, Federal Capital Territory, Abuja.
Since screened and now qualified to participate in the forthcoming primary election, bonafide Anyanwu-Akeredolu continues to expand in leaps and bounds towards landslide winning of the ticket of the All Progressives Congress to represent the good people of Imo East Senatorial District at the 10th National Assembly.
While thanking members of the Ada Owere Campaign Organization and her teeming enthusiasts within and outside Owerri Zone for steady support, Ada Owere seeks continued, on hand support as she furthers efforts in the direction of victorious intra and inter party elections, and eventual development of Owerri zone.
Signed:
Onyeukwu Rowland Director of Media & Publicity Ada Owere Campaign Organization. 15th May, 2022.
What a nonsense. A woman who is married to somewhere else still coming back to her house for food. Nigeria is toeing part of destructive problems.
No be juju be that. Please u should be careful. quote author=micheal34 post=112801943]Nkechi Blessing Sunday has continued to dispute her ex Opeyemi David Falegan's claim that she is 'dirty.'
Falegan claimed Nkechi wears one pant for 3 days and would go without brushing her teeth when they were dating.
Nkechi has denied this by revealing that she hasn't worn pants since she was 18.
In a recent interview with Freeze, she reiterated that she doesn't wear pants. She said that she sometimes shewears a body suit in place of panties, but even that is rare.
She also denied ODF's claim that she is dirty.
She said she is so clean that she dips her finger in her private part and puts the same finger in her mouth.
Family / Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by Ezenzu: 3:41pm On Dec 27, 2023 
Nairaland Academicians Over to you.
All of APC governors from their respective states have no power to stop the movement of obedient group of Nigerians 
