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demsid:
what's this angel saying now. so its true that most pretty girls av to choose one. beauty and d brain. baby I know it might be that u are already feeling sleepy. what's this angel saying now. so its true that most pretty girls av to choose one. beauty and d brain. baby I know it might be that u are already feeling sleepy.

SavageGarden:
mtcheeew You aint even fine sef...

yomi007k:
OMG , I like u already.

yomi007k:
If u swallow ur pride,oya give me ur number.

ChubbyT:
lol....d association brain sha

lalasticlala:
lol. everything don get association 4 Nairaland abii, association of those that schooled in France , Spacebookers association, and now association of beautiful ladies on Nairaland.

lalasticlala:
I knw u r , but I want other beauties to come and corroborate or refute ur points.

eistien:
Yeah, na so dem tel me when I dy grow

eistien:
Bro u be esan man?

killjoy:
lolzzzzz jst relaxxx... no be naija u dey, ur turn will cum soooon

Maamin:
True..i think they dont like the idea of becoming sister inlaw to someone she calls her bestie.

fpeter:
Simple, Lord Jesus You see my heart and You know I am of age
Please speak to the hearts of my parents and compel them to
Cut me some slacks even as I remain faithful to You Lord and the
Good upbringing they have instilled in me, let them see that I will
Not stray from their precepts and help me Lord to remain worthy
Of their trust....Amen!

kpolli:
If it was the brown tooth that grew to replace the old ones... I do not think this method will work....

But I am still shocked about the brown teeth replacing the old ones part...

Your tooth grew up brown, I doubt they can be white

Sarpyro1:
xo happy 2 be born IN THE MOST EXCITING MONTH OF THE YEAR.... reppin 10th
.....any oda 10th here?

Pamcrest:
Op, scan it and save it. Then laminate the original certificate to preserve it. Whenever u need to give out original copies, just print out d scanned copy on colour printer. I have seen it done and it was accepted.
My humble submission

Nashoji:
please ignore this advise. try to find out the reason why she don't want to let you go but in a friendly manner, but if you know trying to force yourself to go for graduation party just to present gift will ruin the lovely relationship you have with your mum, don't just bother going because you might regret it. if you as I dey take protect my sisters wey no be my pikin no matter her age eeeh, you go know say your parents na learner for protection.

iykofias:
u dy run 4rm knowledge? very 4ny

iykofias:
inbox me so dat i cn send u a pdf file of belle analysis.

Emodeee:
i knw xay u nor be virgin lah except u wan lie.
sheee u nor knw xay na ur type dat tin dey itch pass and any available opportunity, u go utilize am sharperly sharperly.

donodion:
Ezibless bia answer am...

princefunmi:
Well Ezi (if I can call you that) I relate perfectly well with your situation.

Parents often forget that they have adults on their hands and not kids.

The thing is parents still see their children as that baby that was born many years ago. It doesn't matter if you are already a grandfather or a grandmother. You still remain that baby to them.

So how do you deal with this?

First of all I want you to note that a female at 22 is still pretty much very naive and can do with some of those restraints. It is a good thing for you. You wouldn't understand it now but in future you will. I know becos I was once there. And I was a guy for that matter. I'll tell you how I went about mine and the results that it yielded. Suffice to say, now that I am older and run my own home, I will forever remain grateful to my parents that they kept a hold of the tight leash. I could have been a little but more outgoing than I am now if they didn't but at the same time who says I couldn't have gotten into trouble.

Now back to the question of dealing with this. In my own time I rebelled against my parents. I'm not proud of it but that was what I did. I would sneak out from under their noses and go have a good time. I would sneak back in and hope to God that they don't get me. Sometimes I did manage to scale through but often times I got busted. Then comes the repercussion. Believe me at 22 I still got flogged. YES!! At 22. It was humiliating.

Then one day things took a turn I was 24 going 25. I went out and came back in well before dark. Lo and behold my dad was there waiting for me and the following ensued:

Dad: Where are you coming from?
Me: From Ikeja
Dad: To do what?
Me: I went to buy some components to build my computer system
Dad: What Computer?
Me: The one I've been working on for the past 3 weeks
Dad: Have I not warned you not to step out of this house
Me: Dad, perhaps you dont realize that I am now 25. I am no longer a kid. I think I deserve some breathing space to do my own
things my own way. Afterall you used to tell us how you would not come home untill 11pm when you were my age. Its only 5:30
and I'm home already. Besides I wont forever remain under you roof.

At this point my dad was already livid with rage. He dashed off to the closet and retrieved a Kpankere that he kept there. My siblings were shocked. They could not believe that my dad was about to flog his 25 year old son. I was shocked myself. I knew he was angry but I didn't think he would dare use the cane at that stage. I waited for him with an already prepared plan of action. As he came with the cane raised I side stepped him a little so that he missed me. While the cane came down at an angle I swiftly seized it from him and actually broke it in a rage of my own. I threw the pieces to the ground and the following ensued

Me:DAD! How long do you want to carry on like this? It is utterly shameful that you would still resort to this at my age. I may be your
son and I may be living under your roof, but I am not a slave in my fathers house. I deserve some respect too. If you want to
kep breathing down my neck, fine, I'll leave the house. But I will not be treated in this way.
Dad: You dare take away that cane from me. What were you going to do? Flog your father?
Me: No Sir, you did not bring me up that way. I can never and will never raise my hand against my parents.

My Mum and siblings were speechless. My Dad was livid with rage but I sensed he knew I spoke the truth.

To end the long story, I was never bothered again from that time. I never really used the freedom I had earned because most times I was indoors, but I never had to worry about asking permission to go anywhere so long as I informed them where I was going and I returned in a respectable time. It cascaded down to my siblings as well.


Now I'm not saying you should stand up to your parents. But a very good place to start will be to ask why they always restricted you Just start up a normal conversation with your Dad or Mum and ask why. Don't ask when you have just been turned down. Ask on an ordinary day when you dont have any need to go out. Perhaps you parents may have good reasons. And then let them know that you understand their fears but that you feel some allowance would be in order.

Try that. If that doesn't work, my sister you have no choice oooo. Continue enduring. They are your parents.

freezyprinzy:
It happens u said u and mumcy are lyk 5 and 6 call her nd talk lyk paddies let her tel u her fears y shes so overprotective den u'l know wat step 2 take 4rm diya

Chinoble:
I'm 22 too but my own case is different frm urs.
My mom ve no probs, my Dad ve retired frm army/bossy kind of life(he reighned during my big sis nd bros era).
My probs now is my big brothers(disadvantages of having 3 or 4 not smiling big brothers).
Always afraid of them(wat dey will say nd wat dey will do) i dnt go out wit guys, dnt comment anyhow on social networks especially facebook, dnt go out like dat even @ schl(my lodge).
Dnt let ppl visit me, dnt talk more dan necessary wit their friends, e.t.c. Z Not as if dey r watching my every move, but itz now second nature for me to not do anytin i knw dey will not like wether dey r dia or not.
Dnt knw wen i will break away frm the spell.

repogirl:
Well.... I guess your mom isn't used to the idea of you moving around yet.

My own parents, were strict but they also gave us space, so from time, I always dey miss from house and they wouldn't even bother cos dey know I will turn up even if its by 1 am.

My parents are soooo free, besides I attended skl far away from them, and they couldn't know what I was up to over there, so where was the sense in restricting my movement when at home?

Anyway, I guess your mom wants you to be safe, the send forth thing to her isn't important and that's why she doesn't see why you shld travel all the way for it.
As a mother, I understand her view.

So, its not like she's restricting you from visiting a friend a few minutes away, she just doesn't want you travelling around for something she doesn't see as important.

eminentme:
cos ur still very young from what I'm seeing from ur dp

Pamcrest:
Op, I understand your plight...my mum was like that. My saving grace was my dad who, though he doted on me as his only daughter, yet he gave me free rein to come n go as I pleased. It was his level of trust in my ability to always do d right thing, he tells me often that he knows he brought up his children well.
However I join your mum to say No to this trip....is it not to d North? With the insecurity level around that area pls scrap this trip. But try and secure your mum's trust, that's d only way u can break free from her apron strings. I do tell parents that they need some balance with these restrictions because I have seen cases where it became counter productive. A parent needs to show trust in their wards, advise them often but allow them to be responsible n make their own mistakes, that's d way to learn fast. At a certain age, talk alone is not enough, let d child make his/her own experiences. If he falls, he learns d lesson and learns to move on!
My humble submission