₦airaland Forum

haggai247:
You want to feel good by telling yourself lies great for you.

Suffering and smiling that's what most people prefer, face the reality staring right at you...

I'm like honey i attract and screen them like a banshee does to his slave...na mumu man dey become better because of woman....

If you decide to become better because of a woman you go slave for years trying to meet up demand ...even your son will never appreciate your sacrifice... REALITY

You can never satisfy the so called gods TALKLESS OF a woman.

find what works for you and go for it.

There are good girls with good characters out there. With this sort of rigid mindset, I doubt if you will ever get them.

The challenge with this generation of woke youths who doesn't believe in marriage is that many of them, have messed their lives up, thinking everyone else is the same.

haggai247:
Bible say two good heads not just two ooo.

Ask yourself how many women with good head dey naija?

If you're sincere with yourself you can count them with the tips of your fingers.

Better save than sorry.

They are many. Just that you are attracting your kinds. Become better so you can attract better girls.

foryourmind:
They will soon call him IPOB.

...


... delivery in nine months time.

ValCon888:
The ticket that cut can buy you a truckload of Nigerian girls.

Maaad

sollolucci77:
Again mumu talk...so those that are not married and are full time popes or pastors are they irresponsible?...read to understand and not just to reply...and secondly that my parents decided to bring me into the world is their choice not mine...its not a sin for me not to get married and have children....also you're talking like you know my life...do you know if I were adopted?...or just born out of wedlock...just open mouth waaaaa

You can actually make your point without being abusive. This is just a simple honest conversation, not fight...Lol.

Although, I understand that what shapes our views about life and philosophies are mostly the experiences we picked along the way while growing up.

Karleb:
Or increase it only by half.

I'm not against marriage and I think it's a great institution but people need to know about its reality.

Before you go to school, they tell you it's not easy. By the time you enter labor market, they make it clear it's not easy as well.

So before entering a union, we should make it clear it's not easy too. Make me no dey mislead young boys.

Hahaha!

My King, I love your outlook on this and I agree with you to some extent.

There's a way which I personally approach life that has made me see it in a different way. I believe that everything we do in life operate on principles; be it in business, relationship, career, family etcetera..

For us to succeed in them, we must locate the principles upon which those concepts thrives on. Being a Christain is even what makes it very easy for me. All I need is to locate the scriptural principles regarding that particular matter and build on it.

Backing it up with successful stories of those who are far ahead of me in that same journey. Successful marriage is guaranteed provided we are not trying to be smart to the point of even trying to reinvent the wheels.

sollolucci77:
So if I choose not to get married at all does that mean I'm irresponsible??

Much in every way brother! First of all, you were born and raised because a certain man like yourself who believed in himself, decided to face his responsibilities and approached your mother and they both got married.

Why then would you want to break the ordinances of life? It's not in your making.

Whether you get married or not, it won't stop people from getting married and living a happy live. I believe in marriage and I maintain that more can be achieved together than going this journey alone.

I guess it's your mindset that's playing prank on you. Work on it. Change the conversation and the believe you have around this concept.

Marriage is a Bliss!

sollolucci77:
Na rubbish you dey talk...even though we have some marriages like this....does it outnumber the terrible type of marriages we have right now?...are you in this 21st century at all or you just want to live in denial?

This has nothing to do with living in denial. Marriage is a whole lot of work and it takes courage to make it work. Denying responsibilities as a man is not a good way to live a fulfilling life.

dopedan:
I was just thinking about this cuz things have become hard, i always wonder how my neighbor survives with 4 kids n one house help and wife, staying in a 3 bedroom flat, he used to be fair wen i first knew him now he is dark, u can see suffering in his eyes, d other day he said I should borrow him 1k i just dashed him 1500

You are a good man and God will reward you for your empathy.

felong:
Marriage in this our generation does not favour men like a poster rightfully pointed out. That is why so many men are suffering and smiling. Just make your own money and enjoy, if pikin de hungry you give one local girl belley then settle her and carry your child. That's the best.

Wrong! Not a good way to see marriage. Marriage for me is actually a blessing. You just have to get it right from the beginning.
Getting married to the right partner will solve this problem by half.

Nazgul:
I'm afraid that your observations are on point cos I have the same observations as well.

The most recent was my cousin brother who got married in 2020 before the lockdown, as I'm writing this we barely talk these days, even to reply WhatsApp messages na war. And when he does it's one complain or the other, ranging from how things are hard and since I'm single and an only child, I should assist him financially, to how his wife has changed, to how their one year old child consumes food like an adult... etc.

To understand him much better, I decided to put myself in his shoes. I'm a single guy, I renewed my rent last month (April) and I sat down to calculate all my monthly expenses. Data, fuel, gotv/Netflix, electricity, security, LAWMA, feeding, gas, miscellaneous...etc.

My point is if a woman comes on board that budget would tripple cos kids would be expected, she might want you to open a business for her, courtesy of your pocket, she might come with her younger sister to help out whose training and welfare would be on you, she would sometimes want you to assist her family eg, parents, siblings writing exams, school fees, rent...etc.

Now while your expenses has tripled, your income most times remains the same or even lower, you would resort to borrowing just to sustain your home, of which she won't even appreciate cos according to her, it's not enough, other men out there like you are performing much better for their families. You would live all your life working to finance the home, even your own kids would be strangers to you and love her more when she buys them Christmas clothes from the money you gave to her. They would grow up loving her as a sweet mom and vow never to see her suffer. forgetting all the sacrifices and dreams you gave up just to give them a better life. After pondering through all these, I understood my cousin's situation much better.

If I'm to be honest there's nothing special about marriage, it's more or less like bondage for men. And benefits only the women. Marriages if you have noticed have have reduced greatly, there are so many guys in their 30s and even 40s who aren't even talking about settling down. Would you blame them....of course not.

Women these days aren't helping matters. They dump the larger chunk of the financial responsibility on the man in the name of men are the head so it's his responsibility to cater for the home. But what they don't understand is God created women as a helpmeet, meaning they're there to lessen the budern of the man and not to add to it.

Open any topic here on Nairaland and talk about responsibilities in the home. More than 99% of the female replies would be that it's the job of the man and the man alone.

Women need to change such mindset, cos it has killed and drained the honey of millions of marriages.

Fear not, two are better than one, for they have good rewards for their labour. That's not my handwriting, it's the Bible speaking.

Dannyfan:
I borrowed upto 50k from this online app and still indebted to a tune of almost to pay 80k

Do you have any tangible property that's worth 80k on a second hand value?

Ujunwa02:
I regret not leaving an incompetent fool when life presented me with many options to leave him.

See eh, in this life, love is useless, always think with your head...

Ujunwa, can we talk about this?


Hint: bobugeebob@gmail.com

Yakson5:
Masturbation and drugs is my greatest regrets in life.I pray that God will save me from this miserable addictions

You are saved. Received Jesus and be saved. He's the only one who can save you when you truly receive him both in truth and in Spirit. I am talking from the experiencial knowledge I have about the situation from friends that I know.

UnknownQueen:
I regret being human, I would have preferred to exist as a sand or stone. Or any non- living thing.....

You are healed of your past mistakes and wrong decisions. I pray for people like yourself, should you need prayer.

cherryCola:
May you never experience true peace and happiness in this life till you pay back does people money ! .

Criminal .

Says who? Says Emefiele or Zainab?

willyo:
Alcohol fcked my life up.

My prayers are with you bro. God will restore your life and repay you all you have lost within the period when you got addicted to alcohol and beyond.

I have nothing to regret as every of my disappointments is a learning experience and opportunities on how not do it the second time. I happy for the full blown man I am becoming.

Dannyfan:
Omo.. I just have to pour out my mind. I regret borrowing from an online loan app ( loan). It has drain me mentally, spiritually, emotionally and financially. I just pray I get out so quick.

How much did you borrowed? We can discuss it...

Zonefree:
Seems God want to use Oyegun to make Nigerians smile again.

Oyegun, do what you're supposed to do and take the glory.

Who's Oyegun, you this mischievous fellow

megacity:
No

LP and NNPP should merge, Kwankwaso should be the VP because Obi is the Senior

Exactly my take and that's what LP and NNPP should work to achieve. The Peter Obi I know never get himself into fruitless endeavours. Once he's out for this, consider him to go full length.

DamianX:
Look at this mad man

Needless to insult him. You can still make your point without going vawulent brass.

MadamVanessa:






Red cap man, Obi is above that level of vice president, his position by default is the position of president. Sometimes I do think Peter Obi being the president of Nigeria is demeaning his person, but we begged him to come and rescue Nigeria, even though we know that he's above Nigeria presidency.

You are wise lady and spoken well. May the God of the land, Chukwu Okike Abiama hear approve it. Iseee!!

Obi2023.

Anaerobi:
I see top politicains in PDP and APC dumping their party to join Labour Part.
I see other Parties joining force with Labour Part to cripple APC and PDP.

You are a Prophet! Same thing am seeing. Watch their next move. Peter Obi has the gift of oratory.

A persuasive speaker. I don't know why I have this feeling that Kwankwso will vice him on the ballot box.

Fingers crossed.

salbis:
Another arm of hustlers. This delegates no go see shi shi collect oo.

That's more reason why we like Peter Obi. The era of money sharing politics is over.

Dialpad:
Even if Peter Obi wins, how will they promote this party on a national level

Worry less, when we get to the bridge, we'll cross it.

udele1:
If you can get to the airport few minutes before plane takes off, get a ticket and still join the flight, its possible.

Will the people in the plane say they booked ticket long ago, but you just came now and got ticket and joined the plane?

The destination should be the focus.

You are a wise man. God bless you my brother.

Lovelife433:
Dis peter Obiora na confirm fool. In PDP VP or minister is sure for you, and you I'll gain some experience and popularity from their it will be easy for him to contest as president. No his illiterate village ppl will not gree.

Trash. Suffer no dey tire you?

Nigeria is in Labour, delivery is 9months from Now. Obi-diently waiting...

oikirodah:
https://ireporteronline.com.ng/blog/2023-presidency-bola-ahmed-tinubu-is-the-only-antidote-to-defeating-atiku-by-osigwe-omo-ikirodah/

Trash!