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 Romance / Re: Should I Tell My Friend About His Loyal Girlfriend? by Faita: 9:54am On Jul 22, 2016 |
This is a simple matter na. Put yourself in your friend's shoes and think whether you'd like to be told or not. |
| Romance / Re: Wooing(toasting) Gone Bad -if Only Money Could Buy by Faita: 9:08pm On Jun 18, 2016 |
If that is the whole story, it's a pity. But is it? This could be just enough to exonerate one person and embarrass the other. How many girls keep a guy around as a good friend by implying, if not outrightly telling them that things might change between them in the future? And how many guys do it to girls as well? I personally think it's a wicked thing to do. If you don't want to date someone, tell them straight out and if they want to stay friends anyway, it's their funeral. But I think it's better to cut off even friendship with them to allow them to wean themselves off you. But, maybe that is not what happened here. 1 Like 1 Share |
| TV/Movies / Re: Will Smith's Terrible Nigerian Accent As Dr. Bennet Omalu In "Concussion” by Faita: 11:14am On Sep 01, 2015 |
I think it is a shame that we make light of this. Every actor tries to represent his character in the most accurate light. I hope that Will did better in the rest of the movie. At the same time, Nigerians have not done so well to maintain a unique identity. Our cultural ambassadors - the most visible people in our media: OAPs, actors/actresses, brand ambassadors like sportsmen and -women etc - do their best to obliterate the Nigerian unique sound when they talk. There is an obsession with Western accents that eventually results in the near-total loss of Nigerian uniqueness. That presents a problem for actors like Will Smith who may either never find good examples of the Nigerian accent to imitate or who may be misled by those really strange speech patterns that our ambassadors have adopted. We could use some more national pride. 5 Likes |
| Career / Re: Excuse Me, Mr. Anti Self-employment Advocate! by Faita: 2:59pm On Aug 27, 2015 |
neahyo: Excellent. |
| Career / Re: Excuse Me, Mr. Anti Self-employment Advocate! by Faita: 10:17am On Aug 27, 2015 |
As long as you only think in terms of money, only the things that give you money will make sense. When you start considering other parameters in life, you'll start to think a bit differently. Until, the world ends there will always be employers and employees. Neither will be able to totally dispense with the other. Employers will always be the pathfinders that road-makers and city-builders (a.k.a employees) follow. Technology, for instance, will always need a human hand to operate and manage it. Despite all the amazing stuff said for total automation and the possibility of self-aware robots, human beings will almost never be totally replaceable in the scheme of things. We decided to use tractors instead of hoes and cutlasses and a lot of people lost jobs. But then, mechanics suddenly became important. Whole value chains came into existence as a result of the new technology. Tractors ran on fuel that someone had to excavate, distil and distribute. They suffer wear and tear and someone had to keep them in good repair. They were machines that needed driving and some needed to be able to drive them. They couldn't know and understand what people feel intuitively about the soils they worked so there still needed to be someone who knew where and when to use them. In the emerging new world, there is no doubt that technology will be mind-blowing in its abilities but until we learn to create new humans we will always need people to work for one another. Network marketing has a very bad name. It is very interesting that it is the business you are champion, engrbrume. The names you have mentioned do you even less good to mention. If that is how you mean to promote entrepreneurial ambition, you are going to really have a hard time getting thinking people to agree with you. And the people who don't think eventually learn to. Finally, this quote: engrbrume: Employees only earn active income. is totally wrong. Or, at least, what you meant by it is. While many employees do earn only their active income, employees are not doomed to earning only their active income. The problem with finance has always been a universal one which is: how to properly manage one's wealth. As I have said, ultimately, people will always work for one another. That you are an employer or employee does not doom or destine you for only one kind of financial fate rather than another. Employers have gone so badly broke that their previous employees trained their own children up to fear going into business. Employees have also gone so broke that their children decided that the best thing in life is to own your own business. These things happen. The common denominator is always wealth management. Some people figure out how to manage their wealth so well that they only ever grow in substantive value while others fail to figure it out and only decline accordingly. Anyone who learns how to maximize their investments and incur only the right liabilities or at least keep their liabilities under control will always have more than one income to work with. For example, an employee who takes their active income and splits it so that part of it goes into their survival and another into smart, productive investments will eventually build up multiple streams of income that could become substantial enough for them to live a pretty comfortable life. The same with an employer. Again, the difference between employer and employee is not how much money one makes and from how many sources but responsibility. One will always have the responsibility to take on broad problems or create whole new realities that the other will have the responsibility to develop. It is purely tragic that human greed has made employers the vastly wealthier ones. It is not the right thing. But when you dig deeper, you will find that even employees become terribly wealthy too where the employers recognize their value. You often find employers sharing ownership of their company with their employees in such places and even putting in systems to guide them in the proper management of their wealth and resources because a comfortable employee typically makes for a productive employee. In conclusion, I agree with you that it is good to be an entrepreneur and even better for certain people to head into entrepreneurship but I completely disagree that all of us should become entrepreneurs because we all want some extra cash - you're very tragically wrong about that. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
| Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Two Job Offers. I Am Confused by Faita: 8:54am On Aug 27, 2015 |
@Taiw, it's wrong to break an agreement or commitment just because you appear to find a more appealing option. That's the moral side to your question. You can leave that job but you must do so according in a morally satisfying fashion. Give them time and help to replace you especially since you're a critical part of the work they're doing. As a bonus, let me mention that if you pull your weight in a new outfit well enough, you can practically call the shots on how they help you advance in your career. It is helpful too to remember that this is a progressive company you're currently working with. They're expanding. That means that they intend to go even farther than they have. Ideally, that is a perfect reason to believe that they will always be reaching for new heights. Working with them when they are still this young means that your impact will have farther reach than it would if they were bigger and far more established. Despite all that, the second option might be better for you but if you must take it, don't do so in an unduly damaging manner to the first. @mrkels, my advice is to identify specific career goals and decide which option best helps you achieve them. Then if you must leave your current appointment, do so in an orderly fashion or see if you can work out a situation where your current employer will take responsibility to help you achieve those goals in exchange for the retaining of your services. As for a wife, there is nothing more key to the fulfillment of a life's worth than the partner that helps you and accompanies you on the journeys of life. Step up the search, I'll say. If you wasted an opportunity and can get it back, try to get it back. If it's gone, use the parameters of that opportunity to fine tune your new search. Don't assume that you can meet the right woman just anywhere. The right woman did not fall out of the sky. She's a human being with human needs and character. You'll find her where people like her tend to gather. It could be at work or at a community initiative where she is offering her time and skill in some humanitarian effort to make life better for other people. She might be relaxing at the movies at the end of a long day. Or she might just be walking on the beach taking in the sights. The key all the time is to identify what kind of person you want and where they are most likely to be and how they are best to be approached. If you play it anyhow you may never find her because life is not chaos. I hope I've helped, guys. I wish you well.  2 Likes |
| Literature / Re: Use This First Line To Continue A Story: Writing Prompt by Faita: 7:26pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
UjSizzle: Yay! Well done. "Feast" is a really curious word to use. The more I think about it the more interesting I find it. I'm thinking you're probably the only English writer I know that thinks of sex like an all you can eat buffet. Keep the term. I think it can grow on your readers. You retained "she lapped his..." I'm not sure that works very well grammatically. It's not that he could not have been able to talk at all. There is a chance he could try. He wouldn't be very intelligible though on account of the blood getting into his trachea. He would gurgle or sputter. Since you already used "sputter", "gurgle" was the other option available to you if you wanted him to talk. But there is also the chance that his vocal cords were so badly damaged or the blood had got in way too much so that he could not speak at all. In that case, the way you rendered it now was perfect. You have a good imagination. I'm glad I could help. |
| Literature / Re: Use This First Line To Continue A Story: Writing Prompt by Faita: 9:06pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
UjSizzle: Actual writers? Do you mean people with degrees in English and Creative Writing? Or just people with a commitment to writing? Because you can't mean people who have talent or skill. You happen to have both, in my opinion. You're welcome. 1 Like |
| Literature / Re: Use This First Line To Continue A Story: Writing Prompt by Faita: 9:02pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
KingTom: Lol. You're welcome. You're very good really. Sweating goat who rains droppings because a girl spent five whole minutes kissing it without realizing that it wasn't human! Lol. That's very good storytelling, sir. Very good indeed. |
| Literature / Re: Use This First Line To Continue A Story: Writing Prompt by Faita: 6:17pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
I don't normally do this but this thread just caught my attention. So... 1 ArrowAssassin: Good one. It's a bit cliché though, sorry. So, some of my observations.... 1. I can't see the connection between the first paragraph and the rest of the story. Who 'smiled, turned and left'? 2. "in pains" should be "in pain". 3. Why did the General identify himself over the radio? 4. Maybe it's for dramatic effect, but you use multiple descriptions a lot. For instance, you used a lot of words to talk about a smirk and in the second paragraph, you told us that Anya shot a soldier who was in pain several times and went on to tell us that she put him out of his misery. I think it's unnecessary. 5. Why use "not normal" when you can use "abnormal" in the first paragraph? 2 Divepen1: The story itself is sort of cliché too but the delivery feels quite original. My observations anyway... 1. "suppose". I think you meant "supposed". 2. "she just fell head over for him". Consider "she had just fallen head over heels for him". The first expression is grammatically inappropriate. 3. "mind-searching eyes". I think you were trying to convey that she felt like he could see through her. The better expression may have been "penetrating" or just "searching". The current expression suggests something quite improbable and unconvincing and thus is uninteresting. 4. In the last sentence, "will" should be "would". "was in love..." is better as "had fallen in love". Instead of "not any Christian", you should use "not just any Christian". And you should probably add "one" at the end of "the most vibrant". 3 UjSizzle: Ok, this was very good indeed. It's a typical story where a predator becomes prey. But again this one is an original delivery. There's also a feel of maturity to the writing. My observations... 1. This is a flashback, I think. But the arrangement makes that a little difficult to recognize. I like how you gave your readers some work to do with that but be a little more careful next time. It can be tricky playing with sequence in a story. 2. "in tangent" should be replaced with "in tandem". I think that that was what you meant to say, right? 3. "schooled her in the arts". What arts? The story seemed to suggest training in just one kind of art. The language of that expression suggested tutelage in the typical arts. It throws the reader off. That can be a good thing but in my opinion, it isn't here. 4. What did you mean by "joints"? That is about the only thing that suggests that they were smoking weed. But I think you meant something different. Use a different word maybe. 5. "Her fingers sliced the air, a make-shift knife, ripping through flesh as she talked". Her fingers were ripping through flesh? Or did you mean that the way her fingers moved through the air it was like knife ripping through flesh? If the latter, consider this instead: "her fingers sliced the air like a makeshift knife ripping through flesh as she talked". You should be careful with similes and metaphors like that. 6. That far into their relationship, why is she still considered potential? Had he not realized the potential? 7. In the same paragraph, "she lapped his..." should be "she lapped up his..." 8. "hands run through the length". Try "run up and down her torso" or "run up and down the length of her torso". Through doesn't work well for surfaces. 9. Same paragraph. Did you mean "fistfuls" or "a fistful"? 10. "Feast"? What did you mean here? Sex? Or a weird hair-eating habit? 11. Same paragraph. "flailing" not "flaying". The first means "to wave wildly"; the second is used for stripping skin off an animal or person. 12. Could he speak clearly with a hairpin in his windpipe? He may have gurgled because of the blood getting into his airways? 13. The end sounded a bit weird. You probably repeated the opening statement to close the flashback loop but it still feels cheesy. I think that "I am Piper" was a perfect closing statement for your piece. One better way to close the loop is to capture Mack's distress in the second paragraph. Currently, it only looks like he was laying down and mooning over Piper. You could include the fact that he's choking, possibly to death, while doing so. 4 OluwabuqqyYOLO: This is quite nicely done. Grief has a common language that every grieving person speaks. You spoke it well. But your story is original. Despite the fact that pain is a common story, your story felt almost like something I'd never heard before. That is very good. My observations... 1. To be honest, the arrangement reads exactly like someone in pain wrote it. It seems like you couldn't care less about arrangement and sequencing. The work seems like an explosion of emotion: it assaults the reader's mind with your feelings. That is not necessarily bad. But if this is not your true life situation, you could bring refinement and finesse to the art. Art does more than tell it exactly as it is, it shows us the meanings we miss looking at the surface. 2. First paragraph. "vividly still can". That should be replaced with "can still". The current expression is quite poor. 3. "That smile she gave me earlier". That would be better as "the same smile she gave me earlier". 4. A purr is a sound of pleasure that cats make. Your use of it does not work very well. Also, what did you mean by "she had stopped earlier"? 5. Did you mean "a mermaid's face"? 6. "a propos" is not story language. It's more philosophy. 7. "He does now more than ever" instead of "he does more than ever now". 8. "corps" instead of "corp". 9. What does "bees to his petal" mean? 10. Was Ope an only child? What does "he bore her only" mean? 11. "Her home from mine didn't requireTramor to drive." This statement is unclear. 12. "Trailers didn't ply that road" instead of "trailers didn't ply the road". 13. Did her dad die? What happened? 14. 3 days is quite a short time to expect the pain of loss to recede. Why mention it? What did you want to say? 15. I like the end. 5 KingTom: Lol. Cheeky. Very funny. You're very comfortable with your story too. But how did the goat not bite her? Goats are given to nibbling. This must be some kind of alternate reality.  This is obviously an advanced writer's work. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Romance / Re: 8 S *x Positions Guys Never EVER Want To Try With You ( Seriously!) by Faita: 11:13pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
Love this. Good one, OP. 2 Likes |
| Business / Re: Your Dormant Bank Account Could Put You In Trouble by Faita: 11:13am On Aug 05, 2015 |
There is a sense in which I can sympathize with the banks. Maintaining records must cost something. When you make someone responsible to protect your wealth or to be on standby to receive your wealth for protection or for further transport on to another receiver, I think you cost them some energy. My annoyance with this method of business is that the service providers start out nearly or completely muting the idea that serving you will cost you money. They do that to keep you around. Then when other supporting revenue streams start to fail, they begin to employ a mixture of deceit and abrasive logic to take your money from you. At worst, they act like this Ecobank case where they don't even alert you that they are charging you anything until it's become a major problem for you. And suing them then becomes a very messy business. A relative has an account with Ecobank and each time I've had to deal with them in his behalf I have found them less than appealing. I really wonder how their customers endure them. My experience though is that all these banks have serious customer service problems. They are very poor at taking care of their customers' interests. It makes me think that banking isn't their real business. Could someone do an in-depth exposé on the banking industry, for heaven's sake? I think people should seriously consider keeping personal updated records of their bank accounts and ensure to deactivate them as soon as they find them unnecessary. Chances are they will cost you something eventually to keep holding on to them. Btw, thanks, OP, for sharing the information. It saves us all a lot of undue stress. 8 Likes |
| Travel / Re: A Trip Back To Titanic(Historical Photos). by Faita: 12:30pm On Jul 20, 2015 |
ProfessorPeter: You like your 'was' though. 2 Likes |
| Travel / Re: A Trip Back To Titanic(Historical Photos). by Faita: 12:19pm On Jul 20, 2015 |
Sile12:*sniffing*  |
| Celebrities / Re: Chindima Exposes Her Navel As She Rocked Black Mini Skirt (pics) by Faita: 8:57am On Jul 10, 2015 |
She's pretty.  |
| Politics / Re: Ikpeazu Begins Dredging Of Aba River (photos) - Igbere TV by Faita: 8:57am On Jul 10, 2015 |
Also, how is he paying for this work since the Abia State government is also owing its staff? Where is the money coming from? |
| Politics / Re: Ikpeazu Begins Dredging Of Aba River (photos) - Igbere TV by Faita: 8:35am On Jul 10, 2015 |
I like this even if only for its own sake. I would like to know more though. Is this likely to help improve commerce in some way? Aba is a commercial city with resources coming in and merchandise always needing to go out, so effective and efficient transportation would be vital to its development. In short, will this definitely directly or indirectly improve the quality of life for Aba people in some way? |
| Celebrities / Re: OMG! Yetunde Bustline Oduwole Breaks Down In Tears Curses Ex-bf Baba Tee (VIDEO) by Faita: 4:55pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
freecocoa: Of course. I agree with you. But like I said at first, heartbreaks are prone to make people irrational. That's why I asked you to be kind. People lose their sense of self-worth when someone they admire to the point of desiring to be that close with indefinitely decides to leave them. It's not easy to deal with and today's world is filled with people who deal with it in all the wrong ways. That includes this lady. But we should still be kind. |
| Celebrities / Re: OMG! Yetunde Bustline Oduwole Breaks Down In Tears Curses Ex-bf Baba Tee (VIDEO) by Faita: 4:02pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
freecocoa: Ok. But some women think that having a man is worth trading their bodies for. I'm not saying that that is what she did or that it is right. I'm just saying that if she did stuff like that, made sacrifices to accommodate the guy then her grief would be really great indeed. You might be the better woman, I don't know, but whether or not you are, a little sympathy is never wrong. That's all I'm saying. 1 Like |
| Celebrities / Re: OMG! Yetunde Bustline Oduwole Breaks Down In Tears Curses Ex-bf Baba Tee (VIDEO) by Faita: 3:13pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
freecocoa: Just normal heartbreak. If you were a woman so far into your biological clock and you gave up even your body to keep a man in the hopes of maybe marriage you have a lot of salvaging to do if he walks away. It's not easy to get it all back together then. All the same, what she did is merely because of the world's habit of no privacy or decency. Everything from puppies to people's private parts is online so it comes too easily to people to do things like this now. I think it's terribly wrong but you should at least show a little sympathy. That's all I asked you to do. It's a shame but then she's obviously very badly hurt and consequently irrational. |
| Celebrities / Re: OMG! Yetunde Bustline Oduwole Breaks Down In Tears Curses Ex-bf Baba Tee (VIDEO) by Faita: 3:03pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
freecocoa: @bold: Heartbreak does that to people, you know. Be kind. 2 Likes |
| Celebrities / Re: OMG! Yetunde Bustline Oduwole Breaks Down In Tears Curses Ex-bf Baba Tee (VIDEO) by Faita: 1:00pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
I have felt heartbreak - who hasn't? So, even if only to some limited extent, I think that I can say that I understand the pain she feels but this is really evidence of how crazy today's world is. You cry in front of the entire world about a man who removed your pictures from his Facebook page and accuse him of embarrassing you? What are you doing to yourself on YouTube if not the same embarrassment? It's a crazy world. |
| Career / Re: Advise Plz by Faita: 12:52pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
How will he survive during his MSc? If he can survive, then my advice is that he should go for his MSc. |
| Career / Re: Working And Running Masters And ICAN At The Same Time. Is This Possible? by Faita: 12:39pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
Lennylinconlee: Good advice, but about #1, a job is more than for the money. He can use it for experience for a better job later. He can also learn useful information and form a network for his developing career, so I don't think it's a good idea to give the job up. |
| Career / Re: Working And Running Masters And ICAN At The Same Time. Is This Possible? by Faita: 12:33pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
I think it can be done. I know someone whose Master's program is in Imo State but he works in Ibadan (I don't know how he does it with a bank job). It may depend on how much you need to be present at school. If you can do a lot of homework by yourself and avoid going to class very often, you could pull it off. Otherwise, just do the ICAN and your job for now and do the Master's later. |
| Romance / Re: How To Transform Your Good Girl Into Something Else (explicit) by Faita: 10:16am On Jul 09, 2015 |
Buddah: Lol. Thanks. |
| Nairaland / General / Re: Some Fascinating Images You Need To See. by Faita: 5:54pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
hahn: What he meant is that a picture of the first camera was taken with another camera that was built later. The first camera didn't disappear after other cameras were built. |
| Nairaland / General / Re: Some Fascinating Images You Need To See. by Faita: 5:52pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
Sile12: Yes indeed. So much to learn. |
| Romance / Re: How To Transform Your Good Girl Into Something Else (explicit) by Faita: 5:44pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
I like the part about the girls that choose to be good not who are good to avoid being seen as bad. Thumbs up. I think you're right about the outcome on the whole. |
| Romance / Re: Rejecting Love Gracefully... by Faita: 5:16pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
ikeepitreal:Yes, it is. But useful all the same. |
| Romance / Re: Rejecting Love Gracefully... by Faita: 5:15pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
Cc: Ishilove, farano, Rocktation |
| Car Talk / Re: How Reliable Is Peugeot 607? by Faita: 8:27pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
Fine car, that 407. Thanks bros. |
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