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asuo27:
Talking is tiring for me.
ThankGod for nl where i can always type.
But i know extroverts who are super smart.

You guys are bashing yourselves on a Sunday morning @op and falconey.

I don't know if I am an introvert or an extrovert, i don't measure smartness by this context. sometimes you have to listen while other times talk and impact what you know.

I don't believe people choose this lifestyle but the lifestyle chooses them base on circumstances.

czarr:
wow!....u r so angry

I AM ALWAYS ANGRY!!!!!

Oliviaarims:
@the first emboldened. Must everyone go around screaming they are celibate? And by your post, you're insinuating a guy only helps a girl out in whatever in the hope that she'll return the favour by sleeping with him. Are you for real?

@the second. No one has the right to tell another when or when not to abstain. If a guy doesn't want to believe his gf is truly abstaining, then that's his own cup of tea, he should walk away.

But in all this, the one salient point you've made is that a boy/girl relationship is primarily about sex.

first paragraph - ofcourse not, just inform your lover once a while and see if he'll keep assisting. if he does it means it wasn't about sex. how many will do that? knowing it may impair his assistance.

second- no but in boyfriend and girlfriend relationship that's the farthest assumption, isn't receiving from boys the reason girls accept their proposal? and same to guys with the expectation of enjoying intercourse. both are not strangers who met on a subway and the guy chooses to help her pay for the train ticket.


2nd paragraph- whatever principle a lady coddle when a guy approaches her, she need to inform him and constantly remind him, I have been in a no sex relationship ,I stayed for two years, we romance, do all sort but never had sex because I respect her cannon and had other reasons to stay.

a balance must be maintained in a relationship, it is not necessary a lady should offer sex, if a guys sees other benefits he may stay. perhaps her humour,company and assistance. the fact is a lady must give me a reason to STAY.

how can we help you with that?

czarr:
i am not an introvert ode.
I said I am inbetween depending on my mood

ode what does that mean? is it your biological name? well I don't care.

you are a delusional simpleton, in-between but made a remark stereotyping yourself as an introvert. is this the kids section? don't ever mention me again, I never knew you are a lowlife mistake of wretched family.

nawa jona regime wan come thief pass abacha

czarr:
I'm kinda inbetween,but there was a time I was more introverted and I noticed very extroverted people were dumb people .

They just did dumb things with a big smile on their face full of confidence....I started questioning my own sanity,cos its like people around didn't even see it .....introverted people tend to observe more and make comparisons that can help solve big problems....

it means you were never creative and initiative, you wait, observe and opine on people's mistakes. they are your muse of conduct. in conclusion introverts need extrovert to act, they are your source of ideas.

Oliviaarims:
If truly you've resolutely decided to abstain, the need to create this thread wouldn't have arisen. Your resolve isn't strong enough, you're having second thoughts and that's where you've begun to lose the battle.

Abstinence is good. Don't allow anyone tell you that because you're no longer a virgin, you must continue indulging in premarital sex.

I vehemently peruse your notion and I didn't
see the part where the nigga has to benefit from the relationship. I'm certain before receiving the guy's support she never said I am a celibate till marriage. ladies don't want to compromise, always want to be at the receiving end.

abstinence is good if you never indulge in pre-marital sex. a man can easily believe a virgin celibacy than a non virgin. mostly guys believe, if I'm not hitting that someone else must be. few trust their babes thou.

lastly, she is having a second thought perhaps her needs is emerging or she feels she isn't equitable to the guy.

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#9999ff]I think this is the 1st time I've seen you comment on a personal issue
......terrible advice you give.
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[color=#00cccc]Is she a proustite that his favors buy sex with her?
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why don't ever your gender want to compromise? is he Santa Claus for supporting her emotionally,physically and financially?

my advise was optional, she either give it to him because from the story the dude is getting sick of her principle or she remain adamant and end up losing him to a girl who can. do not forget she claims she is in love with him, if she chooses the latter she will be at the losing end, she will be heartbroken and loses all his supports.

relationship is a two way context, a balance must be maintained.

Rexhenrex:
[b]you made valuable points but what i still stand by is that its fees is not supposed to be too high even tho it shouldn't be too low also i said so because her in jos there are church schools that pay up to 170-230k it makes no sense that a member who longs to send his kids to the school which he was part of its success can't do so due to the fee requirement...also the instance of an estate you gave is totally not inline why because that of the school is something that is very evident in the society compared to the illustration of an estate and secondly the church is not supposed to be materialistic as you are quite portraying it to look so.i said this because you keep emphasizing on church investment but is that what should be the church priority Absolutely not like i early mentioned the early church shared with the have amongst each other the church should do so structures and money don't make up a church but rather you and i make up a church the aim of a church should be soul wining and not all about surmounting wealth subsidized education by the church should be a way of giving to the society and winning more sous and it should be more paramount than anyother thing.[/b] cc;falconey

LWKM how is a church owning an estate not evidential? the church can name the estate after the church's name or inform it members about it. isn't that the same with school?

anyway I kept corresponding but you never for once answered my question, did any of the church stop doing it primary objective you kept mentioning?

you should have at least change your shirt!


it's like watching Jennifer's diary with Jennifer wearing one shirt in every episode.

Rexhenrex:
falconey....am honoured you came up with something very insightful but the thing here is this....a church is expected to play its role its not suposed to be driven by proit making if a church sees a school as an investment the it lack vision yes it lacks vision because other private schools owned by individuals in most cases don't have throat slashing fees compared to that of the church owned schools and also how then can the help the needy if there fees are too high? What happens to the poor,the less previlledged,widows and oftens?? The school shouldn't be free but don't you think a very fair amount as fees would alleviate the suffering of those who are not living in affluence?

you are being sentimental, what you anticipate is whatever a church set up should be for the purpose of supporting and assisting the society, sometimes the tithes and offerings can not expand the church operations, church need to engage in lucrative activities, invest. let assume it is not a school but an estate. let assume an estate of 50 houses, rent for each is 1m naira a year typically. what do you expect in this case? the church should rent it out for 200k because it is owned by a church? no! it is an INVESTMENT I REPEAT.


A church can assist the society in other ways apart from establishing an affordable schools for the society. these schools are standardized schools worth the fees. they promote the economy. the rich have a school in the country that provide equal service of that of schools abroad.

the income from these schools are disbursed in the church activities, the church may no longer need to ask members for fund to finance certain projects because of the gains from these schools.

in addendum, gains from these high fees schools can be used to set up free schools specifically for poor members of the church or the general public.

it is not a must I attend my church established schools if I can't afford it, they are other private and public schools one can enroll.

my question is did the church stop doing the social intervention of supporting orphans, widows, less privileged, handicaps, etc?

good topic.

my view.

education and religion are separate arms practically, unless in a case where the school is built inside a church, one can become normative. with that being said a church can own and manage a school like every other individual and corporation.

it is an INVESTMENT of the church with the purpose of making profit. if you can afford it you can attend if you cant, lurch off please. the church and the school are two separate organisation, the general overseer of most churches don't manage the schools or it ministers, mostly they outsource professionals and remunerate them. this is a cost to the school. a school is not a charitable organization , it incur cost and pays it from income generated or do you expect the church to pay staff with tithes and offerings?

op let me ask you. comprehend this scenario, you worship in a certain church and sell phones. would you reduce the price to your church members when they patronise your goods? ofcourse not as a business man who always want to maximise his profit, why? because religion is different from business uh?

if you truly love him give it to him if you are not a virgin, in love you compromise, he did helping in the mentioned ways,now do the same for him.

if you don't, with time he will start a relationship with someone who can. BOYS GAT NEEDS

mediocre

I saw this on front-page yesternight.

blame the school management for not giving them enough handouts and assignments to keep them busy.

VEEKSAPPWHITY:
after loving him as your son and making him a part of you for so many years

yeah.

return the child to the biological father and divorce the mother.

He wants peace and the 4 walls of prison can provide that. I posted something like this a year ago, a man may need to go to prison just to get some sleep with trouble women impose.

dopedealer:

lwkm

yes ........ mamagee for the love of God please don't smile while posting for a picture.

saintfellow:
Bro when GOD open your eyes, to see things that ur ordinary cant see, then you will vow to serve GOD for the rest of your life.
Just pray for your eyes to be open.

yeah , until then I'll practically judge events.

LuvU2:
I m fine baby Are u done wif xams?

yeah, last week. I WhatsApp you didn't go through.

saintfellow:
sex is more than what the ordinary eyes can see.
I have seen where a very Rich man commited an adultry with a dangerous lady and in the month that followed, he started begging for food.
He left his beautiful wife at home and endangered his life all because of five minutes pleasure.

yes it is, because you choose to believe the lady he slept with caused it, a practical person may not think she is the cause, perhaps circumstances caused it.

LuvU2:
how can i

OK o, how are you

Behira:
Even if i must say most nigerian guys these days deserve hot slaps but i still I feel for the dude

for what? what is their offence?