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VictorUSA:
My dad is death.My mum sells vegetable and pepper.

my advice to you, the idea of depending on people outside the shores of Nigeria is quite archaic and unreasonable. Working multiple jobs and having less than 6 hours of sleep a day is no fun. Find a way to equip yourself, join the Navy or learn a trade. You can do so much for yourself. He sent you 30k? Be happy he even sent anything at all. It is easier to make money in Nigeria, the system is rigged to benefit those who are willing to hustle, you can beat the system in many ways but not in the USA, the system is built tough and you have to work harder than you know to earn your keep.
50USD na money, except your uncle is in the league of Donald Trump and the likes, don expect much, he has tried, what have you done for yourself?

Same old story told by the same old crooks....

Aify3000:
Tbh ,she says i should fix it that she dont want to cheat on me

She was cheating from the start.... You know this but out are just choosing to live in denial.... Open your eyes and stop letting your emotions dictate your actions...

What you call tear rubber, belongs to the street�.... But to be serious, i think you should understand that the little girl is not interested in the marriage. Accept your loss, move on with your life, do dna and be certain she is your daughter, live your life and keep moving forward let her live her life� she is young and she still wants to test microphones.

Choilila:
Your shoe shine..

And you should hold on to that anointing . For a guy to fuvk you for six years and still choose you as a spouse is not ordinary. When we have lots of Men that misused Women in 6,5 4 months relationship because she wide open her vagina for him to put penis.


WELL SOMETIMES I BLAME THE WOMEN.

I really don't know why this is hilarious �

Smack her and let her know it is bad to talk like that... These are the formative years. Make sure discipline isn't left out of her curriculum.

I think you are the problem, not the lady. If you have self discipline, when she comes and you truly are not interested, you'll send her back... Or you won't even own the door. So my dear OP, you are your own problem.... When you stop having sex with her, she will stop coming.... But as long as you continue, you are as much at fault as she is... Only difference is she is honest about wanting to Bleep.... And you a just one pretentious kid with a hard on!

Why does it matter who buys what so long as there is freedom of speech, less tribalism and more unbiased opinions and love.... It doesn't matter who buys nairaland... People need a platform to air their opinions, be it igbo, yoruba, hausa, ibibio, efik, bini etc..... Every one deserves the right to be heard

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Funny how the cause of the challenge, claims to be tackling the challenge.

Ignore the threats, but be ready for whatever.... Be happy but be cautious.... I have one question though, how did he know about you? How did he get your number?? If you want to go on with the said girl you need to be sure she isn't still got any attachments.
Don't be fooled by her soft voice and perky breasts and sweet words.... She might still be getting some and saying she can't date him... I am just saying don't live your life in fear of anyone. Be ready at all times to either fight or flee... And do find out how he obtained your details when you don't know him
When I say fight or flee, I don't mean fighting for a woman. I mean fighting for yourself... But I think he is a coward... But either ways don't be so trusting of a girl who's intentions are not known

Whether a true story or fictional one, there is a lesson in this write up.... Be careful what you allow your kids listen to.... From naira Marley to zaazu to Chris brown and the likes.... You might think they are too young to understand but you'll be shocked.... Be careful what you say in front of kids, they are like water, the take the shape of the container their are in.... What they here and see literally molds how they behave and who they become... TV should be restricted to certain types of cartoons preferably edutainment and not entertainment....
Also, whatever you do, kids soak up what they see adults do and emulate, stop giving them internet enabled phones, it is like placing a loaded weapon in the hand of a 2 year old...

QuinModah:
Kindly take some time to go through this writeup. You will never regret the resources you put into reading it. Those saddled with the responsibility of raising adolescents will find this very informative!

This is a fallout from the happenings in Chrisland School VGC Lagos.

He came in with his father into my consulting room. They were almost passing for twin brothers, the only difference was the built and the look The father had more built and obviously looked older. That was the result of adolescents' rapid growth. Adolescents are people between 10 and 19 years. My patient was 16. Many things are special about people in this age group. One prominent thing is their thinking and view about life. They believe in fairytales a lot. Dont mind me like I was not once in the same dreamland before age and reality of life woke me up.

What did I own this visit Tunde I asked my patient? (real name withheld), he went straight to the point my dad promised me a dental brace for my exam success. I just passed so I was here to get my brace. They had gone to dental unit of the hospital earlier. They were directed back to General out patient department to get referral. So Victor was in my consulting room to get the referral letter to the dentist to get his dental brace promised him for exam success by his father. I asked him any tooth anomalies? What was his reason for wanting a dental brace. I was shocked the answer Tunde gave me and this was what prompted me to write this piece. He said the celebrity he loved was using dental brace that was why he wanted it. I am not sure I heard the reason victor gave well.

As a General practitioner, I know people use dental brace for cosmetic reasons but a teenager of 16 years without any teeth anomalies wanted dental brace because his hero celebrity he was watching on TV was using it? This shock made me to turn to the father who granted such request. In fact, bigger shock came from the father. I asked him if he heard the reason his son gave for getting a dental brace. He said yes and further justified it by saying" Doctor what can I do ? He said that was what he wanted for his success in the exam. Even at home that was how he behaved. Anything he wanted if you didn't give him, he would not be happy again. Did I just hear that from Tunde's dad too? I screamed in my head. A 16 year old boy dictates what he wants to you at home and you are the father and parent? The father smiled back sheepishly again.

Seriously ladies and gentlemen I entered counselling mode immediately. I saw impending danger here. The future of a young man was at stake. I saw wrong parenting for an adolescent here. I asked Tunde for his permission to counsel him with his father together. He did not decline though but was wondering what the counselling was for. Any problem? Counselling format has always been basically to ask what the patients know about the topic and you as the the counsellor give them all the correct information and options then guide them to make a rational decision best for them. I ventured out on this voyage.
The topic I had to deal with here with Tunde and his dad was ADOLESCENCE AND PARENTING. I asked Victor what he understood by being an adolescent. He seemed not to understand much about adolescence despite being one. I asked the father about parenting an adolescent, he said and I quote" doctor is there anything special about adolescents being parented ?". Within me I was screaming in my head again. No wonder Tunde was in my consulting room this morning for cosmetic dental brace motivated by hero celebrity.

Time will fail me to tell you all information I gave them on ADOLESCENCE AND PARENTING but l will summarize it not to bore you. I told them: Adolescence is a stage of life for people between 10 and 19 years. This stage can be developmentally divided into three according to World Health Organisation (WHO). First is early adolescence (10-13), mid adolescence ( 14-16) and late adolescence (17-19).

These 3 stages can be summarized thus developmentally:
Early adolescents have brain of a child and body of an adult.
Mid adolescents have 50% child's brain and 50% adult's brain and body of an adult.
The late adolescents have brain of an adult and the body of an adult.

Hence the decisions taken at this stage of life go hand in hand with these peculiarities. Tunde is 16. He has body of an adult already but 50% child's brain. You are wondering why I would say that? Was it not obvious from the decision made by Tunde so far?

Now to parenting, parenting is guiding and nurturing a child in all aspects of life either you are the biological or non biological parents. There are 4 ways you can parent a child and the meaning of each parenting style based on two issues which are LOVE AND DISCIPLINE.

The 4 types of parenting are:

1) Permissive parenting which is LOVING A CHILD ALL THE TIMES WITHOUT DISCIPLINE;

2) Authoritarian parenting style which means DISCPLINING A CHILD ALL THE TIMES WITHOUT ANY LOVE;

3) Uninvolved parenting style which means the parents are not even doing any of the two, NO LOVE, NO DISCIPLINE, the child is on his or her own and the last parenting style which is

4) Authoritative parenting style,also known as Balanced parenting style, which involves LOVING AND DISCIPLINING A CHILD EQUALLY. Research rated Authoritative parenting style as the best parenting style world wide and the remaing three parenting styles as defective.

Now I turned to Tunde's father which of the parenting styles I have explained now do you think you have been using for Tunde? The 60 year old man was quiet for almost 2 minutes, surprising to me, with almost tears in his eyes said, doctor I never knew all these types of parenting styles and their consequences as you just explained. He said doctor no doubt the permissive parenting style seemed to be the one I have been using with Tunde." Doctor what can l do now? Is it not too late for him?" That was how l raised all his 2 elder brothers and doctor l must tell you they have not been doing well on their own.

The first brother had drug issue and the second brother was irresponsible. To my surprise, Tunde in tears after hearing my oratory education on Adolescence and Parenting and its consequences and heard his father's helpless question, he said daddy it is not too late. I don't want any dental brace again. Daddy guide me the authoritative way. The best way you think I would turn out best guide me. The two hugged each other with mist of tears in their eyes and left closing the door of my consulting room behind them.

Now my own tears erupted in my head, did I just change a life, a future, a family, a generation? Because Tunde would have gone ahead to likely parent his own children too this wrong way and the trend continues and becomes trans-generational. I am happy l have just made another impact.

As l close my write up, I will like to appeal to every parent reading this anywhere in the world, LOVING A CHILD WITHOUT DISCIPLINING THEM IS NOT LOVING THEM, IT IS DESTROYING THEIR LIVES.

Please LOVE your child, meet their needs, cater for them, ask for their opinion and respect their opinions to the extent that opinion is beneficial to their present and future and make sure that after putting everything together and considering their highest good, have the final saying by showing them the right path. They may not appreciate you today don't worry, when through your BALANCED LOVE AND DISCIPLINE PARENTING STYLE, they look back tomorrow as a fulfilled soul, they will forget the temporary gratification of all love without discipline and bless the day God gave you to them as their guide through life.

I hope this article speaks to you. Copied

The beautiful truth.... Not disciplining a child is not love but destruction.... Well said...�

ChimasGirl:
Nah, we were talking about implants, and he said most men would prefer small boobs over fake ones. I thought for men, the bigger the better. Then I told him about six pack implants, which he had never heard of.

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epondudu:
I hope the mother of that girl is on this blessed forum nairaland.
If you are the mother or a relative of the girl please get a therapist for your daughter and move on. Crying in public won't change anything, the actions of your daughter in that videos shed a different light on what you are claiming. Save your daughter from the public court.
You failed woefully in parenting.
No shame, what is the mother trying to affirm, I surmised she would have watched the video before going public, this is a very wrong calculation on their part.
I have been examining comments and most commentators are castigating the mother based on the action of the daughter.

The action of the child is a reflection of her upbringing.... The lack of discipline, which is obvious in the mother's action too reaction to unverified story of rape.... That child is has been having sex even before this came to light, she is not new to it.... So this proves the negligence of her parents....

Sorry folks, it's been sold! Thank you.

Blame their parents for a terrible job done... Now you don't have discipline as it is called physical abuse, we grew up with the rod, we misstep and there was an omorogun waiting behind the scenes.... They didn't spare the rod.... But now, they've spared the rod and now he hold has gone rotten.... We can't blame them.... We can't blame the society, because the society has always been the same, but the parenting style Haas changed.... Now kids talk back at their parents and there is no consequence!! Ah.... I remember once back in the early 90s, I dodged the assembly and my dad came looking for me .... He thought I had skipped school ... 150 strokes, naked in front of the maid, I was in my senior class.
We did stuff but we had limits, now the generation we have now are not even scared to kill for money or stuff.... I blame the parents....

ZombieSlaughter:
I don't think you are from the truth.

Sentiment is the reason why we are where we are, I am a Yoruba man and I know there are some nice and wonderful Yoruba people, but face he facts and nail It as it is.... You asked a question, I have answered based on my experience, interaction and more. We are the most accommodating tribe, we are nice and very warm but mostly to outsiders and not one another.....

Well, if we are going to be honest with ourselves, we are the least United tribe in Nigeria, we stab our brothers in the back, we are easily enticed to betray one another with money, we have serious complex issues hence the reason why a fellow Yoruba man will not be willing to help another Yoruba man, we are super educated yet in most cases lack integrity.... We are a dishonest tribe and will only dance to the tune of money..... We are nothing close to United, we are our own problem. When people fight for our own cause, we are the ones who still speak against the same people fighting for our cause.... We are a Judas tribe.

Kazikazi:
Did u read my statement?
I said,they should take it to court.Whoever loses the case will pay the whole costs incured.
But if we buy to your story,that is deadly since any slum dweller might come to TZ book a hotel foom for few days,then she goes to her room,calls a security,open those ugly legs,and finally cries for a 10,000 dollars compensation for a fake rape.

The issue with going to court is that they will rule in favour of the locals, look at the story of the innocent girl that died in a cote d' voire prison because she didn't play ball with the locals after she was robbed.... She was the victim, yet she was locked up. Let's fce it, she did what she had to, she tried to make the best use of an already bad situation, she almost got raped... She reported the case, she realised before time that it wasn't going to be a safe idea to push through their legal system which involves a lot of back and forth.... She will have to stay longer, in a country where you don't know anyone... You are burning cash by the day and the people will always put their own first.... (Why can't we do same in Nigeria).... Let us put our own first..... Their story compared to the victim's story is full of lies and obvious half truths.... And she has more evidence in form of the video rendered by the Russian man....

Reading through these comments and this is the reason why a lot of raw victims don't share their stories. Many people will water down their pain and twist it around, make it seem like they wanted it and it brings me to conclude a lot of the kids on here have early traits of narcissism or maybe some are full narcissists already.... As much as there are some gaps in her narration, it is expected of a person who went through stuff, the response of the resort's PRO is on the other hand funny and obviously retaliatory just to save face. A security official who doesn't understand the language(according to the victims explanation) and she wants to shag him?? If there is one thing I know meeting Nigerian women in other countries, they carry themselves very well... Now, she was almost raped and she didn't speak earlier because these responses could have led her to depression and ultimately suicide because some of these grown kids will say crap and not understand the gravity of the situation... She is someone's daughter and could very easily be your sister. Many people sleep naked, even when they are in a hotel, I do it... It is not new.... Hotels always have spare keys incase of emergencies.
We need to be more sensitive to the plight of the women folk, it can happen to someone you know and because of it they take their own lives...

Biglittlelois:
Bitter, envious, jealous, pained element, it's very obvious you've never gone farther than your 2 by 2 enclave before.

the poverty mentality that guy exudes is beyond Lagos, Nigeria
... He obviously can't see himself beyond seme border... Let alone decide to take himself on a trip for a few days.... That is the mentality of a man who can't see beyond his next meal... Dangerous mindset...

Kriss216:
You must be operating on an IQ lower than 1.5 if you believed everything that girl said.

How did the culprit get access to a 4.5 star hotel room?

You are obviously not well traveled or even exposed about life in the outside. Even hotel presidential is not secure, people get murdered in 5 star hotels.... Stop being so insensitive to another person's experience because it never happened to someone close to you, you can easily spew crap. You sound like a child with in all your comments and if you are above 25 and you still have this mentality then you need to check yourself into a psych ward. She was almost raped and all you can do is talk through your ass?? How sad!

essentialone:
She is a Prostitute. Next story please.

You are obviously an illiterate for concluding that a woman who tenders her experience is a prostitute, I doubt you even know the meaning of the word rape..... If a man touches your sister in a way that isn't appropriate, will you call your sister a prostitute?? Don't be daft.... If you don't have any reasonable contribution, then view another topic and stop being such an insensitive Homo erectus.

is it just me or this looks weird, no bullet holes on the car itself and the glass of the truck seems to have been smashed in not shot in...

it would be appropriate to tender an apology for your biased opinion.

Iyaebe:
I don't believe in men's sexual abuse,if it was an abuse why did he sustain erection?

I am not one to respond much on this platform but I have to educate you a little bit on how this works, the arousal of the genetals either female or male is not based on will or consent, men get raped to death, in Kenya in South Africa, even in Nigeria, but the only reason you will never hear about it is because the society believes in "suck it up and be a man".... so we are left to suffer in the pain alone and no one to share our thoughts with. A woman in the process of being raped will get wet, does that change the fact that it is rape?? Male kids are being abused on a regular and the truth is some of them don't even understand what is going on.... if you have never experienced it don't make jokes about the pain of others, just pray it never happens to any male or female child you know... because the effect is disastrous

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Omooba77:
See myopic thinking..

most of these funny talkers don't even live in lekki or its environs.... some are typing from magboro or makoko even mile 12 and ikorodu

KingOfTheDamned:
Just another day in the Northern Nigeria..

A place were human lives are worth less than a loaf of bread ...
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Please respect the bread, compare with baba blue...

Mummyfour:
Yet one old fool said it is"few kidnapping s" that is happening in Nigeria.

Why doesn't thunder obey instructions at times?

or the other lying old bag that says banditry is a business and not a federal offence