Alesa3341:
Hello Guys, please I need a sincere and matured advise on what to do. This will be long, please bare with me.

I'm 27, am a businessman, I have this girl I really love so much and intend to marry her this year December, but one thing about her is her bad character. She challenge me, talk back at me, shout at me, get angry with me for days, refuse to cook when she is angry, disrespect my family, most especially my mum, always trying to paint herself good and paint me bad in presence of people, these are just little of the things she has done to me.

When she lost her job, and had nowhere to go, I had to bring her to my house, and provide everything for her, food, I change her hair twice a month, subscribe unlimited for her, I just provided everything a woman need to be happy for her. Last year November, she told me she haven't seen her mum for 5years and wanted to travel to see her, I spent close to 200k to take her to and fro, including other things she needed. She insisted on collecting the bride price list for me when coming back, I spoke to her mum and they gave her to give me. I was planning to finalize all on the weeding this year.

Last year DECEMBER, I took her to my family to introduce her, but this was the biggest mistake of my life. She was completely disrespectful to my mum, talks to me anyhow in presence of anyone, even to the extent of refusing to cook for me anytime she is angry, I go to kitchen and prepare food myself.

I love this girl so much but I still thought of continuing, with all this attitudes, I advise her everyday, I also took her to my pastor who advise her too most of the times, but she never changes.

Fast forward to 2days ago, we had issues because she told me to join her in washing and I refused because I was working on a client project, she got angry, washed the clothes and when it was evening she brought the clothes inside, folded her own in the wardrobe and just threw mine into the wardrobe without folding or arranging them. I was angry about this, but I kept mute. The next day, she sent me "sorry" on WhatsApp, I told her to come to me physically and apologize but she told me she can never do that, and why was she even apologizing, that she did nothing wrong, we exchanged words and she left my house.

Today, she called me and told me she is pregnant, and that I should send her money to remove it. I was like "just like that"? We didn't discuss about it, how will you just tell me you want to terminate my pregnancy, I told her to go to hospital and confirm it and also get the test report, she did this and sent to me, it was true she is pregnant, but she insisted on removing it, I persuaded her and she still refused, claiming she can't be a single mother. I told her I will take responsibility, but she insisted on removing it, I told her to go home and think about it, and she told me she can't leave there without removing it. After so much persuading I decided to give her the money, and told her if she removed it, that it's on her, that I didn't consent to this.

I asked her why we can't keep it, and she said because my family is bad, we support evil, if the sky is blue, we say it's red, that my mother is a bad woman, and she doesn't want to come there. She said so many bad things about my family, I was shocked! I asked her, how are they bad, she said "how can my mother be telling her to wash my clothes" I was just confused, After all I have done for you, is it bad if you wash your husband to be clothes, I left her!

Later she told me the doctor referred her to another hospital, I still tried to persuade her and she said her decision is final. She asked me to give her money to go to the hospital she was referred to, I refused! I insisted that we keep the baby, she told me "I'm a nobody, that she will call now and she will get money to go" I angrily blocked her. Later, she called my other line and told me, she went to the other hospital and the doctor told her, the cost to remove the pregnancy is 125k, she told me and I insisted on keeping the baby.

Please guys help.me, I don't want to terminate my first child, the girl is too disrespectful and rude, I don't want to continue with such woman, but she is carrying my baby, what do I do? And if she later agree to keep it, how do I go about it?

You all are just saying "don't marry her" what about the baby? Should I agree to abort it and give her the money?

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She disrespect your mother
She disrespect you in the presence of anyone
She don't cook for you when she is angry
She talks back at your when you caution her
Yet you still love her and willing to die for her

I wish I can lay my hands on you and give you a dirty slap to reset your brain. Foolish boy

kereman1:


I've been using mine for long, it's over 2years now and in active service, even with a cracked face, since working fine.

Wow..you are lucky then. I will still maintain mine for now

kereman1:


How would u rate the phone?

I bought the phone 2021 and I enjoyed it for 6months.

After the 6th month, it started acting up (battery going down in time and hanging) I can count to the number of times I formatted it.

On a scale of 1-10

I give the phone 4

I give it 4 because I still receive calls, send sms and chats even though it hangs

The Ram works like 1g

Candidlady:


Stay home with mum and sister


Then go visit my friend

FFO

kereman1:


I'm Currently using a9pro, 128g rom, 8g ram

Am using A9 64g rom and 3g ram

Battery is 6k mah but works like 4k mah

kereman1:
Try umidigi.

You are welcome

The phone Sabi hang. I regretted buying it

yvonnechaka:
I'm a lady who married a man because of compatibility (both are AS)I get a chatting mate whom I can discuss anything about friendship and handling matters

Drop your email...let chat

FOOTSOLDIER2:
Breast and ass flat like slippers unlike mine, still fresh and healthy

Can I see it?

Weird Man

God saved you

This life

Jeweltz:


If you can't cook and clean, what else would you be doing for the woman you claim to love.?
No sex for lazy man. Work for it. I can't marry a man that can't take care of my needs

Na them

E don be for him already

Hendrixky:
Not only mile 12

The whole of lagos

Na only who never go lagos dey think say lagos na London

If you reach there you go see say the whole lagos na slum

Come Abuja, you go know say all those fine places you see na shiit full am.

New year pepper soup don set already. Happy New year In advance

Precious the Facebook girl. Am sorry for you

Okay......

fyzaila:
Who said north is not sweet to live? If you say insecurity challenges then it is everywhere now. Come and see cheep food items.

Plantain 2k
Yam 1400. The seller said 1500 but i bargained to 1400. 100 naira is still something.

The yam is too costly, for my side here is 10 tubers for 2500

So where will you keep this

KeyEndurance:
There Was A Girl I Like So Much In My Home Town at Kogi state but I Have Never For Once Tell Her That I have Feeling For Her,this Girl Chatted Me Up On Facebook That she's looking For Job so With The Love I Have For Her i Found A Job For Her At Lafia Nasarawa state i even rented a house for her because my brother is staying with me for now i don't want her to join us in that room. to short the story, this girl came last month 27th i bought food stufs for her but still i did not tell her that i love her but i have the plan of telling her soon. yesterday i invited her to my area to let her know the about the love i have for her but to my surprised she told me that she has a guy, that a guy asked her for relationship at their working place. the statement got me mad to the extend that i nearly slap her but i just control my anger and left her there. please advice me on what to do because i can't watch them being together.

You love her yet you kept it to yourself
You got an apartment for her yet you still keep the feelings to yourself
You feed her yet you still keep mute
Now she has a boyfriend and you are angry.

I wish I can slap you from here so as to make you regain your consciousness.

Nonsense

Nawttiboi007:
You’re the only person here contradicting yourself cos obviously you don’t even understand yourself. Read ur previous message that I quoted.

I don't have time for argument abeg.... Na you yourself mention killing, you never bother asking me the kind of treatment one can use in such case. You concluded by saying NO, GO AND KILL HER NAU....

Nawttiboi007:
No go and kill her na... that’s why some people makes grave mistakes and later regrets. Have you been faithful to your wife all your life

Now I can see that people like you don't have better ways to handle women...

It's people like you that your wife will be knacking outside and you will be smiling here and there (I can be helping you knack your wife if you don't mind, just keep smiling)

It is the same people like you that your wife will bring home another man's child for you to cater for

There are more better ways of handling women but it seems the only way you know is beating and killing.

Well for me, that is not an option for me...maybe for you.


@op

If she doesn't listen and doesn't follow instructions please go for divorce.

But remember perseverance in marriage, nothing comes so easy

iykemoney90:
Oga allow your wife breathe mehn. Your own is too much, person wey Don born 3 for you, wetin else you dey look. You are just battling insecurity, nothing else

How will you feel if you noticed your wife isn't straight forward?

How will you feel if you noticed someone is about to knack your wife and your wife doesn't even care?

How will you feel if you are on a call and you suddenly notice third party added to the call with proper consent

People like you are rare

obagofizzy:
More pictures

Concoction rice

You cant fix your marriage you want to fix Lagos

Tueh

SenecaTheYonger:
Omo see balls. They even gave them date.

No be small thing walahi

Macphenson:
The Presidennt with human heart

Na donkey heart others get?

luizpippo:



In all this, is the iragbiji drug lord who pushed Buhari strongly, said so himself and has promised to continue with Buhsri's failed policies the better option?

Or you prefer the ptdf looter from Adamawa who also pushed Buhari strongly?

Brother wait and see... Politicians are all the same. None of them are saints

Kosoco:
You're saved

Just like that? After all what he did during his tenure as a military officer..... You don't have to be biased at all....if he is campaigning for APC the language you use will be otherwise

It is well

Lanretoye:
But some mad people say their papa no well nah,see as thisone dey dazzle.

No dey follow internet ohhh. Misleading information dey dere plenty