₦airaland Forum

So true! That guy has my admiration.

Daniel7543:
the op isn't asking for too much sir, he said he wanna be part of his daughter's life too... Like taking care of his daughter's bills but his wife is in her hideouts.

If the woman can poison the mind of her family members to detest her husband, don't you think she could also poison her daughter's mind too? That's why the op is been conscious.

Even court won't give the woman full custody of their daughter.

Even if the woman nd the daughter choose to stay with her family members, atleast the man should have access to also talk to his daughter on phone, send money for his daughter school fees and up-keep.

Don't you understand.. He's not asking for much.

You think it's not much. You think it's that easy. Yes, he deserve the right to his daughter I am not disputing that fact but something led to the wife and her family keeping away from him.

Let's not forget that we are only reading his side of the story, we have not heard from the other side.

No normal man will rape his wife as a matter of fact my very first facilitator in our marriage class was a man who asked us what we will do if we find ourselves in his position and what is it? That for almost three years now his wife has refused him sex, every effort both by the church to talk sense into her head fell on deaf ears. Can you imagine that? He was the same person that asked us to take gaze at our spouses to be without blinking and after about few minutes he said "hello ma, hello sir, the person you are looking at now is your CROSS" bro, the next weekend almost half of the class did not come.

Marriage is not relationship, you have to grow up and grow tall to be able to withstand and overcome every storm and very importantly with God.

The man should calm his nerves. Right about now we are dealing on an issue where the man insisted on taken his son of nine months old or so from the mother, few months later that handsome boy fell sick and died in the hands of the father without the mother knowing. Oga, if na you wetin you go do?

Daniel7543:
But guy, the op is remorseful and he regretted his actions. He has also asked his wife and her family members for forgiveness many times. He really want to make peace.

We are humans, we make mistakes sometimes, no one is perfect. What else do you want him to do??

Do you read where the op said his wife denied him sex for months without any reason.

A lot of things would be going through his mind.. Like maybe his wife might be seeing another man reason she's denying him sex.... And many other thoughts..

I know women can be really terrible, I know. I am married.

My concern is his desperation for the poor little girl. I insist the girl is too young to be separated from the mother, so he should keep his cool.

I don't want to talk about what is going on with the wife but if for any unknown reason my wife decides to deny me sex I will not rape her. In fact, with my kind of person she will not dare me. Pikin wey cry dey hungry if you beat am wetin she go do?

God forbid I vote for this useless party, over my dead body.

Men are built with principles, if his own permit it good for him.

If wishes were horses beggars will ride.

Dead on arrival!

You guys should stop playing with our democracy and be serious for once.
There are certain issues that should start, remain and end with you guys. We don't want another opposition inside opposition. It won't make sense.

Saintmary:
Go through this moniker's previous topics.




He raped his wife.

Oh my God! In fact, thank you.
You see, we have lots of men like him nowadays who thought women are nothing.

When I told him he has an hidden agenda all his types came for my head. I wonder why he is so desperate to take his daughter of four years old from the mother, I cannot imagine such level of wickedness.

Women are really suffering, I pity the poor wife. Beast!

Noah9:
Me? Maltreat my child? God forbid! Infact my daughter must be feeling my absence wherever she is now.

What do you mean by I have an hidden agenda? You're not serious, you know absolutely nothing.... You read similar cases doesn't make you feel I have an hidden agenda.

How do you want me to contribute to her up keep, when I can even reach her on phone, talk more of sending her money and items. I don't know her whereabout

Good day sir.

You know wife's family house go and discuss with them sir that you want to really make peace with them by ensuring that they allow you perform your paternal duty. Oga, they will listen to you. Go and make peace with them.

Noah9:
Is this all you have to say? Even Human rights didn't utter such statements to me.

Anyway thanks for your advice.

They will not, why should they when they know you can take a drastic action towards yourself but I will not treat you with kids glove. We have seen lots of similar cases when the man end up maltreating the child.

You are not demanding for the child because of the love you have for her but because of your hidden agenda. I know your types.

The only thing I have to tell you is leave that child for the mother and continue to contribute your best for her up keep. If you like take if you like leave.

If your wife was to be your sister would have allowed her to be so humiliated?

Think! Think sir!

Noah9:
So, you expect me to fight with a military man? Do I look like someone who makes mouth on social media?

Well, I don't blame you.... You don't even know what it takes to raise a child

So you think! I am going for my fourth child now. I resigned my Lagos job I was doing so well because of the love I have for my first child who happens to be a girl.
By God's grace no matter the provocation I try my best not to make my kids see me angry with their mother. My girl is also four and at this age she is still very young to even be with me alone, nobody will grant you that. You would have been able to avoid all this drama at the first instance.

Men don't learn.

Noah9:
Hello, what are you saying? Is my child I'm talking about here.

Oga, that child has a right please. At that age you are not entitled to that child for crying out loud. You better calm your boiling nerves so you can think straight.

At four years old what do you want to do with the poor girl? You must be a very wicked man.

You are not entitled to that child at that age whether you are working or not.

Meanwhile, you need to be really remorseful if you must see your family back. Na your type dey come Nairaland come make mouth and you are lucky you were not properly beaten at Abuja.

You be man, you see your fellow man you nor fit fight am collect your daughter back.

Be completely remorseful and humble yourself and you will see your family back anything short of that go and get another family.

We don't speak in tongues.
We speak in parables so that when you are grey you must have learnt a tough and rough lesson.

We move!

T0T0fucker:
AH joseph, if you loved your sister that much why didn't you all assist the op for the hospital bills. Instead you are trying to make money on top a dead body.
God forbid for some families

No family is mad. No one can really ignore the struggle and effort that has been made but Nairaland will not pay up the debt.

Whatever is the issue the families are the best to fall back to.

Once again, I am not Joseph.

Reality3080:
hope u are ready cos he will rule your flat head for 8 years d same way buhari did.

It will b easy for shekau to b President of America than for an igbo man to b d president of Nigeria

He will rule your cursed generation. You think anybody against your idiot is Igbo? Tramadol dey your head. Werey!

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StilmaVsBorn2w:
Since you followed me to nairaland, I still stand on my ground. I can't marry your sister corpse joseph.

The money I spent for hospital bills loans I took, what assistance did you provide? Nothing.
But I took it uphon myself to save her, you think threatening me on the phone and commenting here will break me .
Come and do your worst.

I hope you will not eat your words so soon. I am not Joseph.

Reality3080:
ogbeni who are d we?

U have just 1 inconsequential vote,men of timber n calibre are talking n u are here yawning dust

Men of Timberland and calibrator my ass.
The internet is agog with your shaking misfit presidential hopeful.

StilmaVsBorn2w:
joseph,how can you claim I killed her when she's been back to the village twice this period when she was sick with several tradition medicine you all gave her still it had no effect. I had to borrow money to take to several hospitals for test and different expensive drug's, while you all were just sitting there with no monetary assistance.
I said am tired.
I can't marry your sister dead body, am expecting the worst from you

Better be aware that such issues are not settled on social media. There is nothing that has happened that has not been seen before.

You have to be matured enough to know that no one wants your head. When they told you about pride price it is required of you to go to your family and make it a family issue where both families come together and sort things out. How you think you will come here and nobody will know is still baffling. You may even be mentioning the wrong name. Respect the poor girl the best way you can and leave the rest for God.

God be with you!

Stupid faceless South West militant not Niger Delta.

Fruitless effort!

Niger Delta Militant are not and cannot be faceless.

T0T0fucker:
It not get anything your sister dead body fit do op.
Broke asz family, you still won chop money with dead body?

Hu na go die poor .

If I be op, na to carry your sister dead body thruway for dustbin

At the first place she is not my relative but I see her of concern. Meanwhile, take it from me and Mark today's date that will be the destiny of all the women in your family to the third generation in Jesus name. Amen!

This your moniker will be the destiny of your children both male and female. You go find me see.

jokinexcel:
Something like happened in my community, the family of the girl asked the guy to come and pay the bride price he refused, so the girl's family changed the case to kidnap and murder case , that they have been looking for their daughter for years , only for the guy who they claimed that they have never seen or know to inform them of their daughter's death . So they claimed that the guy kidnap and murder their daughter.

Leave that fool, he brokos go shrink. He has not seen anything. I have already told him he killed her only for him to rush here to look for what people will say.

T0T0fucker:
Simp assz licking niggas.

Op, nor mind this fool!

Nothing him and his family fit do you...nor go borrow money marry death body o.
Infact leave his sister for the mortuary, make you travel out live your life.

When them ready they go carry the dead body

See your life!
When men are conquering the world you there claiming champion on top kpekus. What a waste replying an empty skull!

Nobody is disputing that but we say NO sir.

You CANNOT force TINUBU down our throats. For crying out loud the man is even shaking. Are we sure we are really normal in this country or our own symptoms of Covid is this display of zombeism?

StilmaVsBorn2w:
Your just been rude and arrogant, I guess your still a teenager.
No More response to you

Teenager my ass! So you expect me to pity your display of stupidity?
You that is not a teenager look at the nonsense you have been saying since morning.

You nor get mind you go keep woman for house without marrying her and you want to be praised after killing her. Thunder wey go strike you dey come. Wizard!

StilmaVsBorn2w:
Why would I carry it to the village..?
It's already in the morgue, for her people arrival, it's their daughter.
Have done my most vital parts borrowing money to save her now am in debts, if you want me to marry her corpse because am scared. My brother your wrong.

Some men just lack sense. Hear yourself. So if that is your sister that is how you will walk to the morgue to go and carry her? Nor worry, dey there dey smart. Your head go soon correct by the time we finish with you.

I have one simple advise for you. Hurry now to the family with either your dad or the eldest man in your family or anybody that can stand in that regard, go with some cash and schnapps.

Take this time now as a matter of urgency to go inform the family officially of the latest about their daughter most especially if this is happening around Delta State.

If you like do, you like refuse.

StilmaVsBorn2w:
I don't believe in curses, A man can not define my fate in life..I was more concerned about my son that's why I brought it here.
I fear no man

Yes, undertaker! Na you create yourself! Mysterious stroke nor va nack you, by the time you nor fit touch your keypad again your eyes go clear.

You dey here dey shine teeth, take the issue to your family and let them talk sense into your dum skull.

StilmaVsBorn2w:
I informed them for the burial arrangements not for marriage ceremony

If Dem born you well carry the corpse go the village. You come here come find people mouth abi?

You just can't run away from it. Don't be a fool.

So the beautiful late woman who bore you a son does not deserve to be honoured as your wife and you have kept her till death?

Go and do the needful, respect that young woman.
We always tell people to be very careful. Why should a woman stay with you when you know you have not married her? Why

Can't she come spend some time and go back? Must you keep her like your sex slave? If I format your brain with punchslap, you will go and do the needful.

Kapeter:
They should just get over with the whole betrayer thing. I bet it's only they that have refuse to accept the truth so far.

Certainly!

I love how Nigerians are speaking against having BAT in power. We need a new Nigeria, we all deserve a better nation and Tinubu is NOT the future.

Fruitless effort!