₦airaland Forum

Myrrhis:
Any woman who can do those for a man on the first day she meets him has no self-worth.

Lolz

When she falls in love, self worth or standard is the last thing on her mind. No jupiter can make her see things from another perspective

Story for the gods

Dpsychologist:
This is exactly my point.

The constant thing in life is change, and every sector is affected.

nicho450:

Some people don't have the energy to do same

You want them to dobale

Dpsychologist:
Let’s be real for a moment this isn’t a troll post, it’s a reality check.

Sometimes I ask myself: is marriage as we knew it simply outdated? Not because love is dead, but because the environment that once supported marriage has fundamentally changed.

Before you get angry, read to understand.

1. The Economy Has Redefined Commitment
In West Africa especially, marriage is no longer just emotional, it’s a financial stress test. As a man, if you’re not reasonably stable, marriage doesn’t bring peace; it brings pressure, anxiety, and in many cases, depression. Love doesn’t pay rent or school fees.

2. The Timeline Has Shifted
Decades ago, a 25-year-old man likely had years of work experience, a steady income, and a clear path.
Today? Many are unemployed graduates, interns, or still “finding themselves.” The system changed, but expectations didn’t.

3. Gender Equality Changed the Market (Not a Bad Thing Just Reality)
Women are educated, empowered, and ambitious and that’s progress. But it also means many now want a fully established man, not someone still under construction. Growth partnerships are rare; finished products are in demand.

4. Marriage Is Now High-Cost, High-Risk
Dowries were once symbolic. Today, some families treat marriage negotiations like asset liquidation.
Cost of living is brutal. Feeding yourself is hard enough add a spouse and children, and the math becomes scary.

5. Roles Are No Longer Clear
Back then, roles were defined (right or wrong). Today, roles are negotiated and negotiation requires emotional intelligence most people were never taught. Some outsource domestic roles. Others resent them. Tension follows.

6. Options Have Exploded
Travel was limited. Communities were smaller. Choices were fewer.
Now? Infinite options, endless comparisons, and constant dissatisfaction. Marriage used to signal responsibility. Today, many see it as a trap.

7. Tolerance Levels Have Dropped
People were more patient then sometimes too patient.
Today, tolerance is low. Exit doors are wide open. One mistake and it’s “I deserve better.”

8. Sex Is No Longer a Scarce Resource
Let’s not pretend. Intimacy once came mostly through marriage. That alone pushed commitment. Today, access is easy, so the incentive structure has changed.

So no, marriage isn’t dead.
But the conditions that made it work effortlessly in the past are gone.

Marriage now requires:

A. Strategy
B. Emotional maturity
C. Financial realism
D. Clear alignment and
E. Brutal honesty

If you’re doing it blindly, you’re gambling.

And before anyone asks
No, this isn’t me talking.
It’s my 95-year-old grandma observing the world and shaking her head.

The end.

Its not old fashioned but redefined

The roles ain't the same as it used to be

Rexymania:
Religion Islam is our problem in this world

fixed

Awoof dey run belle lolz

PureSperm:
Yeah . I remember when I told my ex girlfriend I'd die if we ever break up . Unfortunately,it's been over 3 years since we parted ways. She reminded me of that promise some weeks ago even though we aren't dating again and I laughed

Told her I am AS

mommaJ:
Between buying lands or buying a house and putting it up for rent?

Which Is the better investment?

Plz share your opinions guys.

Buying lands

Buying house require maintenance fee which might equal or be more than the rent

Bestmanfornow:
Nigerians are currently doing their shopping in Anambra, the state host the highest numbers of markets open this link to cure your ignorance

https://www.facebook.com/share/r/1ANEhNfnqz/

Olobe! I am referring to the North as the North dominated the list

Bestmanfornow:
Despite lingering cost-of-living challenges across Nigeria, fresh inflation data for November 2025 point to a gradual easing of price pressures, with several states standing out as relatively more affordable for residents.

Here are the top 10 Most Affordable States to Live in November 2025.

Source NBS

https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1BH37G8CSE/

Affordable with security threat

This body has lost relevance

Amotolongbo:
May we not be defrauded of pu$zy.
Happy married life

A forced marriage. The lady will later regret her action. He will frustrate her in the marriage

princeade86:
There is remedies to every sickness, unless they dont care to look for it.

And whats the remedy to change SS to AS/AS

Sageez:
I plan getting a land next year to set up either Oil palm plantation or coconut plantation.

Please farmers in the house and those experienced in this, which is more profitable?


Image from Google

Before crude, oil palm used to be one of our cash crops

Lamba government

That region shouldnt be called a country

Islie:
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https://leadership.ng/we-wrote-notes-like-spies-in-aso-rock-says-buharis-daughter/

lamba

This people are brainwashed religiously

Joshthefirst:
Coincidentally if he was truly humble he won’t be so seriously offended by Cristy’s actions, so this is actually pride in action, not humility

he's human

ajalawole:
if Brentford beat city that mean Chelsea can't do anything special bro

I didn't even mention chelsea

helinues:
Una no dey tired with this stale , boring repeated story wey don cast?

Who are the people killing the southern Christians?

And if the excuse is about the northern christians, Muslim have been killed than the christians in north.

Seh una see say una story don cast

Meanwhile, Ipob dey amongst the christians killing christians in South East

Southerners are the major gun runners and also run the logistics to deliver the arms and ammunition, and they are mostly christians. Whatever that might be happening in North, the southern Christians are also part of it

The focus is on Northern christians..continue to pretend like you dont understand

Anti climax

saphiere:
CAN YOU SUE SOMEONE IF THEY PROMISE TO MARRY YOU AND LATER DID NOT KEEP TO THEIR PROMISE?

According to a Nigerian lawyer, Emmanuella Ojialor, she stated that you can sue and claim damages.

She posted

please let's educate the public.

Without signed documents, you can't sue

WebLab:
Good evening, everyone.

Please, has anyone experienced this before? I joined this company earlier this year and I am spending a year with them already. Immediately I joined, I was given offer letter and other documents to sign which I did sign them immediately and send back to them. Last week, I got a mail from the HR to sign an updated JD which I signed and returned. Again this week, I got another mail from the HR to come to their office to pick offer letter. Offer letter after a year of work!

I am thinking something might be fishing. Please house, has anyone experienced this before because this is my first time of coming across this in about 10 years I have been working.

Your contribution and guidance will be much appreciated.

Check if your job title has change

The variation is usually do to error in the first employment letter or a new job role offer

Brentford do this for us

BUSHHUNTER:
Which outstanding? Ozuor!! Dem complain to you? Arindin omo

Ki lomode e mo afi ko fi iyepe sere

Sirchiboy:
Self contain.
450k in PH.
Can you imagine

1.2 lag

Shame no dey catch these people..abeg channel your energy to paying SE outstanding bonuses and allowances

Making irrelevant people famous..the news isnt fp worthy

What a shame ..the energy wey dem suppose use to pay players allowances is what they are using to chase shadows

He chickened out...Dangote dont joke when his business is at stake