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Successtube:
I never thought I’d find myself contemplating divorce just two years into my marriage. As a bachelor, I’d look at couples splitting up and wonder how they ended up there. Didn’t they date and get to know each other first? Didn’t they see the signs? And yet, here I am, standing on the brink of making the same decision. I dated my wife for a year and three months before we got married, and I thought I knew her. But I was wrong. She lied and pretended to be someone she wasn’t. Now, I’m starting to see who she truly is, and it’s tearing me apart.

Immediately after our wedding, I noticed changes in her that hadn’t been there before. One month in, we were not having sex like any newly married couple would. Every time I tried to be intimate, she’d have some excuse—a headache, feeling tired, or being stressed from work. I tried to be patient, thinking it was just a phase. But it didn’t end. When I finally asked her what was wrong, she bluntly told me she didn’t like sex. I was shocked. How could she not like sex? We had been intimate enough times while dating for me to believe otherwise.

“How can we have children if we don’t have sex?” I asked, trying to keep my frustration in check. Her response was indifferent, almost as if it didn’t matter. From then on, she’d sometimes only have sex with me during her ovulation period, like it was a chore to check off her list. It went on like this for over eight months, and I felt more and more disconnected. I felt unwanted, unloved. Every attempt to bridge the gap between us only seemed to widen it.

But the cracks didn’t just stop there. Through a relative of mine, I managed to get her a job that paid her 300,000 Naira monthly. She seemed happy, and I was glad I could help. Then, fate dealt me a blow—I lost my job. After months of searching, I managed to find another one, but it paid only 120,000 Naira a month. I couldn’t afford to stay home, so I took it, thinking it would just be temporary until I found something better.

My 120,000 Naira salary barely covers our expenses. I take care of the rent, food, bills, and still fuel my car to get to work. The one that hit me hardest was when our rent increased to 700,000 Naira around the same time my car’s engine gave out, needing another 500,000 Naira to repair. I felt the walls closing in on me. I was struggling, juggling all these financial burdens alone. I turned to my wife, thinking she’d step up and help. After all, she was earning more than double what I was. But all she could offer was 50,000 Naira.

I was speechless. She looked at me and said it was a man's duty to cater to his family, and she could only "assist." Her words felt like a slap. Here I was, drowning under the weight of our expenses, and she was holding back. I had to sell one of the lands I’d bought back in my bachelor days to cover the bills. I never thought I’d be in a position where I had to sell my hard-earned property just to survive while my wife, who I had helped get a better-paying job, stood by and watched.

The emptiness gnawed at me until I reached out to someone who had once filled a different kind of void in my life—my ex. We had broken up years ago because of distance when she moved to London for her studies. But we never really ended things on bad terms. There was always a "what if" lingering between us. Now, in my loneliness, that "what if" turned into late-night conversations, laughter, and the kind of warmth I hadn’t felt in a long time. I sneak out every now and then to be with her. I know it’s wrong. I know cheating is not the answer, but I felt like I was drowning, and she was the only one who could save me. With her, I felt alive again, seen, and heard. Things quickly escalated, and before I knew it, I was back in her arms. It felt like a betrayal of my marriage vows, but at the same time, it felt like the only way to reclaim a part of myself that had been lost.

I never imagined I’d be contemplating divorce, but here I am. I want to marry my ex. I want a fresh start, a chance to feel loved again. I don’t know if I can continue in a marriage where I feel more like a burden than a partner. Maybe it’s time to face the harsh truth: some people change, and some people never really were who they claimed to be. Maybe it’s time for me to choose my own happiness, to take a leap and start over.

Don't make the same mistake I made. Study your partner thoroughly before to married, don't rush!

Go n get a partner out there. Sometimes that gender can pretend before you married them

emela9ja:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t-THfMOLwVM

Ebubedike....hahaaaaa

Trenow:
Hi guys I need an advice,my brother have being in a heartbroken situation right now after finding out that this wife is dating a local yahoo scammer for long now up to 2 year now.

She has been sending money to the guy to the tune up to 500k and the guy keeps promising her heaven and earth that when he cash out from his foreign client he is going to take her in.
This my brother wife is someone with 6 children,my brother had forgiving her the first but she later continue with the same guy this year, not minding the financial difficult my brother is having his wife will have mind to be doing this nonsense somebody has no main work..

Please is there any Agency or. office that can handle this matter to be able to recover the funds from the person,we have his number and their WhatsApp chat

Sọpe o ti lọ

CoronaVirusPro:
It’s not peculiar to South Africa, they just happen to be Xenophobic.

When a British or American man hears the name Chidinma or Adekunle, it immediately registers in his brain that you not part of them. What makes them better than South Africans is that, they don’t exhibit it, but they know

That’s when you start hearing questions like, “where are you from”

But when you say your name is Devon or Shantell, they don’t even care where you from and believe you part of them even when you not.

If you apply for job or looking for accommodation in the UK, use your English or bible names...e get why

money121:
Sloppy roof Flat/hidden roof

Sloppy, no chance for water retention

Ikaeniyan0:
So because it was devalued, it now means it can't gain value again?

There's a reason the government devalued the naira twice and I doubt you know why

The pressure on the naira will really reduce because we won't need to be spending billions of dollars on importing petrol again.

See theory, Nigeria will humble you n your theory, just give it time

This same Country humble the following theories

Privatisation
Subsidy removal
Currency devaluation
Eat what you grow

xprojectlive:
sell ur dollars now

Dey play
You think Nigeria situation answers to economic gymnastics

nikky5:
Recently, I have heard a few of our fathers of faith in Nigeria preach that tithe defaulters will not make it to heaven when they die.

I will need further clarification on this because I have stopped paying my tithes for about three years now. I also believe in tithing as an old testament law. Well, I may be wrong in some ways. Can anyone throw more light on this please. I am a born again Christian.

Thanks.

No tithers won't go to hell, infact emphasis was on GIVING and it must voluntary.

Jn 3:16 made it clear the ticket to the kingdom of God is in accepting Christ

Sonnobax15:

Tho it may look unfair to others who have been preparing all their lives just for it..

But then again, anything to send a very strong message to those xenophobic South African morons is a very welcomed energy by me...

She deserves it. She was in top 10 in South Africa before she was disqualified.

naptu2:
https://www.makingofchamps.com/2024/09/02/bolaji-makes-history-with-bronze-medal-win-for-nigeria-at-the-paralympic-games/

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Finally, they always put smiles on our faces

Mariangeles:
You know this favourite skitmaker thing is can be seasonal.
The one you like before, you might not be feeling (their skits) that much again.
So, which Nigerian comedy skitmaker are you feeling presently?

One nnekah like that

frog12:
but that incompetent watford coach do am to aubameyang for chelsea. he leave am for bench. this one really went low. from top scorer to u21 team. na punishment be dat
kai !

Nothing dey demoralising than not playing, not on the bench, not training with your team mate and not injured.

Imagine you earn 500k in your office, they now hire another guy to do your job, remove you from weekly management meeting, demote you to be having meetings with junior staff like cleaners or gateman

Nnamekus1:
My fellow nairalanders, I seriously need help with my younger brother. He has practically gone mad due to substance abuse. He takes weed like water and not only that, he also takes ice (mkpulu mmili).

We are tired of talking. Even our village vigilante had arrested him and beaten him in the past yet nothing changed.

He no longer behaves normal. He doesn't bath. He no longer does his mechanic work (which he was very good at). He now chases customers away.

Please does anyone know anything that can be done about it? I have thought of taking him to a rehabilitation centre but there is none that I know of. Meanwhile he's in Enugu in case anybody wants to make a suggestion.

I need recommendations please, aside prayers because we have been praying about it already.

Thank you all.

It's medical not spiritual
Stop weed addiction and he's free

frog12:
i no know say dem demote am. that na punishment

how it come to this ?

It seems you don't know how they treat players when coach says he's not in his plan. You can ask Mikel or Drinkwater

frog12:
if he no perform for there, him value don go down be dat
ronaldo was on bench for sometime at manutd before he left, so what's wrong with staying at napoli ??

He wasn't in the squad, his shirt no goes to lukaku and demoted to train with u21 team. That's worse than being on the bench

Drogba played in gala before coming back to Chelsea the second time.

Biodun556:
M

Where are the brown roofs, don't hide them. It's part of Ibadan history

omoyankee3:
Who among you is willing to take a pay cut of more than half your monthly salary so you can join a popular named company?

I will, if I will gain exposure and get opportunity to better doors

Class01:
Felix took the loan deal from Atlectico to Chelsea to revive his career but Chelsea even diminished his profile further.

Or simply put, name 5 players who has gone to Chelsea in the last 4 years and their Career improve as a result.

How did Chelsea diminish his profile? He was one of the best Chelsea player that season. He even has an anthem with Chelsea fans which contributes to his second coming

frog12:
i think osimhen is making a mistake going to galatasaray. he is still trying to build himself into a big star like messi. this was a bad turn. just driven by greed.
if na money he want, he for join saudi league when they wanted him before

Na loan, una no dey read

Oizee:
Nice one, at least he won't be idle

Exactly, half bread is better than non.

adamusuleiman3:
https://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/top-news/730379-bandits-now-fighting-for-allah-like-boko-haram-gumi.html?

Islam-a-bad

jmoore:
We have not had power for the past 2 weeks. I rushed out just few minutes ago to buy petrol to power our generator for pumping of water. I got it at 980 naira per litre. There are other locations that are selling at 1,000 naira per liter.

How do people in rural areas even survive? Last week, I traveled to a rural community, I don't recall seeing any petrol station. People in rural areas must be paying above what I am paying because they patronize mostly black marketers.
How will prices of food reduce when the farmers in these rural areas are spending much on transport to bring out their goods?

Tinubu's policies have put more people into poverty. His policies have reduced the purchasing power of most people. His policies have eaten most of people's savings.


It's already bleak now, what about next year when all these factors multiply?

With Subsidy: We have scarcity

Without Subsidy: We have scarcity

Increase the price: We have scarcity

Repair refinery: Scarcity everywhere

OK, let's wait for Dangote refinery: We still have scarcity

The Country is doom

Fineman2:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VgkzjkAN0Fk?si=XZuw_3bsuN-qLBnT

Priscilla Ojo is having a good time with her tanzanian boyfriend after welcoming him to Nigeria yesterday.

Hope it will last, cos mockers like vdm are waiting for her

HumansAreDemons:
“Let him who is without sin among you be the first to throw a stone at her.”

Keep up the good work girl!
Only God can judge you.

Shall we continue to sin, so that grace may abound

BeeBeeOoh:
https://punchng.com/my-political-commitment-to-obi-ended-after-tinubus-victory-okupe/

Indomie brain....political jobbers, we know already

Deeprooted:
Are we playing without a coach?


Abi nff don hire new coach wey I no Sabi ?

Eguavon is always around to step in as head technical team

Rumundele:
Why are you guys talking like this? The girls i watched this morning are young and within that age brackets

continue lying to yourself. Yet you want the game to develop

verifiablefacts:
Osimein would be the first to report to camp.

No injury as an excuse this time

Another draw

Neduzoma123456:
Feel sorry for the south Korean girls... They had to play women of 26 - 28yrs from Nigeria claiming under 20... Smh.

Yea, the girls are too old. It's a shame, we are not developing the female football

ayodaisi:
Na to castrate this boy be that

He's a minor

politicoNG:
https://www.icirnigeria.org/nigerians-lambast-oshiomhole-for-calling-edo-governor-wife-childless/

The gov. wife started it by calling osho's candidate wifeless

If you go below the belt, get ready cos your opponent might even go lower