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NEROSKY: Just have to review this because been in Nairaland involves info sharing, and you don't have to waste money for smartphone while cheap once are storming the Nigeria market with even better features..Is a welcome development entering the market with 2nd latest android O.S which is ICS v4.0.4 (Ice Cream Sandwich.....
I initially went for sony xperia u & their marketer approached (@computer village) with the product which cost #18,000
& Sony Xperia U cost #31,000 with smaller screen,i have to go for BEphone.Mean while, i have saved 11k plus ....Anyway, am comparing this with N7 but bephone is more affordable... Official web www.bephone.com

One year waranty included

KEY SPECIFICATIONS
GENERAL= 2G Network GSM 850 / 900 / 1800 / 1900
3G Network= HSDPA 850 / 900 / 1900 / 2100
SIM= Dual sim

CAMERA= Primary 5 MP front & back camera with led flash

OS=v4.0 (Ice Cream Sandwich), planned upgrade to v4.1 (Jelly Bean)

BATTERY= 7 hours of call time and 7 days of standby use... This is another area i respect this product... Played music & games for hours @ 15%

PROCCESOR= 1Ghz

SCREEN=4'touch screen

MEMORY= ROM 4GB ,3GB internal memory , memory slot , upto 32GB

Contents;
Smartphone,battery,charger,data cable,hands-free,user guide,waranty card

pix taken with tecno n3

@ nerosky

Saw this phone @ slot , pls give us more info' on it's capabilities , is google playstore available? How well does it handle games, how strong is the battery?

Waiting for ur feedback!

HOLLASLYD: firstly, the LG is no match for q1
q1 runs on android 4.0.4 LG runs on android 2.3.6
q1 = 1ghz dual core LG = 800 mhz
q1 = 512 ram LG = 384 ram

these are the key features. the q1 is a perfrmance device put not suitable for adventure games or football and shooting games though it handles thm smoothly but the screen is just too small for that. racing games are very much playable cus they use accelerometers to drive then one hand to brake, use nitrous and drift.
i will advice you buy n3 gaming confort. or rather make up ya budget to 25k and belt infinx bolt with 4.5 inch also has the same hardware specs with tecno q1. high performance that is.

@ hollaslyd

I'm actually considering the LG optimus L3 ver 2

http://www.google.com/url?q=http://www.gsmarena.com/lg_optimus_l3_ii_e430-5292.php&sa=U&ei=ZQZ0Ua3JOo6rOpDxgEA&ved=0CBkQFjAA&usg=AFQjCNEIpZPih2h-8iDFaga8ZazTgbltjg

What of my question concerning the MIDP emulator allowing the LG phones to play Java games?

@ LEGEND7466
Bros, the N7 is above my budget (20k max)

HOLLASLYD: Flexing my new tecno q1
Rooted in 2 mins
Flexing only need for speed most wanted and asphalt 7. No more games on it.
I have bigger screen for gaming jor

@ hollaslyd

Saw this phone at Slot the other day ,was impressed with the visual quality but am wondering how you would play games like Asphalt properly as there is no virtual pad,buttons. Screen size may also be an issue.
Am thinking of switching to android but I av a budget of 15k-20k at most.
After my looking around the market I'm stuck between the LG optimus L3 ii and the Tecno Q1. Selling points for me are good internet connectivity and access to HD android games without rooting if possible.
The LG phones are said to come with MIDP emulator so does that mean I can play my Java games on it too?
What are your thoughts on this my case?

Babymumsy: Hello all...I'm a newly married woman in need of advice.I got married in January and evrything has been okay between me and hubby,looking forward to making wonderful babies BUT I jst reached a conclusion just yesterday ; we spend more time praying and fasting than actually making love and babies.What do you do in this kinda situation? I'm a God fearing person but in fear of bin called another "thing" when I demand for sex during our fasting session!pls help!

@ babymumsy

After reading your post I can't help but wonder, what is your true motivation?
From your post it shows that you are interested in sex not making love as you claimed ( yes, there is a difference between the two)with your hubby with the sole aim of getting pregnant and becoming a mother.This by itself
Is not bad/wrong as long as your hubby is on the same page with you but when done with a self centered spirit it is tantamount to you just using your hubbys body to get what you want ( a baby) regardless of his feelings.
Call me crazy but knowing that my wife just sees me as a means to an end does not inspire me to desire her more , if anything I will be turned off . If all you want is sex then you could just as easily have sex with any guy you meet on the street and still achieve your goal (a baby)

Now if you were really concerned about making love to your hubby as you claimed your mindset would be along these lines

"By night on my bed I sought him whom my soul loveth, I sought him and found him not.
I will rise now and I will seek him whom my soul loveth"
Song of songs 3: 1 - 2

"Awake O north wind ,blow upon my garden that the spices thereof may flow out.Let my beloved come into his garden and eat his (fill of) pleasant fruits"
Song of songs 4:16

Did you catch the revelation? A wife concerned with making love with her hubby is only thinking of how to express her love and longing for him, to give of herself to him because she takes pleasure in giving him pleasure not for what she will get in the bargain .

So Babymumsy, I ask you again, What is your motivation?

@ orpelin

What exactly is your challenge with the nigerian insurance sector? I'm curious to know

@ op

The options that any one person will choose will vary depending on what the goals of the individual is as well as their financial discipline.

gabinogem: I hope they will do thesame to the lady. What is good 4 d goose is also good 4 d gander

@ gabinogem
Bros , you and I know that if annie was the one asked to touch her bosoms and VJ area to confirm if she get am or not then further queried as to if she will be able to use same to satisfy Mr 2face sexually ,this thread would have been full of very angry female posters.

But since a guy is the one on the receiving end ,every body seems to think they can have a laugh at his expense ! SMH

lastpage: Okay, lets be HONEST WITH OURSELVES and look deep into this matter:

Women of TODAY dont seems to either:
1.) Know what they want ..or...
2.) Too selfish or self-centered, to bother about "HOW" to get what they actually want.

Curiously, experience has shown us that "Freedom is NOT GIVEN, it is worked hard for, fought for, sacrificed for and TAKEN BY FORCE, if necessary".

Same applies to our Women of TODAY, who want MEN of TODAY to do to them, what "Our Fathers did to our Mothers" (like chasing them around ) in those good old days:

QUESTION IS: Can you WOMEN OF TODAY, do the things, accept the things and behave like our Mothers did to their Husbands, back then?


Be HONEST with yourselves, hands crossed over your heart (and you may hope to die or grow a long nose like Pinnochio, if you dare lie! ) and tell yourself, the answer.

Let me break it down a lil-bit:
*Everything in Life follows certain "Universal Laws",....like the "Law of reciprocity.....being Give and take", Like the Universal Law of Physics, "Action and Reaction .....being Equal and opposite" (Isaac Newton),
Like the Universal "the Golden Rule ......being Do unto others as you would expect to be done unto", ...and so on.

Women of TODAY will look down on our Mothers as "Stewpid, uneducated, uncivilized, too weak, unsophisticated, unexposed, Docile, Take too much poo from their husbands, too compromising, e.t.c"

*But in all the above, Women of TODAY forget that "YOU CANT EAT YOUR CAKE AND STILL HAVE IT"!

Our Mothers enjoyed all those things you now crave for, because of "HOW and WHO They are"!
You are either "like them" .....and ENJOY THOSE THINGS (like being chased endlessly and being dotted over) or YOU ARE NOT. ...Its so K-I-S-S (Keep It stewpidly Simple!)

On a closer look, a discerning person will decipher that "our Mothers are not "Stewpid" at all, they just KNOW WHAT TO DO, TO GET WHAT THEY WANT AND RIGHTLY DESERVE! ......That is what l call SMARTNESS!

TODAYS WOMEN who think they are smart, are actually the reverse after-all, the RESULT is there for all to see --- , lack of Love, uninteresting courtship, boring marriage, Family breakdowns, Divorce and failed child rearing!

So, it is not about men not chasing women (as our fathers did in those days, it is in our DNA to chase women, treat women like a Queen and splash out on them) BUT....

BUT.... Women have changed (and dont deny these please!) ....Men are just responding to those changes, like all "Natural and Universal Laws" demand!
There are still a few women out there who have "mastered the secret of a successful Love/Marital Life" and are using it to their advantage!.

Of-course, the so-called "smart, modern woman" will condemn and criticize them like they did (to) our Mothers!

No one, no matter how smart they think they are, can "Eat their cake and still have it !

Any woman of TODAY that desires to be "chased and treated like our Mothers of those days", should look inwards, study how and what our Mothers did in their relationship, how they related with their men, how they "view and appreciated their men".......THEN YOU HAVE FOUND THE SOLUTION

@ Last page

Bros , chop knuckle *fist bump*

Too many 'ladies' are trying to be clever by half these days. The OP herself talks about men risking it all for a woman as it was in the days of old ( she even references cartoon classics like Snow White & Rapunzel to 'Buttress' her point LOL) and then in the next breath she admits that she has been stringing two separate guys along for the last 2 years !!!
Let's just think about that for a minute.
Two guys , following the script that the OP is trying to sell to guys as the ideal way to behave.
Two guys giving it their all, giving their time, their energy ,their emotions and of course their money(after all 'Real men' pay for dates,right?)
And what is the OP doing ?
Q)Is she really putting up an effort?
A)Hell No! She's sitting pretty watching you guys 'risk it all' to win her approval

Q)Is she investing her time to be with you?
A)The only time she remembers you even exist is when she sees your missed calls on her phone or when her gateman tells her one young chap asking to see her and she quickly juggles her memory to remember your name and face.

Q)Is she doing ANYTHING to show you that she is actually worth all the BS she is putting you through?
A)Uh... Nope! She's too busy thinking about how next she can 'test' you to see if you are worthy of her approval.

Q) If the tables were turned and you are the guy that has everything she says she wants... Good looks,Good money ,Flashy car etc will she have the courage to step to you and ask you out? If you decide to 'test' her, will she be willing to 'risk it all' to be with you?
A) Your guess is as good as mine.

Remember the two guys that the OP is stringing along? Do you honestly believe that either one of them has asked themselves the fundamental questions i listed above? I really don't think so!

But hey, you know what? This is just my opinion ok! Any guy out there who agrees with the OP's line of thinking and feels that they don't mind being the guy in the scenario I described above then hey! Good for you!
But any other guys who know in their hearts that this scenario is not their cup of tea , then let us guys learn how to LOVE SMART with girls rather than CHASING HARD for girls .

drnoel: Look guy, u say it like its the lady's fault. Pls tell me what game they need to step up, look marriage is no trophy to be won but rather a union of two like minds for better for worse in sickness and health. Marriage can be sweet and can also be bitter. Look if a man is not matured enough to make that step, to commit himself into something he believes in, then how does he expect his married hummies or his family to take him serious.
If u had rather spoken about what the women brings to the table in her married home then I would understand cos in this time and age everyone brings 50:50 so that they can be united in matrimony.

@ Drnoel

My post was in direct response to the mind set displayed in Coogar's post I.e 'whatever is wrong with the dating scene in naija is all men's fault' .
I do not believe that any one gender is responsible for the way things are today. Both Genders have a hand in the wahala and both Geners will have to tallk to themselves honestly in order to make it better.

You casually indict men who are not quick too marry as being 'immature' but you are silent on ladies who play the field with multiple Guys, stringing each of them along . Hmmm..... Double Standards much?

In summary let there be no hypocrisy in our dealings with each other.

'With the measure by which ye judge others , ye yourselves shall also be judged.' - Matthew 7:2

coogar: you have to complete "other duties" as well.....you can't just be a good guy and think a woman would get high on your goodness. some of the rich boys taking the girls from you are good too, if not better! one thing you must understand is there's a competition out there, a very fierce one if i may add. treat a girl right, make her laugh and she is all yours(by default)!


you need to step your game - maybe you were "too good" for her.....you can't be "too good" or "too soft"....too much of everything is bad and most chics dont like men that are sissies. strike a balance between being good and being firm!

@ coogar

All good and well. In line with ur comment can it not also be argued that the ladies also do not meet up with 'other duties' expected of them and as such they too do not make the cut?
Ladies with fine face , fine body , flashy clothes etc full ground for naija, what else are they bringing to the table? Just as you advised guys, ladies should also realize that competition is stiff and as such they need to raise their game or miss out

nybol: Kombats, pls can u send me download link for ngage 2.0 games. I hacked my nokia e63 so i can play ngage games on it but i need games like rayman 3, splinter cell, asphalt 5 , ghost recon etc. I have bounce, the one, metal gear, resident evil,

@ nybol
Bros i need Metal Gear solid Mobile and Resident evil for my Nokia C5-00 240X320 resolution sisx. The ones i av found so far don't work on my C5, please hook me up !

Ecalos: So Filani is she supposed to be watching her every man's moveA man that wants to cheat will cheat no matter how much she guides the goal post or not...Every one gets tempted but the man was stupid enough to fall rather than stand strong and resist the devil...

The problem here is that stupid Nigerian culture that thinks that the woman has the power to produce a child of her own accord and power. Who gave any human the right to place such a high premium of having kids. Kids are a gift from God and its up to God to decide to either bless a couple with one or not and if he doesnt then find other thing to do with your life and not wrap you life around having children....

P.s my aunt has been married 25 years and no kids yet her relationship with her husband is one to be emulated...I have lived with them so i know what i am saying...they spend their time giving to the community rather than running helter skelter trying to help God give them a child...

@ ecalos
You have missed the message behind my post. I am not saying that the OP should have forcefully close marked her husband because as you rightfully said the person who has decided in his or her heart to cheat will almost definitely cheat when the chance comes. I am also not saying what the OP's husband did is right, I didn't bother to reprimand him because the first 6 or 7 pages of this thread is full of peeps calling the OP's husband every bad name under the sun & throwing a "pity party" for the OP

"Oh you poor angel ,that evil man doesn't deserve you"
"All these naija men sef, das how they all are ! "
"Whaaat!!! How could he do that to you?in fact who does he think he is? Look my dear don't blame urself for anything at all, it's all HIS fault !!! "

And the beat goes on and on and on but none of these so called peeps will have the courage to play "devils advocate" by asking the OP that " yes , what hubby did is very wrong but on your own part have you been fulfilling ur wifely duties of late ? "

The danger of not making the OP see that she has a hand in her current situation is that she whips herself into self righteous rage , walks out on her marriage and spends the rest of her days as a man hating old woman with a room full of cats ( LOL)
Or
She walks out of her current marriage goes into a new one but makes the same mistakes in her new one that she did in her old marriage !!! Why ? Becos she never once asked herself " I know what my ex hubby did wrong but what did I do wrong to make that marriage crash?"

The OP needs to make not just her partner but herself accountable for the success or failure of their relationships , it really is that simple .

Johnny: I want to anwer ur question; “where did i go wrong?“....so u dont know dat u went wrong all through?U literally became d “man“ of d house superving ur building project &coming home late in d nite “tired“ abandoning ur home &business,yet u dnt no where u went wrong?its pride (owning ur apartment),arrogance (coming home anytime u like),greed (u didnt want d workers to steal ur materials) stupidity (not caring about ur husband sexual need) that pushed u into this.Did u hear urself;IT WAS AFTER FIVE WHOLE YEARS THAT U SETTLED DOWN TO MAKE A FAMILY!!Stupid....Arrant nonsense....The guy should hasten up the wedding please.u can go &build more apartments,possibly become a site Engineer,thats where u re productive!

@ OP
I am seriously doubting dat this is a real life story or "cut and paste" but assuming that it is a true story ,I have to say I agree with the poster quoted above.

It takes two partners to make a marriage work & it takes two partners to make it fail. The OP is not in anyway free of blame .she left her" marriage goalpost" wiiiide open & the devil took advantage and scored a goal.
The OP has a choice to make ,she can choose to put her self righteous anger aside and accept her fault (no matter how little she thinks it is) in order to learn from it and rebuild her marriage or she can concede total defeat and call it quits.

@ feelamong
Nice work ur doing here brother! Kindly assist me by doing the calculation for N8 Million at 14% for 91 days ,thnks

ferhyntorlah:
Settlement or whatever is fatuous IMO.
Women should be industrous and not rely on men. It's so hapless that women in Occidental world that advantage of this negatively.

Even Eva Longoria dey ask for settlement from ex hubby, Tony Parker. For what? Isn't she rich to take care of herself? Na wa. Too much freedom can lead to some else.

It's ironic, i was going to mention this particular example but ferhyntorlah beat me to it. Can you just imagine this Eva girl ? this woman has more than enough of her own money but when her marriage went bad rather than just calling it quits and walking away with her head held high what does she do? she goes after the money! Spousal support my @$$ !!! then to top it off she goes on twitter to say  "It is with great sadness that after 7 years together, Tony and I have decided to divorce. We love each other deeply and[b] pray for each other’s happiness[/b]." 

Yeah right  if Eva is praying for tony's ''happiness'' then Barrack Obama is my uncle  LOL

Jackieugo:
^Truth. These are things you'll get from a "good" woman and much more,  It's a shame to keep seeing threads like this from men who keep choosing the wrong type of women then[b] blaming the entire female sex on their problems and bad judgments.[/b]

@ jackieugo
Point taken but did you know that there are good things a woman will get from a good man and much more ? It's always a shame to see threads on NL from girls who keep choosing the wrong type of man then blaming the entire male gender for their problems and their own bad judgments.

The relationship coin has two sides jacki , don't make guys out to be the devils and girls the angels 

modele2:
Slowwww down people

All the poster is trying to say is she would like men to be aware of the 'work' it entails to be a woman. To understand that is it really not that easy, she is asking for emphathy and desiring the support from the men.
Am married and i love being married(at least for now) and i realise that one of the things i love is when my oga is supportive or when he praises me for work i have done or am doing. I absolutely hate being taken for granted and am sure no woman likes it. So please dont crucify the poster all she said is true but its work that we do willingly and one that spices up our life.

@ Modele2
Oh really the ''work'' it entails to be a woman  please do tell us   * Filani pulls a chair and takes a seat*  oh by the way has anybody not told you that being a man and measuring up to societys standards of what a man should be ain't a walk in the park either  

If you justify this post as her idea of asking for empathy and support then on another day if sandraa takes a piss on your head , i will justify it by telling you it's raining  

@ sandraa
Another day  ,Another Man Bashing thread on NL , Yaaawn!!! Like, What else is new?

[quote author=Shy-One link=topic=602156.msg7699518#msg7699518 date=1297274983]Marriage should improve the human species, becoming a barrier against vice, a protection to woman, strength to man, and a centre for the affections.

Marriage should signify a union of hearts

Union of the masculine and feminine qualities constitutes completeness. The masculine mind reaches a higher tone through certain elements of the feminine, while the feminine mind gains courage and strength through masculine qualities. These different elements conjoin naturally with each other, and their true harmony is in spiritual oneness. Both sexes should be loving, pure, tender, and strong. The attraction between native qualities will be perpetual only as it is pure and true, bringing sweet seasons of renewal like the returning spring.

Jealousy is the grave of affection. The presence of mistrust, where confidence is due, withers the flowers of Eden and scatters love's petals to decay. Be not in haste to take the vow "until death do us part." Consider its obligations, its responsibilities, its relations to your growth and to your influence on other lives

mbe[/quote]Beautiful  !!! This post represents the mind of a woman who has her mind  right   I highlighted some sections but the truth is that every single word in your post is simply brimming with MATURITY , TACTFULNESS , INSIGHT & INNER BEAUTY  

Just when i am tempted to believe that all women have fallen under the influence of Feminist Man Haters some one like you comes along with a post like this to make me smile again, thank you  Shy one

chaircover:
@Filani I totally agree where you are coming from, but it is the poster who brought the problem to NL & not his wife and he is the one who people can talk to and he is the one who can make a difference in the situation right now.

If they were both sitting in front of me, they will BOTH get a piece of advise.

In my very first post, I believe I mentioned something about them both seeking professional help, so I do know that the woman too has work to do, however I am just giving the guy a heads up on how he can spice up his love life in the meantime. Sometimes it’s not about apportioning blame but about moving forward.

. . . . Oops I seem to be stepping on a lot of toes these days. Think its time to start my Xmas holidays   

@ chaircover
your point is duly noted , but if i had not raised the challenge you would not have clarified it better like you just did.

fm7070 would have left the forum no better off than when he started it and the ladies would simply walk away with a skewed belief that in such a situation the man's needs are simply to be ignored or ridiculed,
That being said i want to challenge you further by asking to put yourself in the shoes of  "madam" . your husband has told you in clear terms that you DO NOT SATISFY him sexually , what will be your action plan to win him over?
please no generalized answer like " we will both go see a professional for advice " . when you were advising fm7070 you had a list of things you said he should be doing to stir up his wife's flagging libido , so therefore in a like manner i'm expecting a [b]list of specific actions [/b]you would take to meet up with your husbands sexual needs if you found yourself in such a situation 

@ chaircover
it's all good and well for the NL ladies to "preach" to fm7070 about turning on the romance in his marriage  like the list you've just given above and trying to justify/excuse  her inability/unwillingness to satisfy her husband sexually with childbirth,  depression ,  etc  ( na 2day ?) but i ask you will these same ladies follow this advice when the tables are turned ?

Av been around NL for a while now and av seen enough posts in the romance section from ladies wailing about the woe full inadequacies of their   boyfriends/husbands in explicit details , many of them in a mocking tone. they aren't  half bothered about trying to solve "their"  challenge , as far as they're concerned it's his problem and he needs to solve it FAST or she's gonna take a walk an get herself a young stud outside ( that is after she has had her fun in verbally emasculating him).

I hate double standards , don't go softly on the posters wife jus' b'cos she's a female . your post puts ALL the responsibilty for tackling the challenge squarely on fm7070's shoulders ( indirectly ur saying it's all his fault !!!) . so in your mind "madam"  is on the right for neglecting her husband sexually? madam has no responsibility in all of this? 

In order for real progress to be made" madam" must first ADMIT she actually has a problem in her marriage (am not satisfying my husband sexually) and be willing to work toghether with him , make whatever sacrifice is necessary to solve it.  unless this happens first , all the sugestions you gave will come to nothing b'cos she will simply rebuff him and throw it all back in his face.

chaircover:
I think the poster is within his right to feel dissapointed especially as he made it clear that age was a major issue BEFORE he married her.

Having said that poster you do have some blame here, bearing in mind that age was such a big deal to you, in the three years that you courted her, then[b] you should have done more [/b]to make sure that you were being fed the correct number.

You are right, fertility does decrease with age but I wouldnt say that 35 is too old to conceive & there is still plenty of time to fill your house with kids if there are no undelying medical issues with either of you. My mum had her last at 44.

However, for this to work you both have to get over this and put your minds in one place, regarding trying for a baby. E pa okan po si ibikan.

In the mean time take a few days off and think deeply about how you wish to proceed. Dont just look at the current situation, but look at the relationship in its totality.

Can you find it in your heart to severly reprimand her and completely forgive her or you are just unble to live with the deception. It is your descision at the end of the day as you will be the one waking up everymorning beside her. Good Luck.

@ chaircover
pls  explain more on the above bolded for the sake of us single men that wish to avoid this trap in prospective partners seeing as MOST ladies can be very convincing liars when they CHOOSE to be?

@  Tolutara
Good for you  you recognized & decided to go after after a good man instead of just sitting on ur @$$ waiting for him to come to you.

@  Ladyjide
You have described yourself as a " quality lady " and if this holds true then "quality men" should be beating down your door but by your own admission none are coming your way, which begs the question is it possible that the qualities that you listed that make you a "quality lady" are not really "all that" in the eyes of a quality man?
Think about it for a minute  

[b]

[/quote]Well-- I am 28- am professionaly employed, live alone, am honest , hard working and not a cheat[/b]-------I want the same in my man, I fall short because I want that from a Nigerian man and not a Black American! So I remain single here!!

The above highlighted is the criteria you used to justify yourself as a "quality lady" but has it occured to you that there are hundreds maybe thousands of nigerian women in the states that fit this bill ? And that being the case why would a " quality naija man want to commit himself to you   for life and not any other woman he has met or possibly will meet ?

A NL guy made this post earlier which emphasizes what i just said.
   v v v

The 'quality' men (in your age range) you described were long hooked by the smart naija girls , they caught them real early). Most of them are engaged or married.

. Most responsible naija guys here usually have other things on their minds other than marriage, so you have to make them KNOW you are the type that is meant for keeps.[quote]

In summary , the quality men are not hiding the simple  truth is that they are simply not attracted to you
So you have two choices , keep on complaining about the lack of quality men or take a good long look at yourself & decide to make yourself a TRUE quality woman rather than [b]just calling [/b]yourself one.  

*Filani moves away from the keyboard to continue reading the book FIRE IN THE BELLY:On being a man by Prof Sam Keen *