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@ adaybola

Adaybola: Hi, is the seat free ?

Guy :  yeah, i guess

Adaybola: I like your shirt/wristwatch/whatever he's putting on

guy : Thanks ( gives Adaybola a quick lookover )

Adaybola: Will start the conversation on his meal, movies, sports and get a hold on his interest.

guy: ( Hmm, this is intresting , i'll play it cool )

Adaybola: There’s this new movie “Salt”, I would love to see it.

Guy :  (keeps silent waiting for this babe to state her intentions )

Adaybola: Would you like to go to the cinema/hangout sometime?

guy : ( OMG !!! Is she asking me out ?! ok,  play it cool ) Hangout with,  you ?

Adaybola: Yes, Can we exchange complimentary cards/ numbers ?

Guy: (Allows a slight smile) are you serious or are you just playing a joke on me? ( Guy makes direct eyecontact with adaybola)

Adaybola : am not playing a joke on you,  i,  i  just  wanna get to know you  better

guy : ( is she blushing thats so cuuute!!!  but wait  i don't want to make it too easy for her )* in a cold tone of voice*  I don't give my complimentry card/numbers  to strangers , (waiting for her reaction)
 
Adaybola: Oh, ok, Nice chatting with you. I hope to see you again sometime soon. Enjoy the rest of the day (she gets up slowly to leave)

Guy : ( Wow , she genuinely looks disappointed ) Hey wait a minute (Adaybola turns around) on the other hand you could give me your number & maybe one of these days we could see a movie toghether and talk some more , to get to know each other

Adaybola : okay  ( smiles warmly )  here's my number ,hope to see you soon !

guy : okay,  bye ( i'll wait for 3 days ,  then i'll call her)

                                                                     THE   END

* Filani flashes back to the old English Literature Classic Novel  SHE STOOPS TO CONQUER by Oliver Goldsmith *

@ carolece
Av been following ur posts and replies you give to threads by other NL's  for a while now and have been trying to decide if the " stories " on ur life you post here are legit  or if ur just full of $hit. 

If these accounts on ur life are true however then you've really had a harsh past  &  i truly empathise with you but on the other hand carrying this venom in ur heart against all men[/b] is somthing you simply cannot give any excuse for NO MATTER HOW MUCH $HIT the men in ur past have put you through.

If i as a man held ALL women responsible for the cheating,slutty behavior of a few that i have been involved with & called them ALL worthless whores , as woman urself would you agree with my blanket generalization of women ?

I have always said here on NL that this relationship coin HAS TWO SIDES , there are guys out there that treat thier gurls bad ,yes,  BUT there are gurls out there who treat [b]good men who worship the ground they walk on worse the trash too! If i can rise above the bitter experience in my past & still maintain a positive opinion of women in general then where the hell do you get off labeling ALL MEN as evil  everytime ur on NL Is the intensity of ur pain any diffrent from mine? is the pain you felt so unique that it gives you somkinda divine right to be the way you are now? If you decide ur gonna swear off men for the rest of ur natural life then fine , THAT'S UR CHOICE ! but don't i repeat DON'T put that emotional baggage on other men out there who have not done a thing to hurt you !

Am sorry for the long post N'landers but like i said ,av been following  carolece for a while now and this post was the last straw. I empathise with her BUT she reeeeaaally needs to get her emotional house in order.

* filani sits down on his sofa to listen to soul soothing vocals from ENYA *

blank:
I know we are all liberated and stuff.
Me never reach that level.
No matter how much the love do me, i no fit yarn am first.
Most guys will just take advantage of that and say all sorts of things.

@ blank
I beg to differ with the above highlighted section of ur post . If we follow ur reasoning and put the shoe on the other leg , can we guys also not argue that most women will take advantage us when we commit ourselves to them verbally by saying i love you first

Hence following that mind set , most guys also decide to play thier cards close to thier chest !

Can you see the end result of such line of thought if embraced by both sides

STALEMATE! nobody wins , everybody loses

waterworks:
you were friEnds when the gurl was using him abi?
when he decided to move on u were still friends.
when they got back together u are still friends.

he was ok and i knew he had started liking me
as i gather he never told u hes feelings[/b]. it may be he started liking u or even better u liked him so u wer reading wat wasnt there. (we gurls do that a lot)

The fact is that he liked that girl first and always did. he saw u as a friend, u thot ther was more, he leaned on u when he needed u but he diddnt desert u. (u still go out dnt u?) i dont think he was tryin to use U. personally i think ure hurting cos u thot there was hope when that gurl wasnt there now she back and its 2 late.
[b]u dinnt make ure move quick!

@ waterworks
I love it when a girl can read a post like this and give a rational ,unbiased analysis rather than just jumping on the man bashing train. kudos to you girl , i second this opinion 

@ dcuddles
what can i say to you girl? waterworks has hit the nail on the head, a good guy ( a little naive maybe  ) but a good guy none the less fell right into ur hands and you let him slip away !

ah well, live & learn baby, live & learn 

@ apocalypse
Dude , why are you still talking like this ? this your babe is so smart she managed to screw up her life so bad b/4 she reached age 23  

@ apocalypse
I honestly don't see the dilema here for you. This babe is obviously bad news but you seem to be reluctant to do the smart thing by cutting her out of ur life as quickly as possible.

Are you waiting for her to have another drunken episode where she ends up fucking your best freind & defending herself by giving you the " i was drinking & dancing on the stage , then mistakenly slipped and fell on top of his dick " speech in order for you get the message ?

I believe you know deep in your heart that this girl is no good for you , just  MAN UP  and show her the way to the door b/4 she messes up the good life you have going for you right now .

@ sexy leamon
seriously girl ,what were you thinking when you started this thread? Oh Thats right you weren't really thinking were you? ^{admit it!}  . you were like '' am in a bad mood right now so i'll log on to nairaland and dump this two-bit drivel  online just for a cheap thrill " . Can you say IMMATURE

P.S    if your current guy falls into the '' Mr Right" group as you claim , doesn't it make sense that you would be too busy having the time of ur life with him to dump this trashy post on NL ?   i think ur spending too much time in La La Land ,  wake up !!!

Tranngirls:
Another example of man hating rubblish stop hating men, Poster i hate girls like you. Girls like you make guys call us gold diggers "While the servants wash the dishes, let's make love like crazed weasels in my new yacht, ok?"" silly girl

@ Tranngirls
Tell me about it !!! everty time i turn around  more of this childish crap[/b]turns up on NL but you know what don't waste ur energy being mad at her rather you might even want to shed a tear for her since she has told us that being a pampered Bleep BUDDY  on a private yacht is her idea of a perfect relationship ! 

*Filani dancing to the Lyrics of the song [b]Golddigger by Kanye West*

[b]However with every good bunch of grapes there is always the sour one which makes you think the rest maybe just as bad! Take for instance a guy I went on a date with some time last year (lets call him Uche). We met up at a swanky bar in London and he was absolutely stunned when after scanning through the drinks menu filled with expensive drinks that I opted for lemonade (£5.60) instead of something pricier. He told me of a girl who he had met for the first time at a similar priced bar who had ordered a bottle of Louis Roederer Crystal Rose Champagne on his tab—a £500 bottle of champagne. Although he claimed he could easily afford it, he made it clear to her that he thought it was outrageous for her to order such an expensive drink. The poor girl was so embarrassed she changed her order to a bottle of mineral water!

Another friend of mine recently broke up with his girlfriend because, as he put it, ‘he was tired of being her daddy’. According to him she asked him for everything under the sun. Money for hair extensions, cloths, bags, shoes, petrol, make up and would get very upset or even withhold ‘extracurricular affairs’ if he delayed payment. The final straw came when she bought a set of matching gold earrings, necklace and bracelet worth N450, 000 and sent the trader to his office to harass him for the money!

So yeah, I agree. There are ‘some’ girls who put the ‘gold’ in gold digger but these are extreme cases.[/b]

@ deep soul
hmm,  ok i admit it ,your quote from facebook gives me food for thought as a guy. I was ready to dismiss it as just another biased feminist running her mouth off on facebook till she grudgeingly admitted that  gold digger girls are a clear and present danger for us guys( as quoted above) but even in the middle of that damning revelation she quickly tries to blunt the force of that admission by claiming that such girls are only in ''extreme cases'', i can't help but laugh at that one 

If girls like this are truly an extreme (i.e  rare) case then PRE-NUPTIAL AGREEMENTS would not exist in this world, that law was initially specifically introduced to protect wealthy men from the scourge of female financial predators and F.Y. I just becos  a girl that has her own money doesn't mean she can't be a gold digger !!! want proof ? when the TIGER WOODS sex scandal came to light  he was roundly condemned by all and sundry females & men alike but did you notice the actions of his rich supermodel wife ELIN NORDEGREN ? what was her primary concern at this low point in her marraige ? thats right , first chance she got she looked for a good lawyer to help her take tiger for half of everything he was worth !!!    hmmph! so much for the picture of the innocent longsuffering wife wronged by her cheating husband  . Bottom line, we guys don shine our eyes too, we are not intrested in being any girls MAGA !!! 

@ cheerie
I'll keep it short & sweet for you dear, if this issue bothers you that much , pick an appropriate moment ( NOT AFTER SEX PLS!!! ) and raise your fears with your guy, so both of you can work it out. best of luck to you 

Ebonyeyes:
Well you passed the test, I wonder why your not out popping champagne

you're just kidding right ? you honestly don't see anything wrong with what the posters gurl did ?^{lawd av mercy}  are you telling us here on NL  that if your guy did same to you it would be like,  it's  all good , no biggie to you ?, yeah  right  . i am willing to bet that if ur guy did such you wld slap him upside the head several times , break up wit him on the spot and then log on to nairaland to start a man bashing thread about how childish and silly all men are !!! * filani thumbs his nose mentally at feminist man haters reading the thread * 

H2O2:
puppy games from an insecure girl. your last doesn't trust you fully

I agree, insecure and childish !!! this gurl is setting a dangerous precedent , if sql- error is foolish enough to take this lightly then where will her need to continue testing him end ? she even went as far as telling him to expect more tests !!! can you beat  that ? very soon she will set W.A.E.C  and JAMB for him   LOL 

ThoniaSlim:
BULL CRAP!

So if a man's been beating you. . .you'll stick with him because the devil you know is better than the angel you dont? You kidding me right?

As for your second part of the statement. . .There are decent girls out there who stick to one man and do not hop like frogs from one bed to another. . .So say that's what you do and your very smart at it!

@topic
Dude drop her like its HOT cus if you didn't catch her. . .she'll never have told YOU!

HELL YEAH !!! enuff said 

Hello ,

as far as i know the current practise is that you can apply for a withdawal of 25% of the current balance in ur retiement savings account . contact ur PFA and u  they will advise u on what docmentions are needed to apply for the withdrawal, best of luck !!

estrella:
There are too many streotypes about naija girls and it's really becoming annoying.How about those girls who pay for a guy's clothes,food,bills,pay for the guy to take them out,pay when the guy takes them out, how about those girls who literally bend over for their men when it comes to love? ain't they naija? they don't count now right? Ýáll should stop being so goddam predictable in your answers and take another look around, there are naija girls who have a lot to offer.With the caliber of backside holes roaming the streets these days its hard for a girl to offer anything at all whether its a megawatt smile or not , You guys have had good women in the past, ask yoursleves what happened that ended it? why did u let a good naija girl go? You don't like what youre getting from naija girls? ask yourslef what ure giving, It ain't all about the money!

@ estrella
I will speak for myself & not guys in general when i say i empathise with your frustration as evidenced in your post , but b4 you run out there & join the ever growing legion of feminist manhaters allow me to show you the other side of the coin using your own post.

There are too many stereotypes about naija guys e.g( guys are always the cheats in a relationship ) & it really becomes annoying ! wat about the guys that stood up for his girl wen her '' girlfreinds'' told him dat she was cheatin behind his back? wat about the guys who bends his natural logical thinking over backwards for thier girls when it comes to love i.e maga ? wat about the guys who drives across town to be with his girl on vals day even though he's fighting off a bad bout of malaria just to meet up with her ''romantic'' ideals ? they don't count now right ?

there are good guys out there ( yes you heard me) with somtin to offer & quite a number of girls screaming for blood on NL if they suddenly decide to be honest will tell you that at one point or another they met such guys in the past , but wat happened to end it ? why did they let a good guy go

just  food for your tots 

omega25red:
Poster

rules to live by:
never marry anyone who plans to change things that are important to you like your religion or political views
never marry someone who doesn't appreciate the things you do even if it is money spent
never marry someone who always has to have their way without trying to at least compromise
never marry someone who is all over you when things are going well but runs away when you have a pit fall
And never ever ever ever ever have a baby by someone like that hoping that things will change because you have a baby together.

run from that woman she seems sellfish (from what you told us) and she will only make your life hell at least she showed you her true self quickly

My broda you don talk am finish  I second this opinion BIG TIME !!!

googles:
googles doing the snoop dance

[size=13pt]drop it like its hot
drop it like its hot
drop it like its hot[/size] ok dats the only part of the song i need

LMAO   

And after he drops her narrow ass on the floor he should kick her @ss out the door so hard  her ancestors will feel it 

Kgdavid:
women seem to think its a contract where their part is to be born beautiful and our own is to start to do all manner of things to keep them happy. delusional specie

LMAO   i hear you my  broda  ;  there has to be an effort from both ends of the table !

girls of NL , it's all good and well for you to av a list of qualities that you desire in a life partner but it goes deeper than just sitting on ur @$$ to come up with a "must have" list . 

if you as an individual do not have those same qualities in urself that you desire in a partner then ur just living in a fools paradise b'cos such a man IF & WHEN you find him will never be attracted to you since you are not " bringing anything " to the relationship 

stillwater:
Lol, when I hear it in the movies, it sounds so funny and unrealistic. They tell the man to leave and he obliges. Which kain mumu love be that?  Ok, let's reverse the roles. A husband tells me as a woman I'll be sleeping on the couch today,and you think I'll oblige? Leave my bedroom for you? You must be mad. If you can't stand my presence at the moment in time better take your own legs to the guest room or rather sleep on the couch. The same goes for the woman issuing the command.

WORD !!!!!  

untainted:
Pray madam ITK what is dumb in here; It seems using one liners to convey
unimaginable stupidty is your greatest achievement on Nairaland.

LMAO 

Ujujoan:
@ Poster

While I cannot completely disagree with you that most guys are not straightforward anymore, I don't think they are entirely to blame. If only people will realiz that deception, just like survival, is a human attribute. It has nothing to do with being a man or a woman.

Imagine how many broken hearts that would have been saved if women took the time to study their 'chykers', observe them properly and pay attention to little details and their instincts. Instead we get carried away by the 'swagga', the money, and sometimes the innocent looks. 

Everybody has an agenda in every relationship and time only will show it. That's why it's a bad move to jump into bed with a guy you barely know. Cos when he walks out, it's not the intimacy that hurts the most, it's the fact that you didn't see it coming . . .

hmm, ur replies r actually becoming more objective since the last time i took you up on another thread 

to ur first statement i totally agree, its not a gender thing , it's a human thing 

to ur second statement ,it's a  result of xperience with some gurls who won't  give guys the time of day unless  they do such, so these guys walk away with the impression that money & swagga is what it takes to win all  gurls over 

This guy reminds me of another female nairalander who is notorious for starting man bashing threads just for kicks (she's dumb like that) , those of us who have been on nairaland for a while know exactly who am talking about .

one of her lastest  threads  attracted so much heat from the guys that the moderators had to close it down ( thank god!! ) . the responses of our girls in this thread is a copy of how pi$$ed off  our guys were in that notorious thread 

Dr.ogaSir while nairaland is a forum where you can air your views and start topics within the rules and regulations laid down ,  there are topics for discussion wit ur clique at a beer parlour  and then there are TOPICS to be disscussed in a civilized and mature enviroment . the writing is on the wall for you  sir and it reads thus  MENE , MENE , TEKEL (the bible , book of Daniel chp 5:verse 5 ,verse 25 - 27).

Hmmm, its so easy to get on the gender bashing train isn't it girls but in all fairness the poster didn't help matters with his sweeping statements but i'll get back to  him in a minute.
 

Ujujoan:
He’s trying to say that 95% of women come very easily and cheaply, so why bother with the 5% who still have a sense of modesty, when in the end, a woman is a woman!

Well, he did say that the 5% who happen to retain their modesty are always a better offer ‘in the long run’ but then they have to be ready for the 95% to get exhausted before they can get the chance of being sought after!

@ Poster . .

Thank you for confirming what I’ve always thought about men. They’ve got no class! They do not know what they want, and they can settle for ANYTHING, just to cut costs!

you talk tough girl, so av got a question for you. can you say to all of nairaland that you as an individual are among that rare 5%  who are ladies in the true sense of the word  , worthy of being ''searched for'' by a quality man because of ur sterling qualities ? did i hear you say a loud  yes? 

if that were true then why did you jump into the man bashing bandwagon describing men as '' having no class '' willing to ''settle for anything to cut costs'' b4 taking the time to truly analyse the posters comments and even more time b4 you posted ur self incriminating reply you were so eager to jump on that train with glee that u forgot that this biased reply has made a mess of ur own father who happens to be a card carrying member of the gender you so happilly crucified here   
in summary , ur father having no class decided to marry ur mom because since never really knows what he wants ,  he just had to cut costs and the product of that union is YOU   do you see how ignorant & foolish ur reply to the poster has xposed you to be

lordbayor,  in your post you made a generalized statement

''Since I’m sure you’re wondering if all men are like that, let me answer the question for you: Yes. All men, at some point in their lives, want what they can get easily and don’t particularly care about the quality of the “merchandise.”

if you could take the time to notice that a rare group of ladies maitain thier integrity despite all odds howcome you were ignorant or just plain blind to the group of men who were raised by quality parents & taught from a tender age to seek out quality ladies rather than the chaff  at any point in thier lives !!!
please , please  & please the next time you make such comments indicate that you are strictly speaking your own opinion  YOU DO NOT SPEAK FOR ALL MEN 

is it now painfully obvious to all of us nairalanders male & female alike that  mama-gee has nothing good to offer at all   at a point in time where other nairalanders are trying to put an end to the vicious cycle of name calling , mud slinging , gender bashing  etc  here she comes with another pointless thread to deliberately incite ill feeling amongst us    what an embarassment to the true ladies of nairaland

[quote author=poosy_faka link=topic=381423.msg5327455#msg5327455 date=1263636481]hi stereo2
you can let the flatteries of the other posters who have tried to advise you blind you from reality. if it was you chatting with girls on the phone and all that shiit,do u think she would keep you?
open your eyes. my advise is simple: take a hike. summon your courage and move on. that lady is not girlfriend material;she is good to be a friend with benefits,nothing more.

remember,i a m the poosy faka,i have been there done that, gotten a t shirt,a hat,and an underwear.[/quote]Bros,  thats the[b] koko [/b] right there !!! stereo2 are you listening how long are you going to let this girl play you[b] mugu[/b]  get that dirt off ur shoulder and[b] DUMP[/b] this  gurl  now !!!
as far as am concerned she no even worth  '' freind with benefit '' position with stereo2 , he needs to make a clean break with her b4 CNN  officially declares him a MUGU

freecocoa:
U don't have to dump her,dialogue is da key,u guys can work it out.

Did you read his (Stereo2) post upside down  he confronted her and she admited to actively flirting with guys !!! and then telling him that B.S  about not really wanting anytin to do with them !  yeah right      , ladies lets not be hipocritical here !!!!

Mavenb0x:
@OP: If indeed you find a perfect man, what then will be your role in his life?  If you find a 70% guy, the rest of the 30% will come from you and that's why relationships are like a business deal. The guy who is 100% to you, if he exists, will never take you cos he doesn't need you (unless you are also 100% to him? That's like at least one chance in 10,000) 

i second that , right on sister !!! 

sexyLeamon:
am not a guy so I can't answer your question, but am pretty sure men and women need each others, if not God wouldn't have made woman in the first place.

All good and well , if you as a lady admit that guys and girls actually need each other then maybe you can explain to me why most  girls talk down at guys like god made a mistake in creating the male gender in the first place 

I agree with kenuoyibo , us guys are accused of being untrustworthy by girls but somebody needs to educate them that trust is a two way street, we hold back 100% of our heart because more often than not the girl will just trample on your feelings without remorse, i haven't met a girl who is worth 100% of my heart yet, does such a girl even exist?

First we establish the difference between a need and a want for example , I need to breath in oxygen , if i don't i will die from asphyxiation . i may want to get  a girlfriend but if i don't i will not die or suffer any physical or mental consequence of that choice. Now within the context of your quotes my answer is this: NO , WE DO NOT NEED WOMEN ! marriage by nature is an act of choice, as a guy you choose to approach a girl and  you choose to propose marriage to her. We men need to come to a point where we understand that we can have fulfilling lives as singles with our careers , family and close man friends, a woman should be a WANT  not a NEED in that life equation. nothing pains my heart more than seeing all the negative media on men generally portrayed as evil,devious heartbreakers.All my single guys out there, please  you've got to get your priorities right and concentrate on building a life for yourself first before you go out there chasing after these manhating girls and get yourself ripped to shreds verbally and emotionally!
I encourage a response to my post from single female nairalanders.

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