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Zeemoor:
I have a friend who'd walk up to a guy and tell him she likes him if she truly does
I tried it twice but I dare not try it again
The first time wasn't a good experience
I ended up making a fool of myself
~
See, we were taught, right from birth to patiently wait for a man worthy of us
We were even told not to show it if we are really into a guy so as not to appear cheap
My mum's BP would have been over the roof if I told her I walked up to a guy

@ zeemor

I won't mince words to tell you that I give kudos to that your friend more than you!!!

Why? Because she's a 'go getter'. A wise man once said 'There are 3 kinds of people in this world. Those who make things happen, Those who watch things happen and Those who ask... What happened?'

Your friend is definitely in the first group. She is not waiting for a good thing to fall into her lap, she is grabbing it with both hands but you on the other hand......... Well, I reserve my comment

There is something about a girl who announces that she is waiting for a guy who is 'worthy' of her to come along, the question that always pops into my head is this 'When this guy that you feel is 'worthy' of you comes along .... What makes you think he will automatically believe that YOU are 'worthy' of HIM ?

Have you even thought about that?

kristina1:
It takes a great deal of boldness to disclose such,if at the end of the day,the feeling is not returned,the effect is going to be disastrous.

@ kristina1

That's right... It takes a great deal of boldness to put your feelings out there to someone you care about and when that feeling is not returned it leaves a mark on your heart. This is something us guys know a lot about.

Most Gals will give all the excuses in the world about why they can't express themselves to guys they care about but the underlining truth is that they are COWARDS... This is not me bashing gals, this is me calling a spade a spade.

Think about it for a minute... An earlier poster said gals need to step up their game and your defence was the quote above.
You may not realize it but what you have implicitly said is 'It's ok for gals to be cowards but at the same time demand that any guy who wants be with her must be BOLD'.
You also imply the following 'It's ok for guys to be subjected to the emotional pain of rejection time and time again but as a Gal i must be accepted automatically because I 'summoned' the liver to smile at a guy !!! If I as a Gal get 'rejected' once then that is proof that Gals should never,ever make the first move !!!

Can you see the double standard us guys are subjected to? What is good for the goose is also good for the gander!

Equal rights means Equal risks as well !!!

Intacta:
because when God created Eve, she waited patiently to b noticed by Adam..

@ intacta

Like....seriously? You must be reading a 'custom made' bible . The versions that the rest of the world is reading didn't say nothin' about Eve sitting on her @ss waiting for Adam but hey you know what? Whatever rocks your boat girl !!!

AgapeCharis:
and even if its d guy dt initiated d meeting
Must he pay??

@ agape

Bros, that is a question for another day, I am keeping my comments to the matter on ground today

adepiero:
May you live long for this comment!

imagine the foolish Post above you! so sad its coming from a guy

OP! craze dey the girl head, after entertaining her, she still has the guts to ask for money! na free them give you chivita?

If you date that kind girl, she'll always ask for pay after sex o! #Beware

@ ade

You're right, very sad that a number us guys have that mindset... It is guys like that who enable the 'thirsty' gal behavior.

If us guys don't tolerate it then the behavior can't thrive! NL brothers Wise up!!!

chukwumanj:
Let me give you my story.....
Amara is one very close friend of mine who I hadn't seen in over 3 years now, lives and schools in the same town I do, though I have her contact and I'm connected with her on social media we just haven't been relating like that for some reasons known to her. So yesterday she just brought up the idea of meeting again due to the fact that it has been really long. Maybe she just wanted to see my face I had no idea. Ok na so what happens was......
I asked which will suite her better, that I come over to her place or she comes to mine, she said coming to my place was a better idea. It costs a trip of 400 bucks. So this morning by 7am I canceled the meeting cos I had my guys come over to my place and I felt her coming over might be awkward as well......
So I changed my mind. My guys and I went out to a bar (which is actually a very cool and serene place with no too much noise) close to my house. Then I called her phone and asked the chick if she could still come this afternoon and to my surprise she said yes. Ok oh, in a few hours she landed. Upon coming to the bar and meeting me and my friends I did the usual protocols na.... Offered her a pack of Chivita juice and we gisted well about our past. So as it was getting late we thought it's time to go home. So I put her in a keke that will take her straight to her doorstep and even paid her transport back. To my surprise she asked for a refund of the money she used in coming oh... shooo!
And I was like "what do you mean?" (in a soft manner) then she said "don't worry".
Do you know that I got home and this girl now called me and telling me that I should have used my sense to know that I'm supposed to pay for her? Telling me that the money she used in coming was her sister's money.
So abeg I'm confused with all these that happened here, I just felt I should post this my experience, lemme know if it's just me or is it the girl that is crazy? Cos I honestly did not even know what to reply her over the phone.

@ topic

She was the one who suggested the meet, she was the one who said coming to the OP's area was more convenient for her.

When they meet the OP observes good protocol ,introduction to guy friends and refreshments for her.

This gal now turns around to ask for t-fare 'refund'!? Says she 'borrowed' money from her sister to come... And so what!? Nah the OP send her message?

To add insult to injury she has the gall to call OP later that night to yab him on top of her 'thirsty girl' behavior?! Kaiii !!!

OP this gal is a leech!!! Her own 'friendship' is 'pay as you go' .you should have cut her out of your life when she showed herself like this, why you still want still want to remain 'friends' with a broke @$$ fake gal like that is beyond me!

God save us guys from 'thirsty' gals SMH!!!

kendraloops:
That's why i asked you to educate me bro. Just hearing this ever(yea!). You don't have to be harsh about it. And my post wasn't referring to all guys, i said some. Same way not all women are shy about making the first move.

Thanks for the information though it was passed with the intent to ridicule.

@ kendra

If I came across as too harsh... My bad not trying to knock you down really but I'm happy you were able to look past my alleged 'ridicule' and pick the message even If you didn't care much for the messenger, kudos to you for that

Just as you were passionate about pointing out SOME guys who are all about their needs , I was also passionate about pointing out that SOME gals are sooo clueless,thinking they are Gods gift to men in bed.

Hopefully you will educate yourself better and your gal friends who still think that way

kendraloops:
Pardon my ignorance, but can guys fake org@sm? Thought once they come, that's it! Educate me please. As for guys going straight to the point, i know what I'm saying. A woman's make up is diff from that of a guy. Once junior is up, guys are good to go but its diff for a lady. Have you ever tried having sex with a lady who's very dry "down there?" How did it feel??

The brain controls most of these things so when the woman knows all the guy's gonna come n do is hump away, she doesnt bother trying to stimulate her senses cos she knows there's nothing in it for her.

For a long time, men have been known to lead while the woman follows. The woman would lead only if she knows its gonna be worthwhile. By worthwhile, i dont mean she must reach 0rgasm(how many women even do sef) but there should be some sort of satisfaction for her. please face it, some guys are just damn selfish in bed.
their slogan is " so far i come, nothing concern me"

@ kendra

Just as I suspected , ignorance truly is bliss for girls isn't it?

If you read my post you would note that I said us guys have been bashed about being selfish lovers for generations and because of that we have had to become Professors in the act,swallow pills(Viagra,Cialis) and concoctions (man-power drink etc) just so we can make girls happy with us in bed if men were all as uncaring as you paint us then why would we put ourselves through that crap?!

You are one of the girls who still thinks 'if he ejaculated then he 0rgasmed, hah! Outdated thinking!
If both of us made love and your body went through a natural process of releasing one of your eggs through your falopian tube into your ovum and I told you that it was 'proof' that you had 0rgasmed how would you react? Probably laugh your @ss off at my blatant ignorance! So imagine what I did when I read what you posted about when guys 'come'

In men 0rgazm and ejaculation are TWO separate events not one and the same. Just because I ejaculated doesn't mean you rocked my world honey!!! Get over yourself

As far as faking 0rgasms goes, it that into the false mindset I just explained above. Us guys KNOW you girls still think our ejaculation is proof of 0rgasm. So we simply tap into that mindset, it really isn't so hard

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2344662/Yes-men-fake-Astonishing-true-Here-brave-men-confess-all.html

It's one of our best kept secrets. You gals think you know us inside out and us guys ALLOW you to wallow in your ignorance because how do you teach a gal who thinks she knows it all?

kendraloops:
For some women, it might simply be due to their orientation or how they've been handled in past relationships. They might have been taught that a woman's place is just to receive and never to initiate, if not, she'll be termed a "loose" woman. Such person might carry that into her marriage and it will take a while before she can shake off such wrong behaviour.

Hubby has to be patient and also watch out for signs she might give. The "I'm tired, i have headache" excuse most women give is because they ain't looking foward to having sex mainly because oga just "goes straight to the point". No pre-intimacy, nothing nothing. He just wants direct entry, lol.

@ kendra

Fine ,you make a point about wrong mindset from the girl coming into the marriage but as I said in an earlier post, such issues should be ironed out by the couple before signing the dotted lines.

You talk about men just going 'straight to the point' and all with no thought for madam, us men have been bashed about that for generations by girls and a lot of us have had to become professors in the act, swallowing pills and concoctions just so they can satisfy madam!

Let me shock you by telling you that a lot of girls are also guilty of being LAZY sexually, they only care about their own satisfaction as far as they care they MUST have multiple orgasm or he is not 'man enough' but these same girls are so bad in bed they have never given a man an orgasm even one time.
These girls are so ignorant they think ejaculation and orgasm in men is the same thing! They don't even know that us guys fake orgasm with them because they are so bad in bed!

So my dear before you point finger at guys, you will be surprised that you are also guilty of being bad in bed!

@ topic

Any marriage in which the initiation of lovemaking comes from the husband end alone is wrong in my opinion.

As someone stated in an earlier post, such things should have been settled before the couple sign the dotted lines. Woe betide any guy who does not do his homework and ensure he is not taking a sexless, frigid girl into his house!

He will end up being treated like the husband in the OP.

For the sake of clarity 'doing my homework' entails asking pointed questions and being able to read between the lines of any answer given. But even after this I pay more attention to girls actions or inaction as the case my be.

1) Does she initiate dates?
2) Does she pay for dates?
3) If she loves chocolate and the guy buys a chocobar then breaks it into two unequal halves then asks her to choose one, would she give him the Bigger piece at least 2 times out of 5 ?

These are just a few things I personally check for with any girl I'm dating as the help to tell me if she is completely self centered or not. The act of initiating lovemaking is an act of giving oneself to your partner as such a selfish girl will never be a wife that initiates lovemaking.

My 2 kobo

temisukanmi:
Dont really know the appropriate topic for this thread... I just wanna share what I observed.
Here on nairaland, we've been seeing guys being put in friend zones by ladies they love and not guys putting ladies in dis zone.. now my question is:
1) Do ladies ever get friend zoned?
2) Ladies have you ever been friend zoned by guys u love?
3) How did it all turn out?
4) Guys have u ever kept any lady in this dreadful zone?
Pls feel free to share ur experiences... ..just trying to clear this thought off my head.

@ topic

To get more appropriate answers you should clarify the question.
Just as guys and girls will see a given issue from different angles , the definition of friend-zoning will be different for both sides .

Better for you or other girls on this thread to give us your/their own definition of what friend-zoning a girl is.

virginboy1:
I am 25,and like any sane male my age, i have a libido that can far too much for me handle at times.And I feel weird atyms whenever my friends and colleagues express their sex tales.
I need someone that I love and am willing to hold onto my virginity until we are married,so that leaves me with the problem of how long will i wait to get married,Am worried that I will have no sexual stamina when it comes and that my partner will look down on me.
Or that I might not last long.
Is there any advice I can get from here or are there guys like me here?

@ virgin boy

Please do not allow yourself to be hassled.
Your betrays a wrong mindset common among guys your age I.e Am i a 'real man'? Can I satisfy a woman? My friends are laughing at me!
Don't allow the tall tales your friends tell to get you down & to be honest if sex is the benchmark for their 'manhood' or achievement in life the you need new friends who can inspire you to be better / achieve more in your life.

As to the idea of satisfying a woman sexually please let me inform you that sex/ making love is a two way partnership.
It takes two to make it work/sweet and it also takes two to make it fail/bitter.

If you and a partner are about to get down and the only thing she does is lie down on her back like a log of wood and rattle off all the things she expects you to do in order to 'satisfy' her then believe me .. You are better off not touching her at all.... Such girls are completely self centered and the WORST sexual partners ever....I can't go into deeper details ,this is not the sexuality room.

V-boy , I no fit shout! Focus on making a life for yourself and let the real women come looking for you

prince3009: Just recently, my boss' secretary slapped me during a slight argument in the office. She was this kind of person who boasted about her past exploits in breaking men's head with bottles and punching them at any slightest provocation. I didn't react as most men would have done. I just walked away not because she was a married woman but because of the respect I have for my boss and the fact that I wanted to make her pay dearly for it. I simply put up a petition against her to the Dept of Establishment who oversees recruitment and staff training and she was almost dismissed! I had to plead with them not to dismiss her as I didn't want to be responsible for her retrenchment and after much entreaties by other colleagues, they brought down her punishment to a query. At least next time before she raises up her hand to slap a man, she would think twice even if it were to be a male child.

My advice to men out there is that when a woman abuses you both physically and verbally, don't resort to violence which is usually the next impulse. Seek help and assistance with the appropriate authorities rather than shy away because of your ego and pone in silence. Domestic abuse and violence against men is real and has adverse effects on a man just as it it for a woman if turned the other way round.

@ Prince

Thanks for this post, you took the high ground in not using physical means to even the score and I applaud you for that.

However, I tell you in all honesty that you practically let her get away with it! Like... Seriously ,a Query?! Just how serious is a query in your office?

How about a formal written apology with a Cc to her boss and possibly his boss?

How about a verbal apology from her to you in which she explicitly states what she has done to you( do not allow her to hint at it) in the presence of all your work mates?

She was facing job loss and rightfully so for her actions before you tempered down for her to get a query. I believe you did this because like most guys you were socialized to 'protect' women...even when she's slapping you upside the head but answer this question in your heart.
If you had not restrained yourself from hitting back and she had written a report against you ( don't even kid yourself that she won't) do you honestly think you would have kept your job?

The essence of my earlier suggestions is twofold
1) You expose her to everyone that matters as an abuser. The veil of innocence is one of the strongest weapons of a female abuser

2) Your actions in not just fighting for yourself but for all men in your office.
By your actions you blaze a trail for them to follow in dealing with such incidents and any other person in the office like her sees that they will pay a heavy price for their actions.

Now that is justice!

egopersonified: Abeg make una school me, when the abused husband speaks out, what happens then?

@ ego

In an ideal world ,the woman would be exposed as an abuser and held accountable for her behavior.

The police would be involved and should the abused husband be so inclined, assault charges would be leveled against her,possibly to serve time in prison .

She would lose access to the kids if they have any and there would likely be a restraining order stopping her from coming anywhere near the abused husband or communicating with him until such order is lifted by the courts at the express request of the husband.

But like I said .... In an ideal world :/

isaiah9: Has anyone played call of duty strike team, how good is the game cos i wanna download it.

Where do you plan on downloading from? I am yet to get a working copy of this game All the ones I have downloaded thus far give me error message 'you may not have purchased this game'.

Aside that my research on the net tells me that this game may require 2 GIG RAM to play, my current handset only has 1 GIG RAM.

Godmystrength: Zero Tolerance to abuse, irrespective of gender.

Duly noted, I framed my post the way I did to encourage men not to accept abuse from women as 'normal'.

Abuse instigated by any gender is wrong to be sure but look around you, when was the last time you saw a topic on abuse which did not cast men as the abuser and women as the perpetual innocent victim?

When was he last time you read an article in the papers on abusive relationships where abusive men are demonised but abusive women are 'swept under the carpet' and treated as a myth?

How many Nollywood and Hollywood movies have touched on the (cliche)issue of abusive men and strangely silent on abusive women?

We men will continue to be on the receiving end of this biased mindset until we are ready to push for a change!

@ topic

So true, it is a silent epidemic and us men are our own worst enemies. The men who seek to confide in other men are shamed into silence by those men who themselves operate on a wrong mentality that such behavior is 'normal' from women and that he is a wimp to complain about it.

Hope the movement gains ground

Zero Tolerance to abusive women!!!

@ topic

The justice system in the UK is so skewed it's laughable!!!

This female peadophile gets 3 years for rape and you can be sure she'll get out after 2 years for 'good behavior'!!!

If the case was that of a father doing same to his underage daughter,can you imagine the shitstorm to follow.
You can also be sure that the courts would lock him up in a deep, dark pit and throw away the key.

God save the Queen

Hello house, naruchigo.com is not uploading english sub on Naruto

Any other site that allows eng sub naruto downloads?

dipset01: ..


So how do you become friends then, cos am in a spot nw, there is this chick i met she is really giving me tough time. Am not asking her out. Just want to be her friend and she if we are compatible. Just trying to know her better but she keeps playing hard to get. She gives me her number and pin however whenever I call or ping her she just says fine fine fine. nothing else, she doesnt talk abt her sef. I do all d talking. I talk for 30 mins or more and she never talks. and when I ask open ended question she just says fine. how can i get her to be free. She only listens to me which makes the convo one sided and uncomfortable.

@ dipset

Guy, you dey fall my hand

The writing is on the wall, this girl is not feeling you. Please pick up what is left of your self respect from the floor, delete her number and PIN from your phone sharply!

This girl dey use you catch cruise and you dey lament here for NL. My guy WISE UP!!!
you still dey do old millennium nice guy wen New millennium guys don adopt the anthem 'No Time To Waste Time'.

Anyway I guess you are still a young chap and you are still thinking with your emotions/hormones rather than cold logic which comes with maturity and time.

Long story short, drop that girl and move on !!!

Any info on the successful bidding rate?

Juell: EPOCH.....very addictive
Modern Combat 4
NOVA 3
Call of Duty Strike Team
Shadow Gun
Edge of tomorrow

Bros, where did you get your. Of duty strike team? Mine keeps giving error message 'you did not purchase this game'.
Reply ASAP !

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happy investing!

Please how accurate is this?

My account officer at Ecobank informed me that the successful bid rate is 10.25 %

First posted on this thread ages ago, judging by majority of male posters response I'm so glad that a number of us guys have decided to wise up.

Stay focused on your academics/career, make that paper and all the trappings that come with it and the world will be your oyster.

The truth of the matter is that most of the BS we guys go through in relationships is not because we have to but because WE ALLOW IT !!!

Who decided that men/guys are to be the ones perpetually doing the chasing?
Who decided that a girls time , energy, emotions is worth more than mine as a guy?
Who decided that because the letter of the bible says "He that findeth a wife..." Automatically means that I as a Good Man am not worthy of being 'found' by a discerning woman as well?
P.S
I said 'Woman' not little girls claiming woman.

Albert Einstein said 'The definition of INSANITY is doing the same action, in exactly the same way over and over again and honestly believing you will get a different result !!!'

If we guys want to be taken seriously in relationships, we cannot afford to come to the table with a beggarly mindset and think that we will be treated rightly.
As a guy by all means be respectful to the girl in your life but make it very clear to her from the onset that love,respect, chasing/wooing is a Two way street.
Don't allow any girl to demand from you what she herself can't or won't give back to you!!!

Hello, newbie android user here, got my hands on an LG optimus L3 ii dual (unrooted). Can all the LG android users out there give me a list of HD games that are compatible with this device.

I am also interested to know the hands on gaming experience of those who use the LG optimus L7 ii dual.How well does it handle HD games? What is the battery life like?