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Family › Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by filani(m): 12:11pm On Sep 26, 2017

victovrry:
My wife is a good and I can call her a virtuous woman but she won't give me sex when needed

@ victovrry
Since you are responding actively in your thread I will weigh in on your post.
First you need to understand that Virtue is NOT synonymous with Arousal. Let me explain, like most guys you have likely heard of the phrase "Nice guys finish last" it is popular because it is based on real world observations of male on female intersexual dynamics.

Ask yourself this ,how many times have you seen or heard of girls/ladies expressing how sexually aroused they are to a guy because of how NICE he is? Do you think P-Square , Inyanya & Flavour N'abiana have so many female fans because of how NICE they are? cheesy

Being NICE is a virtue BUT it is NOT a sexual attraction trigger or indicator! You being NICE to someone or they being nice to you is not a signal of Sexual Attraction!

You assume your wife's "virtue" is a proof of her sexual attraction to you. Big Mistake !!!

victovrry:
, though we have male and female kids ...please what can I do again? Tried all I have read online and even attends seminals together just to make her change but she did not.

Why should she? You are not somebody she holds in high esteem, you are just a Sperm Donor for her kids. She has the coveted title of Mrs and a loyal Man Servant like you so.....tell me/us ...why should she change?

victovrry:
Please I'm not saying this to paint her black but that is only one aspect I wish she could change.

Advise please !!!

The way forward:
1) You need to STOP thinking you can beg for, romance your way to sexual attraction like some peeps on this thread are telling you. Your wifey won't/can't
Give you what she doesn't have to begin with!!!

You can't negotiate desire

https://therationalmale.com/2011/08/25/the-desire-dynamic/

2) Take some time to focus on yourself. If you have a good paying job keep your CashFlow coming and look for new streams of income. Reconnect with your friends that you may have ignored when you got married, Hit the Gym HARD and build a body you can be proud of.
You'll know you're on the right track when female workmates or random ladies admire you openly or even tell you how good looking you are.

3) Having accomplished the previous steps get talking with her parents about how wifey has neglected you sexually, be clear that you are not having this discussion with them so they can chastise her but rather you simply want her behaviour documented for posterity. Depending on what sway her parents have on her she may become annoyed & attack you verbally to provoke you or she may give you one or two nights of PITY SEX. Do Not Fall for either ploy . don't lay hands on her and don't accept Pity Sex.

4) Meet with a trusted & competent lawyer and make enquiries on how to enact a quick and efficient DIVORCE and retain custody of the kids, discuss all avenues with with HIM.

5) Repeat steps 1 - 3 until you have gotten the needed mental strength to follow through with step 4.
Don' t decieve yourself that you should stay because of the kids as they are better served by having a HAPPY father than one who is just marking time in the marriage.

Life is to short to place the happiness of wifey over all other things because YOU deserve to be HAPPY too.

Shalom.

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Romance › Re: Please I Need Advise To Save My Marriage by filani(m): 10:30pm On Sep 22, 2017

IBENUALHASSAN:
I recently got married to a girl I meet last year.we courted for just 3 month,and felt we should get married

@iben
This was ur first mistake! How on earth do you make a life changing decision like marriage based on "feelings"? and after just 3 months of "courtship "! angry

IBENUALHASSAN:
.since we got married,I have to practically beg to make love to her, it's been one complain or the other.is either she is not in the mood or that she is cold because I refuse to turn off the ceiling fan,or that I didn't tell her early before she fell asleep,or that my weight is too much ,or that she is having stomach pain which I took her to go and see a doctor for.She sex starved me for 2 month,we sleep on same bed facing opposite direction,this has been the usual trend.

As a direct result of "Not Doing Your Homework" you now find yourself married to a virtual stranger.
You have no idea of her mindset towards marriage sex & specifically her desire or lack thereof to have passionate sex With You.

" A woman who wants to Fvck you Will find a way to Fvck you! She will trek from her house to your flat. She will climb the tree in the backyard to your 2nd story apartment if the old landlady is looking at her sideways. She will Fvck you silly! She will wait for you to get back from work if you have to leave. She will Fvck you silly AGAIN, and hop into the kitchen afterwards to make you a snack of fried eggs with dodo & orange juice b4 kissing you goodbye and saying "see you next weekend honey!" - Rollo Tomassi

As a direct result of your ignorance she is now squarely in a position where she basicly controls the Sex and you are reduced to begging for it the way a Dog begs for a bone from it's master.As a follow up to my earlier quote

"Negotiated Sex will only ever leads to obligated compliance." - Rollo Tomassi

https://therationalmale.com/2011/08/25/the-desire-dynamic/

IBENUALHASSAN:
I was very happy when she eventually told me that she is pregnant,since she became pregnant am scared of touching her, last time I wanted to make love to her she started crying,I felt so embarrashed, irresponsible and insensitive and I promise never to demand for sex from her until she delivers her baby,although she is just 2 months gone with the pregnancy,I do not want to have any reason to cheat on my wife but she is driving me nut.She doesn't care about my feeling,she is the one that always decide when we make love.I have tried to talk to her but to no avail,am too shy to ask my parent or go to her parent for advise.please I need advise on what to do.

@ iben
You made another terrible mistake here when you went ahead to get her pregnant , why oh why did you do that?!

How does a right thinking man allow a woman who has shown that she has Zero sexual desire for him to be the mother of his child huh

And of course as expected her excuses did not reduce but rather they increased! As I said earlier you are now just a Dog begging for a bone in her eyes ,not a MAN!
Her behaviour in your post b4 and after child birth shows this clearly.

The Way Forward:

1) Pick up what is left of your Self Respect & STOP begging ur "wife" for pity sex! The more you do that the more of ur self respect you lose!!!

2) Ignore some funny peeps on this thread making excuses for her (oh maybe she was raped, oh sit her down and talk to her....etc) My brother ,Let Common sense fall on you! If she was raped she should have told the that to you BEFORE marriage thereby allowing you to make an INFORMED decision to continue with the marriage and your current situation has gone well past the level of talk, now is the time for you to take action!

3) Forget this your mumu shyness and get talking to her parents And your parents as well not because you want them to convince her to do her wifely duties bit so that her behaviour is duly documented for posterity.
Also package her BACK to her parents house and get a DNA test done on the child ASAP!
If the test shows you are the father ,good and well BUT if the test says otherwise then start making arrangements for a DIVORCE ! Don' t let anybody try to manipulate you with emotions or religious talk.
If she is devious enough to have sex with a random guy and pass the child off as your own then what else is she capable of and do you really want to stick around long enough to find out?

4)In the off chance that the child is yours you still have your work cut out for you. I don' t know what you do for a living but if you have a good paying job then keep your cash flow coming. If you had friends or hobbies that you had but stopped when you got married then now is the time to revive them and make Yourself HAPPY!
I also advise you to hit the Gym to build up your body to a point where you can look at yourself in the mirror and be proud of the reflection looking back at you, you will know you are on the right track when random girls openly complement your physique .

The truth of the matter is that you shot yourself in the Leg and this "marriage" will likely not survive as the foundation itself was rotten from the get go.There is enough blame to go around for the both of you.
The steps listed above are simply to help you prepare for what your immediate future may hold.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RMcTyzpb6IM

I can probably advise you better if you provide more information to us on this thread.

Shalom.

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Romance › Re: The Mid-life Crisis. by filani(m): 6:18am On Aug 16, 2017

@toks2008

Amma just gonna drop this here

https://therationalmale.com/2012/11/19/mid-life-crisis/

And this as an addendum

https://therationalmale.com/2012/06/04/final-exam-navigating-the-smp/

Read my brothers and learn!

Literature › Re: The Arasaka Contract by filani(op): 5:14pm On Aug 13, 2017

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https://www.okadabooks.com/book/about/the_arasaka_contract__adult_only_18/15206

Family › Re: Why Men Scared Of Getting Married by filani(m): 9:00am On Jul 28, 2017

@ topic

Dear NL brothers as others before me have noted the topic is becoming over flogged .

Rather than getting bogged down in rebuffing snarky comments about men being "cowards" ,not being able to choose between Chioma,Deborah & a supposed legion of "quality sisters" grin

and of course the thread favorite...not enough money!

I am more interested in asking you one question.

What is your assesment of your self worth? What is your Mental Point of Origin(MPOO)?

If the ONLY reason you want to be rich is tb able to afford being married then that is your MPOO.

If the ONLY reason proposed to that sista is because Mama & Papa expect you to be married by XX age then that is your MPOO.

If the ONLY reason you marry is so you can be seen as 'Mr Responsible' by society grin

than that is your MPOO.

Such a shame that so many of us men subscribe to this weak frame of mind

"The problem we run into today is one in which boys are (largely) raised to be the men who provide more than they need in order to establish a future family. That learned, conditioned, mental point of origin is almost always focused OUTWARD and onto the people HE HOPES will reciprocate by placing him as their own point of origin." - Rollo Tomassi

Other male posters before have noted that the institution of marriage is not what it used to be especially in regards the so called 'benefits' that acrue to a married Man, at a subconscious level they know that the Reward is no longer worth the Risk but they still find themselves following a script that has been mapped out for them (without any input from them of course).

They don't want to be the odd man out . they don't want to stand alone. They don't realize that if a Man doesn't stand for something in his own life then he will fall for anything!

If you have decided to be Rich then be Rich because of what being Rich will do for You!

If you choose to date that chick then let it be because she is the best pick out of a group of chicks who want to date You!

If you propose to that sista then let it be because she has proved herself to be someone who is worth having in Your life on a long term basis!

All men must decide within themselves how they
want the story of their lives to be written, to do otherwise is sheer folly.

https://therationalmale.com/2014/11/14/mental-point-of-origin/

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Romance › Re: I Broke Up With Her Because She Cheated, Now I Want Her Back. by filani(m): 2:21pm On Jul 17, 2017

@ kokaine

Read ur original post and maybe you are ready for some life changing knowledge. If so click on the link below and thank me later.

https://therationalmale.com/the-best-of-rational-male-year-one/

Start with the link topic "There is NO ONE" and onwards from there

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Crime › Re: 26-Year-Old Woman Kidnaps 17-Year-Old Boy For Sex In Lagos, Now Pregnant For Him by filani(m): 1:48pm On Jun 22, 2017

@ topic

Kidnapping charges aside, why is there no charge of statutory RAPE of a minor? The woman in question has already admitted as such to the point of bragging about being knocked up undecided

We all know how this story would have been reported if the genders were reversed.

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Family › Re: Response To RMD On The Plight Of The Boy Child by filani(m): 6:44pm On Mar 31, 2017

HumanistMike:
You have a point but it is deeper than that.

I am a Men's Rights Advocate so I know a lot about these things.

You see, the feminist have a plot for women to be in major positions of power and subjugate the male. They know it will be difficult so they hatched a plan. The plan is to infiltrate the media, education, government etc. Through these points, they spew male hate and emasculation materials. This is done so the male will be easier to dominate. When males drop out of school, can't communicate properly, can't act well in public, have poor hygiene, fear the female, etc it will make the male less qualified for good jobs and good positions. It also will make the male less likely to want to compete with the female. So it's more like the female running unopposed, kind of.

Most Hollywood materials are misandric. So are most sit coms and TV commercials. The education focuses on the girl child. There are more female degree holders in the US and UK now. The only academic disciplines where males dominate are in STEM. So what did the feminists do? They have put up scholarship schemes in STEM courses for the female child only in a bid for the females to overtake the males. Note that the government (feminist's puppet) are not interested in why males are dropping out of school. It is not important to them.

Women own the government. Divorce, crime, immigration, workplace harassment etc all favours women. The plot is to render as many men as possible voteless. Any man convicted of a felony loses his right to vote. Also, more men die in the workplace and in wars. Therefore, women constitute the bulk of the voting block. Consequently, women will determine who rules; who becomes president. As it is in the US now, if all women vote for a particular candidate, that candidate will win since the eligible female voters outnumber that of the males.

That is why you hear politicians say things like "free this and that for females only if I'm elected", "if your wife slaps you, you should kneel down and beg for forgiveness because it's not domestic violence. It just means you are a jerk". The politicians can't risk not appeasing the female voting block.

That's why everyone is surprised Trump won cus him no send women. What happened was despite, Hillary's tactics of making the female voters hate Trump, she forgot that women hate women. All in all, Hillary's plan would have worked if not for the Electoral College.

So here in Nigeria, we don't think. All we do is copy. We have copied their chivalry and TV script without knowing the Why. This is the reason why job creation and literacy alone won't stop the effemination/dumb-down of men in Nigeria. After all, rich kids and big men fall for the brainwashing too.

What will stem the tide is proper education. Not the type gotten in schools alone, but the type gotten from awareness. The type gotten from male-help sites like avoiceformen.com. Youtubers like Barbarossa (I probably spelled that wrong) and Paul Elam etc.

I know this is a long piece but there a lot to things than meet the eye.

Knowledge is not in schools although school is very important. Knowledge is out there. It is this knowledge that will open your eyes to the manipulation we all are being subjected to. School can make you intelligent but knowledge will make you aware and wise.

@ HumanistMike

Truth sir !!! And as you noted the copycat syndrome is bringing same to naija . It is not as full blown as it is in the western world but with every year it gets a little more visible for those who have eyes to see.

I am a follower of Rollo Tomassi Blog , The Rational male( www.RationalMale.com) & there is nothing you have said here that I have not read on his blog or blogs he references.

Indeed we look the Men like him becos as you said the knowledge that our generation of men and those coming behind us need will not be found in a classroom, it will be up to us to learn the needed lessons and teach all males within our sphere of influence in our own little corners of the world.

I am doing my little bit, keep doing yours

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Romance › Re: Male Bestie Needed by filani(m): 8:45am On Feb 28, 2017

mhizesther:
I need a male friend.....someone I can talk to,he must be intelligent,attractive nd very funny....

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Romance › Re: After Working Out Yesterday, I Went For Dinner With My Love (pics) by filani(m): 5:01pm On Feb 25, 2017

EgunMogaji:
You're attempting to promote a thinly veiled feministic agenda that a gentleman provides.

I would have been more impressed with a "my honey bunny invited me over to her house for diner after my work out".

I'll give you an unrequested advice that I'll give to my son. Stop this financially calamitous and exhuberant ideologies that wasting money on a woman makes you a gentleman.

But like I said, carry on.

@ egun

He is operating from a Beta Male mindset, as you noted he believes that the measure of a 'Gentleman" is the amount of cash he lavishes at this girl.

"My galfrend called, said she bored , so amma take her out to dinner like a Gentleman should!"

For peeps like you and me that can read between the lines the Red Flags are plain to see.

His galfrend only remembered to call him when she is bored, the question he needs to ask himself is "Who is she calling when she is not " bored" ?

Any behaviour which is tolerated is encouraged
"hey babes, anytime you feeling bored just call me ur private Clown and ATM to drop all my plans & roll over to ur place to entertain you , cuz av got nothing betta to do with my time or money

But as you've already told him " Carry On"

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Celebrities › Re: DJ Cuppy Poses With Her Birthday Gift from Anichebe by filani(m): 7:58pm On Feb 20, 2017

@ Victor anchiebe

He thinks he's impressing her but he doesn't realise that he is simply selling himself short to her. What is his plan? To buy her a new car every birthday going forward? LMAO grin

He needs to learn lessons from this guy

https://heartiste./2011/11/09/the-unpalatable-truth-about-giving-women-gifts/

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Romance › Re: Single Guy Waiting For My Long Term Partner.. by filani(m): 2:22am On Feb 11, 2017

OsuGanja:
I'm a 22 year old single guy and I've been this way for a year now, it's boring and lonely,me and my click have been that way for a long time now and one by one everyone is finding a partner, it's a good thing but I and my closest G don't have anyone to love yet, it's starting to frustrate.. Two vacant hearts are searching..

@ OsuGanga

I read your post & I flashback to myself at your age and what I would tell myself if I could go back in time to make my future better than what it is now.

@ 22 years old you're not a teen' anymore but you are still very much susceptible to the first flush of youth and peer pressure hence your reference to what is happening in your friends romantic lives as compared to ur own.
The driving force of ur life right now should not be "I need a girl! (Uggh!)"

@ ur age I am assuming that you are still in Uni' or about to enter?

Have you sat down to ask urself and answer the question of "Who am I?" & "What am I/What do i want to become?"

Do you have a plan for ur life? What is ur Mission?

Your "Mission" is that thing/personal philosophy etc that makes you get up in the morning with fire & determination in your blood. It gives you Focus when other guys ur age are just NFA's (No future Ambition).

Never you make a girl/woman your mission !!!

"Women should only ever be a compliment to a man’s life, never the focus of it." - Rollo Tomassi

https://therationalmale.com/2011/10/14/dream-killers/

Your twenties is the time to lay the foundation for the Man you will be , either for good or bad.

A Man of high value has women looking for him , a Man of low value spends his time looking for women!

What kind of Man do YOU want to be OsuGanga? The choice is yours!

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Romance › Re: Must I Go On My Knees To Propose To My Fiancee Before She Finds It Romantic? by filani(m): 10:57am On Jan 27, 2017

Destined2win:
I have seen a lot of proposals where guys go on their knees to propose to their ladies but I kinda find it unnecessary. Does it mean she is not gonna find me romantic if I do not kneel down.

Left to me, so long as we have known each other and I see us worthy to live together as man and wife, I will just casually tell her, 'abeg make we go see your people', but with a smile.

Does kneeling down make the woman feel different?

@destinedtowin

Reading ur post , I worry that like most young men you are vulnerable to the idea of doing things just because "everybody else is doing it" rather than from your own personal conviction.

Do not be fooled! Those peeps forming Mr Romantic with the whole going on one knee in public , flash mob , 100 karat diamond ring are just clueless boys who don't understand that all that sh!t is not what determines the longevity of a marriage. How many big society weddings with all these trappings of Hollywood fairytale are still standing today?

Your answer is as good as mine undecided

If you have a girl who tells you or hints that she needs a "romantic" proposal to even consider a yes answer then for the love of God & your own good ,kick her out of your life as quickly as possible!

A grown @$$ Man marries a grown @$$ Woman not a little girl with a head full of fairytales.

Family › Re: Man Insists On Paying Extra Bride Price After Seeing His Wife In This Dress by filani(m): 8:33am On Jan 10, 2017

itsop:
US-based Nigerian man insists on paying extra bride price after seeing wife in this gown (photos).

His eyes almost popped out of their sockets on seeing his wife’s figure showcased in glamorous body-clinging gown.

He definitely saw her in a way he’s never seen her before. The US Based Nigerian couple, Law and Anambra State-born Nkeiruka Mkparu, a medical doctor who is Resident Pediatrician at Wright State University, Dayton, Ohio, tied the knots last year.

He posted one of their wedding photos weeks ago and wrote:

“After I saw her in this dress, I called her father and insisted that I must pay more bride price!! I am blessed.”

Source ::: http://www.praizeblog.com/2017/01/us-based-nigerian-man-insists-on-paying.html?m=0

Putting her on a Pedestal, not a good way to start a marriage undecided

https://therationalmale.com/2012/03/19/letters-from-the-pedestal/

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Family › Re: Married Men. How Do You Cope With No Sex When Your Wife Is Pregnant by filani(m): 4:05pm On Jan 02, 2017

@jayboi

I generally advise my guy friends to have a serious discussion with prospective wives about their mindset concerning lovemaking in marriage ...too many of us guys shy away from 'doing our homework' on issues such as this that are important to any red blooded , sexually aware man but misguided spirituality & plain ignorance puts many of us into ur current situation.

"A woman who wants to fvck you will find a way to fvck you! She will trek to your house, she will climb the tree to enter your second floor window, she will fvck you silly wait for you to come back from work & fvck you silly again and then make you a quick snack of fried Dodo & egg before kissing you goodbye" - Rollo Tomassi

*Quote above has been paraphrased for the benefit of naija thread followers*

The simple truth that the quote above says is that a woman who has a genuine desire for her man will not let even being pregnant stop her sexual connection with him! Some posters before me have already rightly said that PIV (joystick In Vajina) sex should not be the option to a healthy , sexual couple!

MouthAction, Hand Job are options open to a couple that did their "homework" ahead of time but jayboi wasn't sharp and now he is stuck with "cuddling" LMAO

And even that one na fight !!!

Some peeps are on here talking about "ehn... Be patient ...after baby she will be back to normal."

But @jayboi the real question is what is your madams "normal " state?

When was the last time that wifey INITIATED SEX with you? No Jayboi am not talking about her giving you hint. I mean when was the last time she looked you eyeball to eyeball & said "Honey, I'm in the mood , let's make love' and then she followed up her words with ACTION ?

If you are scratching ur head to remember then you have proved my point.

Most likely after the baby is born the excuse will simply change from " I'm pregnant' to 'I'm a mother now! You no fit hold body,Na food?"

Since masturbation is not an option for you then you will have to prepare urself for the scenario above by doing the following

1) if you don't already pursue physical fitness, this is a good time to start. You will increase ur good health and increase ur sexual attractiveness . if ladies outside start flirting with you as a result then good for you

2) if you had any hobbies you love that you abandoned after marriage , this is the time to rediscover them and make ur self happy

3) Hang out with your friends and live your life to the fullest !

P.S

DO NOT HAVE A SECOND CHILD with wifey until she makes it very clear in words and ACTIONS that she wants to fvck you ,frequently & enthusiastically till death do you part & that being pregnant is not an excuse !!!

Shalom.

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Family › Re: My Wife Has Given Me Days To Come For Sex Every Week by filani(m): 9:49am On Dec 21, 2016

@ stricker321
With 3 pages done , a fair bit has been said on this thread but if by any chance you are still following this thread then let me also offer my 2 kobo.

Stricker321:
I am so confused right now. My wife cannot cope with my demands in the bedroom.

She has asked me to select only two days in a week when we can have sex. I am so confused and worried right now because I don't want to go after other women.

Please understand one thing right off the bat......You can't negotiate sexual desire with your 'wife'

https://therationalmale.com/2011/08/25/the-desire-dynamic/

which is exactly what you were trying to do below

Stricker321:
I have tried all I can to ask her to take a second look at this decision because it does not work well for me at all but she has refused.

Anytime I try to approach her outside those two days she does not allow and I end up going to work frustrated the next day.

God help me.

' A woman who wants to f*ck you will find a way to f*ck you. She will fly across the country, crawl under barbwire, climb in through your second story bedroom window, f*ck the shit out of you and wait patiently inside your closet if your wife comes home early from work – women who want to f*ck will find a way to Bleep. ' - Rollo Tomassi

Stricker321, burn the above quote into your heart and soul as it is the bitter truth. Your wife giving you a timetable for sex is as good as saying she has no sexual desire for you!

Your post will never tell any of us all the in and outs of your marriage but for your own benefit and others in a similar case please follow the links below

https://therationalmale.com/2014/02/23/beta-bleeps/

https://therationalmale.com/2013/12/03/saving-the-best/

When it's all said and done , us guys will be better served by adopting a mindset of screening our proposed future marriage partners on their attitudes towards sex in marriage to avoid a situation like that of the OP.

Family › Re: Solved by filani(m): 8:15pm On Sep 26, 2016

adviseseeker:
I can't rape someone none will I ever beat her even though she can be annoying. I have a daughter whose future I must through my actions and inaction guide.

My daughter is main reason I am suffering this.

@ adviseseeker

Good talk from you, I can only imagine the level of mental strength it takes for you to hold true to this.

But Bros, your words still give me cause for concern, a marriage was never meant to be 'endured' not even for the sake of your Baby Girl.

If anything you owe it to her not to allow ur current status with wifey to continue! In the years to come as you 'endure' this marriage & ur baby girl grows into a teenager, young girl she will inculcate the habits, mindset of the dominant female presence in her life in an ideal case her biological mom.

If you choose to hide your head in the sand like an Ostrich and endure for ur daughters sake, in 15 - 20 yrs from now how heartbroken will you be to see ur sweet little girl transform slowly but surely into a mini version of what ur wifey is right now?

An apple never falls far from the tree !

The time for you to act is now! Stop begging for what should on a good day be freely & joyfully given to you! You are clearly ready to shoulder being a Husband & Father, you need to have a talk with wifey (again) preferably in front of your Pastor/ Deacons about what you expect of her as your Wife and Mother to ur little girl! You need to lay it all down on the table...not in a threatining shouting rage or beggerly way but in a Calm, Concise and Firm manner.

Draw out an action plan with the help of Pastor/Deacon(ess) with milestones to recover ur marriage.
Make it very clear that you are willing to do ur part to meet these milestones but she needs to Woman Up and do her part!

If there is even a flicker of a desire from wifey to make things right with you then she should grab it with both hands but everything that you have told us thus far in her actions says the chances are not good!

If she doesn't cooperate with you in this last ditch attempt then you have to start thinking about whats best for you in the long run....becos YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY TOO !

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Family › Re: Solved by filani(m): 5:52pm On Sep 26, 2016

adviseseeker:
Good morning and happy Monday to you all. I am here to seek the matured advise of nairalanders. I want matured advise from people who are married please.

I recently got married and we have a little baby who is 5 months old. I love my wife and my baby, you only need to spend few hours with us before you know this fact. Unfortunately I am dying inside.

Before I got married, myself and my then girlfriend and now wife have no issues with sex. We had sex at will and it is usually fun. But ever since we got married, I have been denied sex. At first I thought I am the one who has a problem but I have asked many people ever since then and I have found out I am normal. I initially expect us to have sex every day - I am my own boss and work from home most times, but had to adjust to 3 days a week for her sake.

But even the 3 times is never existent. Sometimes once a week. And the annoying thing is not the lack of sex but the way the NO is said. Almost like "I own my body and decide when I want sex". I have only ever denied her sex 2 times since we knew each other. Both times after we got married. The first time cos I was not feeling too fine due to stress of work the second time because I wanted her to see how it feels when you get no as answer in a very disrespectful way.

I have not worked since August, because I decided to take a two months break thinking we will have time for ourselves, unfortunately the reverse is the case. Always an excuse not to have sex.

Secondly, I am the type who likes early breakfast. I ideally want break fast before 8am but cos of her, I shifted it to 9am but as I type this, it is 10:48am and my break fast is not ready. And this is not a one off, but almost an every day thing. And each time I bring it up, it leads to fight and keeping malice. What do I do? I hate malice, I prefer to die than to keep malice with someone but my wife seems to use this tool against me. Keeping malice is my greatest weak point. I just hate it.

Note - she is not working. I have a building project costing us over 20 million naira which has made us decide she should not work till we finish early next year. Aside the baby, no other work and even with the baby, she has as many as 3 people helping her - her sister, her little brother and a family friend of hers.

WARNING!!! long intellectual Post ahead, NL kids can go ahead and skip to the next kiddie post.

@ adviseseeker

So many things to unpack from ur post...but let's go there.

You & wifey were sexually active b/4 marriage so it's not that she can't get freaky with you but she is actively CHOOSING not to be sexual with you.

What was her demeanor b/4 you decided to wife her? Did you do a serious assesment of her b/4 you decided to give her a ring? Was ur Dating stage one way traffic, You GIVE & She TAKES?
Did she ever go out of her way to do anything for you? Did you ever allow her to Chase you? No my broda that wasn't a typo! Too many of us guys give ourselves to girls too easy... we don't make them work for it like our fathers did!

All these things that ur wifey is displaying now are things that should have been a Red Flag for you if your eyes were wide open to see them!

1) b4 marriage you guys were fvcking like Rabbits but like most guys you were more intrested in just having sex (Quantity) rather than asking urself the dynamics of the sex ur having with her (Quality).
How many times did she INITIATE SEX? Was she active during sex or was she counting the cracks on the ceiling?

2) Did your wifey ever cook for you while you were dating? or were you too busy taking her to Tantalizer, Mr Biggs etc playing Mr Romantic instead of carefully assessing her Domestic Skills, habits etc!

3) I make a habit of advising my guy friends who are about to get married to avoid having a child in the first 2 years of the marriage. My rationale is simple, the first 2 years is a delicate transition period from Boyfriend/Girlfriend to Husband/ Wife. If you throw a Baby into the mix so soon b4 both of you have 'jelled' into ur new roles then that could be avoidable stress on the new marriage and besides I believe children should be planned for, how they affect both of you in a marriage, how you will raise them etc rather than just popping out kids because that's what 'someone' or 'society' expects next from you after the wedding!

But back to your case, ur wifey suddenly switches of from sex after marriage & gives you all the excuses in the world?!
peeps on here talking to you about how it's just been 5 months since childbirth, not easy taking care of baby, be a bit more helpful with baby etc .... but these same peeps didn't find it odd that wifey is sooo tired being a new mom but not too tired for Africa Magic, Youtube, Instagram etc sad

Bros, you said in one of your posts that you are a GIVER and I believe you becos you have given wifey everyting she really wanted!

1) A good hardworking Jackass...errm Sorry! Husband who brings home the cash like clockwork!

2) A roof over her head & her UNEMPLOYED @$$

3) A cute little baby girl to show off on her Instagram page even though she cares less about the girls Father (errm...that's you bro)

The only problem for her is that you actually expect her to be a WIFE and do her part in your marriage!!!

@ Adviseseeker there is one fundamental truth you need to understand at this point which is....

A Woman who really wants to FVCK YOU will find a way to FVCK YOU!

https://therationalmale.com/2011/09/23/wait-for-it/?_e_pi_=7%2CPAGE_ID10%2C4630141647

she will trek to your house, she will rent a hotel room
, she will get on a plane and fly down to where you are and FVCK you silly!

the second truth is.... You can't negotiate desire

https://therationalmale.com/2011/08/25/the-desire-dynamic/?_e_pi_=7%2CPAGE_ID10%2C2733254515

and for good measure read this one too

https://therationalmale.com/2013/01/30/choreplay/?_e_pi_=7%2CPAGE_ID10%2C9138046946

With all due respect I believe that wifey never really loved you, to be sure she loved the prospect that you represent to her
1) steady income
2) home over her head & comforts that come with it
3) sperm donor for cute little baby!

In due time you have given her what she wanted and now you are just a live in flatmate, the 'Fun' sex you said you guys had b4 marriage was simply a means to an end.

This is harsh Bro... I know but the ugly truth is better than holding on to a beutiful lie in your head.

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Family › Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by filani(m): 7:25am On Aug 21, 2016

@ innovestor

I believe the link below will be of use to you & younger single guys following this thread

https://therationalmale.com/2011/08/25/the-desire-dynamic/?_e_pi_=7%2CPAGE_ID10%2C6658392087

despite what some female posters on here have said, you can't negotiate desire! you can romance her and do house chores from now till the second coming,

https://therationalmale.com/2013/01/30/choreplay/?_e_pi_=7%2CPAGE_ID10%2C7313883596

if she has no desire to make love to you in the way you desire then she won't and like most of us guys you don't want 'Duty Sex' ... you want her to genuinely want you from the bottom of her heart and express same by frequently initiating Lovemaking with you.

If wifey is not considerate of your needs then you have some difficult descisions to make going forward...Life is too short Bro, You deserve to be Happy too.

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Family › Re: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by filani(m): 10:10am On Aug 20, 2016

Timbuktou:
I've been in marriage for years and before then, quite a number of women. And if there's anything I have learnt, and I have a learnt a lot , it's to take anything women say with a truckload of salt. Why? Because they often say one thing and mean another.

You can hardly talk a woman into sleeping with you. If she doesn't want to, she won't. If you like, turn into an Atilogu dancer.

Truth!!!

Timbuktou:
You mention women's body language, do men not have a body language too? Abi na only women own dey important? You don't know there are things that could actually turn men off in women? You don't know that there are men who can no longer be turned on by their wives, despite the reddest negligée? You be learner.

You cannot negotiate attraction. A word is enough and so on...

A man's own feelings & presures don't matter to them because they don't value the men in thier lives.

Kids sitting on the outside thinking they know better than those on the inside!

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Gaming › Re: I Need Android Games With Great Story Lines by filani(m): 10:16pm On May 24, 2016

@matt
hello, I favour games with good storylines as well, you say you've played Telltale & Rockstar games but you don't say which of thier games you have played.
Do this then the house can suggest new titles for you.

P.S How are Infinix Phones for Gaming? Thinking of switching to the Infinix Note 2 this year.

Literature › Re: The Arasaka Contract by filani(op): 12:25pm On Mar 31, 2016

So there we have it, the stage is set and the players are on the scene.

Will Sam Gibson survive his night out at the Lucky Dragon Bar?
Will Kaena Murphy dig deeper into the dealings of Arasaka Corp and bite off more than she can handle?

You can find out when you 'Accept The Contract' by following on Twitter @ManFila_SP and drop a comment using the hashtag #TheArasakaContract.

looking forward to hearing from you!

Literature › Re: The Arasaka Contract by filani(op): 1:45pm On Mar 25, 2016

Chapter Three part 2

Sam took measured steps towards the Bartender at the far end of the room, walking past the patrons on the expansive dancefloor who instinctively cleared a path for him.The bartender was in front of him now, a tense look in his eyes that matched his body language.
Sam managed what he hoped was a friendly smile and said in a loud voice.

"I'll have a six pack of your best beer, ice cold please."

Sam watched the bartender release the breath of air he had been holding in and swallow nervously.

"Yes Sir,just a moment. "

Just like that, the tension in the air eased up.The music started up again ,the patrons resumed thier dancing and the gamblers refocused on thier cards.

That's right folks ,nothing to see here.Just another barcrawler looking to drown his sorrows away.Go about your business and leave me to mine.

The bartender came back with the drinks and Sam paid him with a roll of credit notes.With a flick of his wrist,he opened the first beer can and chugged on the content with big gulps.In no time Sam was on his fifth can of beer and was considering ordering another six pack when a distinct voice spoke to him.

"Welcome to my humble Entertainment Centre, honorable sir.This is your first time here ,Yes?"

Sam regarded the man in front of him with wary eyes.He was smallish in stature wearing a Mandarin gown with a golden dragon emblazoned on it.He had slick black hair combed back,almond shaped intelligent eyes and small lips.Sam had noticed him earlier when he was ordering his beer,marking him out as a possible threat and covertly watching him while he drank his beer.

"Yeah,my first time here.This is your joint you said?"

"Indeed honorable sir.My name is Mr Chan and you are most welcome to the Lucky Dragon Bar.I make it a duty to welcome all first time customers myself."

Yeah right or maybe you just wanna know if i'm another raving psychopath off the streets in which case you'll probably never let me set foot in here again.

"You are a man with great many worries?"

Mr Chan was talking again ,gesturing to the empty cans of beer by Sam's side.

"Same as everybody else in here."
Sam replied with a casual shrug

"Ahh...but what troubles you in particular tonight honorable sir."

'Oh, where to begin' Sam mused to himself.

"I am a question without an answer.A ship without an anchor.A tree without roots."

Mr Chan's eyes watched Sam thoughtfully as he scratched his chin.

"Ahh...Most unfortunate honorable sir.Long ago ,a wise man say 'if you don't know where you come from then you can't know where you are going'."

Sam's lips formed a melancholic smile.Yup ,that's me allright.Regular chaff in the wind.

"Wise man also say that journey of thousand miles begin with the first step."

Sam eyed Mr Chan quizzically
"Sorry, not planning on taking a long trip anytime soon."

Mr Chan gave Sam a knowing smile.
"All of life is a journey my friend.It has a beginning and it has an end."

Sam considered the words for a moment,staring at the beer can in his hand.

"What happens when the journey has no clear beginning and no clear end? What happens when you live your life from job to job,night after night?"

That had never been a problem in the old days.Ever since the day(or night) Sam had opened his cybernetic eyes for the first time in the Hi-tech Arasaka Lab where he was made(or remade),He had been told in very clear terms that he was now the 'property' of Arasaka Corp.They had even drawn up a Contract which pretty much said so in black and white.

'You owe us a debt of Honor,Sam Gibson' The Arasaka Official had said 'We trust that you will repay by serving us efficiently and with excellence.'

Funny thing is after all these years ,my 'debt' to Arasaka Corp never seems to get paid.In the old days Sam had never mulled over his existence, He had embraced his new form and function pragmatically.Sam Gibson ,MegaCorp Soldier, Solo of Fortune.
Sam would take on the Hardest jobs,the ones with the highest risk of failure and he would succeed again and again.In short time, his name became legend in the shadowy backstreets of NightCity,Sam is the number one Solo and everyone in the streets knew it.Being a Solo wasn't just a job now to Sam,it defined him and he had not asked for anything more... until the dreams started.
Now Sam found himself haunted with doubts and distractions he could not afford to have.

Sam chugged down the rest of his beer and pushed the empty can aside with the rest.This was one of those few times that Sam wished he could get drunk but thanks to his cybernetic body which would break down the alcoholic beverage into its constituent parts three times faster than any normal human body, he wouldn't even have the pleasure of a Hangover.

"It is as i said before sir ,to have any hope of predicting the end of your journey you must first know your beginning."

Mr Chan was still regarding Sam with thoughtful eyes.

"To try to live any kind of life otherwise is simply foolish."

Sam was taking time to digest the words again.In honest truth Sam saw the wisdom of Mr Chan's words.If his dreams were a result of 'unfinished business' from his past then it only made sense that the best course of action would be to identify the conflict and resolve it once and for all.

"You've given me quite a bit to think about Mr Chan, thanks for the pep talk."

Sam raised his eyes to look Mr Chan in the face but Mr Chan's eyes were looking past him,at something or someone behind him.
Sam suddenly became alert to his enviroment at once.The music had stopped again and a hushed silence had descended on the bar,just like before when Sam first stepped in.

Shit! I got so wrapped up in my thoughts that i let my gaurd down in a barfull of NightCity's most dangerous.How careless could i get?

Sam realised he would have to berate himself later as a huge figure blocked out the light and cast an ominous shadow over him.

"Gibson! Sam Gibson!!"

The voice was guttural,filled with loathing and contempt.It was a voice that Sam recognized all the same from that incident two years ago.Talk about your past coming back to haunt you.

Sam was standing now and slowly turned around to face his antagonist.

"Hah! I knew it.I knew it was you.I'd recognize that face anywhere.I really hope you enjoyed your beer asshole cuz it'll be your last. I'M GONNA KILL YOU !!! "

And just like that,Sam's night had gone from confused to depressed to mortally dangerous in quick succession.With a certainty that came from many years as a Solo, Sam knew immediately he looked at the towering mass of hatred before him that the night would end in bloodshed.

Only one of them would walk out of the Lucky Dragon Bar alive.

TO BE CONTINUED.....

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Politics › Re: Gender Equality Bill Will Be Re-presented – Saraki by filani(m): 9:10am On Mar 17, 2016

Adaure4ever:
What we want is for women to be given a chance to achieve their dreams esp. In the nation politics, the dominance of the menfolk is strong.
A women should be Nigeria vice president come 2019.
All the same, men are first in creation and woman was created from a man ribs, so submission is okay but submission should not be turned into slavery.

@ aduare

As a guy with a mother & sisters, I have no issues with women in general Going after thier dreams but I have an issue with any individual male or female telling me that I owe XYZ or should give XYZ to person A just because person A is a woman.

That is classic Entitlement mentality.

Lets take the statement you made above for example.
'A woman should be Vice President in 2019'

A Woman should be Vice President because....what? Is she an accomplished individual? Did she hit the campaign trail to showcase her smarts, her understanding of relevant issues in the country, her vision for nigerians as a whole?

No....lets just make a woman Vice President because....she's a woman. :/

Any woman who ascends to the number two position in the land based on such flawed thinking will merely be a puppet, even worse a useless puppet... to be seen by women & 'equal rights' advocates but rarely if ever heard.

Women in naija will be served better by advocating for Quality women in our goverment rather than Quantity of no brains girls in sensitive positions.

just my 2 kobo.

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Literature › Re: The Arasaka Contract by filani(op): 5:40pm On Mar 14, 2016

Chapter 3

Happy Hour
Downtown District,
NightCity 2100 Hrs

NightCity is a dangerous place to begin with on most days during daylight hours but the more colourful characters usually come out after dark.

Most are non-threatning,trying to scratch a living from the bottom of the Citys scum filled Hustlers looking for an easy mark, Peddlers trying to fence illegal or stolen items, Hookers offering the pleasures of thier flesh in exchange for a fistfull of creds.
Then there are the more dangerous Black Market Dealers,Gangsters ,Assassins and Fullbody Cyborgs...like Sam.

Sam cruised the Mitsubishi through the freeway traffic with practised ease, the wind whipping through his snow white hair and biker nightride was a good idea after all,focusing his attention away from the doubts of his mind and giving him back a sense of balance...if only for a while.

Sam cut out of the freeway into the streets of downtown NightCity, the flickering neon lights from the street lamps along with the outdoor adverts cast a kaleidoscope of colour down onthe adjacent buildings and pedestrians.Sam brought the Mitsubishi to a stop beside what appeared to be an entertainment was confirmed when Sam raised his eyes and readthe prominent signboard some distance above his head.

LUCKY DRAGON BAR
Happy Hour Night

'Sure ,why not? What have i got to lose?' Sam thought to himself.

He switched off the engine and dismounted in one smooth activating the Antitheft device on the bike,Sam walked up the outer steps of the Bar to the large size double doors and pushed them stepped into a short corridor leading to another set of double doors that would open to the Bar proper.
Sam paused at the faint sound of music and human activity from the other side could be heard.

'And what do we have behind door number one?'

Sam pushed to doors open and stepped musicturned out to be a haunting melody in chinese mandarin spliced with heavily accented English and the human activity was a barfull of NightCitys Most Dangerous ; drinking ,dancing and gambling the night least that's what they were doing before he stepped in but now all activities had stopped and all eyes, sensors and scanning devices were on him.It was a good bet that by now those scanning him had established two , that he was a Cyborg and Second ,that he was armed.Silence...It was so thick you could cut it with a laser knife. It wasn't hard for Sam to guess what was going through their minds.

Friend or Foe?

Literature › Re: The Arasaka Contract by filani(op): 1:05pm On Mar 05, 2016

Chapter Two part 3

T9 stopped fiddling with the gadget in his hands and his eyes suddenly had a faroff look in them but it only lasted for a few seconds.

"Nothing more than what you've probably heard already from your Netrunner , rumours but nothin' solid."
T9 suddenly raised his eyes and fixed Kaena with a quizzical look
"Why do you ask? You thinking of makin' a Run at Arasaka Corp?"

"No i'm 's just that i thought you might have heard somethin' solid from your old techie buddies."

T9's voice now had a rough edge to it

"I'm an independent now Kaena,You know reason i left the MegaCorps is becuz i don't like 'em and i don't much hang out with folk that work with 'em."

Indeed, hence T9's somewhat tense relationship with Gibson,a MegaCorp decided to let it go at that,she had probed far enough for one day.

"Thanks again for the NetKit, i'll make the payment into your account as usual."

T9 tipped his baseball hat in salute
"Glad i could help."

With the package tucked under one arm,Kaena was halfway out the door when T9's voice stopped her in midstep.

"Hey Ka' ,you know that ol' sayin' ,about people 'running on the edge'?"

Kaena still had her back to T9 and she didn't answer so he continued.

"The thing with people like that is sooner or later they either fall off or they get cut."

Kaena suddenly found her mind transported to a memory from long ago.A moment between a young apprentice and her 's reply came forth,not just from her mind but from the depth of her heart.

"I'm different from those 'people' T9. I'm not running on the edge..."

Kaena turned her head and locked eyes with T9 "i AM the edge."

Without waiting for a reply Kaena walked out the door with T9 watching her leave,the expression on his face was a mixture of worry and awe.

The sun was high in the sky now as Kaena made her way from T9's cafe to a hoverbus station to catch her ride home.

In her apartment ,Kaena laid out the package and ran a complete security scan on the NetKit for malware. It wasn't that she didn't trust T9,she did but crosschecking was something she did by force of habit.

"Check,Crosscheck then Triplecheck, Kiddo."

Another mantra handed down to her by Spider. The Scan came up negative for Malware and Kaena finally stripped off her exercise gear then had a cold shower before cooking up a little lunch for herself.

With a full stomach, Kaena settled down in front of her flatscreen TV and browsed the channels.

A music channel showed that the Rockerboy songs 'Chippin' In' and 'Never Fade Away' were still top of the charts,a second channel decried the rising crime rate in a notorious area of NightCity and the third was running a story on Zetatech Corp.

It seems investors in the company were on edge due to rumors of an alledged Cyberattack on the Global HQ of the company in NightCity that brought all it's activities to a grinding halt. The PR Officer had issued a statement refuting the allegations but the Corporations stock had plummeted to an all time low.

Kaena switched off the TV and walked over to bed. She reached for her alarm clock and adjusted the alarm for later in the evening when she would upgrade Gibsons NetWare before have a sparring session with Him.

The only thing that bothered her now was that Gibson had a habit of being late. She made a mental note to herself to call Gibson and remind him of thier appointment then settled into bed for much needed rest,it was going to be a long day.

Literature › Re: The Arasaka Contract by filani(op): 6:12pm On Mar 01, 2016

Chapter Two part 2

Kaena and T9 both used the rooftop access way to exit the roof but while T9 ducked through another door to ready her package,Kaena proceeded to the NetConsole Cafe on the ground floor.

The Cafe was full of customers at thier various consoles surfing the Net,watching videos and chatting with thier friends. Kaena waved to the the Cafe attendant who knew of her friendship with T9 then moved to an empty booth opposite two other customers that Kaena easily identified as Netrunners from thier cranial nodes,Micro circuitry veins and the subject of thier animated discussion.

"I'm telling you Trask it's the truth,they're making a new one."

"You're so full of shit,how the hell are you so sure?"

"Cuz another buddy of mine is friends with this chick that's banging an Arasaka Exec'.
One night he gets really stoned an' starts running his mouth off about how the New Dreadnought Prototype is almost ready. How he's gonna make enough creds to buy her stuff to last a lifetime."

Despite the earnest tone of Buzz's voice,Trask remains skeptical.

"So let me get this straight,This buddy of yours gets his prime intel from some airhead bimbo and you swallow it hook,line and sinker? Even if i believed you,what good is it to us?
The Arasaka Corp databank is protected by top grade Black ICE ,ain't nobody but nobody gets past that kinda ICE. The last time i heard of a runner messing with that, he ended up braindead, is that how you wanna end up?"

Buzz absorbs his friends words with a deep sigh "Nah,i guess you're right but you have to admit a runner putting the specs for the new Dreadnought Prototype up for grabs would make one helluva payday."

"Take my advice Buzz,Keep your dayjob at the Mall and stay away from Arasaka Corp,you'll live longer that way in this town.Come on,let's go get a beer."

Trask and Buzz promptly make thier way out of the cafe leaving Kaena who has overheard thier conversation with quite a bit to think about.

Hmmm...it might be something and it might be nothing but i guess a little research won't hurt.
Kaena activated the NetConsole in her booth and typed the key words 'Arasaka Corp' and 'DreadNought Prototype' into a Data SearchEngine which came back with 1,345,980 results,she clicked on the first result and was taken to a Network News 54 page with a bold headline

'ARASAKA CORP UNLEASH NEW WEAPON'

Under this was a picture of what apeared to be a large sophisticated weapon in the middle of a battlefield.
Speedreading through the writeup on the page,Kaena was able to learn that the Dreadnought was a bipedal walking tank that was first put to use during the South America Cyberwars and quickly gained a reputation as a harbingerof death.At the end of the war,Arasaka Corp made a killing on sales for thier new weapon as it became a prize item for Military Goverments,Militia groups and generally all manner of individuals who instigate,love and profit from war.

Kaena closed the NetPage with a worried sigh,if there was anything the world didn't need more of it was weapons of war.
She logged out of the NetConsole and made her way back upstairs to T9's tech lab,tapping the access code into the door lock she strolled in to lab to meet T9 at his workstation.

"Here you go Darlin',all nice an' ready." T9 said handing over the package "I rigged it so that even a walking tinman like your partner can use it,by the way,How is that chrome head doing?"

It was easy to tell from T9's attitude that he really had a thing for Gibson.

"He's just fine and by the way, he loves you too." Kaena replied smiling.

T9 responded by simply rolling his eyes in disgust and turning his attention to a gadget on his workstation.

"Hey T9 ,i wanna ask you somethin'.Have you heard anything about Arasaka Corp developing an upgrade to one of thier weapons? Something called the 'Dreadnought'?

Next update Chapter Three conclusion.

Literature › Re: The Arasaka Contract by filani(op): 7:57pm On Feb 25, 2016

CHAPTER TWO
Running on the Edge.

Downtown District,
NightCity 0700 Hrs,
Earlier That day

Kaena Murphy's alarm clock had gone off at 5 am that morning and she had woken up with astretching yawn; a consequence of putting in another late night surfing the Net.

Getting out of bed she padded over to the bathroom ,brushed her teeth and splashed her face with cold water from the faucet underneath the bathroom sink.

Mopping off her face she looked at herself in the mirror, Kaena saw herself as an above average beautiful woman with reddish brown hair,straight nose,high cheekbones,soft full lips and striking blue eyes, this in addition to her athletic 5'6" frame got her a fair bit of attention walking down a busy street,

Mainly the once over from men and jealous glances from other women but the few men who had decided to make a pass at her upclose had noted something else as they came closer. Cranial nodes and the microcircuitry veins that gave off a silver glow ,clear evidence of cybernetic implants.

The men usually lost intrest after seeing this, not that it bothered Kaena all too much, getting involved with someone who didn't run with the same crowd she did was as dangerous for her as it was for them due to one particular reason
Kaena Murphy is a Netrunner.

Leaving the bathroom, Kaena slipped out of her nightwear into her exercise gear and grabbed a few protien bars from the fridge and started munching on them. She didn't go for large breakfasts,doing her morning extreme running would be rather difficult if she did and speaking of which she'd better get moving.

Stepping out of her apartment, she made her way to the nearest hoverbus station and boarded the next one to her favorite startoff point.

Soon Kaena was standing on the rooftop of a highrise building that was 20 floors up from the streets . She had finished her deep breathing and stretching exercises now all that remained was for her to decide where she wanted the run to end.

"I think T9 should have my package ready by now and the cafe is a good place to pick up the latest info'." Kaena said,thinking out loud.

With that decision made, Kaena turned to the west then tensed her body like a coiled spring and took off in a running sprint towards the edge of the rooftop,building speed with each step until she vaulted into the air.

For a moment time seemed to stand still as the dual forces of Kaena's forward jump and the ever present law of gravity competed for control of her body, as usual,the law of gravity won.

Kaena is falling...cartwheeling her arms and legs for maximum distance, just enough...Kaena lands on the opposite roof,bending her knees at the last moment to absorb the impact into a forward roll and then she's on her feet again,pumping her arms in a steady rythm. The leap of faith had kicked the andrenaline into her system,now she was gonna keep it there.

Kaena moves through her urban obstacle course over the rooftops, executing various maneuvers along the way.
A 'tiger vault' over a low barrier,the running wall climb to the top of an inclined ceiling and then sliding down to the other side.

The final destination was in sight now and Kaena was digging in deep for the strength to make the last jump, pumping her arms and legs for momentum . She made the jump over to the last rooftop with a front flip and landed with a skidding halt.

Kaena rose to a standing position,breathing in precious muscle in her body ached with a dull throb but Kaena sucked it in.
Netrunning forged her mind but it was Extreme running that forged her body.

"No pain ,No Gain Kiddo."

That's what her mentor would've said if she were here. It had been a little while since Kaena had allowed herself to think about her time as an apprentice under 'Spider' or about her time in the Orphanage and the NightCity streets after that. It all seemed so surreal,like it all happend to somebody else and she was watching it on the news or reading it on the Net.

"Hey you! You daydreaming again?"

Kaena's thoughts snapped back to the present with a jolt, she turned to see a middle aged man standing beside an open doorway of the Roof.

He was fairly tall(Taller than her anyway) and dressed in a blue overall with all manner of tools and gadgets sticking out of the hard soleboots on and a red baseball cap pulled low,T9 cut the picture of a man who was handy with machines.

"It took you a whole five minutes longer to get here than it did last time. You're getting slow darling."
T9 said with a smile on his face that made him look younger than he really was.

"Hah! Says you old man."
Kaena replied while partially zipping down the front of her exercise top to increase air circulation and further aid her body in cooling down.

"Old Man! I'll have you know that i'm still young enough to get busy with a pretty little lady like you darlin'."

T9's eyes made a slow,deliberate trail from Kaena's face down to her neck before resting on the soft swell of her cleavage.

"Eeww! I take it back you're not just old,you're a dirty,sex crazed pervert!"

T9 broke out into a bout of laughter and Kaena joined him with smiles and giggles.

"How are you doing Ka'? You're here to collect the NetKit right?"

"Yes, is it ready?"

"Sure is,I'll get it packaged for you. Go on down to the cafe and check back with me at the tech lab in a littlewhile, you still remember my access code right?"

"Yeah i do,i'll be right back."

Next Update, Chapter 2 part two

Literature › Re: The Arasaka Contract by filani(op): 3:01am On Feb 25, 2016

@ Joanee20

updating large chapters from my phone not easy or ideal sad

will update by today.

Literature › Re: The Arasaka Contract by filani(op): 9:14pm On Feb 19, 2016

The man stood there were Sam's reflection ought to be and for the first time Sam could view him up close.

He was the same height as Sam but with a smaller build. The man was dressed for combat; Armour jacket, ammo clips hanging from his utility belt, combat trousers and face was oval shaped and looked young, maybe early twenties with ears close to the side of his head which was framed by smooth dark hair.
His lips were closed in a straight emotionless line but his eyes glinted with an emotion that Sam could not quite identify.Sam closed his eyes with a frown.

''Goddammit, what's happening to me!''

It was bad enough that he was having dreams after putting his cyberbody into sleep mode but now he was dreaming while on full active mode.
Sam slowly opened his eyes again and looked into the mirror however the man was gone; replaced by Sams own reflection.

''Dammit Gibson, pull yourself together!''

Sam took another quick look at the mirror before reaching the door and opening the lock to let himself out of the house, quickly past the dusty hallway and down a flight of steps. He passed through a darkened alleyway to a row of secure garages where one of Sams prize possessions was located. He reached his garage and entered the unlock code into the door which opened to reveal the single large object bathed in the glow from the fluorescent lights in the ceiling.

The Mitsubishi 2020 power bike was truly a thing of beauty and function; a two seater with power steering,metalic alloy body and an engine that pushed the bike from 0 to 100 mph in 10secs flat.
Sam settled himself into the seat and activated the engine which came to life with a low pitched kept the Mitsubishi finely tuned and the control display showed all systems were good to go. Sam wheeled out into the alleyway, closing the garage door behind him and gunned the engine till the alleyway echoed with the sound of the metallic beast emerging from its lair into the cold night.

Sam looked out past the alley to the skyline of nightcity, the city coming to life against the backdrop of a crimson sunset.

''Ok Nightcity...ready or not, here i come.''

Sam cut loose on the engine and the Mitsubishi shot out of the alleyway like a bulletout of a gun barrel towards a major highway leading to the heart of the sprawling metropolis.

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