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yettymuse:@yettymuse Is it safe to say that the average girl/woman gets married becos she is PRIMARILY expecting a sexless "marriage" ?
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tobianthony:Actions will always speak louder than words !!! "By their fruits ye shall know them" tobianthony:@ tobi She was low key testing for Beta Male traits which you passed in flying colours ![]() tobianthony:"The Girl who told you that she's waiting to do it with someone 'Special' is the Same girl who Shagged the 6ft tall, blond Bad Boy with a Six pack abs at the spring break pool party last week" - Rollo Tomassi tobianthony:@ tobi https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uAXtO5dMqEI |
@ topic This post is one of the most important from Rollo for Men to read, especially b4 signing the dotted lines. He clearly outlines one of the root causes of sexless marriages today, Clueless brother marries holy sister believing that a ring on her finger is a guarantee of passionate sex for the rest of his married life only to have a rude awakening when the sex "suddenly" evaporates! He then enters a vicious cycle of trying to "re-ignite" the passion by being more "romantic" but the situation only gets worse! She continues to pull away from him and since he has no understanding of intersexual dynamics in today's world he thinks " maybe if I was MORE romantic, maybe if I did ALL the Chores, maybe if I trip her to Dubai, maybe...maybe !!! Clueless brother doesn't understand that "You can't NEGOTIATE desire! A woman who wants to Fvck you WILL FIND A WAY to Fvck you!" Brothers like this usually get a rude awakening when they find evidence of wifeys wild sexual past https://therationalmale.com/2013/12/03/saving-the-best/ Or after investing their entire lives in the marriage, being a Good husband, playing by the rules, raising the kid and then THIS SH!T happens! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RMcTyzpb6IM As @timbuktuo said the brother was simply the second half of the sisters Hypergamic plan of her life. He was the "Beta Bucks" ,she didn't marry him because she was attracted to him sexually...She married him because her Alpha bleeps guy isn't interested in "settling down" ! Why should he? He is aware of his SMV ,he knows he can have a diffrent Hot chick in his bed every weekend, why tie himself down to just one? Sister sees the handwriting on the wall, time is no longer on her side, her "Olympus is falling" and she cannot compete with the new ,younger, hot babes on the scene. She repackages herself as "born again" Holy sister in her church and clueless brother thinks he has found "Gods will" for his life She accepts his marriage proposal but in her heart of hearts she STILL wants the Alpha bleeps guy! In this day and age, a Man needs to know exactly how a woman sees him! Am I her Alpha Bleep guy or am I the Beta Bucks guy? It is only a foolish Man who knows that she only sees him as the Beta Bucks guys that goes ahead to marry her!
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ObaKlaz:@ObaKlaz Correct person! I actually skipped the point of her wanting to do a Private Apology rather than a Public one in my post. Just imagine her hypocrisy!!! Thank you for highlighting that. " Do not Humiliate me in public and then Apologise to me Privately" - Yoruba Proverb. |
*WARNING! Long intellectual post ahead! NL kids please skip to the next post. @ topic I have been observing this issue & the ones that came after it 1) UNILAG girl rape and beg https://www.nairaland.com/4198576/unilag-girl-recounts-rape-beg 2) Dorcas Fapson Taxify Kidnap and Rape . https://www.nairaland.com/4309919/dorcas-shola-fapson-escapes-kidnapping I have noticed this worrying trend of Trail by Social Media by these "women" rather than following due process of a Police report for these serious crimes they accuse the Men in question of. Unless most of my NL brothers have been living under a rock for the last year they will be aware of the #MeToo movement sweeping across the american social landscape. The spectacle of powerful men brought low by accusations on social media without ever being actually convicted of any crime in a court of law. Like most popular movements which start out with "noble"? Intentions , it has been hijacked by individuals with a personal agenda. (Misandry) The hysteria behind the movement is so high that any thought of due process " Innocent until PROVEN guilty!" Has been all but forgotten and the only thing required to ruin an unsuspecting Mans life is an online accusation with #MeToo attached to it! America and western countries like it and especially vulnerable to this insidious "movement" because their society has attributed so many "rights" to their women but no responsibility to go with it! "Power without responsibility is Tyranny." The #MeToo movement has caused / is causing CopyCat behavior from women in other climes which brings us to the cases I mentioned above. From Rape to Kidnap to Sex for acting roles accusations, these are not things to be taken lightly and the Burden of Proof lies with the Accuser NOT the Accused! But what do we see? Online accusation, blatant slander! no due process! 1) Madam sex for roles accuser waited Donkey years before being "inspired" ( I believe) by the #MeToo movement to "tell her story" ,No burden of Proof 2) Dorcas Fapson says taxify driver tried to kidnap & rape her. She puts his FACE & NAME on social media subjecting him to Trial by social media & completely ignoring his right to Due Process. 3) UNILAG rape & beg accuser follows similar pattern above. She ignores due process ,makes online accusation ,NO BURDEN OF PROOF! But things get interesting, Africa is NOT Europe, Nigeria is NOT America. The Men targeted by the women in these accusations are not taking it lightly ,they are fighting back!!! They are following DUE PROCESS ! 1)This OP details the activities of the Nollywood guy to seek redress in court but Madam is a no show! Is it possible she realizes that this guy is not going to let her off easy for damaging his name & reputation? 2)The Taxify driver is also seeking redress in court but Ms Fapson is nowhere to be seen! Did she suddenly realize that her 15 minutes of fame expired 3 years ago? ![]() 3)UNILAG girl has gone into hiding after the man she accused took up the matter legally. Is this not the same chick who "bravely" exposed a "rapist" on social media? Why is she not following the matter to logical conclusion? I sincerely hope that the accused Men have their day in court and these "women" back up their accusations with HARD EVIDENCE or be made to face the music! I fear that unless cases like this are brought to light and prosecuted to the finish then we will only see the ugly phenomenon grow and our society as a whole will be the worse off for it. Shalom. |
gloriana:@gloriana I'm sorry but I had to LMAO at "it's a man's world" those of us who have an understanding of the times and the season know that it hasn't been a Man's world for a long time now! Saying that mantra is just one of the many ways that one hand is used to cover a man's eyes while the other hand steals his wallet. What "right" are you referring to that women don't have? Kindly explain in detail. A Man's intimacy gadget is Okay for publicity? Kindly give examples of this please! gloriana:@ Gloriana Again I had to LOL at this ![]() Anybody who has been on Nairaland long enough has seen post after post after post of Gals talking about how they are not satisfied with their current partner and they go into juicy details listing his perceived failings in bed. With NL gals jumping on to poke fun. Men get told ALL THE TIME about how they need to step up their sex game https://www.thrillist.com/sex-dating/nation/things-men-do-wrong-in-bed http://metro.co.uk/2014/05/03/27-things-men-do-in-bed-that-women-hate-4717030/ https://www.sofeminine.co.uk/understanding-men/25-annoying-things-men-do-in-bed-s340618.html But heaven forbid a Guy actually has a less than satisfying sexual encounter and he actually speaks out about it ! The Sisterhood will assemble out of thin air to protect the Gal and bring down the heavens on the Guy because we all know that a Girl can't be Bad in bed, bad sex is always the guys fault !!! So my NL brothers , when Gloria says "women don't need a full blown sex doll to fill in the gap" what she is saying is this. You guys are so GREEDY ! Us girls just need a 9 inch ,Vibrating Love Machine that never says NO, never gets tired and never asks for us to do anything in return. But you guys want a Doll with an attractive face (custom order) , a Doll that never loses its figure 8 just because you put a ring on it, Never says No, never gets tired and never asks for anything in return....Oh wait Also on display by Gloria is typical girl double standard "If men are perfect why do we have Vibrators" Following her statement to it's logical conclusion the reason Sex Dolls are now an option is because girls are so rubbish in bed now that Men have to create an alternative BUT you will NEVER hear Gloria or any NL chick ever admit same because they know that they will ultimately have to look at themselves in the mirror and see what Hypocrites they are ! I say Live and let Live , Girls have their Clit Vibrators, 9 inch Love Machine's ,50 shades of Grey ...etc. If they have such an issue with Dolls then they should ' remove the speck in their eyes" before trying to tell guys about the Log in our own eyes.
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Assassin101:@ Assassin They are strong independent women who don't need a Man didn't you know? ![]() You are right about women Fvcking male Sex dolls, it has already started,( It started long before most people realize not recently) but as usual it is not viewed in a negative light. I don't want to post links here but a simple google search on "woman fvcking sex dolls" will be sufficient. And another thing, the females shouting at men for sex dolls now in 5 or 10 years max will be the ones bragging online and social media about how they are getting the best sex of their lives from their No cheating.no wahala, no insecure manchild Male Sex Doll ! And "Useful Idiots" like Uncle Reno if he can find his backbone to speak out about it will be on the receiving end of these same women criticising his attempt to control their sexuality ![]()
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Ryabcool:Hypergamy ...doesn't ...care
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Alexsmith20:I thought I was the only one who noticed! I am willing the give benefit of the doubt in a best case scenario that this story is true but girls like the OP who shout stories like this from the rooftops will claim ignorance of how Girls also Betray good Men !
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@ Pocahontas I honestly thought I could get a SENSIBLE answer to my post from you but you had to prove me wrong didn't you? Issokay, NEXT !!! @ mynd I could go on a long rant about my activities in that regard but you & I know that you're not really interested in that as you are to DISTRACT from the issue I raised in my last post. If you are unwilling or UNABLE to adress said issue ,kindly step aside and let someone else do it. Thank you ![]() |
pocohantas:Feminists will tell us they are fighting for " equality " but how many times do you hear them advocating for Male rape victims? Especially when the rapist is a Woman http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4816136/Student-seduced-teacher-awarded-750-000-damages.html In the link above The Rapist Woman just had to pay a fee to her victim, NO JAIL TIME !!! No feminists protesting that she be locked up in a deep dark cell and the key thrown away! No Hastag campaign on twitter or other social media, Why? Because the victim is a Male ! pocohantas:@ Pocahontas http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4551652/Three-women-rape-man-23-THREE-days.html Women can't hide behind that facade anymore !!! Try again :/ |
frenzyduchess:@ frenzyfychess Kindly explain to us the "LOGIC" that makes it imposibble for a woman to rape a man? Kindly state the source of your "statistics" that Men are guilty of 8 out of 10 rape accusations. |
@ topic Currently a few 1) Into the dead 2 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4SxSFPYvSS0 2) Eden : renaissance https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nxZWf21O9nE 3) Endless : a lost note https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vQWt3ZjVAsw Thank me later. |
@ OP If my brothers here think this article was woke then you need to read this guy on the link below "The definition of power is not financial success or social status but the degree to which YOU have control over YOUR OWN life." - Rollo Tomassi https://therationalmale.com/the-best-of-rational-male-year-one/ |
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moghulis:@moghulis The truth is that it is the PEOPLE who are experimenting with marriage that is the problem rather than the institution itself that is the problem! Rather than just reading for salacious gossip ,I pick lessons from things like this. 1) "Your most dangerous enemy is the one you once called your best friend"- Unknown " You never TRULY know someone until you FIGHT them" - Ghost, The Matrix Reloaded 2) We Men should really learn to do our Homework b4 putting a ring on it! If OllieMeads new Hubby was sharp then He should have seen all the Red Flags this chick was giving off on her social media timelines( As shown on the original thread) on top of the fact that she is a single mom! The same chick who ragged on Short guys suddenly "falls in love" with one Yeah right ![]() She just wanted the title of Mrs and a foster Dad for her little girl. The bad boy tall guys she really wants are not interested in wifeing her up but she still wants the D!ck from them ![]() She gave her best to them and served up scraps to Hubby telling him that he's lucky to have her ![]() https://therationalmale.com/2013/12/03/saving-the-best/ |
@ topic Hello peeps, I am a long time mobile gamer with a bias for Action, Adventure, Offline games with strong story narrative. These are my recommendations 1) Totem runner https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U0Udoj9v8no 2) ShadowGun https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AYhhW5tu-YA 3) Valiant Hearts: The Great War https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vFJFJHwHEKs 4) Aquaria https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YqY9mDOw-UI 5) Space Marshals 1 and 2 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0sbfXwt0K3s https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SsImr1tCT-g I will stop here for now , tell me what you think of my selection. |
victovrry:@ victovrry Since you are responding actively in your thread I will weigh in on your post. First you need to understand that Virtue is NOT synonymous with Arousal. Let me explain, like most guys you have likely heard of the phrase "Nice guys finish last" it is popular because it is based on real world observations of male on female intersexual dynamics. Ask yourself this ,how many times have you seen or heard of girls/ladies expressing how sexually aroused they are to a guy because of how NICE he is? Do you think P-Square , Inyanya & Flavour N'abiana have so many female fans because of how NICE they are? ![]() Being NICE is a virtue BUT it is NOT a sexual attraction trigger or indicator! You being NICE to someone or they being nice to you is not a signal of Sexual Attraction! You assume your wife's "virtue" is a proof of her sexual attraction to you. Big Mistake !!! victovrry:Why should she? You are not somebody she holds in high esteem, you are just a Sperm Donor for her kids. She has the coveted title of Mrs and a loyal Man Servant like you so.....tell me/us ...why should she change? victovrry:The way forward: 1) You need to STOP thinking you can beg for, romance your way to sexual attraction like some peeps on this thread are telling you. Your wifey won't/can't Give you what she doesn't have to begin with!!! You can't negotiate desire https://therationalmale.com/2011/08/25/the-desire-dynamic/ 2) Take some time to focus on yourself. If you have a good paying job keep your CashFlow coming and look for new streams of income. Reconnect with your friends that you may have ignored when you got married, Hit the Gym HARD and build a body you can be proud of. You'll know you're on the right track when female workmates or random ladies admire you openly or even tell you how good looking you are. 3) Having accomplished the previous steps get talking with her parents about how wifey has neglected you sexually, be clear that you are not having this discussion with them so they can chastise her but rather you simply want her behaviour documented for posterity. Depending on what sway her parents have on her she may become annoyed & attack you verbally to provoke you or she may give you one or two nights of PITY SEX. Do Not Fall for either ploy . don't lay hands on her and don't accept Pity Sex. 4) Meet with a trusted & competent lawyer and make enquiries on how to enact a quick and efficient DIVORCE and retain custody of the kids, discuss all avenues with with HIM. 5) Repeat steps 1 - 3 until you have gotten the needed mental strength to follow through with step 4. Don' t decieve yourself that you should stay because of the kids as they are better served by having a HAPPY father than one who is just marking time in the marriage. Life is to short to place the happiness of wifey over all other things because YOU deserve to be HAPPY too. Shalom. |
IBENUALHASSAN:@iben This was ur first mistake! How on earth do you make a life changing decision like marriage based on "feelings"? and after just 3 months of "courtship "! ![]() IBENUALHASSAN:As a direct result of "Not Doing Your Homework" you now find yourself married to a virtual stranger. You have no idea of her mindset towards marriage sex & specifically her desire or lack thereof to have passionate sex With You. " A woman who wants to Fvck you Will find a way to Fvck you! She will trek from her house to your flat. She will climb the tree in the backyard to your 2nd story apartment if the old landlady is looking at her sideways. She will Fvck you silly! She will wait for you to get back from work if you have to leave. She will Fvck you silly AGAIN, and hop into the kitchen afterwards to make you a snack of fried eggs with dodo & orange juice b4 kissing you goodbye and saying "see you next weekend honey!" - Rollo Tomassi As a direct result of your ignorance she is now squarely in a position where she basicly controls the Sex and you are reduced to begging for it the way a Dog begs for a bone from it's master.As a follow up to my earlier quote "Negotiated Sex will only ever leads to obligated compliance." - Rollo Tomassi https://therationalmale.com/2011/08/25/the-desire-dynamic/ IBENUALHASSAN:@ iben You made another terrible mistake here when you went ahead to get her pregnant , why oh why did you do that?! How does a right thinking man allow a woman who has shown that she has Zero sexual desire for him to be the mother of his child ![]() And of course as expected her excuses did not reduce but rather they increased! As I said earlier you are now just a Dog begging for a bone in her eyes ,not a MAN! Her behaviour in your post b4 and after child birth shows this clearly. The Way Forward: 1) Pick up what is left of your Self Respect & STOP begging ur "wife" for pity sex! The more you do that the more of ur self respect you lose!!! 2) Ignore some funny peeps on this thread making excuses for her (oh maybe she was raped, oh sit her down and talk to her....etc) My brother ,Let Common sense fall on you! If she was raped she should have told the that to you BEFORE marriage thereby allowing you to make an INFORMED decision to continue with the marriage and your current situation has gone well past the level of talk, now is the time for you to take action! 3) Forget this your mumu shyness and get talking to her parents And your parents as well not because you want them to convince her to do her wifely duties bit so that her behaviour is duly documented for posterity. Also package her BACK to her parents house and get a DNA test done on the child ASAP! If the test shows you are the father ,good and well BUT if the test says otherwise then start making arrangements for a DIVORCE ! Don' t let anybody try to manipulate you with emotions or religious talk. If she is devious enough to have sex with a random guy and pass the child off as your own then what else is she capable of and do you really want to stick around long enough to find out? 4)In the off chance that the child is yours you still have your work cut out for you. I don' t know what you do for a living but if you have a good paying job then keep your cash flow coming. If you had friends or hobbies that you had but stopped when you got married then now is the time to revive them and make Yourself HAPPY! I also advise you to hit the Gym to build up your body to a point where you can look at yourself in the mirror and be proud of the reflection looking back at you, you will know you are on the right track when random girls openly complement your physique . The truth of the matter is that you shot yourself in the Leg and this "marriage" will likely not survive as the foundation itself was rotten from the get go.There is enough blame to go around for the both of you. The steps listed above are simply to help you prepare for what your immediate future may hold. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RMcTyzpb6IM I can probably advise you better if you provide more information to us on this thread. Shalom. |
@toks2008 Amma just gonna drop this here https://therationalmale.com/2012/11/19/mid-life-crisis/ And this as an addendum https://therationalmale.com/2012/06/04/final-exam-navigating-the-smp/ Read my brothers and learn! |
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@ topic Dear NL brothers as others before me have noted the topic is becoming over flogged . Rather than getting bogged down in rebuffing snarky comments about men being "cowards" ,not being able to choose between Chioma,Deborah & a supposed legion of "quality sisters" and of course the thread favorite...not enough money!I am more interested in asking you one question. What is your assesment of your self worth? What is your Mental Point of Origin(MPOO)? If the ONLY reason you want to be rich is tb able to afford being married then that is your MPOO. If the ONLY reason proposed to that sista is because Mama & Papa expect you to be married by XX age then that is your MPOO. If the ONLY reason you marry is so you can be seen as 'Mr Responsible' by society than that is your MPOO.Such a shame that so many of us men subscribe to this weak frame of mind "The problem we run into today is one in which boys are (largely) raised to be the men who provide more than they need in order to establish a future family. That learned, conditioned, mental point of origin is almost always focused OUTWARD and onto the people HE HOPES will reciprocate by placing him as their own point of origin." - Rollo Tomassi Other male posters before have noted that the institution of marriage is not what it used to be especially in regards the so called 'benefits' that acrue to a married Man, at a subconscious level they know that the Reward is no longer worth the Risk but they still find themselves following a script that has been mapped out for them (without any input from them of course). They don't want to be the odd man out . they don't want to stand alone. They don't realize that if a Man doesn't stand for something in his own life then he will fall for anything! If you have decided to be Rich then be Rich because of what being Rich will do for You! If you choose to date that chick then let it be because she is the best pick out of a group of chicks who want to date You! If you propose to that sista then let it be because she has proved herself to be someone who is worth having in Your life on a long term basis! All men must decide within themselves how they want the story of their lives to be written, to do otherwise is sheer folly. https://therationalmale.com/2014/11/14/mental-point-of-origin/ |
@ kokaine Read ur original post and maybe you are ready for some life changing knowledge. If so click on the link below and thank me later. https://therationalmale.com/the-best-of-rational-male-year-one/ Start with the link topic "There is NO ONE" and onwards from there
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@ topic Kidnapping charges aside, why is there no charge of statutory RAPE of a minor? The woman in question has already admitted as such to the point of bragging about being knocked up We all know how this story would have been reported if the genders were reversed. |
HumanistMike:@ HumanistMike Truth sir !!! And as you noted the copycat syndrome is bringing same to naija . It is not as full blown as it is in the western world but with every year it gets a little more visible for those who have eyes to see. I am a follower of Rollo Tomassi Blog , The Rational male( www.RationalMale.com) & there is nothing you have said here that I have not read on his blog or blogs he references. Indeed we look the Men like him becos as you said the knowledge that our generation of men and those coming behind us need will not be found in a classroom, it will be up to us to learn the needed lessons and teach all males within our sphere of influence in our own little corners of the world. I am doing my little bit, keep doing yours ![]() |
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EgunMogaji:@ egun He is operating from a Beta Male mindset, as you noted he believes that the measure of a 'Gentleman" is the amount of cash he lavishes at this girl. "My galfrend called, said she bored , so amma take her out to dinner like a Gentleman should!" For peeps like you and me that can read between the lines the Red Flags are plain to see. His galfrend only remembered to call him when she is bored, the question he needs to ask himself is "Who is she calling when she is not " bored" ? Any behaviour which is tolerated is encouraged "hey babes, anytime you feeling bored just call me ur private Clown and ATM to drop all my plans & roll over to ur place to entertain you , cuz av got nothing betta to do with my time or money ![]() But as you've already told him " Carry On" |
@ Victor anchiebe He thinks he's impressing her but he doesn't realise that he is simply selling himself short to her. What is his plan? To buy her a new car every birthday going forward? LMAO ![]() He needs to learn lessons from this guy https://heartiste./2011/11/09/the-unpalatable-truth-about-giving-women-gifts/ |



Yeah right 