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I am the house caretaker where I live because our landlord doesn't live with us, being the oldest tenant, I have a married couple that moved in last year October.

The wife is a very troublesome person, she insults everybody in the house and engage in physical fight as well, I warned them not to cause trouble before collecting money from them and they agreed

I ignored her for almost six months because I've lived with people like that before, so it's not new to me.

But this woman is a very repulsive and bloody minded person, she doesn't want to change at all, she insults and controls her husband as well, I refused to report her to my landlord because they came to the house through me, so I should be able to handle her.

It wasn't up to two weeks that they came into our house and she broke the well where we fetch water.

I am a very quiet person, both at home and at work, I hardly talk, you won't hear my voice from morning till night, so she thought she knew everything about me.

She was talking about me last Sunday, saying every time I will tell them not to lock the well, I know she's been talking about me for some time now, but this got me angry and I went haywire, I lambasted her so much with serious warning never to try it again.

Since that day, I stop talking to her and I will not collect another money from them when this one expires.

She's afraid of me now, all the madness she's been showing in the house has stopped as well, I also noticed that her little girl whom she beats every now and then is enjoying some fresh air now

She sent one of my neighbors to me yesterday begging me to forgive her

padi94:
Avoid women house next time

I've learnt my lesson

DynamicWriter:


You wan go meet a bani for house. Lmao.

Your mumu no too much.

You don't have a house. You can't tell her to come to your house.

After all your mother prayers for you to be successful in life. You choose to simp in life.


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see this one, I first invited her but she declined and invited to her place instead

Manson1:
So u be carry ur two left legs wan go see woman for house... Seriously, how do you guys give these women so much of ur time?

did you read what I wrote

success1smyn:
It happened to me sometime ago, I called this lady severally, she didn't answer the phone and switched off the phone after a while so I stopped calling her and went back. She sent a voice message the following day the she lost her mum and has been crying since.


Lesson: Wait till you hear from her

hmm

Tokskob2008:
Her boyfriend showed up unexpectedly so she had to cancel... Any excuse or whatsoever she later gives you should be rendered invalid and I see no reason for you to keep chatting her up anymore...

I will never chat or call her again

adler777:
Sorry bro. She probably had another "guest".

One thing I must tell you as a guy is: never visit ladies, let them do the visiting, there's more respect for you as a guy that way... No matter how compelling she sounds, always let her be the one to visit you.

As a man, respect is everything, never put yourself in a position where a woman would disrespect you.

another guest, I don't think so

But thanks for your advise

Please nobody should call me a simp


We are not of the same tribe, so could that be the reason she changed her mind?

So I met this lady 2 weeks ago in school, she came for her project work.

She showed a lot of interest during our conversation which made me to collect her number, thereafter we continued chatting on WhatsApp and calling


She later said she will be coming to school and I told her to let me know so that I will meet her in school because I live very close to our school, infact I invited her to my place but she later postponed it and said she won't be coming again and said I should visit her instead.

I wasn't prepared for such outing that day so I told her to wait till Sunday and she agreed, we continued chatting on WhatsApp till yesterday Sunday morning, she called me early in the morning to inquire if I will still visit her and I said yes, she said by 12pm because she will first go to church.

When it was 11:30, I called her and she asked if I had left home and I told her very soon, she now said I should call her once I get to a particular location and give the phone to bike man so that she will give us the direction to her place.

I left home 12:10 pm, got to the location, negotiated with okada man, called her number but she didn't pick, I called the second time, she didn't answer so I thought maybe she wasn't with her phone.

I waited for her to call back but she didn't, after waiting for awhile without reaching her, I told the bike man to carry another passenger.

The last time I called her, she switched off her phone, I returned back to my house.

She hasn't called to offer any explanation after 20 hours and I'm just surprised.

Here is my question for ladies on this forum, is what she did okay? What do you think made her to behave that way?

I'm not the type that run after ladies up and down, I hardly do such thing, I've avoided women for most part of my life and such ugly experience will surely affect the way I relate with them anywhere I find myself

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Islandlady:
Yeah I am not interested not fascinated by it!

wow, this is very rare in our society, especially for a young woman like you but do whatever makes you happy.

I used to think like this before as well

Islandlady:
Okay every Saturdays are for wedding right?

But I see every Saturday as a day two gullible people come together to decieve each other all in the name of marriage!

Each time I receive a wedding invitation, I do laugh like I am going crazy The best part I love to laugh the most during a wedding ceremony is during the Vows! Because the Vows always sound like deceptions!

I just laughed out so loud now at a wedding ceremony this morning during the couple's vow that everyone eyes were on me, I think I will stop attending weddings

you don't sound like someone that will ever get married

wumi2017:
Ata rodo (pepper) of d nation,cuz you too dey pepper us

you are funny wumi, your gender enjoys the fruit of our labor " we men"

Jman06:
That is one reason I see marriage as a setup against men in favour of women.

I know a man who traversed the nooks and crannies of Nigeria working with different construction companies. He took all manner of risks, sometimes sailing through a certain Nigerian sea every month just to bring home money for his family (sometimes he returned home at the dead of the night)--- bank transfer hadn't started working in Nigeria at the time.

The man was able to train all his children through the university and just as they were settling down, the man died of stress-induced disease. Today it is the wife that enjoys all the goodies from their children --- flying abroad for medical care and the rest.
Now, it is not like the wife didn't play her own roles sha, but of course, not as much as the sacrifices the man made.

The above example is why I believe that women are the major beneficiaries of marriage. Men are meant to only be drained until death. Even if he remains alive, the society will shame him should he become dependent on his children after training them. The life of a man!

very sad reality in our society.

Rozross:
I celebrate my dad more than my mom oooo, that man loves me to stupor, he will give the whole world to me just to make sure i'm comfortable and happy .My mum is just busy dragging latest trendy styles with me lol.

hmm, I'm happy to hear that.

MP3GAGAdotCOM:
So true.. I wonder sometimes.

we need to change and celebrate men for their efforts and everything.

dollytino4real:
The power of brreeesst milk

it shouldn't be so

wumi2017:
Because we women are d salt of d nation

lol, salt of the nation, so what are men?

Nonexisting1:
I may have soft spot for my mother but I celebrate my father more than I celebrate her. My father is the main hero. Nigga literally wore one shoe all through my childhood days and almost slept in his cement store just to provide for us. My mother never stopped using her powder for once since I knew her even when they owed them teacher salary, she still bought her brown powder. That gender tire person.

good to know that you hold your dad in your heart.

God bless you

sanya4good:
Mothers most often twist the love of their children to themselves and do/say things that make the children hate their fathers.

only diabolic women do such evil thing

We live in a society where men quickly die due to stress and family responsibilities, some children don't even know their fathers well, a man will go through hell to put food on the table, works so hard to build a family but none of that will be remembered by children when he dies.

OkpaNsukkaisBae:
Very good. Nigerian men are waking up. These generation of Nigerian ladies(majority of them) are into hookups & drug abuse. they're also paternity fraudsters & religious bigots... i can't deal.



I'll rather adopt a child or permanently relocate.

I hate their evil ways

Nonam:
Most Nigeria girls are damaged goods. They are eavily over used. If you must marry a 9ja girl, make sure she is a virgin.

I agree with you wholeheartedly

Samantha123:

Samantha123:
But from the little that I've heard about Nigerian men, he has a character of most of them.

So I'll stick to what I'm already familiar and comfortable with..

okay, I understand

I need to sleep now, it's almost midnight here. goodnight

Samantha123:
He also claims that he doesn't care about culture and tradition, but he's so uptight and he would accuse me of being disrespectful or of insulting him even when I'm just joking around.

I always have to explain myself.

We express ourselves differently and I could say the same thing to my fellow South African and he would just laugh over it, while my Nigerian friend would get mad.

I've sent you a mail, I hope you will reply me

Samantha123:
He also claims that he doesn't care about culture and tradition, but he's so uptight and he would accuse me of being disrespectful or of insulting him even when I'm just joking around.

I always have to explain myself.

We express ourselves differently and I could say the same thing to my fellow South African and he would just laugh over it, while my Nigerian friend would get mad.

it's due to his family background, I can't blame him.

But it's not everyone that is like that

Samantha123:
Well, I think I'd rather stick to what I'm familiar with.

My friend also claims that he doesn't care about culture and tradition, but I've lost count of the number of times that we got into heated arguments because of it .

Had it been that we were ever in a relationship, we would have broken up long time ago.

western lifestyle is different from African lifestyle due to our different value systems.

In Africa, Culture is our identity, it's only few Africans that discard it and I'm one of them.

I can't remember ever bringing cultural issues up while chatting with my friends from other countries, for some we've been friends for over five years.

Samantha123:
My soulmate a Nigerian?

I have one Nigerian friend and already I can tell that if I find a Nigerian man to date, the cultural differences are gonna be a barrier.

lol, why that emoji? Are you saying that you can't marry a Nigerian?

Every culture and society has its dark underbelly dear.

Someone like me don't care about culture and tradition, this is individual thing.

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Samantha123:
Serious with what exactly?

the serious ones are introverts, they hardly comment on any post.

So many members on this forum have gotten married.

I know you live in South Africa, but it's very much possible to find your soulmate here

Samantha123, I have a lot of south African female friends on Facebook, including men as well.

Some guys here can be annoying, but some are also serious