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marvelck:
Can a girl still be enticed with food (by buying her pizza or sharwama regularly), by a guy in order to date her, in this time and age? Do such trick or move still works on girls? Cos i heard one can catch a girl just by buying her a pizza. And I saw someone trying to use the same trick to catch a fine girl this afternoon in my neighbourhood...

The day you will comment on a thread shebi rapture go take place??....who knows if you are a ghost sef.

ZarZar:
Need the other in what way? It's a 50/50 deal. There wouldn't be population in the world today without a man & a woman. Hence I don't understand where you're getting at with your question.

Your analysis and assertions are based on the way south africans are cultured i supposed??...in nigerian here women i mean a large percentage of them depend on men for survival.

Ain't the answer obvious??

SirMichael1:
WTF is your ish?

Shouldn't I read something again

Just migrate from this level bro.

jakandeola:
ur st@pidity is not natural small boy

Just grow up.

NevetsIbot:
You had to quote that whole post simply to type ''Dump her now''.

That's all he needs to do.

omowumeee:
Ohh.. soo guys can be 100% faithful?

Sure....you can count on me.

cruchenuti:
SMH, The same reason we should ask you why you are commenting here. You should be in the children section

God4bid, just imagine your response....you sound so irresponsible...if i wanna tell you all the things in my mind they might ban me and you won't sleep well this night i swear...just imagine…and i'm sure your supposed "wife" is busy fvcking the real husband cos you sound like a love peddler playing a second fiddle, mtcheew....shame.

jakandeola:
god bless carolyner hungerbad geekybaby aderola15 tnx

Your asslicking is not natural bro.

Ok.

Beverly1:
yes im a Nigerian...
cool.....found ur words helpful

And why in fvcks name would you marry a woman who's been married before with two kids and the supposed husband man is still very much alive and hearty even to the extend of having closed discussion with your supposed wife huh....i don't even know what to call you.

0110x:
Hi, been following nl for quite a while now, decided to register a week back. Please, I need serious and mature advice this section is known for.

Here is my story.

Am 25yrs old, the First of 3, I have a sister and brother.I have been taking care of myself for as long as I can remember. say since I was 16 years old. Well, My Dad happens to be a Pastor, the extra holy type, so the token from the church is his only source of income( he gives most of this out to people) and my mom is extra hard working, bless her. so she is been the one taking care of the house(rent, food etc). I have been working and making small money myself since I was 16, so I help out when I can. When I was uni, I send monthly upkeep to my sis and brother from the little I make from doing odd jobs here and there.This is not the point of this thread, just want you guys to have a peak into my background to understand where am coming from.


I finished service last year and I decided to stay back in the city I served, and I was able to start a business from my savings and allawee(It wasn't easy saving, starving and all. but I did). So my brother just finished his ND program and decided he wants to cross over to uni. He was home waiting for JAMB and DE exams. While he was home, himself and my dad were always having issues(going to church, house chores etc) and each time this happens, They report him to me, am an introvert so most times I just call him and advice. February he decided to come stay with me, so he has been with me since then.

The issue is my brother is somehow, He doesn't help out 1 bit at home nor at my business. All he do ever do is, Eat, sleep, watch movies. I can't even send him on errands, most times he wouldn't even answer, He will pretend like he didn't hear me, then maybe 30 minutes later he will sluggishly attend to whatever the errand was. Sometimes he will categorically say it to my face he can't do anything cos he is tired, tired from what??(so I end up doing myself) It not like this errands are actually for me alone, Errands like to going to market to buy foodstuffs etc, buy pure water and stuffs for the house, sweep and clean the house.

I leave in an apartment where the gate is always locked, and I stay closest to the gate, anytime am home from work or outing, I will knock till almost eternity, With my brother in the house, he wouldn't come open the gate, till neighbours whose apartment is far away from the gate opens, I have talked and talk no change.

I don't eat out, I go to work all day and come back with my brother not even doing the dishes we use for the last meal, he actually can cook, but he will cook noodles for himself and that is it. I will come from work tired and start cooking again. I was very sick last 2 weeks from stress, and was taking pills and my brother didn't even ask me what was wrong, yet I was still running up and down, cooking and all. Most times it feels am leaving with a stranger.

I work my as.s off for my family, most of the money I make, It either am sending to my sis or my Dad is "borrowing" it and no one seems to even give a shit about me. Really don't know what to do anymore, am thinking of asking my brother to go back to his father's house at least it will save my a lot of expenses,(I sub data for him, and he eats like a dragon). What do y'all think, Advice me please, am getting overwhelmed from all this responsibility, btw my brother is 19.

He is an idiot…send him away at once

That your brother must fvck your wife, it's a matter of time....he's working and earning salary and left his wife in the village, why don't he go and rent his own apartment huh, smh....

Relationship these days is just a game....if you ain't ready to play it don't stake a dime cos NO girl, i repeat, NO girl can be 100% faithful to you.

Stevecyes:
I nairalanders, i need a wise council from you guys. I have this girl am dating and i love her immensely and i presumably believe she love me to.
But she's always turning the corner and expect me to apologize to her even when she's the one that wronged and hurt me.
She's this egocentric type, hard to acknowledge that she's wrong footer.
I have tried to make our relationship work for good but she's not helping matters at all.
I don't have to go through all our past issues here but the recent one ensued that i called her and she did not picked the first call and when i called the second she did pick it but she was speaking incoherently to my understanding and there was lots of musical noise on the background, and i was forcing myself to hear her better but i couldn't. she soon dropped the call and i called back few minutes later like three more times but she didn't pick it.
So for days and weeks i was expecting a call from her but she called not, and it got a month plus; non of us called each other.
I have fed up with her act and i told myself i shouldn't call her until she calls even though at times, my heart feel tempted to place a call to her but my head said to me Steve, don't do that.
Sometimes later she messaged me on facebook and this is our conversations.


From her,
Good day, Steve because you called me the other I didn't pick that made you to feel relax after knowing I was sick?
No wahala i no die I dey alive.


From Me,
Listen Sylver,
I hv passed some things in life.
Don't play mediocre on my intellect, Am too farther from that trust me, I'm.
You re here now telling me u were sick when i called u theñ!
Truth be told,
1, U neva told me u were sick prior to the last time i called u dat u did not pick my calls.
2, U re now telling me u were sick back then, but the first call i gave u, when u picked it, there was a lot of music noise on the background and people's voice too, so how come someone who claim to be sick be sitting or going out on such gathering, function or a party.
3, When i called u again immediately after u first picked it and dropped it, u didn't pick it again on the subsequent ones.
4, OK, u said u missed my calls; isn't it? Why didn't u callback or equally flash back to me when u later saw those missed calls so as to prove to me that u didn't deliberately avoided my calls.
All this while, u didn't see a reason to communicate wit me, and now u re talking so as to make me the victim 'culprit' again. I won't be this time around.
If u really hv a soul, just forget making me a victim OK. In as much as i like and cherish u, i won't bow to your egocentric tendencies.
5, listen bae, i can remember vividly good, the previous time we had a little misunderstanding prior to your last birthday. We didn't talk, call, text or even chat to each other for over some good number of months. But immediately i saw your birthday is around, I didn't hesitate to text u and congratulate u on your birthday and equally call u even though we haven't spoken for months. That's what love, respect and homage is. No total hatred. When u remember your friend is having their special celebrative period, u call or perhaps text to congratulate them even though u guys may not be in tune.
After i congratulated u on your birthday, I called for a truce and i begged u for forgiveness and told u that we can't continue to be so low on each other even though i knw the fault wasn't from me. Which we eventually mended and we became in good tune again.
6, But these time around, I had my birthday last month and u cared-less to even to text me let alone to place a call to me to wish me happy birthday... Friends were calling and texting me and each time i gat one, i looked forward expecting it to be u but non came from u. TOO BAD. "U RE MEAN GIRL".
7, During our preview conflict, u were saying some bad words against the person of me cos I was trying to make u see reasons wt me and for us to call a truce. Words like, "U HATE ME WITH PASSION" I SHOULD STOP DISTURBING U" THAT U WILL BE THE LAST PERSON TO WANT ME BACK".and so on but i simply told u that I will not retaliate back on the same footing, cos i still respect & admire u even though we may hv our differences, and that i will be the last person to talk ill of u or cause u just because we re having a rough path. Just go back and check that particular chat history.
8, listen bae, psychology says When one feels he's deliberately being ignored, distant from hashed against or rejected, he get a bit traumatised, it's not just mental, it's physiological and it actually blocks your feelings a bit from that person because your brain doesn't allow you to resolve the problem,". When one is personally being distant from, it is a shock to your body and it stays in your body in the sympathetic nervous system," your brains remembers it, your heart remembers it.
there's a trigger mechanism and the heart flies up way over the bar. This is the sub-conscious brain in action, when the two hemispheres are not connecting.
"Whether it's a person, situation or event, your brain will be searching previous experiences - positive and negative - to make sure that you're safe. When it searches, it finds you were in this position before and ended up being ridiculed, embarrassed and humiliated, and thus tries to protect themselves..
When one is been withdrew from, that soul 've been traumatised - and you don't simply overcome that. It takes a long time to get over."
So i think there's a mental block, or an existing trauma at work that eventually stopped from calling back all this time cos i was a witness to it the first it happened between us...
U don't even care to try and mend bridges and resolve the issue cos to u, u think is men that hv to beg ladies and not vice versa even when the damn problem in question is from the lady....
Plz i think i hv said enough.
I'm tired of having a relationship that the two parties aren't both trying to make it a worthwhile phenomenon.


4rm her:-
See am not interested with all this ur stories
U said i didn't tell u I was sick ,I did not wish u well on Ur b'day, I was partying when u called me, I drop call on u.no problem I have accepted it all.
Case close.


4rm me:-
Very well then...
And very well closed.
Just take a look at u, too proud of yourself.
No remorse, nothing.
Gosh!!!
I neva knew u re dis mean.
As u said "case close".
I finally said, " VERY WELL CLOSED"... BYE.
Anyway, I wish u d bex in lif Good luck
I don't force myself on people, if your class is higher than mine, i change my school. I am not an option but a choice.


4rm her:-
Same wit me.
Good luck too.
I should be very proud of myself because i lack nothing.
Please stop disturbing me.
I will never in this earth ask u to accept me back.
I hate you with passion


4rm me:-
I will neva use because of the heats of the moment to lay despicable and bad utterances on who i once considered my great friend.
Hating me with passion is not a perfect channel to lay ones grievances on opinion.
Hate me as much as u can, but be rest assured that i hv never for once hated u since i knw u even up till dis moment that u re making me to hate ur attitude, i will not hate u but will eternally be fond of our good time together all through the year.
I will forever be proud of u and also be proud of our good time together.
U were once my Swthrt, and i knw u will always be in my hrt.
I don't hate u!
I neva hate!!
And i will neva hate u!!!
But if hating me is your best description of me now, and that equally make u happy....
Then continue to hate me with passion for the rest of your life But hear me loud, I WILL NEVER IN MY LIFE HATE U OR SAY ANY BAD THING AGAINST U...
GOOD LUCK TO YOU!!!
............................................................................
Now the advice i want from you guys is, should i still go ahead and apologize again even though there's no iota of remorse from her own part at all? Thanks

Dump her now

SirMichael1:
R

R?, smh.

No humour and you have a very low self esteem...that's the problem with "fine" boys, always expecting a girl to approach them because they are fine, smh....worst is, some of them got zero sense of humour and they can't compose a simple correct sentense just like the op typing "i will felt", tufia....it's even vice versa...you hardly see a pretty girl with complete and pretty brains....dumb skull everywhere, mtcheeew....jumps outa thread.

Smh, if you can't decipher this then you should go back to kindergarten.

OgahBohz:
please I need answers,..

Met this girl recently, and I so much like her, basically when we became friends , sh told me she doesn't have a boyfriend, and this motivated me...

I wanted to take thinz very slow ,I.e get to know her, be good friends and then move on to the next stage, but I realised she has away of friend zoning guys easily, so I made my intentions clear to her

That's when she told me she's into a serious relationship and that she Love's him dearly..

At first I was disappointed, but I couldn't just let her be.. we became very close and share lots of secrets, we got a little bit intimate, (sex is not involved)
we do other thinz like kissn etc, I like her being around me and sh enjoys my company too,
presently shs away, buh we still talk daily, sh confesses sh misses me as much as I do miss her too,

She once told me she is so close to a lot off pple except her boyfriend,
Now my question is what does she want? cus sh kips reminding me frequently that she has a boyfriend
she even offered to get me a girlfriend.
..
but still when I kiss her , touch her etc sh doesn't stop me,
when I asked her why sh can't breakup with her bf since shz not free with him, sh said sh can't do that bcuz sh has no excuse and she loves him..

yet we are getting closer and closer without restrictions (aside sexual restrictions)
.
at first I tot I have been friendzoned buh, do frnds get to kiss , or even romance when frendzoned?

So my NLs what do you think she wants from me?..
cuz me I don confuse o...


feel free to yab me ..
just make sure u give reasonable advice....

Keep enjoying the kisses and believe me it will lead to sex one day...just be patient and take things slowly....

Advicing you is like heaping coals on fire...enjoy your fvck with her when she comes visiting my brother.

Mhissgaga:
In the toilet of all places

Konji is no respecter of places.

We path ways asap.

He should change his name from paul to something else.

Ijaya123:
How much is she asking for?

I think the original poster is in a better position to answer that.

bjhaid:
guy u are here again

Yes ooo my nigga

labonita1:
done

Dropped my airtel line in your box....just call or flash....waiting.

labonita1:
ok no problem

Follow me back.

labonita1:
why are you opting for my number?

I don't know but i rarely do this....maybe there's some we could just knit and achieve together.

FitnessDoctor:
Join the healthy community and you will get to learn more than just that...

Where's the photo??

Smh, do guys still act this foolish in this 21st century??.