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Seun:
We have promoted the Islam section to the top level because it's a very important religion.

I missed this the first time. What is this supposed to mean? More important based on what metric?

Lol, what?! 😂

Seun:
Dear Nairalanders,

By popular demand, we have ended the swearing of oaths before commenting on the Islam section.

However, the requirement to engage muslims and all Nairalanders with decency and respect remains.

We have promoted the Islam section to the top level because it's a very important religion.

We have renamed the Religion board as the Christianity Etc board, recognizing the fact that most non-Muslims are Christians.

Please enjoy! And feel free to share your feedback about these changes.

Nah Seun, this is not it.

There was no need renaming the Religion section entirely if you ask me. You could have just created different subsections under the same "Religion" banner.

Islam already have one. You could have just created another for Christianity, then maybe one for Buddhist practicioners, one for traditionalists (Odinani) etc.

No religion is more important than the other. You of all people should know this.

Meanwhile, when are we finally getting our very own philosophy section, to discuss the meaning of life and ponder on the existential crisis besetting most Nigerians? 😁

If you do make one, make me mod abeg. 🙏🏽🤧

As much as I enjoy what others post here, GboyegaD hands down has the most satisfying pictures here. 🥹

Another person used to be hahn but I've not seen him around here lately.

floss:
So why’s it only broke guys that come back to their senses after they’ve cum ?

Do you have any study to support this statement? Have you done any significant research that shows this is a fact, or you're just guessing from your limited observation?

floss:
Except if what Op meant by that statement is being satisfied… if it’s satisfaction is what he meant by coming back to his senses after a guy has cum then I agree I was wrong .

But if Op statement is coming from a place of regret, then you need to go back to school and work on your understanding. Tell me why a full grown adult will regret fvcking a girl if his action didn’t affect his finance.


What you don’t understand is that money controls 85% of your decisions.

If what OP meant was “once you cum, your body will calm down “ then it’s only pointing in the direction of satisfaction and not regret…

So even you criticising me, you don’t know what OP meant by that… you’re looking at it in the area of biology… I’m bringing it towards reality, because guys that I’ve seen making such statements referred to how their finances were affected due to their high sexual escapades…

So don’t criticise what you don’t know…

Like I said if OP was going in the direction of being sexually satisfied (coming back to your senses) then that’s a different story entirely.

My guy, the OP even cited the post-nut clarity phenomenon, which is very popular in biology and psychology circles

Read this part again:

Dpsychologist:
There’s a reason why, after orgasm, especially during casual or risky sex, you suddenly feel a wave of clarity, guilt, or even regret. That feeling isn't just emotional—it's biological.

What just happened?

When you're turned on, your body floods with dopamine—the same pleasure chemical you get from cocaine, gambling, or winning a jackpot. Your brain becomes singularly focused on one goal: release. Rational thinking takes a back seat. You ignore red flags. You override morals. You chase pleasure like it’s your last mission on Earth.

But as soon as you cum, your dopamine levels crash, and a hormone called prolactin spikes. Prolactin is associated with sexual satisfaction—but also kills sexual desire. Suddenly, the fog lifts. And now…

📌That person doesn’t look as attractive as they did 10 minutes ago.

📌You start thinking about consequences—pregnancy, STDs, emotional attachment.

📌You begin to feel shame, disgust, regret or confusion.

You ask yourself: “What was I thinking?”

Congratulations. You’ve come to your senses. Literally.

This isn’t spiritual hype—it’s backed by neuroscience. The post-nut clarity is real. And it can be powerful.

My emphasis with the yellow highlights.

The bottom line, if you read OP carefully is that post-nut clarity affects all humans regardless of wealth. It is a biological reality, and it is not affected by what is in your pockets.

He even described the neuroscience behind post-nut clarity in the excerpt I lifted from the OP. Financial regret is another topic entirely. You're confusing the two. Yes people regret spending money on sex, but even when the sex is for free, you can still get that post-nut clarity.

Money is not the only thing that controls poor sexual decisions. What about loneliness? Low self-esteem? Insecurity? Peer pressure? Hell, even substance abuse (i.e being under the influence) can cause you to make poor sexual decisions.

Rich people have this same experience too. Their wealth might help them to manage the consequences, but it doesn't change the reality of basic neurochemistry.

Abi Dpsychologist, come clear this thing up for floss abeg.

floss:
Op is talking about regret… and I narrowed it down to poverty being the major cause of regret… if you are worth $30B and you pay 100k naira for a plate of food, will you have any regrets?

I know you will want to mention Dangote, yes he almost regretted taking the risk of investing in his refinery because it almost took all his money. If dangote is worth $300B do you think he’ll say he almost regretted taking the risk of starting a refinery?

The reason you regret is because your comfort is touched…

Like I said earlier, if you’re comfortable you’ll not have regrets, you made all your decisions from a place of comfort…

You don’t see anyone in comfort having regrets, except when his money has finished, as long as you’re constantly having credit alerts, regrets won’t be found around you


You might not understand this… if Elon Musk goes broke tomorrow, he’ll have a truckload of regrets but for now… he has no regrets whatsoever… he’s living his dream life, his money brought him very close to the White House. (Power)

Once you move out of your comfortable lifestyle, what follows next is REGRETS

When you cum you come to your senses is only talking about regrets because you’re broke…

A broke man regrets his actions because his comfort is being touched… why don’t our politicians come to their senses after they’ve finished cumming inside the pvssy of an oloshoo that came to knack him ?

You don’t expect a man that earns 150k naira monthly that initially agreed to pay an oloshoo 20k for knack not to have regrets or come back to his senses after he has cum ?


Try and be making money, you will see that when a girl makes you cum to your satisfaction, you’ll pay her well without looking at how much you have left.

Mind you some guys pay a lady 2m naira comfortably for making them cum and well serviced ….

A man that has money only regrets for a poor service rendered not because his money is going down

Bro you're just rambling to be honest.

The op was not talking about money. He's talking about biology and basic human psychology. Don't confuse yourself and other people here.

Whether you're rich or poor, your brain still operates on the same fundamentals of neurochemistry. If you like be a billionaire. If you like be a minimum wage worker. It doesn't matter.

The core fact here is that when dopamine crashes and prolactin rises after sex, ALL HUMANS will experience the same biological reset. Wealth doesn't automatically exempt a human being from HUMAN PSYCHOLOGY. The richest people on earth still do stupid stuff when they rely on their impulses instead of calming down to think. Having money won't automatically make you calm and reasoned. And just because you can use money to "fix" your mistakes doesn't mean you will not recognize them as mistakes once your hormones balance out. That's the single factor you missed. So your entire argument is BS.

There's nothing like poverty breeds regret. That's just a motor park rhetoric that doesn't have any basis in reality. No scientific backing, nothing.

So it's honestly ridiculous that you'll try to make this topic about financial anxiety. The clarity that follows sexual release is just your rational mind stabilizing after being temporarily hijacked by the pleasure seeking mechanisms in your body. What is important here is that you have the wisdom to understand yourself and maintain discipline.

Some of you guys read topics and interpret them with your own faulty biases.

My celebrity crush that year. 😁

But she's almost 50 now. Omo 🤧

Arlee:
But,wait,what's really the difference between ponzi and tithe?

Lmao.

Our resident Christian evangelists are not ready to have this conversation. 🤣🤣

APC sellouts are already tripping over their own shoelaces to justify this stupidity.

Pointing fingers at other people for doing the same nonsense you're doing doesn't excuse the fact that you did nonsense. That's just a pathetic and irresponsible mindset to have. Where's the accountability?

Why can't you be different, since other people are doing the same wrong thing?

Oh sweet mother of God, why was I born in this unfunny circus called Nigeria? 🤦🏽

floss:
When you pay 25k for food at an eatery, do you regret your actions after eating the food ?

If yes then you need to work hard…

In life money is the master of all things…

Poverty brings regret and not being able to assume responsibility for one’s actions. If you have millions of dollars to spare, in fact you’ll be proud of your actions…

About STD and other diseases, the more money you have the more sophisticated your sex life becomes. You can make any lady undergo medical lab tests in your personal space before meeting you especially if you knack raw.


So there’s nothing like regret if you have money…. Poverty breeds regrets.

Leave English and work Hard and Smart

You just created a poor analogy that doesn't even demonstrate the OP's argument and ran with it. Please how does purchasing food at the eatery illustrate the post-nut clarity? Can you give a proper demonstration of this allegory/metaphor?

Some people are advocating for masturbation over sex. 😂

If you must go down the road of masturbation over sex. You should consider that masturbation is overall less satisfactory. It doesn't completely fulfil your sexual needs. I'm saying this as someone who has considerable amounts of experience with both sex and masturbation. 🤧

If you're not careful, you might end up masturbating every day, and more than once in a single day. Sex on the other hand fills you up to the hilt. I feel there's places that sex can take you to, that masturbation simply can't.

Maybe it's the kitten 😁, maybe it's the reality of romping with the real deal, but personally if I've just had sex, I won't be having any urges for the next 3-4 days. Possibly a week depending on how intense the sex was or how many rounds I went. So it's hard for someone like me to get "addicted to sex", if that makes sense. But for masturbation, it's never truly enough.

So if you're like me in that regard, you should practice real self control. Not saying you shouldn't masturbate, but if you can relate to my experiences with the two, you need a whole lot of self-control with masturbation. Try not to do it too often. It can get even more addictive than actual sex, ESPECIALLY if you're doing it to porn.

In fact, never masturbate to porn.

By the way, I'm not disparaging anything the OP said. In fact I'm in complete agreement.

Bintasukai:
We need monetization. Allow gifting. Watch content quality increase.

Sounds interesting.

3seriez:
Flush out Tribalists and Religious bigots. Some of them behave like they are on a payroll of some sort.

This!

Seun, I can help you with a list if you want. 😁

jk.

A very welcome development. 😁

People are going to learn on this forum, whether they like it or not. They must be rational and they must use logic. If you don't like it, you can use the exit. 😂

No more trolling with rage bait tribalist comments. The level of discourse on this site must step up. We need to go back to the NL glory days, where reasoned and profound contributions to topics were very common.

Lol. Didn't know there were hard rock stans on this forum.

I'm really big on rock music, particular modern alternative, classic rock and progressive rock from the 70s. There's some good punk songs too. I hate metal. Too noisy.

Some essential albums for fans of progressive rock (my favorite genre)
- The Lamb Lies Down On Broadway by Genesis (the band that birthed Phil Collins)
- In The Court Of The Crimson King by King Crimson
- Quadrophenia by The Who
- The Wall by Pink Floyd (the most iconic prog rock album)
- Nearly all albums by Kansas

For modern rock
- American Idiot by Green Day

Fenrir:
You talk about providing for women and protecting women

How many women per year leave Nigeria with one of us?

How many women fly to Nigeria per year to marry one of you?

What does this have to do with the debate about value? Or the fact that marriage was not designed for women? Come, is your brain paining you? 🤦🏽

If you're not going to come back with a solid argument that actually connects to the discussion, please let's go back to the petty insults and schoolyard taunts. You're fast becoming boring.

Fenrir:
Norway is 1 of the top 5 least corrupt countries in the world

Nigeria 1 of the most corrupt and evil

You knew all of this and you still decided to move here. The joke's on you, you depressed morón. 😭

Fenrir:
So what would you know about culture?

Culture is you growing up and watching your mom get ravaged on the floor on a daily basis by mad animals, while your old man jacked his meat standing over all of them. Now that's real culture. 🤣

Fenrir:
You criminal
You rapist offspring
You child molester

As usual, he starts listing out his father's accolades unprovoked. 💀

Fenrir:
Scamming and fraud as rite of manhood here
It's not culture you know its crime

Whoever said it was? And what does this have to do with the discussion? OFF POINT! 🤣🤣🤣

Oh wow, you might actually be clinically insane. Seriously, see a doctor. You talk like a psycho. 😭🤣🤣🤣

Fenrir:
I live in ikoyi you fucking retard

Wherever the fúck you are. Stay far away and die in your misery.

Fenrir:
I've been living in Nigeria for years

Who the fúck cares? Get some help and stop being a nuisance on the internet.

I've been dipping for as long as I can remember. That shít's awesome. 😎

Stepout23:
This is talking to both gender

Do not delay getting married because you're broke. Having no money is an outward situation, and for a man with a plan, it's only a temporary one.

Even women know that. The real reason you should postpone getting married is that you don't feel confident.

Stay single until you feel strong enough to take on the challenge of leading a family

Even if you have all the money but you feel unsure, hold back.

Most of the rich men were once broke. They were broke, but they were not weak.

A weak man is the real put-off in the dating market, not a broke man.

Women marry broke men all the time. What they look for is a confident man who has a plan and the drive to carry it through.

A weak man has more excuses than endurance. He lives for comfort instead of calling. He lies instead of leading. He is emotional rather than convictional.

Rather than being a turn-on for women, he's a turn-off.

And what is the female equivalent of a weak man? I'm looking for a more polite word than scatterbrain.

Let's use disorganized. A disorganized woman is a disaster to marry, even if she looks as fine as wine.

A disorganized woman can not be loyal because she doesn't even know what she wants herself.

She uses her words to nag rather than to nudge.

She doesn't feed a man. She feeds on him.

She can't say no to money, and she's always on sale for the highest bidder.

She avoids commitments because she wants to keep her doors open.

She always goes for empathetic men because they care too much to hurt her.

She gets her children with a weak man so that he can do the donkey work of raising the children while she remains hands-off.

A weak man and a disorganized woman can't marry each other because they're parasites looking for fat prey.

A disorganized woman can't value a broke man who has the right masculine energy and the drive to get rich over time. She's too impatient and lazy to build with him. She wants ready products only.

A weak man, on the other hand, can not put up with an awakened or mature woman because she wants accountability, which he avoids like a plague.

He always looks for resourceful but unaware women.

Your solution is to know that this is a dangerous world where if you don't know what you carry, people will use you for what they want.

You will only realize it after creating a child with a disorganized woman or a weak man, thereby getting recruited for emotional warfare that may easily consume all your productive years.

(©️ Benjamin Zulu Global)

Insightful.

Double0h7:
Can we leave the war of the sexes in 2024? Are you people not tired yet? Humans are flawed and we're all trying. Sense, wealth, character, responsibility, and health are not by gender. There are good and bad people. Fortunate and unfortunate people. Rich and poor people! Please! we've been doing the gender wars for nearly 5 years. Let's move on and discuss things that impact us all as humans.

^^^Thank you for being sensible. This is a rare quality that's hard to find in people these days: nuance.

Fenrir:
How did I get steam rolled?

Just because you won't that doesn't make it true at all

And you've already said you're a troll, just some broke ugly mug cunt so broke he lives under a bride yet to get his willy

king of the incels

Dude, with everything you've displayed on this thread, you're obviously inferior to a stray street dog. No brains and no class. 😭

The date of your conception coincided with the hike in comdom price; your broke daddy couldn't afford one so he sent you through the dirty tunnel your mother calls pussy in protest

Abandoned slave. 🤣

Fenrir:
How did I get steam rolled?

Just because you won't that doesn't make it true at all

And you've already said you're a troll, just some broke ugly mug cunt so broke he lives under a bride yet to get his willy

king of the incels

I have better things to do with my time than to meet with an emotional manchild haunted by the ghosts of his parents' failures. Stay far away in Norway. We don't need you. 💀💀🤮

Fenrir:
See what i mean

I've plastered who I am and where I am all over this

Not 1 Nigerian man will fight a man

But you will all go home and beat your women black and blue

You wanted to be a jester and crack jokes, I simply returned the favor. So why are you crying blue murder? 😂😂

I thought you were a master at words. Now that your wits have failed you, you want to turn it into a physical confrontation.

The stupid old invalid thinks I give a shít about gender dynamics and which gender is favored or not. Like a misanthrope like me would give a shít. Fúck you and your stupid gender wars. Deranged punk

Get bodied online and fly out all the way to meet up, what a real man. 😂

Fenrir:
Yap yap yap

All I'm seeing you say is "I'm a Nigerian numpty that's dreams of being a ninja but was born without the family Jewels needed to achieve my dreams" boo hoo hoo 😭 little boy blue what we gonna do with you lot

When ww3 happens

It's the women that will be fighting for this country while you passenger princess men stay at home safe with the kids

Emotional cúnt couldn't take what he was dishing out. Now he wants to travel all the way to meet up over internet banter. What a big old sissy. The hormones of shame was truly missing in your DNA. 🤣

Afterall, your father was the chief gormandizer who raped an invalid in the open market square in broad day light who happened to be your mother. Little wonder you inherited her peculiar form of madness. 🤣

Cry bítch cry. 🤣🤣

Fenrir:
MOS 11B

ROYAL MARINES

See not one of will fight for a thing
Not 1

I am desperate for a ruck in this country but you will run from a fight,

You will only hit women and children

You are spaniels living away from wolves
You are all bark no bite

If I'm so old then what's the issue?

Surely a young whipper snapper won't have a problem whooping a caveman

You diseased pig. Stay away from me. 🤮

Looking for who to inflict with your peculiar madness through physical contact. No bítch, I'm good over here. 😂

Fenrir:
You call yourself a ninja then prove it

Man up, you say you're a non conformist

So embrace violence and be different to the rest
Use your masculinity to shut me up in person

Or are you one of those woke trans freaks that threw your manhood away because of lack of use

Fickle-minded leprous old midget. You wanted the banter. Now you got steamrolled and you want to see me in person. What in the fúck makes you think I'd want to see a mental patient like you in real life. What business do I have with the mad man from the streets. Let's keep it online please. 🤮

You keep cursing mindlessly just to remind yourself there's something better than being an emotional wreck who grew up watching his mother gangbanged on a daily at home while daddy was away. I thought you were secure in your upbringing, now you're in your feelings because I'm telling you things you already know.

Punk bítch loser. 😭😭😭

Fenrir:
Mate if you are so big and brave send a private message

Let's meet up and we'll see who's worthless

I've made this offer to tons of men on here
Not one of you will actually do it

Be different
Back up your mouth

Use fist and fury

Or are always going to hide under mums shirt

Look at the big fat pussy. Now he's really emotional. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

It's like those pussy ass punks who challenge people to a fist fight, and when they get their shít rocked, they run the vehicle to grab a gun.

I'm not meeting up with you, faggót. Read my words and weep. You're a bitter old bítch. 😂😭

Fenrir:
Like the mass rape of Nigerian women by Nigerian men during the civil war?

You used a disaster as an excuse to ruin lives

Ah yoruba man

What on god's green earth are you babbling about now? 🤔

Fenrir:
See that's the funny thing about trauma mate

It either makes you stronger or it breaks you

That shit made me protective
It made me a fighter
It made never give up
It made me successful

It gave me the mindset to die for my daughter if needed or use someone like you as a meat shield to protect her

Understand the difference?

My daughter means something to me

If you had one the second the low on funds you negotiate with a Nigerian numpty to Bleep her for a naira or just Bleep her yourself

No, it only made you an unbearable loser who has no actual value in life, and can only feel important by slinging insults to strangers online. If you truly have a daughter, then my condolences go to her. I'd kill myself if someone like you fathered me. 😭

You'd better go to the riverside to have a bath of redemption. Wash impotency off your balls, and cleanse your head of misfortune. It might help in ending your frustration and sorrow.

But if your bad luck remains stronger than the healing power of water, drown your miserable soul and save the planet the burden of carrying the baggage of your pathetic existence. 🤷🏽🙃

Fenrir:
Easy mate

Throughout history men have had to pay something or provide some services to be able to able to marry a woman

This planet is old as Bleep

The nearly 9 billion alive today are only differently and are nothing compared to the estimated 100 billion that lived before us

And that's how democracy works mate
Majority rules

All 90% of all men Throughout his say women have value just for being born

Then your opinion means nothing

When there is a disaster it's women and children are rescued first and the men fend for themselves

That's proof too

Sorry, but you're still being clueless.

What does "majority rules" even mean? Do you know how many harmful practices have been widespread throughout history, and have been supported by the masses? Like fúcking slavery?

So what if 90% of men see women as having value just for being born because of bride price? How does that make it a valid measure of their worth? You can't provide an answer.

Let's go back to talking about your generational failures until you can find a good answer. 😁