ladyverere:
[b]It is funny. A divorcee or even a widow with kids can't get married by Nigerians standard but if it was the man who is a divorcee with even 7 children none of you advising against it would have told the lady not to go ahead! Such hypocrisy.[/b]

That lady is really strong, courageous and independent. She sounds like she knows what she wants cos it won't be easy being solely responsible for those kids. But he should really find out the real reason for her divorce in order to avoid matters that touch.

The only funny thing here is you women sees everything as a competition or it must be applicable to both genda not realising that every genda has peculiarity and role.

If a woman marries a man with 7kids, she is sure those children are not her responsibilities, in fact on many occasions the woman dominates and overshadow the presence of the children at home. Many time those women ends up molesting and abusing those children. It also does not prevent the other woman from having her own children.

If a man marries divorcee woman with 3 kids, this is Nigeria that child support is not in existence, the man is certain to take partial or full responsibilities of those children.
After 3 children, how many more children is the woman willing to give birth to for the man? Don't you think the man also needs 2 or 3 kids of his own?

This should not be seen as gender thing, it goes beyond common gender sentiment.

What the woman needs is divorcee or widower like herself who really does not need children and his own children are old enough to cope with competing interest and dominance rivalry in the family.

cococandy:


Personally I wouldn’t marry a man with 3 kids. If that’s what’s you’re asking. I’m not capable of that type of responsibility. However if someone else feels they can handle it, why not?

[b]The thing I’m against is discrimination against single parents as if there’s something wrong with them personally[/b]

@ bolded, sometime something is wrong with them, some times something is not wrong with them. We can't just defend or castigate them.
However many marriages that lasted for ages doesn't come without challenges, some are ready to confront the challenges to make it work (some times for the sake of the kids) while some really don't care, they are ready to move on.

My question is if a man or a woman refused to make his/her marriage to work for the first time, what guarantee they he/she will put in enough effort to make it work the second time.

I'm having same issue with a friend of mine, he married a divocee who claimed she was emotionally totured and violently abused but the woman is in the court now seeking another divorce from the man. In fact I can say the woman is the one who is really torturing this said man to the extent that she claimed everything they built together. Funny that the man was amused that his wife of 10 years just finds it easy to seek for divorce while he was trying to cope with the marriage for the sake of those children.

What I'm saying in essence is that some Poeple don't just have that patience to make things work and they jump from one marriage to another.

Swint:
so cos she has three kids you automatically see her as not good enough for marriage. The ex is obviously irresponsible for leaving the kids and she’s a very strong lady especially for having the mind to insist her kids must stay with her women with lesser strength will dump the kids and follow the man. Everyone deserves a second chance at happiness

That is selfish happiness, their is Noway those 3 kids will not be his responsibility directly or indirectly. Mind you he will want to have at least 2kids of his own, how will he cope financially, morally and psychologically?
Any children over 5yrs is wise and has emotion, their is no way to prevent clash of interest between himself and the other children.
The other children will always see him as the enemy of their dad and their own enemy too.

Some people can't just seek for peace, the enjoys looking for trouble.

Op, somebody that married his wife brand new tear rubber does not plan to born more than 3 children, this one already had 3 children.
how many children do you plan to have with her?
How will you cope with the responsibility of your own children with her own?
Is she ready to tow the line of giving birth for u or she just want to use you to raise her children without any plan for you?
Hope you are prepared for the rivalry and hatred that may likely ensure between you and her other children especially if they are more than 6year b4 you remarry their mother?

Their many things that is more than emotion and sexual pleasure.

muhammed50:
What a pity!
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Cancer or HIV...
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I swear this guy is the worst thing to have happens to nairaland, ooh!!!! I wish Seun shouldn't have permitted/aproved you.

What I need is a means to say hello on my phone. If they like they can produce a phone that transmitter the transmission of the transmitted. So far I can say helloooo!!! Bawo in ooo? I'm satisfied.

@ BizLifeE , micheal5772 and others, he was actually murdered by bayewumi. The cause of the death according to autopsy was certified to be cerebral shock resulting from a fracture of the skull associated with a contortion of the brain as well as well as large intracranial haemorrhage consistent with the deceased having been struck on the head with a heavy object.

Baiyewunmi was arrested and charged with the murder of Mr. Waidi Ayinla contrary to section 254(2) of the Criminal Code. The trial judge was Mr. Justice Owolabi Kolawole of the Ogun State High Court (later OFR and later, Justice of Court of Appeal). Bayewumi was sentenced for murder and was killed by hanging in the mid 80s.

Ayinla omowura's death taught others who are coming behind to take life slowly, learn to forgive and allow things slide.

According to report in circulation incosistent with his recent song, he has a spiritualist whom he called the saviour of everybody, the man told him he may likely die in 1980 and he should be very careful and avoid engaging in dangerous activities throughout the year 1980, report claim he obey and refused to honor many show and stage performance because he believed any incident that will claim his life may likely happen in live show due to their violent nature.

If you listen carefully to the two album he released in 1980, it was filled with fear of death over him and his band members.

That is the little I know about him, I may be wrong but this is easiest reasonably info I was able to gather. Maybe somebody can dig further to get the case file and the exact year Bayewumi was hanged.

Elder001:


May God help you..

Amen ooo!!!! I don set boundaries and made my wife sees sense rather than the shallow thinking her mum is trying to pass across. Never the less, I will take necessary precaution to avoid the story that touches.

tunjilana:
Noone and nothing is stopping any woman from achieving her goals in this 21st century...even women who had no directio for their life prior marriage, who u had to feed, cloth...help set up several businesses which they ruined will still want to claim it was marriage that rendered them useless. If u say u live 20 yrs of ur life for him...The man that wakes up early to come back late so as to feed, cloth and provide for the family is living for who ?...No woman is giving anything to anyone...Forget the fact u bear his name or the kids bear his name...we all know most women benefit more from the kids even when it is men who sweat more to provide....Lets stop all this fake narrative..[b].if cooking and cleaning for him is what u meant then u were simply playing ur part in the partnership[[b][/b]/b] same way he played his so when divorce happens no one should be made to pay for the defficiencies of the other...it isnt fair....A woman should work out her own financial independence b4 marriage and also strive to b even in marriage...simple

@bolded, The way they cry about doing this on social media even with house help makes me wonder what they really are sacrificing. On one hands they want feminism and don't want to take domestic rensposibility and in the other hands they want a chunk of your life saving because they doing what they really don't do due to feminism. In all it shows the hypocrisy and everything is just farce.

Elder001:



After marriage is dissolved you don't owe your ex any responsibility.. you only owe responsibility to your kids.

Registry marriage is good but can be hijacked by dangerous individuals.

If we're really talking about time wasted.. it's the man's time that got wasted.

He contributes more in every aspect yet you say he wasted your life.
I'm not totally against registry wedding .if at all it must be registry then make sure the woman has her own properties and she also has her own money..[b][/b] anything other than that don't attempt registry wedding. 


Nobody goes into marriage with the hope or thoughts of divorce but this is the 21st century ,everything is possible. There are times in marriage when divorce becomes inevitable .Love doesn't keep a marriage rather it is communication and understanding that keeps a marriage .If you marry because of love, love will fade some day and all those good characters will also fade some day thus making the marriage unreconcileable. 


This is one of the reasons I don't support getting married to a broke woman or turning your wife into a full time housewife. 

A broke individual can never be trusted. It is the broke ones that will go any length to share your properties and make you emotionally devastated. 

Broke people can be greedy and very dangerous 

If the woman has her own properties and her own money there's no way court will share any properties because she can't prove that you wasted her life. 


She can only be awarded child support if you both have kids and she was also awarded custody of the kids. 


anything other than that I won't advice any man to do registry.

The bolder was the first issue and source of confrontation btw me and my mother in law, like I said b4 my wife is a free will person who is care free and of good personality but as soon as her mum came for omugwo she started to take note of somethings and began to push. First she pick up my careless words about my money and my acct, she called me to ask about joint acct or merger of our acct which I innocently told her I don't believe in it. She made sure she held my word of " my money is my money and her money is her money" then she called my wife to inform her about that statement and how I denounce her concerning the finances. She still called me in the presence of my wife to ask me the same question which I innocently answered her and I also informed her that I don't believe in merger of finances and asset, I encourage my wife to build her career, have her account, properties and others , anything properties I will possess will rather be in my children's name. My wife sees nothing bad in it but her mum keeps informing her of danger. My joy is that my wife is directly opposite of her mum.

PaChukwudi44:


everyone should work and earn their own monies including women.Hiding under divorce laws to rip people of their hard earned money is balderdash.

I wonder ooo!!! As if men too did not give their life to the marriage, train the children financially and emotionally, contribute so much to the investment of the family etc. Women just like to find excuse to rip men off their money.

Now I know why my evil mother in-law was so pushy about this registry marriage, left to my wife she does not care but her mum was very pushy and all she care about was that registry, she arranged Photographer and was busy taking pictures as if one needs it for criminal prosecution. I was thinking every intention was genuine until she came to do omugwo in our house and I began to see her true nature, in all honesty she is like toadys girls, she demand for things like runs girls and she is extremely greedy.

PaChukwudi44:
Look for any brand of drug that contains the following combinations of drugs Efavirenz,emtricitabine and Tenofovir.One of the most commond brands is Viraday but you can also buy any brand that has the PEP combinatiosn listed above.You can get it at big pharmacies.

That Efavirenz is very costly ooo, the last time I wanted to buy it, the doctors at Emmergency ward of Federal medical centre Jabi FCT talked me out of it. Well I wanted to get it because I was afraid of exposure to Lassa virus.

londoner:


You really don't understand albinism do you?

You actually think it's the same as being mixed race...smh.

It is the reportage that missed it, not albino the girl is blonde.

desiregold:
If this is true, then he is sick.

He is light skinned, His wife is equally light skinned too. What was he expecting to give birth to? A charcoal baby?

You really don't understand what really happened, his wife is in Canada and she gave birth to blonde, what do you expect him to do. It is obvious another white man is humping the hole in his absence.

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I don't believe this is 9ja girl, if she a Nigerian girl, then the guy is not 9ja guy. I trust 9ja guy they will, never reject her, the pussy must be slay even if they don't have any thing to do with her, they must accept her, slat the pussy and discharge her.

yannis:

Do you think the sanctions where about oil?

If it was why wasn't Saudi Arabia sanctioned as well.
It's simple a political power struggle.

It is political and economical, Us can't sansaction nor sabotage Saudi economically because Saudi created petrol dollar. If you listen to Putin's in just concluded Sochi economic summit, you will realised that CATS policy of Trump is all about blocking other gas/oil supplier through sanction to pave way for America's expensive oil and gas. In fact German vice chancellor, chancellor and economic minister slam America over this. They sold tell America that they will support America's ambition to supply oil and gas to Europe but they can't block Russia off totally but they are ready to help America's oil and gas market. Putin slam America in Sochi on this same issue when he was addressing french president. Imagine America had to include oil and gas in the deal with China. America is looking for a way to sell it oil and gas by all means and they have adopted different strategy against existing seller and existing consumer, for instance they had to put tarrif and trade embargo on Chinese product to lure to China into negotiations while they quickly included their oil and gas as part of what China must purchase in US while they simply placed sanction on Russia to allow sell their expensive gas to Europe.

That is why us sansaction Russia and Iran to limit their makect and replace them.

Hadar4328:
I use the elephone p8 max and I got mine from Geek store on AliExpress. It is presently sold for 39k/40k (free shipping).

Bro come and give us review of the phone, I really don't mind the phone for that price.

Does it have fast charging.
Is it type c USB? How long does the 5k mah battery last?
Does it have gorrila glass?

My eyes was on ulefone power 3 but it seems the phone is scarce now due to people rushing it. Since the phone is close to it in spec and the price is relatively cheap, I will like to switch.

NeeKlaus:

Did you drop out in Kindergarten or you just don't know how to count digits again?
Is 4.36 not less than 5? Or you want to Akin Alabi to personally email you to tell you that your ticket don cast?

Lol.... Pls be easy on him, he is in denial mode.

Still don't believe him, if true then he must have been winning in the past for him to get mind to stake 4m.

Good

roqrules04:
The lawyer deserves some accolade for winning all those EFCC court charges against mama Peace

You think it was the lawyer that won? SMH, it was the system that wins the case, corruption cases were already compromised before it got to court.
If you are close to EFCC officials you will understand, many people go don collect their own share and then present a water down case and evidence instead of water tight case and evidence. The best job now is EFCC, Na that sure pass especially if u belong to raiding team, omo field work sweet no be lie, you will just go bust a house and suddenly you are a fucking multimillionaire. If you are not Oga's boys, u ain't going to the field and bust houses full of dollars.

Nigeria is seriously messed up, even if you blow whistle, the superior will not know about it and the boys will lias with the owner of the cash, move the cash out of the bank accounts or farm to a safe place and split the cash in an agreed ration, if you try to be strong, that is when your news will be out.

Unlike some Dubai hungry baby mama, the slayqueen baby mama's who sees baby mama as a meal ticket and lazy opportunities to get things they don't work for.

If wizkid is wise, this woman will build and manage his empire.

My Wife bought bag from Jumia, the pictures on display is totally different from the arrived bag. The bag was so bad that it does not even have linen, the handle broke the very first day she took it out and now the bag is completely useless. When she received the order, she tried to return it seeing that it is totally different from what they display but Jumia refused to accept the bags.

Honestly you have to be careful of what u buy from them, although I v bought things from them without issues but the first time I encouraged my wife to use them, Jumia messed up.

Great work.

Martins3973:
Hello,
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very big scam, you better hold your legs in your hands so u can run as fast as possible.

Whogoblog:


YOU WON'T BELIEVE THAT Nigerians went to her FACEBOOK WALL TO INSULT HER ...

READ ALL THE RUBBISH THEY WERE SAYING ..

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What do u expect, Nigerians are good at supporting bad things.

dominique:
Chimanda

A staunch feminist that has been married for over 3 years and has a child, One of two things is involved

1. The whole feminist stance is a farce, she's not practising what she's preaching when it comes to her marriage

2. Her husband is a docile lapdog

I go with 1

The truth is most people preach what they can't do when it comes to relationship, finances, religion and family.
Even men does it, they advice their friends what they can't do to their wife.