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Magnoliaa:

One hour is not much.
It's just prime....
Considering the stress of living in Lagos

Militant1:
I will try to be brief and straight to the point.

My wife stays up late (11pm -12 am) every blessed day.... That's the problem.

We live in Lagos and have 2kids, 3yo and 8 months. My wife was working before but left the job when she gave birth. There is a job waiting for her when the baby is 1y6mnths, therefore she is a stay at home mom.

We live on the mainland but I work on the island so I live home as early as five. In our house we have all the amenities you can think of; 24 hrs light (NEPA plus inverter), running water, gas, 2 washing machines etc to make a home 95percent comfortable but my wife can't seem to cope and it started when we had one child.

She doesn't wash my clothes, my office shirts and suits are given to dry cleaner to arrange while my other laundry I do myself every weekend with the washing machine.

When I get home by 7pm or 8, that's when she now starts rushing to bath the kids and prepare dinner, so we eat by 9 or 10. Before the kids play play and play, by 11pm we are still awake. Sometimes I go to bed by midnight and have to wake up by 4am to go to work again. It's impacting on my health and my work. She will sleep by 12 am and wake up by 8 or 9am the following day.

I have tried to beg and appeal to her. If I eat out and come home to just sleep, she go dey vex. If I just come home shower and sleep the kids who have passed their bedtime will be playing and when madam is ready to sleep they won't agree to sleep. She will beat them, guess who they will come crying to- daddy that just started sleeping and has to wake by 4am, I will now pet and pet till 2am before kids sleep.. I have advised her that kids have a bedtime(8pm). When I man up and off the tv by 9pm and tell everyone to go to bed, she says I am disrespecting her. She reports me to her mum.

Worse still our sex life is horrible... We have sex like once in 2 month.. At 35 I am in my sex prime and can Bleep everyday but she doesn't seem to care about me because she is always tired am I pity her so I don't demand sex so much.

I fully understand stay at home is not easy and I help her when.

I tried to create a schedule for her.

Wake up by 6am
By 7 she suppose don clean finish
By 8 breakfast should be ready for her, kids
9-10am bath herself and the kids
10-12 do any other stuff in the house
12-3pm rest, watch movies, chill
3-5pm... Do whatever she likes
5pm boil water and bath the kids
6pm she don bathe and bath kids
7pm... Food don done... Everything dey freezer
8pm we eat
By 9 everyone goes to bed and we knack 1hr

I throw the trash every day
Na me dey go market buy foodstuff
On weekends I clean the house
I wash my all my clothes
I provide all the finance in the house
I satisfy her on the bed when we naka. She begs me that she's tired
I buy her gifts, drop 3k for her everyday
Why should we have a house help when she is a stat at home mum (for now)

So what's the problem..


Mothers, are my demands too much?
Mothers, please when do you close your kitchen and go to bed?
Are you still awake by 11pm every blessed day.
Am I crazy?

Please advice me.

I have begged her, pleaded, shouted, done everything. Sometimes I intentionally come home late (10-11pm) thinking that the kids have gone to bed but my first child will be watching cartoon.

Please advice me. I am going crazy, Lagos is stressful

Sorry to say this,
You married a lazy
Professional Amibo woman..
Who can gossip from morning till night.
The gossip has eaten deep into her that she cannot do anything else.
As for u..
You cannot salvage the situation
Because u r a nice guy, responsible husband..
If u allow this to continue, you will have regrets later in the marriage.
So my best advice is For you
To seek a marriage counselor
As u take narrate ya matter here,
Also narrate am give the counselor.
Make sure you go wt ur wife..
....U guys scares us that are single guys...

Grace2023:
you're a Foolish bastard

Calm down
Ok?

SisterFire:
...i just drank a cataarch medicine ,my eyes feel pepperish

So sorry dear.
Hope u r gud now?
I really want to know
Who really am I
And what is my purpose on Earth.
I want to share any event that occurred to me 5yrs ago just after nysc
Then I was living at Abuja, I got a contract that took me to Aba, abia state:
While on the job, I met one young lady on Facebook she is based in keffi,
She promised me sex, so I hurriedly rounded up my job, so as to visit her and have sex with her.
So on that fateful day, 26thMay 2017, i bought Abuja tickets and boarded peace-mass 4th bus at their aba park.. my ticket was number 5.
I wasn't carrying luggage, just a cross-bag.
While inside the bus, i noticed a kid smiling at me (kids always smile at me, maybe cos am handsome), I returned the gesture. While we where waiting for the bus to get full , as it was early Sunday morning,
Two touts working at the Park approached me: they asked me if I was carrying load, I said no
So they now told me that a woman in the 3rd bus forgot something at home,
So she left the bus
They now beckoned me to exchange my ticket with the woman's own and join the 3rd Abuja bus... So that it will only remain 4th Abuja bus (1st and 2nd buses have left about an hour ago).
I was in a rush, infact everyone was in a rush cos it was a long journey.
But the words that came out from my mouth was: abeg make una no worry me, I am comfortable here.
They left,
5 minutes later they came back again to plead wt me to join the 3rd bus: that they needed just only one passenger to join the 3rd bus....
I still maintained my words.
They left and came back with the park manager:
The manager also begged me to exchange my ticket and join the 3rd bus... So that it will remain only the 4th bus.
I told him, sir am comfortable here.
While all this drama was going on,
The passenger who was seated beside me was busy loosing his baggages: He hurriedly exchanged his ticket and joined the 3rd bus...
Minutes later they embarked on the journey.
Our own 4th bus got filled up about 20 minutes later ..
We hit the road and embarked on the journey...
On getting to umuahia towers, we noticed a hold up..
There was a accident:
The 3rd bus had a head-on collision with an on coming Dangote trailer: all the passengers died on the spot including the driver 19souls !!!
Now everybody in our bus (they saw the drama between me and those touts at the park)
Turned and started asking me
Who am I?
What kind of person am I?
Some said: guy u be spirit?
I answered and said I don't know
Cos I was crying at that moment..

I also asked myself
Who am I.
Can anyone help me to discover
Whom am i
(Mind u , I never had any revelation; I only study my environment and conjure my mind mostly unconsciously without me even knowing and depend on the output results: and do whatever my mind tells me to do.
Even Jupiter can't change it.)





Another thing that troubles me
Is
The only thing that scares me in life is snakes: I have twice been bitten by snakes.

francisco327:
If you are currently following the Ukraine Russia war, then you must have seen the deadliest counter offensive carried out by Ukrainian at all fronts, from kharkiv to izyum to kherson and other regions, The Russians are fleeing as if they are Zimbabwean army... If Russia is truly that powerful as some dullard thinks, why can't they defeat powerless Ukrainian army.. Second best army my foot!!!!!

meanwhile captured Russian soldiers are crying in Ukraine as they are allowed to speak to their family before execution

ifihearam:
Whicj kind nollywood poorly scripted movie be this? so ole obi really collect the small change from poor masses? thief ma thief oo

PDP all the way

Stewpid Yoruba girls fighting
Cos of one Igbo man.

Mrkindness:
Yahoo Yahoo Yorubas, ritual killings Yorubas ,

You no see as they avoid this thread!!
Horrible set of people!

loko50:
You no sabi English I swear. In your picture, "enslavement of" means to enslave others. Your thought it's "enslavement by" which is to be enslaved by others. I sure say you no finish school

The message is in the picture.
What u think doesn't matter at all.
See you just dey twist ur stupidity..
So what's your point?
If I may ask.
I strongly believe that you are a secondary School dropout.
Check the bolded
And educate yourself.
English no be your mate.
Afonja.
Lol

Naira or dollars!

Latakia:
Igbo and hatred. They blame everybody Queen Elizabeth, Lord Lugard, Awolowo, Tafawa Balewa, Ahmadu Bello, Okotie Eboh, Sir Alex Ferguson, United Nations, Buhari, Tinubu, FIFA, UEFA, CAF etc for their mistakes except themselves. This is the picture of the man on wheel chair that destroyed Nigeria perfect system of government (Regional Gornment) where every region controlled her resources and pay tax to the central government. The perfect system of government was left to us by the British colonial masters. The picture show the man being pushed by Peterrorist Obi Pandora to court during the Nnamdi Kanu terrorist trial. Today they are planning to govern the same country they hate and call zoo.
Say No Terrorism

This fool still dey past me
This pirated copied script.
Abeg e don do!!!!

Yusufisraelj:
Really? can you speak to reason without sounding like a broken radio?

Where is the bigotry in his post?

U r just been sarcastic
I believe it's pointless and intuitive of you asking me questions
When u can hypothetically deduce the delusional content of his post!!
Starting from the caption!!
The caption was derogatory
And u dey see am!!
Abi u just wan whine ya self!!
I hate and detest narcissistic games!!
You can play it elsewhere.

Yusufisraelj:
What are you saying oga? Oya point the wrongs of OP.

I wouldn't call Dr Uju a fool, but that statement was totally needless.

By the way if we go back into history I hope you know Dr UJu will be wrong?

I don't really get your point.
Plz can you summarize it in one sentence.
Else, u r delusional just like the OP

We [color=#ff4540]TIV NATION[/color] Loves the igbos.

Latakia:
Igbo and hatred. They blame everybody Queen Elizabeth, Lord Lugard, Awolowo, Tafawa Balewa, Ahmadu Bello, Okotie Eboh, Sir Alex Ferguson, United Nations, Buhari, Tinubu, FIFA, UEFA, CAF etc for their mistakes except themselves. This is the picture of the man on wheel chair that destroyed Nigeria perfect system of government (Regional Gornment) where every region controlled her resources and pay tax to the central government. The perfect system of government was left to us by the British colonial masters. The picture show the man being pushed by Peterrorist Obi Pandora to court during the Nnamdi Kanu terrorist trial. Today they are planning to govern the same country they hate and call zoo.
Say No Terrorism

Na copy and paste format be ds!!
If not, oya summarize in just one sentence

Juicethekid:
There's no such thing as trolling here.

Ok!
Dey ya lane!!

Juicethekid:
Good!
So why did you comment if you didn't read? Now tell me, who's to use his head?

You!!
Stop trolling and mentioning me!!

GEEBITE:
It isn't difficult to spot people from dodgy background who are quite deficient in proper upbringing. This plonker resorted to insults over a harmless argument that didnt even originate with him. What a meddlesome interloper!!! Mind you I will recommend an urgent visit to specsaver or commence appropriate therapy from dyslexia if you cannot see in the quoted text of AARIWA that he wrote blackman/black in at least two instances in what he wrote initially.

"Queen supported a lot evil, killings and bloodshed in her lifetime of which she never apologized. She aided Gowon to starve and kill innocent women and children. Paul McCartney of the beetles returned his award to the royal family due to their role in aiding Gowon to kill defenseless civilians. Well known writer Fredrick Forsyth also condemned her role in the Nigerian civil war. Earl spencer princess Diana’s only brother, in 1997 accused the royal family of masterminding the death of his sister because she wanted to marry an African Dodi Fayed. He also said then than m16 the British official intelligence agency carried out the killing in collaboration with their French counterpart- the CEDET. That incident can be attributed to the reason why prince harry had always rebelled against the royal family ie he knows the mum was killed for her affair with a black man so he married a black to pepper dem. The world is always a better place anytime a racist dies"

The dunderhead even called himself a mad man. Please look at a nearby mirror, the reflection will be that of a mad man.

To tell you the honest, I no understand wetin u dey narrate.
Pls can you summarize it in one sentence.

Juicethekid:
Oga try dey use your brain na, your brain isn't for fancy.

Are u suggesting that I should waste my time
Just to read this long one-sided story.
I guess u need to use ya head!!

Latakia:
Igbo and hatred. They blame everybody Queen Elizabeth, Lord Lugard, Awolowo, Tafawa Balewa, Ahmadu Bello, Okotie Eboh, Sir Alex Ferguson, United Nations, Buhari, Tinubu, FIFA, UEFA, CAF etc for their mistakes except themselves. This is the picture of the man on wheel chair that destroyed Nigeria perfect system of government (Regional Gornment) where every region controlled her resources and pay tax to the central government. The perfect system of government was left to us by the British colonial masters. The picture show the man being pushed by Peterrorist Obi Pandora to court during the Nnamdi Kanu terrorist trial. Today they are planning to govern the same country they hate and call zoo.
Say No Terrorism

Did you type this?
Or you copied it?
Either ways, you sound like a tribal bigot.

You are a real woman.
Your voice has powers that has shaken the world...
Even nairaland is seriously on war
Cos of ur divine inspired words.
The evils of their fathers will forever haunt them down
Even up to their third generation.

FireUpNow:
A typical Igbo human that's what you are. I won't descend so low to abuse your parents or your elders

Thanks for the respect.

uthlaw:
see this one!

I just dey look u

Patriotsleague:
We and you are different.

Sure, I respect that fact and I don't give a fück about ya feelings.

DollarSigns:
Lol
The queen created your enlightenment
Otherwise, you wouldn’t have known how to spell the word foolish
At worse, you’d have been preparing to head out to your village square by this time
Show the late Queen some well deserved respect
She deserves to be immortalized

Ok.
So when are you immortalizing her?

Latakia:
Igbo and hatred. They blame everybody Queen Elizabeth, Lord Lugard, Awolowo, Tafawa Balewa, Ahmadu Bello, Okotie Eboh, Sir Alex Ferguson, United Nations, Buhari, Tinubu, FIFA, UEFA, CAF etc for their mistakes except themselves. This is the picture of the man on wheel chair that destroyed Nigeria perfect system of government (Regional Gornment) where every region controlled her resources and pay tax to the central government. The perfect system of government was left to us by the British colonial masters. The picture show the man being pushed by Peterrorist Obi Pandora to court during the Nnamdi Kanu terrorist trial. Today they are planning to govern the same country they hate and call zoo.
Say No Terrorism

What's ya point?