As a matter of fact, it has something to do with where your from. For Yoruba people, there is no H in their language, hence why some people find the hard to pronounce the 'H' sound or use the H sound wrongly. I used to be a typical example, i was taught the right way whilst working in a primary school as some children used to correct me which was embarrasing.

You have the option not to look when a woman is breast-feeding her baby outside. I don't have a baby yet but I understand why some mothers breast-feed outside. It's upto individual what they prefer, for someone  to start calling it some silly name is uncalled for.  esp for women calling names, i will understand from a male perspectives , sorry if i'm being sexist.
Most modern mothers are worried about snide remarks or strange looks from people around them when feeding outside and some don't even care. And btw, there are different techniques that mothers can follow when breast-feeding their baby in public places. we should bear in mind that for a first-time mum is not easy to know the dos/don't

[b]Example of an incident:[/b]Unfortunately I have notheard many positives, I knwo of someone who was asked to leave macdonalds because she started to breastfeed and when she objected saying her lo was haivng his meal just like everyone else the manager said it ws not the same and she was making people uncomfortable. She said the girls in bikini tops made her uncomfortable but he just laughed and said it wasn't the same and if she wanted to continue breastfeeding she would have to do it somewhere else.

Another example:
We went to a local hotel for a meal as it was my Granny's birthday when DS was just 5 days old. Of course, he needed feeding and I asked if there was somewhere quiet we could go. They gave me a key to the honeymoon suite which was lush and kept my dinner warm until I got back. It was brilliant & I was very grateful.

Also, when he was a bit older (about 4 months) I met a friend at the local garden centre cafe and DS needed his lunch so just got on with it., very discretely but the man at the table beside us asked me to stop. I said I couldn't stop as my son was hungry & would be very upset if I did. He then said he didn't approve, what if he saw something he shouldn't & why didn't I go to the toilets like a "decent person". I was flabbergasted & speechless (steadily counting to 10 because I didn't want to cause a massive scene by leeting him know exactly what I thought) but my friend told him (nicely) to stop looking if he was worried about seeing anything (he'd never have been able to see anything because I had on a vest, a top and a cardigan). [/b]The man's wife then told him to leave it but he still wasn't happy so he went to get the manager to complain. The manager told him if he had a problem he could move to another table or leave altogether & then gave us free coffee to make it up to us.

[b]Tips to help:

These tips are meant to help you breastfeed comfortably in public.

• Invest in good quality nursing bras that are easy to open and close discreetly.

• To minimise exposure, wear a short loose top or kurti that can be lifted up easily. If you are wearing a sari, you may find it helpful to cover your breast with the pallu. Many women choose to wear a sari as the short choli or blouse makes it easy to breastfeed.

• Always carry a stole, light cotton shawl or dupatta when you step out. Place it over your shoulder to hide your breast. Some women use their purse or baby bag to effectively block others' view.

• If you are going out, you may want to feed your baby while you are travelling so that when you reach your destination your baby is not hungry, at least for a while.

• It may be a good idea to nurse your baby as soon as he begins to indicate his hunger (usually by getting fussy or sucking on his hands). Waiting until he is cranky or crying bitterly will make difficult for him to latch onto your breast. It may also invite unwanted attention from people around you.

• Ignore unwarranted advice or awkward glances. Do not react.

• Avoid using public restrooms for feeding, most have unsatisfactory sanitary conditions. Try to locate a quiet corner or a changing room in a department store, a corner table at a restaurant. You could also try feeding your baby in a parked car.

• Observe how other mums are breastfeeding in public. You will be reassured that breastfeeding your baby is a natural process.

• Speak to other breastfeeding mums -- a friend or neighbour may have a great tip to share. Check in at our bulletin boards, you may get advice and suggestions from other breastfeeding mums.

If you are still uncomfortable about breastfeeding when you're out, you can always carry a bottle or sipper of expressed milk with you and offer it to your baby with a paladai or spoon.

http://www.babycenter.in/baby/breastfeeding/public-places-expert/

@ OMO IBO, pls tell her! I don't get it.

how is it ridiculous? most mothers breast-feed their baby outiside if there's a need for it n it ain't absurd or anything.

Also how is that socially retarded? socially retarded and breast-feeding can't be in the same sentence. Hence, i rest my case.

To people arguing about feeding your baby outside being disgusting.

I strongly believe that it is not disgusting. Several theorist have suggested how baby get attached to their mothers through breast-feeding. what is the point of breast-pump? u might as well give your baby formula milk,  I can't believe a lady on this earth actually finds it digusting when someone breastfeed their baby outside. That doesn't have anything to do with hygiene cuz if it does, i'm sure different studies/research wud have criticise it.

I'm actually thinking the people against it (on nairaland) are bunch of 12 yr olds who knows nothing about babies, pregnancy, etc. u need to do some research!

What I hate: someone not flushing the toilet, yarning without covering mouth, coughing without covering mount, ladies not shaving their armpit and wearing a sleavless top, as in, that is a no-no.
People looking trampy.

Sorry! I'm doing a research for Uni.
Well, I grew up in Nigeria till about 14. Childhood was fun, playful, etc. I think my childhood was influence by my gender, when i was growing up, i was only allowed to wear dress, skirt not trouser. And I did not have any choice if i did not want to go to church. Perhaps, that's to do with my culture/religion.
Primary school was very academic in terms of exams, class promotion in comparison to England. The only time i remember that was fun was when we played games during break/lunch time.

that's about it really. Next

Did you grow up in Africa? which country? Did you enjoy being a child? was your childhood experience influence by your religion, gender, culture, etc.

Thanks

I want to be interview. I used to go by a diff name that some peeps on NL knew me as. So, I believe It's nice for me to have an interview.

7. Now there is something that you have learn[ed] now, I don't know where you learn[ed] it from, you call it dating, it is a way of checking you out, let's go and eat somewhere and I will check you out. How can you be so childish; you are dating me, you want to check me out, and do you think I will be so stupid as to show you my ugly side? How can you be so childish?

We are just dating, we are just seeing ourselves specially, and before you know it you are in the trap of the enemy. Don't check out, pray instead, call to the one who knows all details, call to the one from who m nothing can be hidden. What if we call on him and he didn't answer, I preached a sermon [s]ome fifteen years ago, titled when God is silent. I have told one of my sons to make one thousand copies, so those of you who are youth can get one somehow. Because many a times when you say God is not speaking, God is speaking only it is you that you are not hearing. You don't want to hear, this is the fellow I want [you] to marry, so you are saying if you want to talk say yes. Get the tape it will help you, to know what happen when God is silent.

8. Let me tell you my children, marriage is for keeps. As far as the word of God is concerned, it is only death that can separate them according to roman7v2-3. But the court can divorce us, it is the court that did its own, God has not done. The word of God says those who God has join together, let no man, no woman, no parent put asunder. Marriage is forever. you are old fashion daddy, after all you've been Married for 41 years.

Okay let us assume that divorce is allowed, at least you will agree with me that divorce, destroy your C.V. when they day are you married, single or divorced? If you marked divorce, you signal to your employer; here comes a failure. They may not say so, but the moment they see divorce, they know here is somebody who could not make marriage work. Every marriage has its challenges, but divine love gives victories, Turns every challenge to testimonies. Once you marry, you are married forever until either of you dies.

9. Now let me say a word to those of us who are of marriageable age but are not married. Some of us who thinks we are getting up in age, therefore we should hurry up;

Now let me tell you those of you boys who are of marriageable age who are still checking people up. Let me tell you, time will pass you by, there is an age a man gets to and it is of no longer any consequence.

So let me tell you boys, if you are of marriageable age, you have a good work, don't marry if you don't have a job, job comes before marriage. Those of you who marry, and it is your wife that is feeding you, go and pray again. The bible say two are better than one, you boys go and marry. Bible says if two agrees concerning anything on earth, it will be agreed in heaven. The bible say one will chase a thousand; two will put ten thousand to flight.

As for you girls, who think maybe you are getting on in age, I agree that two are better than one, but believe me honestly, it is better to be single in Christ, than to be married to the agent of the devil. There are some lazy boys out there; no job, nothing, no responsibility and they are looking for girls who will become bread winner for them.

They will sit down at home watching TV, the girl will go and work and you said, once they call you Mrs. No be Miss. Be single and be confident. You never can tell, God may be preserving you for someone special. It will be well with you in Jesus name.

Because born again doesn't mean the same thing everywhere, there are born again robbers, there are born again 419(fraudster). Let me give you an example, some years ago in one of the universities where I go normally to go and teach them and fellowship with the. We declared a fast and then one day one of the "born again lecture" was testifying, he said I have been fasting; I use to smoke 17 cigarettes per day now I smoke only fifteen.

Abraham said in Gen24v1-4, he said to his servant, don't get a wife for my son from among these people, go and get from among my people. Marry within the fold; so you will be speaking the same spiritual language.

5. Now my daughters, whatever a brother may say. Keep yourself pure and holy during courtship. I will tell you why.

(A). there will be plenty of time for sex after marriage.

(B). don't sell yourself cheap. Am a man I am talking to you as a father, men don't have regard for women, when they say let's do it and she says yes. They will say what [is] the difference between this one and a harlot? Hen! but we are going to marry any way, listen to me my daughter, you are not even sure of marriage until the very day, until the pastor says you are husband and wife, you cannot be sure.

(C). Not only that, sin committed during courtship, always hinder prayer after marriage. You sinned during courtship, you got married, problems/challenges comes and then you kneel down to pray and the devil will say "with what mouth are you praying"? Can't you remember this, this and this. Sins committed during courtship will be waiting for you during marriage.

That is not to even mention there is something called AIDS. I saw one advert; it says HIV AIDS never show for face. That beautiful sister, do you know the kind of danger lying under, that brother, do you know what he is carrying. Don't kill yourself.

6. There are some of you who say, well I know how to discern who to marry, and we will just toss a coin. And then you select two sisters and say God, the light complexion one is the head and the black complexion is the tail. So I want to toss the coin, whichever is the two you have chosen for me and you are tossing the coin between a witch and mummy water[mermaid]. Don't do it that way that is not the way God chooses. I pray for you once again, you will not choose the wrong fellow in Jesus name.

Listen Carefully!!!

1. Never chose an unbeliever as your future partner, I mean never, never ever. When you say you will convert him later, that is the most dangerous gamble that you can ever engage in. James4v13-15 makes it clear, you don't know tomorrow. Only God knows tomorrow. Oh! He is very nice, only that he is not yet born again. Oh she is a very courteous girl, only she is not yet born again. Don't choose the devil. But let me tell you the truth my children; if you marry the right person, then heaven have started for you on earth, if you marry the wrong fellow, hell have started for you on earth. [I] Am praying for all the youth here tonight, you will not marry the wrong fellow in Jesus name.

[Y]ou are a child for God, you are standing on the rock and somebody is in a miry clay and you say I will pull him up. Let me tell you mathematically you are standing on the rock and somebody is a miry clay, the probability that you will pull him up is fifty, the probability that he will pull you down is also fifty, fifty and if he is stronger than you good bye. Never, don't even think about it, don't choose an unbeliever.

2. Don't choose a baby Christian. He got born again two months ago. You want to marry a [baby]? You don't even know whether his salvation is genuine.

3. I will take a step further and this is for you my daughter[s]; a man is at his best during courtship.
A man is at his best during courtship; You are my sweetie, you are my honey, That is what you are suppose to hear during courtship. Immediately after marriage all his hidden faults comes to the surface. There is a saying; they say love is blind; it is marriage that opens it eyes. That man that is pretending to be an angel," there is nobody like him, he is very generous, very caring, very patient" wait till he gets what he wants.

So if somebody is suppose to be at his best during courtship and during courtship he begins to quarrel with you. You should know straight away that there is no way here. The elders have a saying; they said the eye that will last till the evening, it will not begin to give trouble in the morning. So if you have already entered into a relationship, if you are in courtship and you are already settling two or three quarrels go and pray again. To before warn, is to before harm.

4. When you are going to chose and he/she says is a Christian, he has been born again for three years or more. I beg you chose within the fold. You know why? So that you will be speaking the same spiritual language.

Good luck and I will advise you not to take every suggestions on NL as some people do not have a clue about relationship or they won't even use the same suggestion when they are in the same trials. Cast all your cares to God, he will answer.

@multebrain, nobody mentioned that Obasonjo did good things to Ogun State/Abeokuta, at least OBJ is not false advertising through media about what he has done to ABK, everyone knows that the only did OBJ did to ABK was to benefit his family by having lots of OBJ farms everywhere, i'm sure there r upto ten OBJ farms in Ogun State, maybe people will get unemployed though that and building a 45 bedroom house at GRA Ibara and OBJ housing estate.

The topic is about Gbenga Daniel not OBJ, so pls don't divert.

@Ode remo, i even heard OGD rigged the last poll-apparently Amosu should have won and as at Xmas that I was at ABK, i saw lots of billboard about OGD wanting to contest again for the next one. People are really cursing him.
What I don't understand is, why repair 5 out 10,000 things that needs repairing and you only keep showing the 2 things repeatedly on billboards, tv, radio, etc and emphasising on the yets to come which I doubt he will do.

The man is a thief!!!!He's an attention-seekers and all he likes doing is to waste the state money on media attention to show one out 1000 things the he carried out. I first thought the man was a decent, considertae man when I watched him on BEN TV @ home in England. little did I know till I arrived in Abeokuta and I saw the whole place and the way people were cursing him. I'm sure the curses will start to affect him and the rest gradually, bearing in mind that I'm not cursing them.

A little gist for u guys, are u aware that non of the governors ever fly with Virgin Nigeria/Nigeria Airways because of the corruption that they've all caused. You'll only see them in First class British Airways and Virgin Atlantics.
They don't send their children to school in Nigeria not even the private schools, they prefer abroad. Their chn spend money lavisly, buy cars as if it's clothes. If the govts abroad are so corrupts like they are, will there be a Great Britain, USA, etc? They buy massive houses in England with no mortgage to pay whereas hardworking Nigerians pay their mortgage include the Prime Ministers, MPs, etc.
Nigeria Govts disgust me, the roads are horrendous, have never seen any roads like that in England? a tiny pothole is fixed asap.
I think when corruption is non existence or little existence, then Nigeria, including, schools-education, road, healthcare, basic needs of people- Light, water will be good and advantageous to its citizens.

@Olaadegbu, Sorry to let u know, my boyfriend is not my sin partner, we are not engaged yet but we are courting, so there is no other term to call him. We are both child of God, we know the right way to live according to the WORD. So, using the term boyfriend does not mean we sin together or we are sin partners. It's a bit wrong of you to make that judgement.
And I have decided to continue to go to church because I don't believe in changing church anyhow. And I've prayed to God about it. I will stay in my ministry which is the children's department . When church finishes, Go home because staying to hang around in the main church sometimes mean/tell people that I'm free and available. Most people don't know that in a Nigerian Church, Nigerian cultures go with it, therefore, I will not speak to pastor about it because he will think I'm disrespectful, however, I will continue to pray for him for God to open his eyes and see everything. 

I've learnt some tangible contribution from most people. Thank u guys,  God bless xx

@ Chummy-bro. I never mentioned that all R.C.C.G were like that and I believe it is unacceptable of you to write that I'm taking advise from unbelievers. As a matter of fact, during one of our workers rally/training, we were told not to question authority at all and we must obey authority. So, Kunleoshob was right. If u read my posts very well.

It will be nice for him to be a truly born again person, not because you want him to but because he wants to.
I agree with what Image123 and DavidDylan wrote and also If you can't change him now, what makes you think you will be able to change him when you get married?

I understand why some christians would not go to church but remember what the bible says in
Hebrews 10 vs 25 '25Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.

Matt 18: 20 For where two or three come together in my name, there I am with them.

And the church is not just a building its the people.
so if your boyfriend is a practising christian and he knows his bible, he shouldn't object to Church.

Continue to pray for him and one thing that can help you guys is to do bible study together via internet. You both read three-four verses every other day and you both reflect on it through your messenger. I'm sure from that, you will know if he is a christian or if he will born-again any moment soon. You can also encourage him to come to church with you  perhaps for 30min once a week to pray together about your relationship in ur church,  maybe gradually he will want to spend time in God's temple.
One question, your boyfriend doesn't like going to church and you like going to church. Isn't your wedding ceremony going to be in a church?

thanks @ Steven5, I tottaly understand what you mean about being childish.  However,  It ain't childish because it's nice to hear parents view but they don't neceesary have to make the decision, which they didn't . As I'm growing older, I will seek advise from my parents when necessary but it doesn't make me childish. don't u ask ur parents for advise?

Thanks everyone, I've actually concluded on what I'm going to do about the situation
THANKSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!

Thank u guys.
@ Neduogu, I'd love to know the end of the story

Thanks sholeyb, appreciate ur comment.
@ Cristalz, I'm thinking about leaving but I want to pray to God about it and hear what God says cuz I'm not happy going dere.
@Unleashed, ur funny, how can pastor plan my daily schedules? I'm sure he's not that bad, he's a spirit filled man when he comes to preaching, he's fantastic.

Thanks@ coolruler. AWESOME contribution!!

Thanks @ Analytical. My parents are not protective and they don't really make mmy decision for me but I do get help from them when I'm indecisive with some situations. Thanks for your advise, I will try and take some of it on board.

@ Analytical, I'm finishing uni next summer, so it ain't long that I'm going to leave but I will miss the children department. However, I'm still going to stand my ground till then. I'm only going to do things if I'm willing to and if I don't mind without anyone enforcing it upon me.
But I tell my parents most things,  My parents live in London and I go to uni outside London, so they ring me most of the time.
Why is it unwise to tell parents?

I'm glad someone like KunleOshob understands what I'm saying, It's hard to complain or tell the pastor.
@ Bastage, I'm finishing uni next summer, so it ain't long that I'm going to leave but I will miss the children. However, I'm still going to stand my ground till then. I'm only going to do things if I'm willing to and if i don't mind without anyone enforcing it upon me.

@Image123

Anyway, I DO SERVE IN CHURCH, my ministry is working with Children. I will continue to work with the children and only go to the big church when there is a need to. And also, I will still do things in church if I want to not when anyone said 'Do it' because I don't want to labour in vain. Remember the church is for perfecting the saints, not for the pastor to control his members by abusing his authority.

@JJYOU, I'm on break from studying, I'm eating at d moment. Do you study all the time? lol

it's a big church but the members are medium size, if u read my post very well, I said he does it to most of the youth      ( students that are away from their parents). It's just that I'm the always the one on the defensive most of the time

Mum and dad pay my school fees. I'm going to get my bf to read this topic. Thanks for your comment.

well @ Kunlelob, thanks a bunch! for your reply.