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meeen, women are really in a tight corner here.
when they ask a man out, they are like whores.
when they play hard to get , we say they are full of unnecessary pride and seek revenge after we eventually woo them.

i like it both ways. if a pretty girl tries to ask me out, i feel on top of the world and try not to make her feel bad about her decision to chose me(that is if the feeling is mutual)

if i ask a girl out and she accepts, cool , i still try to prove my self. but i think its very cool, lovely and sexy if a girl i have a crush on askes me out

Are you still in love with him?
i have a feeling that both of you still like each other.
who broke the relationship? you?
he is probably still hurt by how the relationship broke up.

dont you think dailogue will work? i think there are still some issues that you guy have not resolved, if not why should he do what he is doing and why should it bother you?

i would have loved to proffer solution to your problem, but i am afraid you might not understand my english, so no need. i will leave you with your ignorance.

and you nairalanders who think we should neglect his english. i can assure you that this is one of the reasons why his girl is cheating on him, that is if she is really his girl.

@poster
how much do give her everyday? because that is probably the only reason why she comes to you, but i bet you, to her, you are not her boyfriend. just stop deceiving yourself.

You can't eat your cake and have it.

if i were your boyfriend i will make you suspect me of cheating with another girl and send nasty SMS to her. then tell you all the nonsense you told him as your excuse.

i wonder what you would have done if you were in his shoes. will you believe him? be sincere

do you the psychologist SIGMUND FREUD? he talked a lot about slip of tongue and Little mistakes like this, that is if you are telling the truth. according to him, the mistake implies that you have been thinking of him somewhere in your mind, or you are really cheating on your boyfriend as he suspects.

be honest with yourself and all will b well with you.

can Nairalanders please tell me how these two people are related?

what exactly is the meaning of step brother or sister?

the only problem here is the social aspect of it all, and not the biological or religious aspect.

@poster
since this is causing too much controversy, why dont you just let it go.
yea it could be difficult but, the wrong side of this is the thought his father sleeping with your mother , while him (the son) sleeping with you.
am not comfortable wiith that

but if both of you see nothing wrong with that, who are we to judge, BUT YOU ARE NOT RELATED IN ANY WAY PERIOD!!

@poster
when you find your virgin wife, let me know
also let me know your experience with her.
and you as a virgin please make sure you know the right hole to stick your suger stick.
since you are a novice, let me educate you that there are two holes.
i bet you and your virgin wife will be wondering where your stick should be sticked into, PLEASE dont put it into the shit hole

the best way to revenge is to forgive.

if you cant forgive break the relationship,

revenging only implies that you have accepted defeat, and you are ready to do anything stupid to get your own pound of flesh which is not possible. yea, can you really get your own pound of flesh

i think you have some insecurites that is making you withdraw after trial.

have you ever, really dated a girl? i mean are you still a virgin?

another reason could be that you are scared that they dont really like you, their response is not encouraging you and you are scared of rejection.

you are turned off by words like

1) i have a boyfriend

2) i am not interested

3) why do you ask? please i am not in the mood to talk

4) i dont have time for all these tings you are talking about.

My man, slow and steady wins the race. bring out your time for a woman and dont mind her nagative response (i call them jelly walls) if you try with one and it does not work out learn fronmyour mistake and try another

and for Gods sake stop being scared of commitment, it is one of the best ways you can enjoy life.

Girls!!! you are really embarassing me. Recharge card!! what a way to say "my pussy is worth 1500 rechage card."

must you always impatiently look 4 where you can reap? why do girls always think of today and forget about tomorrow, asking 4 recharge card today when they can be patient and get a car tomorrow

Prophesy indeed, did the witch tell you how many kids you are going to have with this stranger? GIRLS GIRLS GIRLS, they are nothing but chicken brain, na wa o. cool, handsome, rich guy indeed.

just take a look at how you are embarassing your boyfriend. the poor boy is probably somewhere bosting that he has the best chik in nigeria.


after he is through with messing you life up, always remember that when you are in need of a new guy, just dress in your normal rags and wait at the bus stop for lift.

you must be a proffessional in this ashawo work, ye ye girl, i pity you so called boy friend. in fact give me his number

My sister, if you are not a Muslim and you want to marry a Hausa guy who is a Muslim, you better think twice.

you are very safe if he is a Christian, no problem with that.

if he is a Muslim, i assure you that you will continue to remain stranger in your own home.
go and learn more about their culture, i bet you will have a re-think. here are some important things about Hausa Muslims that you must know.

Once you are married to them, you are stuck indoor for more than half of the rest of your life. you dont talk to any other male, or go out unnecessary(especially if he is a fanatic)

they see women as second class citezens, you cant make any decision in your own home, what he says is absolute and you must obey, infact your obedience makes him love you more.

if you are not converted after a period of time, there will be pressure from his people to take another woman, this you cant stop since his decision remains absolute

there will definitely be more wives, its like a train on a track, be assured of that.

marriage is a life time thing and not a dating thing, have you asked your self how the relationship will be in the next five years especially when you put all these variables into consideration?

LOOK, they can be very good lovers, and are very caring, this is because of they way they love jealously, but the bad news is that they are capable of giving that same love to multiple women.

if you love him so much and dont want to let go, then, to make your marriage work, get converted and learn to stay indoor, avoid people(especially males), forget about your education, be ready to be like a slave to him.

no offence to my Hausa friends, you guys are great.

I really dont understand your problem, i must confess that your englishe is making it difficult for me to understand you.

is he coming back for your love? from what i understand, he does not call you anymore, probably your calling him is a bother to him.

let him be, he is obviously fed up and have probably found another hubby.

you are lucky someone else is in your life, what else do you want, you cant stick your self to someone who is not bothered about you. I call my girl who is far away from me almost every day, because i love her.

encourage the other person and make life meaningful for yourself.

NB: i think you need to work on your english, yes, no man is perfect, but no guy will really want to hang out withsome one who write so badly like you, especially the caliber of guys you seems to hanging out with.
do you really work in the bank?

the bad news here is that you still like the girl and probable looking for the person that will advice to give her a chance.

My guy, leave that thing, save yourself the stress.

its either you hit her now and run or you stay with her and she finds your weak point and use it on you, you will surely lose at last.

if you have money as you said, you can definately get better girls, why waste your time with someone who is not worth it?
PLEASE b4 you leave her, make hef feel like a fool, and let her know that you know her game and make sure u bang her, that is very important, if not everything way you dey do na banza

Yea i know it is a very scary scenario, but i strongly believe that there are good girls out there. i am not just happy with the way oracle presented his case?

I am scared, really scared. what i see nowadays most times leaves me with mixed feeling of disgust, shame, doubt, dissappoinment, and greive.

Right now, i have a girl who is far away from me and sometimes i wonder what she is doing in my abscence. and i dont know what to believe no matter how decent she sounds on the phone, i stiill want to have my doubts.

just walk into a bar in the city of abuja and you will see, responsible looking girls in groups of 4 and 5 sitting idlely in a round table drinking minerals and waiting for someone to call on them.

thats sad. I wonder what these girls think of themselves, what is their self worth?

the bad news is that some of them look very very responsible and when you talk with them they sound intelligent and confident, but , i dont understand,

yet i strongly want to believe that there few good ones, all cant be bad, i have actually met some good once and my prayer for them is that they dont get contaminated by the bad eggs. amen

ibkaye:
now i aint saying she a goldigger, but she aint messing with no broke *****

now, when i hear such talk i get so irritated.

what justification do you have to call someone a broke whatever?
it is just like giving a begger twenty naira and he says " oh what a broke guy you are"

please ladies, especially those who need rich guys around them, recognise yourselves as beggers and start acting like one.

@poster,
you just have to be careful at the kind of girls you toast, these creatures are ready ruin you, destroy you, infact they devils working tools.

there are decent gils out there that will really not do that at least not after the first three call, i really thought all girls were like this until i recently came accross some angels. these ones are not gold diggers.

if you have to send rechard card, know the type of girls they are and then decide weather to play the fool, play it their way or back out immediately.

this is the kind of woman i call HUSBAND BEATER. She is slapping a guy she is going out with for the first time, i wonder what her past lovers must have suffered in her hand.

i guarantee that her violent attitiude is the reason why she does not have a boyfriend, yet she managed to get another guy, and she allowed her uncontrollable attitude to take her back to square one

the best way to do it is to go straight to any girl you like and do any thing (not stupid) that would attract her attention.

watch her for signs of interest

if non, then get her attention

then try to flow with her, and tell her how you feel about her

lastly if it does not work out, dont let if get you down, learn from your mistakes and try another day, probably with anothet girl.

please dont bother about your looks.

women are not really shaken by what they see, but more tripped by what they hear.

Unconciously, you are letting the fact that you are a virgin direct your seach for a partner.

thats wrong. To get a good girl for your self you must be open minded, widen up your scope of desirable attributes and also work on yourself.

The truth is, weather a virgin or not, a girl is liable to Bleep UP and saying that you must marry a virgin sounds very very selfish to me and it sounds like you meant to say "my house must be painted real and perefect gold, or nothing else".

You see a virgin girl as perfect, please dont decieve yourself.

lastly, i must be honest that at 25 your thinking sounds to my like a 16 years'. Are you sure that your real fear is not that you might not be able to handle a girl who is more experienced than you? i think you feel that you will feel more secure with a virgin than with a none virgin

come to think of it , whay havew you to offer a gilr who knows much about sex than you?

@poster
As a virgin, you really talk like one. Sorry you have really worked so hard to keep yourself a virgin and now you feel God should pay you back by giving you one.

Well, thats not how the world is, you might marry a virgin o, but that perfect innocence, that perfect virgin girl in your dreams will definitely not be found in her.

Being a virgin will definitely not make her stop being a human which are disappointers in nature.

I feel sorry for you(Not insulting you)because if you finnaly get your virgin and she becomes a whole lot of dissapointment you will feel hurt the most.

I still think as a result of your inexperience your thinking is still very myopic and selfcentered, and thats not the way mariage thing is. I am sorry to say that I am very sure that you will find more dissapoinment in a virgin girl than in a non virgin, you want to bet?

Its funny that village people like oracle come up here and talk like areaboys just to get attention and very decent people give him the reaction he craves for.

I believe that Oracle knows the type of person he is: i mean why wont he talk like this when his mother is probably somewhere at this moment with another man.

He must have had a horrible childhood experience, like seeing his mum being shaged by another man, house girls being shaged by his dad, his sisters sleeping with all the street guys etc. therefore he has a low self esteem which makes him seek out low life girls thereby confirming his beliefs.

And I feel what he sees in these girls is actually what he knows he sees in himself.

the world have not been fair to him, and he takes it out on the ladies.
Oracle i think you should go back home and resolve your insecurities with youir mum dad and sisters. Start all over again,. and stop seeing the world like your family.

No NO NO

I wont help you in this case

go talk to mummy and daddy

Some Nairalanders like bobbyxxx1 will spoil you and teach you bad thing

I think you are reading too much novels or watching a lot of movies.

this definately does not sound real

and if there is really something similer to this hapening to you, I want to believe that you are the one who wants to sleep with the poor woman and not the other way round as you claim

for Gods sake, she is your friends mother, stop fantasising about her, no matter how pretty she looks

are you a virgin?
do you ever get erection?
How do you feel for men?
You cant just sit down and think that something will happen to you, you must act.
I think its time you give yourself what i call self therapy. try out different thing that will help you know you sexual preference.
watch pono, try masturbating, get a girl(not withstanding weather you feel she is fine or ugly), kissher, touch her
just involve yourself and watch out for your homonal reaction
cheers

pmond:
@Frank 3.16
You got style, but pretty sad you limit yourself to self made lines. I think conversation should come naturally.
@poster
Your guy tried sha, so wetin happen afterward? They dated? I’m just curious.

I haven’t asked a girl out in years, I don’t ask girls out, I just let the tension boil, get acquainted, and in a short time she discovered that she had developed something for me and assumed me too carry her in my heart cause of the attention… If she’s worth it, she’s worth the time, a thorough “case study”

What? is that toasting? if you have not toasted a girl in years then you probably have forgotten how to toast a girl. you probably might be very cute and is relying on your looks to get a girl.

but come to think of it, are the girls who come around you girls of your choice? if they are, what kind of girls are they that dont allow themselves to be toasted?

then what happens when you walk into the library, resturant, cafe restaurant and behold that pretty goddess? I bet you keep on walking around her like a jobless guy until she notices your good looks, then the tension starts boiling blah blah blah

if not i must let you know that getting your self aquinted is also part of toasting therfore you toast.
tell us how u do it.

I believe that the first thing every guy need when toasting a girl is to get her talking. you must you every means within your power to get her interest. if you can break the spell, you will see the best of you coming out as you toast.
now take for instance she is not responding, neither is her face relaxed, while you do all the talking. you will run out of talk and mess up the whole thing.

some girls are just really nice to talk to and even it does not turn out to be a relationship, you end up becoming friends.

what i hate most about most nairalander especially the females is the constant re peatation of this statement "NOT ALL GIRL, OR WOMEN OR MEN, OR NOT EVERYBODY" it makes me sick. please everybody knows that. please as socials scientists " like most of us are" we know that it is never possible for everybody to possess the same characteristic trait.

saying that females or guys behave in a particular way simply imply that the obsever have found out that most females or males are like that, and not ALL.

and as humans we judge a group or people or a race by the majority!!!!!

why is this a problem again? must someone you love love you? look worst things happen than being rejected and people still survive. why do we bother our self with people not loving us when even though they eventually give us the love we desire,we either get fed up and bored with the person after a short or long time. we start all over again to suffer the same love problem with another person forgetting the possible outcome.
abeg , leave that thing, life is too short to stick to one thing for a long time.

i have different styles of toasting them, here some of them and believe me they work even though they might sound impossible.

if she is light in complexion and beautiful, i walk up to her and say " hi, emmm sorry, are you an american?" she might get embarrased, angry, or genuinly answer "no , i am a nigarian." i always get an answer no matter the mood.

then i reply "Wow, haw can a Nigerian be this beautiful with such lovely complexion, but seriously, i know you are a half cast"

she blushes, and starts enjoying the comnpliment "no, infact i am from benue state"

i reply, "wow thats lovely, i am from imo state, i wish girls from my state could be like this, you look like an angel,




if she has long artificial hair, i go like this

"hi," she looks my way. "Sorry(i always say this to sound polite)" i have been starring at you from my seat over there, " i point with my fingers to indicate my former position, this is done most times to reduce tension " and i have been saying to my self, what a beautiful long hair you have, how can you have such a long hair?". most are always sincere by replying, "NO thats not my hair, its attachment."
i reply "wow they look so real. nobody will notice and i like your choice of color of artificial hair, it blends perfectly with your complexion.
she blushes, "thanks"
"my name is,

NOTE there is no guarantee for this method, other variables like her mood and what she thinks about you, might possobly be and extreanous variable, but most times i come out successful.