₦airaland Forum

So I’m hoping the experienced folks here can help shed light on this topic, as it seems to be a very real issue in many families, please tell us how best you think one can deal with a man that sides with his family over almost everything. It’s like they can do no wrong in his eyes, even when he seems not to agree entirely with what they’ve done, you are still left with feeling like, he’s siding with them, and more than siding with them, is that he gets angry when you try to point out how badly behaved they are, have been or were, as the case maybe.

We’d love to read especially from the men , seeing as most Nigerian men like to take sides with their family(sisters and mothers mostly) over their SO. Not that I believe that there are or should be sides , but what do you do call it, when that’s exactly what you are seeing happen?

DonBenny77:
Blood tonic follow?

You wan go try am abi? See your liver o.

EzeIgboNwaChukwu:
will you shut up ignoramus.
you Know nothing because your brain is nothing but a peanut size

your grammar alone sef has said it all, mschew!

Ishilove:
So as tiny as he is, he can beat woman too? This is kind of hard to fathom

The thing tire me o, cos walai if that boy were to say him wan beat me, I’ll just use something break his head.

If this is true, Wizkid don get problem be that, he should ask Breezy, but na wa o, that small Wizkid beat this kain woman, hmm! Well, anything is Kuku possible in this our world, chai! Too bad for my former nigga Wizkid.

This Ubi sha somehow look like a wayo man, for real.

The grave is beautiful, no doubt, but not knowing if it was built with our money(who am I kidding)or not, is making it hard to really appreciate this piece of art.


May your mum’s Soul Rest In Peace.

EVILFOREST:
LOOK for the nearest TRASH CAN and empty her there
Nowadays Ladies lack Manners.
They NAG at slightest provocation.
If I have my way, NO MAN will ever marry any Lady.

How can a MAN, toil for many years, save up money only to use it to lure a DEVIL home...??
All in the name of marriage....

MEN should rather save up these cash, use such to adopt babies or better still pay off ladies that got pregnant for you.
More so, you can add 2 more wives to the one you already have. This will charge up the entire house, then the competition will start.

We have lost it entirely..

In your mind now, you made sense o.

I hate religion ehn, tufiakwa!

How some women are able to tolerate all this kain rubbish talks weak me, I can't be caught listening to such nonsense, mschew!

You have tried Mr rapist, the other right thing to do here is confess and be saved.

Nigerians sha, while I stand with Busola, I don’t understand why we can’t channel this much energy, into protesting against the government, which has stolen everything from us, this country tire me o.

I never doubted Ese, I know in my gut that useless thief, who calls himself a pastor, is guilty, but this is Nigeria, Justice doesn’t live here.

Make una leave me abeg.

I wonder why God would be interested in what one does with their own private parts, especially by themself, that’s just weird.

Must they look like men? I’ve seen female players from other countries though, why must everything about Africa be awkward? Na wa o!

This one doesn’t even know what her problem is.

DECENCY3:
They were disciplined and Kumuyi almost resigned if not intervention of leaders

See your mouth like they were disciplined. Why did they wed them in the first place? Why didn’t they cancel it like they did this one?

Almost resigned my Nyash. It’s really a pity that these men f00l y’all like this. It’s a shame actually.

These deeper life people stupid eh, tueh!

So how does not joining them solve any issue? Isn’t it better to join them and Kuku have them eat the so called fruit peacefully? They can ask for forgiveness for the one they ate before the meal was done, and life goes on jejely, than allow the resources for the wedding go to waste and they continue supposedly living in sin. I just don’t know how people are able to follow these dumb religious rules/their leaders, and even donate money to such m0rons, I taya o.

luminouz:
Now u are talking. I hope u meet the special type of Nigerian men!

I’m keeping my fingers crossed. Thank you.

BABANGBALI:
I no go even waste my time and ingredients because as I dey look you so na only olden days coins wey no dey useful you go dey produce for me

You no even understand, you no fit see me carry, talk more of to take me go do ritual, see you.

luminouz:
N I'm sure na African man u go marry too...but ion beat women sha o

Well, I kuku know I can’t take rubbish for long sha, so that Nigerian man must be special.

Shut up, blawdy liar. These pastors don’t have conscience walai!

luminouz:
Lol,well,I'm an African man!!

I knew that na, you people are something else, mba kwa o.

BABANGBALI:
walahi to use you do ritual just dey hungry me

You no for succeed na, my head strong pass all of una.

luminouz:
Baby, why in hell will I be angry with you?? U have done me no harm. All I'm saying is,the few stories u read online about men n women issues shouldn't make u think good men n women are scarce out there. There will always be the bad. I try to see the good in people,I suggest u do so too.
You are so passionately invested in this sha!

Who’s talking about the stories I read? I’m telling you things I’ve seen with these my two korokoro eyes, I used to think Nigerian movies was nonsense till I started seeing what they act being played out in real life, hmm! You think I just want to talk abi wetin? My brother Nigerian men have put the fear of God in me, I am utterly scared of them, hoo-ha!

There may be good people o, but my dear they are only a handful and chances are very high that, even if you supposedly marry a “good” Nigerian man, that thing that makes them say ‘I am an African man’ will cause you heartache. I’m not even joking.

luminouz:
Maybe,but I dont think I will openly call someone I married a 'lunatic and an idiot' that's some deep shiit. I know she's hurting sha

If he or she is an idiot then let it b said, just fucking stay away from them is all.

luminouz:
How many have u seen na?? If u have had interactions with a lunatic,I trust u will never type this up there!!!
All these unmarried gehs dishing out advice sef...follow baby124 example biko

C’mon keep quiet there, it’s come to my attention that more than 80% of Nigerian men have one mental disorder or the other, the women have too o, but the ratio of that of men to women, is like 100:1. As in, I shudder at the thought of spending the rest of my life with a nigerian man, I’m telling you the earnest truth.

There’s something seriously wrong with most Nigerian men, if you like vex, I don’t care.

IamAngelEyes:
You are a bloody lair, you work in same place and your pastor introduced another pastor that introduce....that finally introduced.

You mannerless, he insulted you and you insulted him in return, you are lucky he didn't take you as a punching bag, so you expected him to come and pet you after you messed up.

Who did you take from? I'm sure it is not your mother.

The thunder that will fire you will be very unfair my brother. So you call standing up for herself messing up abi? If he can insult her and she didn’t hit him, why can’t she insult him and he doesn’t hit her? See eh, I told myself that I’m now a grown woman and for that reason, I’ll try not to cuss people out so much for their bullshyt anymore, but my brother you just wrote rubbish, talking about “he insulted you and you insulted him back” like what does that even mean? So you don’t know insult hurts women too?

You are a very wicked person, I swear down, nonsense.

Ishilove:
He is not a lunatic. He is a stranger. You married a stranger and now he is doing very strange things.

Trust me when I tell you, chances are, he is indeed a lunatic. You’ll be shocked how many lunatics masquerade as people’s husbands in Nigeria.

I’m ashamed on your behalf, talking about how they begged you, they begged you and you are in your mid 30s o, that doesn’t tell you, you are supposed to be more sensible than ‘they begged me’? I swear I taya for you. So what do you want us to tell you now? Don’t you know you can divorce him? Abeg my friend don’t come and annoy somebody here o.

Mindfulness:
I have read worse from women here under the pretense of I am trying to save Africa.
I don't bother no more. Life will teach them the lessons they need to learn and it will be painful.

Just imagine the nonsense. I seriously don’t understand how these women do it, like how much do you have to not like yourself to put up with all that much rubbish? It’s just really infuriating to say the least.

If only they know how painful it will be, it’s really a pity, mschew!

crackhaus:
*Hissing in Greek*

Nairalanders and their unwarranted obsession with keeping up with the *fill as appropriate*.

Met on NL, married on NL, marital crisis on NL, infidelity with a NL-der(self-proclaimed equality advocate) who already has a child for another NL-der(according to bush radio), fighting on NL, everyone dropping their own version on NL, marriage finally over on NL, I have moved on and have my papers on NL, and so on and so forth...

Una no get social life.

*Hissing in Greek again* x2

Will you keep kwayet.

Waka pass is alllwed if e no interest you, us we can’t do without the juicy amebo