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bignigerian:
Hi guys I have to open an account to let out this story.

My girlfriend of 5 years, she was 18 and I was 23 both students when we met. We have shared everything together, I mean everything u can possibly think of. She told me she can't continue the relationship. That we can't marry each other.

Her reasons
She met 2 pastors who told her we are not compatible with each other. One told her in 2014 and the other in 2016 of which she told me about both of them. But last 3 weeks she broke the ice on the grounds that
1. she needs to choose her husband with all diligence. That her grandmother has 2 husbands, her mum has 2 husbands and she can't thread that path because those pastors told her we shall split if she marries me.
2. She doesn't want me to hear that she got married to someone else.

Her mum doesn't like me and doesn't want me to marry her and recently she is pestering her to marry another man, her Pastor. This man talks with her every time, calls her, gives her and her mother gifts. Well I give them gifts to my capacity too. But pastor is playing son-in-law game well because he (pastor) said God told him that she is his wife. The pastor anyway happened to be a real pastor, I can attest to that, but I can't vouch if his vision is from God or self induced.

But babe told me she has not made up her mind yet and that she didn't break up with me to marry that man. That she will take her time to decide what she will do and maintaining a single status.

We all stay in the same neighborhood, bae is a nairalander too. She will see this and get angry but...
I need matured views on this issue...

Aieboocaar:
if only these Daughters of eve will listen!!!

You automatically take over their father's responsibility once you ask them out

SIRmanjar:
So for the soldier mind im be Ricky martinz

Moreover those people are not ladies they are all little children.All this northern child abuse pipu sef.

horsepower101:
Dear Niger Deltans,
Looking at the changes happening in the world today, the future is very dark for you. My advice to you all is to forget oil and develop your human resources. It is too late to fight for resource control. That window of opportunity has been lost forever. In the coming years, your value to Nigeria will diminish and no one will listen to you. All you will be left with is polluted land and poverty.

BabaCommander:
Could be, but this case is about a constitutional cum universal right..

NwaAmaikpe:



Some women are heartless.
Your husband is dead because you refused to sleep with the policeman.
Now, who were you saving the kpekus for?

I wonder why so much importance is attached to sex.
Sometimes I wish humans were like goats and lizards who shag freely without unnecessary bottlenecks.

#EndSARS.

concupiscent:
"This man shameful, he is really what people say he is, a clueless, weak individual who allowed his government to be hijacked by those he was suppose to preside over. Sir as far as Nigeria politics is concerned you will forever be remembered as failure! failure to yourself and failure to your kind.
I feel your need to romance and gain attention with Wizkid because he is far far greater than you"

-concupiscent

DanseMacabre:
Quite an expository read, but I don't think it answers why Emenalo left.

claremont:
It's the African version of the Koala, but I have forgotten what the actual name is. This particular specie is very common in Nigerian tropical forests, it feeds and lives on bamboo trees. Nothing strange here, go find your witches elsewhere.

Ade2222:
She was right when she said "I don ’t need the man to be very rich , but he must be able to feed himself and me."

ibkkk:
Rightly said.

thorpido:
If you say it's not hereditary, how did you acquire them?

mayorchelsea:
Thought as much. I don't want to believe the deported guys came back with ghana-must-go bags.

sugarbelly4:
hhahahaha

dauddy97:
pls who can help... I want to obtain passport, how will go about it!!

I stay in badagry, Lagos.

omogin:
This is a warning to all you Christian singles having sexual intercourse before marriage. The scriptures warn that you flee sexual immorality. Its for a reason. Be patient, get married before engaging in such. God is wiser than man. Many youths suffering for a very long time or those who are suddenly cut short in their prime, contacted marine spirits through their sexual partners without knowing.

ilovemylife:
I met a guy of 31 through my elder sister, last year February. He started asking me out but because I just came out of a bad relationship, I told him that I am not yet ready to go into a relationship now but he hanged on until August, by then we had become good friends and we started dating.

But three months into the relationship I noticed that my boyfriend has a thing with a lady that stays in the same street with me, a lady I have known all my life cos we grew up together, I confronted him and he told me that it was just a Fling and nothing more, so I told him to please stop whatever he is doing with the girl because we know each other and he promised too. I trusted him to because I can't be going around checking up on a man old enough to take care of himself. So during his birthday this year, he told me the girl called him to wish him happy birthday and asked him hope she will be getting an invite for the party, so he asked me if he should invite her, I told him he can that I don't have a problem with that. So he invited her for the birthday party and she came for the party and my boyfriend introduced me to her as his girlfriend, in that same party my boyfriend gave me the surprise of my life when he asked me to marry him and I accepted.

We are now planning for our traditional wedding which is coming up July but I was shocked to find out that my husband to be is still sleeping with that same girl because I stumble on their whatsapp chat. I feel like my world is crashing before my very eyes, I am so confused, what should I do. I haven't confronted him yet and I am not ready to because I don't want another series of lies and deceit. This is man that has taken very good care of my financial but what of emotional and again it's not all about money for me because I am not going to be a poor wife. Should I walk out of this relationship and cancel the wedding plans? I am so confused now, because if he truly loves me as he claims, he should be able to respect me, another question I wanted to ask him is this, why that lady.

Please nairalanders, what should I do, confront him or what, I have even discussed this with any of my family member. And since this incident I have been very down, so many thought have been crossing my mind.

NB: will be 27 by August

adren:
i stormed on one guy's post asking to be saved from his guilt.. people never took him seriously.. someone went as far as suggesting he cut off his hand (just like wright's mom did on instagram).. NL can make you want to co.mit suicide without killing yourself.... lolssss


to everyone, this might be funny and hilarious but it is a thorn in a masturbator's flesh..

i want to share this solutions because i used to be one prominent member of the "masturbators association of nigeria- MAN" myself ( i was about to be voted as the vice president before i resigned)..

trust me, experience is the best teacher.. some would ask you to pray about it, some would even ask you to give your life to jesus .. bitter truth is, i once saw a painting of the mother of jesus- Mary, i found it sexy and i got a hard-on from it.. i had to masturbate at the next chance i got..

so.. this is about personal issues.. it is a disgrace because you don't wanna be caught by someone else (your prick go calm down instantly)..

enough of the stories.. these are what i did to stop it.. it wasn't easy but i am a living proof..




1. avoid been alone when you feel Hot: boys naturally have high libidos.. except one is impotent.. unless, it is bedtime, you dont wanna be caught left alone.. there is this spirit that pushes you to do it and you would have cvmmed long before u get back to your senses..

the best solution to this is looking for a public place with lots of crowd to interact with..

even the devil cannot give you enough liver needed to masturbate in public places.. go to a football viewing centre, a gaming centre, a bar etc..

2. desist from porn: the last time i masturbated, (30-12-2016).. i was feeling lonely, idle and 'single'.. imagine a 23 year old without a gf!!
so.. i switched to my favourite porn site to watch the only thing that can satisfy my urge and get me so high to think masturbation is the only thing that could get me out of my fantasy..
i masturbated as usual but it was not business as usual..
then i thought to myself 'o boy, is this how you would keep living till the end of your days?? is this how you will continue into 2016?? at 23, you don't want to get a life??

mind if i tell you my readers, that my masturbation act got so bad that i could masturbate in an uncompleted building.. i'd just bend down like i want to defecate but emmmm...

so.. it was the last day i watched porn..

3. drink lots of water and pee everytime: for guys, peeing has a way of suppressing erections..
i need not talk much about this but it is the best and the most proven strategy to help stop it only if you want to..
when you feel that the devil is about to make a workshop out of your hand.. stand up almost immediately and go pee.. force out the pee if it won't come.. it is a sure bet that your joyatick is going to take a chill pill (500mg)..

4. get a girlfriend or pay for a one-night stand/quickie (olosho): this is a long-term solution.. i know myself.. even if i tried to stop masturbating, and i do not find a long term solution to my problem by looking for a "LASWMA" to leave my 'trash' for, my case might end up been like that girl in the bible whose demon was cast out and the demon went to invite seven others..

masturbation has a way of torturing sex freaks.. fortunately for me, i went to a party the first week of 2016 and that was where i met this fine girl.. she is from ondo and they are only second to calabar girls on "baddest nigerian babes list." if such thing exists..




on a final note.. i have only written this to inspire those who are battling with masturbation issues..

i dont know if ladies can utilise my 'tested and trusted' methods but i can use ayilala to swear that this will work for you 100%..

if you are bold enough.. without feeling stigmatised, share how u conquered it.
you would be helping a thousand others who are dying in silence.. and if you want to start stigmatising, think again because your relative is doing that shiiii right now..

and to etc.. this is plagiarism free and not "oyinbo man" recommended.. their ways are different from ours..

hope this helps!!

SamJed:
It is the only sin against the body... 1Cor.6:18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.

Imagine how many people you have been joined with... 1Cor.6:15-16 15 Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! 16 Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.”

But here is the irony... only a man and his wife are supposed to be one flesh... Eph. 5:31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

You think you know the right thing but well you lack sense... Prov. 6:32-33 “He who commits adultery lacks sense; he who does it destroys himself. 33 He will get wounds and dishonor, and his disgrace will not be wiped away.

Well someone will still see this and decide to continue because... Eccl. 8:11 Because sentence against an evil work is not executed speedily, therefore the heart of the sons of men is fully set in them to do evil.

Here is why it seems many people get away with it...but you may not be lucky next time... Eph.4:7 But unto every one of us is given grace according to the measure of the gift of Christ.

But if you can't hold yourself then... 1Cor 7:9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.


If after seeing this you still keep sinning Hebrews 10:26 "For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins,"

I hope I have stopped someone from doing the wrong thing in the name of enjoyment. *In Ben Murray-Bruce voice* I am SamJed and I just want to make common sense.

aaronson:
Assimilate my point before you reply, my point is, he already made it period! If he likes he could own a plant on mars but he started from one and that was when monopoly pushed him through.

A scam artist( yahoo boy) could own lots of investments and properties in the long run but how he started still remains mystery.

ZeezaRapture:
Idiot you are leaving that seat soon