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Anybody, wey no wan soji

Anybody, wey no dey carry body

Nack am something, ah ah

Nack am something

To ba ta fele, fele

Nack am something

JacksonMS:
I have tried forcing myself before but it led to public disgrace

The idea is not to force it but ease into it.

Go at your own pace by starting with small baby steps before you start the long trek.

Get involved not because of the pressure of doing so but because you want to really experience something new.

Sincerely there is no scripted manner of behaving in public. You just have to understand your audience and go with the pace albeit slowly.

Replying to the two posts above. Trying to make people like you is a waste of precious time and really stressful, because at the end of the day you wouldn't know who you are anymore and certainly would not be comfortable with who you are trying to be for them.

Instead, do the things you do best that will make people want to know your person. Building up a relationship, especially in an academic environment is very easy especially if you are the rather brilliant type as people will want to be closer to you(particularly girls). Otherwise, form a relationship with someone that you can easily relate with as there is usually that person in a social group who is quite sensitive and amiable.

We had a direct entry student in my sophomore year in the Uni who was kind of shy with strangers and felt somewhat out of place. I helped in his transition to becoming a full fledged member of our group, and he later became the most radical and paroxysmal person in my class and people liked him. Having someone else ease the tension can be very helpful.

Truthfully, there are levels of introversion. Some people are so in their shell that even you as an introvert will notice. But in the midst of friendly faces you would be very very surprised at their crazy nature. For introverts, because we are more substantive, it takes time to become closer to people. The best thing to do is to recognise a catalyst that hastens this process rather than trying hard to please people.

The more you meet people, the easier it becomes in understanding how to behave in a social setting. Sitting enclosed in your shell will do nothing but create more space where you fall deeper in to your loneliness.

Evey write up I make here reflects my experience hitherto. Although I can call myself an introvert, I'm definitely not a shy person. Some people are really very shy but that should not be mistaken for introversion. Introverts are people who tend to keep their thoughts to themselves while a shy person is naturally timid, fearful, apprehensive, fidgety and easily embarrassed; but this is not always inherently associated with introversion.

That your friend may just need a person to bridge the gap between he and your course mates. Best way to go about this is to introduce him in every discussion while pointing out his good qualities. i.e. he might be a talkative, a funny or smart person or any other thing interesting about his personality, and this will create a platform where he and your course mates can easily interact.

Sholaani:
My trick of keeping conversation with crowd is saying nonsense or talk unintelligently with confidence. Sound funny?

Lol. There are different ways of going about being funny. It all depends on your audience though.

We introverts are extremely sensitive set of people. We react to things that others might wave off as frivolous or unimportant.

It is quite easy for an introvert to adopt a personality because we tend to study people thoroughly even without knowing. But when these copied behaviours don't resonate well with your being, that's when loneliness sets in. Outside, you are cheerful and likable just to fit in, but inside you feel empty.

JacksonMS:
you came to the wrong place, nairaland don't provide help.

My situation is worst and all I got was insults. It's only God that is keeping me alive. I m just tired of my useless life .

Don't generalize bro. Nairalanders are very sensitive to issues regarding depression, it just depends on how you present it as well as in which section of nairaland you do. Meanwhile, the person feeling depressed is yet to talk about the cause of his depression.

Depression, from my experience, comes when one fails to achieve something or when things don't go the way you expect them to; ranging, but not limited to, health, academics, relationship, family, finance, social identification, et cetera. Thus, there is gainsaying in the idea that depression is attributed to one's personality. Having said that, the role of one's personality here is to control the extent to which one can manipulate his emotions.

The period of depression is like that of a roving tempest that ravages you emotionally leaving you spent out. Everything happening during that period is caused by the thoughts in your head. More like you are allowing yourself to get sucked in by those thoughts created by your brain. Rather than trying to fight off these feelings, in my case, I allow them overwhelm me by creating the setting and the things needed to enable me get back up - positive thinking. Positive thinking here is not that in the abstract sense, but the fact that that period is a fizz that will blow off eventually. The truth is that you cannot really fight off or hold off a tempest, you can only lay low while it roves around.

There is always peace and calm after a horrid wind and that is the after state of depression. The post depression state is that of revitalization, understanding, enlightenment, acceptance and moving on. It does not help when one wallows in frustration and self pity with the thought that all hope is lost. As long as there is life there is something to live for, you just have to find..no...choose it.

[quote author=Pierced post=83547002][/quote]OK. I was hoping to trade tho. My Screen or your IC.

Pierced:
Yeah........ I used lg Stylo 2 plus.......2 GB ram........16 GB internal memory....strong battery....... average camera.

Wow. I used the same. unfortunately it crashed. Looking for some replacement
Do you still have yours?

Dathypebruv:
Finally found a space for peeps like me.................
Name's Kae glad to meet y'all
although id Hate to admit it buh I've been silently suffering from depression although not too deep
Sometimes unnecessary mood swings then I'll pick myself back up
buh lately I've been at crossroads one too many times without knowing what next steps to take........

please calm down. what's the cause of your depression. Feel free to share.

FTC
Meanwhile, reading this essay is quite tiring since I don't believe all these are from Buhari. It's like reading some other country's plan since those things don't manifest here.

Well...

skultrick:
I want to ask a question about something that has been bothering me for a while now.

I don't know if this experience of mine is associated with my introverted nature, or something else which is why I've brought it here to know if anyone else is battling with same problem.

Okay, am the guy who's into web development and programming, and ideas are abound (thanks to my introverted nature). I make 6-figures monthly already from my properties online, I've well taught plans to increase this (at least 95% success rate), but the biggest problem I've experience now is that am too lazy to get working on this projects that need my attention.

So, my question to the house is, do you feel overwhelmed with the tasks ahead and prefer to lie down there browsing through the internet, sit down there thinking, reading that interesting story or perhaps find a way to while away time rather than get working on the job?

You only get the best from me when am challenged. I loose interest in everything easily, it has affected my relationship with my lady badly, academics and business.

Please is there any one else here dealing with commitment issues, have you been able to overcome it, and how did you go about it?

Thank you for your time and response.

I have never commented about my nature before cause I don't really like the Idea of labelling my personality, but some of the responses here really got to me, especially this. I know my contribution may be redundant but trust me it's how I feel inside.

Truthfully, I can be quite...no!..very lazy when it comes to task that yield future returns. I try to stimulate myself to achieve or carry out tasks that are ahead of me, but I get bored easily...like...I just get tired of it.

All my academic achievements can be attributed to stimulations from my environment. i.e. I was an ace student during my formative years due to compliments and rewards from my family. First year in the university, I became unmotivated towards academics. It was not until I saw the red line that I got reinforced. I thought this to be quite normal but later found out that I can't be productive without facing a trying situation. Sometimes when I get off my shell, I marvel myself with my imaginative prowess.

I'm an introvert, I know this because I get worn out easily by being too social. I'm a cynic. I dislike purposefully loud people, superficial people, two-faced people, materialistic people.

All in all, you can't see me and know that I am anti-social because I have a concealing mechanism(I'm very funny and it's natural). I hate being what I'm not. example trying to do things to please someone. I hate being taken advantage of(sometimes when I help people, especially girls, you here things like "Theophilous is a gentleman; Theophilous is kind". But I've come to know that being what I'm some people might take advantage of me, so I bring out my inner demon -lol- my alter ego.

I hate moving along with the crowd. I don't give value to superficial things. I don't think I can give off a fake life even if paid, because trying to put another cloak on my inner nature is very weary to say the least .

phewww...a relief. First time sharing a bit of myself. It's refreshing.

TheExecutioner:
They will still have the details and information you gave them during your first application. It will be on their computer records. Like I said earlier, try and communicate with the NIMC customer care service to find out how to resolve the issue. Ask them for their permission before you can try to register a second time.

Yeah. Thank you very much

Yeah. I thought so too. But I was thinking that the new one will feature my BVN therefore marking the difference.

TheExecutioner:
You're welcome. But try and make sure you sort it out, because if you decide to abandon this one and try another registration, it's a criminal offence. I actually witnessed someone being arrested for double registration.

TheExecutioner:
How were you able to register without your BVN? In my own case, I was lucky that I have memorised my own, so when they asked me I just called it out for them.

I think you should try making a complaint to the NIMC customer care service. And make sure you have your BVN when making your complaint.

I asked the attendant and she said it is not an issue.
I'll try ur suggestion. Thanks

Simple reply: run from anything tecno. The Y6 is a flagship product and I tell you Huawei products are superb.

TheExecutioner:
That's funny. I got my tracking slip one week after registration. But I used my BVN in my case.

Bro it's not funny for me o. I don't even know where to start from. I can't engage in online transactions or that of any sort due to this ID card problem. I'll very much appreciate it if you can help share for more info.

Due to issues with my bank I finally decide to register for my National ID card and it's turning out to be a disaster.

Registered 2 months ago and since then I've not been able to collect the second slip that contains the tracking number. Each time I visit the registration office I'm always disappointed with the constant reply "sorry, it is not ready yet". I am almost going crazy with worry.

I registered without my BVN number since I asked the lady attending to me and she said and I quote "there's no issue". Now I'm conflicted. Could it be that mine is not available since I did not register with my BVN or is this a normal thing?

I met someone there with the same predicament, but was unable to speak with him; thus, I know that this is not affecting only me. This is very baffling because I introduced a friend to this same centre and he got his in less than 3 weeks(he registered with his BVN).

Anyone with similar issue?

Please I need information because I want to register again.


mods I need your help.

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mynd44

For those dropping their digits here, beware this thread is owned by a scammer. I got information from funlord that this person has been banned before and has stretched his manipulative schemes here so as to scam more people.

Please, mods look into this.

Mynd44

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lilianofentse:
Ghanaians.

Black dirty skinned Africans,
I prefer Nigerians.

This is very stupid. Then...if you're black skinned and typing this trash, you're daft. You must be a south African cos I don't see the reason a fellow black will be calling another black 'dirty black skinned' in such a hateful way.
Chai. I really feel like spanking some sense into you.
See her mouth like 'I prefer Nigerians'. And so? Should we start to twerk for you.

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