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Realtalk20:
Long story

Was offered a job abroad , work permit and accommodation I had to make some down payments for all . Was alot of 7 figures

Smh I just tire bro

Hit me so hard financially.. I believed I was relocating to start a new job... Based on international work resources

Sold off my assets , gave alot of stuff out like.santa claus

Liquidated everything I owned

Put off my.wedding to my fiancee all in excitement

She warned me and I shouted her down telling her how this was for us and how she didn't want me to go to the next level

I accused her of being selfish and just wanted us to do a wedding when she knew I needed to send money abroad to this company to finish processing

So I put everything into this, allmy savings , our combined funds,wedding money, sold my car , I was believed I was making initial mortgage payments on a home

And paying for fast tracked working permit and all

Look I don't want to remember all this

Omo I nearly commited suicide

She broke up with me after it turned to be a scam we did get back together briefly after some months but it was never the same and we ended it

Life huh?

God knew why he provided woman. Those beings can reason at least those that haven't turned slay mamas.

She saw through the scam.

Alldrinksin9ja:
I lost a 5 months pregnancy i waited 10years to have!!!!
Jan 13, 2019 was a sad day in our lives but not as painful as seeing the salt of my life cry so much!!!!
Father Lord, i worship ur majesty cos no one can question u...

So touching.

telim:
Lost my big bro to hepatitis B. His I don't care attitude and putting much trust on shitty Nigerian doctor cost him his life.

What do you think he could have done differently?

It may not be only about what we lost but helping others avoid such losses will be more helpful. Thanks.

Incrediblepat:
I lost a job that pays me 1.5m - 2m a month
Now I jobless

Nairaland.

Jewingle:
Crypto

You lost money to crypto abi someone duped you through it?

Ayobami7:
无聊的

这不无聊。 他很有道理。

APOPTOSIS:
U get luck Say u no marry witch, by now you for no get HAND to use TYPE.

It's always better the LADY loves you more than you LOVE her.

This is not love, this is extreme jealousy.

Love won't break her husband's phone.

Cheato64:
bro are you married? Women are not easy as you think oooo, how is it my responsibilities, I go to antenatal I see most women if not all coming by themselves.

That's why she's special. You can't compare her to other women.

imiski:
Sit her down and discuss. She may have been a victim of infidelity. Or she is naturally very jealous(this one is incureable)

I understand but by its the issue had f smashing phones I don't. She needs mental evaluation.

Pwettyella:
Hmmm
It's the duty of a husband to take care of his wife

...and the duty of the wife to support her husband.

wany:
And if I may ask how are catering for your Lady, boy don't be deceive she has a side guy picking her bills,only waiting for jungle to mature so that she let go and hang on you fully ,use your brain.
Even at a PhD level you still sound dumb.

No wonder some people are reasoning upside down. Can't she carter for herself while her man gets better?

Making women seem like destitutes that can't survive unless a man carters for them.

I know someone whose wife bore the family responsibility for up to a year, nobody knew until he posted it online appreciating his wife. He got a job afterwards.

Khalidase83:
The wedding is not even the issue here boss. How do you, after wedding, feed yourself, ur wife, pay rent, plan for incoming baby, send money to both parents,etc on a salary of #30k ?

I am happy you agreed that the wedding issue has been settled.

That means these other points can equally be settled.

Once there's a will, there's a way!

lilwetdick:
nigger you are confused..first you wrote he should cook at home now you are saying he should eat outside.

You are the one confused jumping up and down quoting without allowing your brain to boot.

Khalidase83:
Nonsense! An average wedding cost nothing less than #500k unto manage manage, so when ur #30 k go reach that amount. If u gat to eat, cloth, transport, data etc from the #30k, Bros wetin go remain Let alone save for marriage. Conclusively, it is tantamount to suicide to contemplate marriage on a salary of #30k.

Do lowkey wedding. Finish wedding and share rice and pure water if you want or dash Pastor wine to do church blessing. That's the cheapest.

urchcoded:
I've tried dis stuff. But see d problem is first the distance is not trekkable. It's really far. Secondly on feeding. Trust me buying cooked food is more economical. I live with someone and if I cook I'll be cooking for him and his brother and I'm d one squatting so I can't be stingy with cooked food. So I beta eat out. And dia are oda expenses. Buying little tins like soap, paste, paying for a haircut, and all dos small small yeye tins. Plus if a kid or someone begs me for 1h dat Kain tin. I won't say no.
So 25k no fit abeg.

Buying cooked food is where the money is going.

Even if you decide to eat twice a day @ #300/plate making it #600 daily multiplied by 30 days.

That's #18 000, not counting the times you will cook food or want to eat 3X.

Check again. 1 thing is certain. Bulk of that money is spent on food and drinks assuming you drink.

I understand it might not be enough but better to work with what's a available while praying for something better.

superability:
Oga don't misquote the Bible sir....
Inheritance here is not just money based young man. A good name can solve ur problems for life....
And who told u God can't improve their salary scale... Sometimes u will have to deep ur legs into the sea before it begins to part way... Case study the Israelites and the red Sea... Dem put their legs for water before the water begin separate fa...

I'm not saying any Tom Dick and Harry earning 30k or less should go and marry o...

My spiritual dad and a teacher married with less than 20k and the money the man is earning now is out of this world... No go imitate person wey take the risk o... U go just die throway...

The basic thing here is for u to know wat u want and wat God is saying, then u are good to go... The lady should have counted the cost before acceptance...

Mr. Lilwetdick, ur dad is not the man marrying the guy and neither are u... If ur sis is willing to pass through that stress, who are u to stop her? The highest u can do is advice her.... Testimonies abound about people who took that road and they see doing fine now...
To me I can't marry with the amount unless God is totally behind me though.

A lady knows a guy who has the potential to break records... Fear ladies o... They have spiritual eyes o... Just that few of them no wan suffer for sometime...

Exactly. Girls once they look at you and interact with you. They can draw a map to your future.


They are wonderful creatures. I don't mean the slay mamas though. They belong to another planet.

urchcoded:
not really. It's just 70 naira to my workplace. and I go to work only 4 days a week

If you take bike, you can walk a short distance to pay #50 or trek to school sometimes. @ #70 I believe school is trekable.

For food, a tin of local rice is #700 which can last for 2 weeks, cook it with pepe onion #50 and power oil #50, beans is #50 a cup, yam #500.
Foufou is #50, you can cook #1000 soup.

Economically you can cope.

Hairdo666:
Loud it!!! I'll not even be married if I earned 30k. Talk less of marrying someone that earns same. Many nairalanders like to come here with their "pity me" bullshit. "Ladies, its not about the money" always forcing broke men on women! Trash thread

Nobody is forcing no one on anyone but by the time cobwebs...

Mires:
Come and rent my landlord self contain in ph for 270k

Is selfcon in PH #270 000? Let's quit the jokes.

ufondunenye:
Thats like almost 4times of my salary.
I will think about it thrice.


Modify.....
Did I just say 4times?
Five times!!!!
The thing is that everyone knows their levels.
Chikena!!

We were discussing a topic on #30 000 and you said that's 5 times your salary.

Simple arithmetic

#6000 x 5 = #30 000

So what are you saying?

urchcoded:
I'm single and earning 25k. Some days I go without breakfast but the 25k has never lasted to 31st of d month. How can u be earning 30k and have a girlfriend talkless of wife?

Seems you live far from your work place?

urchcoded:
I'm single and earning 25k. Some days I go without breakfast but the 25k has never lasted to 31st of d month. How can u be earning 30k and have a girlfriend talkless of wife?

Which state? I can help you plan your expenditure.

ufondunenye:
Thats like almost 4times of my salary.
I will think about it thrice.


Modify.....
Did I just say 4times?
Five times!!!!
The thing is that everyone knows their levels.
Chikena!!

What work pays you #6000 monthly?

lilwetdick:
man i am not living in poverty

i will use this bible passage to illustrate my condition

Proverbs 13:22: “A good man leaves an inheritance to his children's children.

By your analysis, Sani Abacha was a good man because he left inheritance for them.

This topic can never be exhausted but nevertheless let me correct an impression.

The poor will always be there in this world. Are you now saying that they should not procreate.

The thought alone places you shoulder to shoulder with 'Hitler' who gased the Jews and tried to dominate the world.

currentprice:
only if you will stick to the rules of given free alert here and not diverting newbies attentions to whatsapp group

No problem.

Let's go make the dollars.

lilwetdick:
17k with 2 kids and proper planning..

father, mother and 2 kids = 4 mouth

17k to take care of 4 mouth monthly...

17k/30 days=567 naira daily for 4 mouth

this is impossible

You can solve maths for Africa yet forgetting to include wife's salary.

Babaheekmat:
Am earning less than 20k. So, I won't marry abi.. I need wife too..

Don't mind them joor. Just make sure your woman is working too.

lilwetdick:
but this is poverty.

Is it your poverty?

lilwetdick:
100k with career growth..that is the man ready for marriage.

100k monthly...1.2 million annually also career growth.....opportunity to earn more in 3-4 years.

So no marriage for those earning below #100 000?

You try.

RisenPhoenix:
Op. This your message will just enter one ear and exit through the opposite ear of any NL woman without tarrying one second. Did you see any NL woman on that thread stating that she will marry a N30k per month gateman? Lol. Men earning N30k have their own levels. Don't worry, they will see wife; a woman whose father is earning N10k monthly.

Do you know that you are wicked?

lilwetdick:
a man with vision and focus wont be earning 30k. i believe in spousal support, both couples should work, combine income but 30k is nothing

how will this 30k earner pay for rent before they marry, who is bringing whom to the house, the man or the woman.

You are talking as if you live in space.

They can start with self con then rent a 2 bedroom flat later on.

If the man earns #30 000 and wife earns #45 000.
Its #75 000 monthly which will carry them comfortably provided there's love and understanding.

Its better to soak garri where there's peace than to eat chicken not knowing where and when the next slap will come from.