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Ok, on my way to go and chop rice! Knock, knock, oya serve me the rice sharp, sharp make I do dey go

hispinkolo:
@Fynbabe
Thanks love.My dear,I just gained one more step towards my dream job.Remains one to seal the deal
I guess family is family true true.My moment of epiphany has passed,it's back to bizniz as usual.
Rice plenty,Abeg come chop!

Ijeoma2728,
Thanks you,advise noted.
I'm back to status quo..facing front.
My expectation days ended this year
Cheers!

You see.... Truth is, only a few in laws can act like your own family. Thank God you reconfirmed again. What's the good news na? Make I come chop rice . Congrats, dear! It is well with you.

hispinkolo:
@Fynbabe,
Thanks for that..you are very correct.

You won't believe what just happened now sef.I just got very very good news now,something that has been weighing me down just went through.She had been quite supportive while i was down in the dumps..calling etc and that's majorly what made me ask you guys if i should relent..So as the thing went through now now,I called my family and they were jumping and shouting.Even my Dad was overwhelmed with joy.I called her,she was sooo cold about it,lacklustre and even scolded me for being worried and depressed about it.Asking me why i was then making everyone so depressed,that i should go and thank God(not in a good way).This is a stark contrast from my family.She couldn't even get herself to rejoice

My deeeaarrrr,God has answered the question I put up this morning.!MY FACE SQUARELY INFRONT!!!! can't be giving people opportunity to hurt me!!
It is well!

Congrats@breadplanets!!! Happy for you

@ Hispinkolo, I would suggest you continue with your'face front' o. For me it's once beaten, forever shy. Trust me, you won't want to go back to what you have already successfully dealt with. Continue to be nice to them but they should know it would NEVER be business as usual. Get her everything she would be needing for christmas, call as often as you can and leave the matter as it is. Obviously, she has learnt her lessons but you can never be too sure. There's no better judge than one's conscience.

Ok. Thanks.

kcprince:
Author is T.L Osburn

Please, who is the author of the book?

kcprince:
@all thanks for all the encouraging words and testimonies. Its not easy going through trials and temptation. You tend to fall into the wrong hands because of being despirate for a solution. We are all lucky to have found this thread, at least some tricks of the devil and false prophets have been exposed. Please Be careful about pastors that ask you for money to do deliverance.

I am among those booked for deliverance this month. My case is a case of my Glory being tampered with thereby hindering blessings. On my first visit to CCT i saw a transformation in my prayer life. Before, once i hear "let us pray" sleep go just enter me from no where or i would feel weak to pray or the devil would make my schedule seem so tight that i cant spare 5mins for prayer. Eventually when you begin your day without the necessary prayer you end up acheving nothing. Now i can pray as much as 1hr and christian songs now gladen my heart unlike before when i would skip the track if its a christian song.

God really exist and nobody can convince me he doesnt. I used to remember the things devil used to tell me to convert me to his side but God rescued me through this thread.

May God Grant the wishes of everybody in this thread in jesus name.

I would like to recommend a book called "Faith speaks" I am currently using it to build my faith so that no situation can make me fear anymore because the biggest tool of the devil is fear.

This is good news! So happy for mother and daughter.

Yes, we rule the world

Odilafta:
It's indeed a womans world

You are the same as Fxwarrior. The same person with two different monikers talking thrash.

jayedu108:
chai see d woman way I won go pay her bride price nextweek nah she dey swear person head jezz he be like say I go retrace ma step wait make I consult ma oracles I dey come!

Some people asked you to come up with a list as to how a mother of two would manage 50k a month, you told them @ your convenience. You don't have time to draw up a list but you have been online talking thrash since morning. Come up with that list, we are waiting!

Why are you still qouting me? You said I should quote you and I did, shame don catch you abi? All the females in your poverty stricken family are as unintelligent as you are.

Fxwarrior:
You are not that intelligent. So where did I say it will last for 1 month? Does it even look sensible to you that 200naira fish will last for 1 month?

I'm done here abeg!

You forget? Na you I borrow na! Mtchew!

jayedu108:
Are sure u are married or nah borrow marriage u do cos u dnt sound like one dear!

Here!

Fxwarrior:
You can buy fish for 200naira.cook it and use it.

Who is this one? Who told you I'm still single?btw, I can't remember addressing you in any of my posts. I'm sure you missed your way, check the next route.

jayedu108:
stop ranting and listen to the words of wisdom it will be of great benefit to u when u get married so u can be able to manage ur family financially and orda wise!

You are the dumbest man ever! Na only you sabi calculate? Didn't you say somewhere that she should buy 200 naira fish and cook it? Are we not discussing monthly expenses? Or maybe you think I have a very short memory like you. Pleasse, don't quote me again. We obviously don't reason alike. My very first post you quoted was not even directed @ you, you took over it because you feel you are the only man who knows the prices of all food items in the market. Stay in your lane, biko.

Fxwarrior:
Are you this dumb?

You and who were calculating 200 naira fish for 1 month? Better go and pack your clothes where you spread it.

Thank God everything I wrote is still available for scrutiny.

I don laugh tire.

Sophyrocks:
That kind of man hides money to count it first when he wants to give you and will ask you for change. He must quarrel b4 he releases money o. He will count all the foodstuffs and calculate how long it will last for a month cup by cup.

My dear, we are calculating on monthly basis and he said 200 naira fish. Haba! Is that realistic to you? Na wa o!

GetUmad:
I totally understand your points. Every bits of it. 50k could be enough if she's clever in resourcefulness just like you. However, truth is there are some months that 50k won't just be enough, no matter how careful she tryna get. I guess you're still single(not married i mean), you'd agree with me sometimes we tend to helplessly go above board with our spending. Thats said, i believe the woman in question is living "my hubby dey yankee" lifestyle.
For crying out loud, that 50k is some people's monthly salary here in Nigeria and they also have kids who you would never categorize as "ajepako". No amount can be too small or too much for upkeep regardless of number of kids involved. It all depends on your kinda person.
She should get a job to ease it off abeg.
FX, it seems you're an Economist. I would really want to see from you a detailed list of how 50k can be wisely utilised by mother of two in a month. You may help some spendthrift to a change of heart.


What's wrong with 200naira fish? If thats what she can comfortably afford, why can't she make do with that instead of lamenting. Who's gonna know how much fish is in her soup? Pls you ladies should learn to cut your cloth to your size. The mistake bunch of our ladies out there make is they see marriage as competition, always wanting to outdo themselves. The guy may be out there hustling day and night in unfavorable conditions just to make ends meet. Lets learn to be supportive partners.

That is ehn, I will run for my life without looking back. 200 naira fish kind of man! Tufiakwa!

Sophyrocks:


Fear any man who rations like that o. Chai! Total turn off!!.

God will surely give him his kind of woman if not, na wrestling things sure pass

Jahblessme:
@Fynbabe,
I'm just a bit shocked at all the extreme rationing.
So let's say a bag of rice is to last 1 month,they have to eat a particular amount per day. If by mistake d kid wants extra nko?
No mother would be this stingy to her child if not forced to by poverty.

Hope people marry people who reason like them if not ehhhh the home will be wrestling ground.

Bwahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

Jahblessme:
Wash bom bom with water,what's the point in using hard tissue?

Instead of wasting money on perfume,rub powder under tthe armpit.

No need for Vaseline,palm oil is a good supplement.

Don't bother with toothpaste or toothbrush.. Go outside break a branch off a tree.Modified chewing stick.

Leaves as nappies

In case you are on your period,use cotton wool or the jumbo tissue or Nigerian wax.

Pap as snacks for the kids.What other ridiculous thing?

All mothers please try and get jobs or run a biz in case you fall into the hands of an aka aradite.That way,you can give your kids the best possible life out of what you can afford.

My respect to all hustling mothers who do everything to see their kids are comfy.

@fxwarrior, how about refilling gas or buying kerosine? Abi you go enter forest go fetch firewood for them .

I haf die o! Chei! You must be a comedian

Jahblessme:
Okokobioooko!
Growing up must have been hard,yikes!
I can imagine all the rationing.
Pesin wey marry this one don enter one chance o!no room to manouvre .I can imagine him going to d market with that black hard bag,wearing his dunlop slippers and haggling bitterly with the garri seller,chewing stick in mouth.
This kain house ehhh there must be Special ruler to measure yam,maggi counted one by one to last for 2 years.4 people to one egg and ofcourse no eating of meat.Okirika clothes forever.
Reminds me of osuofia film 'calculator'.
It is well..

Madam if your hubby isn't giving enough better find a way to supplement. Get busy! You don't want your kids to end up like ..
Its good to be prudent but at the rate some are going,fear De catch me

This over calculating I can understand in someone who is extremely poor and has no other option
Kaiii OWU NA BASTAD!

His mentality is not something I can cope with @ all. I pray he gets a wife that understands him. A wife that would drink borehole water without complaining.

babeline:
Thank you! Its all about quality not quantity. The guy dsnt get it. Let him have his own kids first

I give up! You are a complete waste of time.

Fxwarrior:
For you to mention water , why not salt and maggi.
If I get 200naira salt for them and 500naira maggi. They can't finish it in 2 months.

There's more to it which she hasn't said yet.You can't lie to your doctor, counsellor or pastor if you want a breakthrough.

Don't mind him! How can that money be enough for three people in a month? It's not even like the husband sens some mojor things down for them. From major to minor, she has to work around 50k. I don't even want to argue further.

ireneidiva:
Why do you keep making refences to your parents of those days? Why don't you marry your parents then? Fyi most of all this parents you are making refrence to actually used all these things. Their time has passed so you better start getting used to the 21st century! Jeez!

Fxwarrior, who buys the rice, yam, beans, garri, fish, palm oil, v.oil, drinking water, dstv subscription? Who? Abi you don't know its the same 50k that would do all these? Please, you must not comment if you don't know how these things work. Experienced people are telling you this money is small and yor still insisting on what you know nothing about. We are talking qaulity not quantity abeg.

It is obvious you know everything. Did you say 5k can cook soup for one month? With or without meat/fish or what? Its so easy for you to say because you are a man and I'm sure you don't go to the market. Abeg, I don't have energy 4 arguement this morning joor. When you marry, give her 10k for 2months and even expect some change self. Women enter marriage without know what it is? Na your future wife I pity pass. What a mentality!quote author=Fxwarrior post=27244763]

Verily verily I say unto you that family cannot finish a 50kg bag of rice in 3 months.
Oh you even know about buying food in bulk?
A 50kg bag of rice shouldn't be more than 15k depending on brand. Like I said before 5k is more than enough to cook soup for 1 month.
As for children not liking what you give them, it simply means they are not hungry or you are too soft. I have seen where my sister-in-law is feeding my nephew. The little boy will be crying and she will be stucking pap into his mouth notwithstanding.He didn't die, on the contrary he grew fatter as a result of the feeding.
As for snacks you simply fry yam or prepare something and put in their food flasks. I haven't seen anybody that died for not taking snacks. Our parents knew nothing about snacks in their times. If you must buy snacks buy it say a carton of biscuit will last for a term besides all these sugary tins are not good for kids.

Its a pity most women these days enter marriage knowing little or nothing.[/quote]

helen4:
My hubby is so annoying when it comes to arguement cos he will never loose to you, even the obvious ones. Imagine hubby arguing that weavon is the same thing as braids. Men and their dangerous ego.

Wasteful? You are kidding, right? Infact, I commend her. She's a very good manager. I have been wondering how she does it with 50k monthly. Children are not adults o! There are times you cook and what they want is something else. What about snacks and buying the food stuff in bulk? Some of these government workers you mentioned have customers for almost all household items where they can take things on credit pending when they get paid. (My neighbour told me this) Like I said, if its just one child and she's complaining, I would say she's a careless spender but not in this case.

ukandi1:
u must be a seer.
Exactly my anger as well... 70% of Nigerians earn less than 50k a month, check this with those in d payroll of most state governments and federal establishments. So how do these people survive?
She is wasteful

Exclusive of house rent and fees. Feeding and all other expenses for a whole month.

peggykorol:
50k house rent and fees inclusive
Shebi she dey find abroad husband
She don get am now

Exactly my thoughts too. It can never be enough with two kidS abeg. If she had just one kid, managable.

Lumpyy:
Wow,am disaapntd wt ds replies oo,y are people being unrealistic here?are d women seriously sayin ds things too?for her hubby to be in america it means de live atlst an average life,she has 2kids for cryin out loud,she maintains d house too,its nt lyk d hubby is arnd to buy petrok some days,how many days can 1k fuel go ds days?now my baby takes ogi and i buy SMA mayb 2x a month,im a very careful spender too and my hubby is home too,i spend way more dn 50k a month,shey na 10k she go take go markt for a month?pls lets think well befor we judge oo!

Ok! I agree, all women love money more than attention.

tintingz:
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