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@crackhaus, why should the man be given pocket money by the wife?

My problem is the man taking without permission o!
I can never take my husband's money without telling him first, it's not nice.

crackhaus:
Have you forgotten the saying "my husband's money is our money, while my money is my money..."



Ahh no need to look far, see one of them here sef..

She should give him pocket money?
Why? Does the man not have a source of income?

amtaken:
Keep hiding your money dear, that's the best solution for now. Give him pocket money once in a while too.

I am equally waiting for the chapter and verse.
The earlier people realise they can not help God, the better.

jmoore:
Bros, which version of the bible is that? Give me the Chapter and verse.

A1 all the way.
The man try no be small
I plan to surprise him with a gift this year just to show how much I appreciate him.
Daddy, you are the best!

Yes o!

Acidosis:
really? I'm glad you forgot the worries and anger

How come you guys all suddenly became comedians on NairaLand this evening.
Lol @ TomTom
Abeg, I no fit laugh again!

DipoDee:
Missempress... pls lack of money is not the only sign of poverty.. You man is TOTALLY poor coz you may be broke but really HAPPY in your relationship; so his own poverty is more than meets the eyes.
A boyfriend that can't pay your Tee-fare has spiritual issues and if truly, he hasn't gotten you a single gift before (not even TomTom) then you need to put your life in perspective and don't assume that he will change.

He will get money and still make your life miserable, pls don't play games with your future and your happiness. We court to have a taste of what we will live with for life so if you think you can stand your boyfriend's attitude forever, you can stay with him. It all boils down to what you want anyway.

Funny people every where!
Thanks for making me forget my sorrow
Person been make me vex but as I read your post ehn, I no even know when I burst laugh.

rolled:
Man when nor won spend nor dey look woman
Run for your life
That's how I thought I could change my hubby
Now am depressed,sad,confused,quarrel everyday
My own even get serious mouth odor join
To buy clothes for himself na problem
Imagine someone dey wear green shoe and pink shirt
I don die
Everyday I dey pity my life

:DYour post describing that Ijebu man made me laugh so hard that I even forgot I was angry self.

Acidosis:
ahahahahahaha

Your hubby is s e xy

I agree with you completely!
If she ever makes the mistake of marrying this guy, she will never be happy because I don't see the guy changing any time soon.

Bisjosh:
His problem is not poverty. He's just irresponsible, stingy and archaic.

When u love someone, unknowingly u pay for some things. Did u read where d lady said she got gifts for him but he never did? (not even 500 recharge card haba!)it's just mere instincts to do so!

Poverty doesn't make u stingy. Whether rich or poor, if ur stingy ur stingy. The responsibility of ur marriage will be on u(children sch fees, hse rent etc)

And to cap it all, you're not of the same orientation,exposure and status. This will continually embarrass or limit u

My advice is this: have a deep discussion with him, watch for a month. If he doesn't change pls let him go.
You are a hardworking woman hence need a man that is compatible and would complement u.

Cc lalasticlala seun ati bebe lo

OMG! Which cave did you crawl out from?
I pity that your girl no be small!
Orisirisi.

donpata:
I knw i will be bashed. Still yet, i no sen. Someone reminded me that this is 21st century; of coz, it is. Thats y marriages struggle to last this days. These are little spices that add beauty to marriages.. My girl does it and the day she 4gets, d kind eye i go look her go make her apologize sharply. Trust me, it's fun. I never meant she shld hit her knee on d ground but just bend am low a bit. many bashing me grew to c their mums doing it. Guys bashing me, una miss Road

Ok. No, it wasn't me.
I will get back to you soon.
Thanks.

byvan03:
Merry Xmas dear, sure. Are u the lady I was talking with about an hour ago?

Pls, do u still have waist trainers?
Compliments of the season!

byvan03:
Merry Christmas people .

Are you my husband? You sound so much like him.
He told me exactly all these when we newly married and I was complaining of been neglected at home.
All men must be the same when it comes to this!

raumdeuter:
There are many things that make a person not just being married. Most women are actually self centered.

The guy was that way before he married, He had other things that made him happy. After work, A guy has to probably prepare for more professional exams, higher education, weekly Chess or Tennis clubs games, have weekly bible studies to attend, have Saturdays dedicated to football to watch, Maybe goes to the gym 2 hrs for 3 days a week. These are the things that make him who he is for her to desire a marital union with him but as soon as he gets married, he has to drop all those and just stay watching the eyes of the wife.

Its usually with girls who have no social life and nothing going for them hoping to dump all their emotional burden on the man post marriage

Even Zukerberg or Obama you think they dont have other things they do with their lives? If sitting down to stare at the faces of their spouse is what makes them who they are today. You think Obama made the connections to be popular in Politics and become a president by staring at Michelle's eyes day and night? Do you know how many round the clock meeting he had to do, how much networking he had to do, how much hanging out with colleagues he had to do. The guy was even a community organiser which means endless meetings here and there

Those men that became Bank MD, that became partners in their firms that became succesful people do you think they made it by sitting down at home all day starring at their wifes face? Yet na the same wife would tell him after a few years that why isnt he succcesful like Mr A and B.

If you know how many business deals are completed at the typical Boys night club hangout, Golf course or Tennis club

Which man became succesful in life by sitting at home all day looking at his wifes face day and night. Am sure if he does that. the same woman would tell him to go and be a man and not just sit at home

Why isnt the man forcing the wife to be in his own image rather its the women always looking to change their husband

Let her go ahead and get that someone real quick so both of their lives wont be miserable. The guy is sad because the wife doesnt want him to be who he is, the wife is sad because the husband isnt who she wants him to be
Rather than have 2 unhappy people she should serve him divorce papers and go pursue her happiness

I laughed so hard @ your post because it is so, so true.

asuustrike2009:
And more will keep coming till you get tired of using them. Ask Sagem and Motorola where they are now

Peachafique1, it is obvious that jennylov is a hardened criminal (no apology).
If you are a christain, I will advice you take it to God in prayer (midnight) using psalms 94:1.
A lot of people have testified after using that psalm to pray.
What we can't handle physically, we handle spiritually.
Let the God of vengeance take over this matter and let's see who wins.

Jennylov, so you are not a woman of your words eh kwa?
How do you even sleep at night knowing that you stole someone's sweat and the person is probably crying to God every night and even cursing your generation unborn?
I'm sure in future when things don't work for u, u will say God is unfair forgetting that you actually attracted curses to yourself because of your love for quick riches.
Pls, if you want to continue scamming as a way of life, don't bring children into this world to share in the curses. I have seen where children suffer for what they practically knew nothing about(sins of the father/mother) and it is exactly what you are doing.
As you no fear human being again, make you try fear God small nau.

Here goes....
I have always hated pains and the moment I discovered I was pregnant, I started reading anything and everything about pregnancy and delivery.

The day finally arrived and we got to the hospital so early because my water broke first.
I was gisting and laughing because the pain was not much and just like Phema, I said 'is this the pain I have been so scared of?'
I never knew that I had not entered into real labour. And I was busy calling the doctor to come and check that my baby will soon be out. The doctors hand was so big. Every time he put his hand to check, I would close my legs. This made it so difficult for them to know how many cm I had dilated and the doctor had to scream at me at the fourth attempt to allow him check. When the real thing hold my waist ehn, nobody told me o!
Everybody and everything around me started irritating me.

I screamed that hospital down that day so tey the nurses and some other persons there started praying on my behalf because I couldn't even pray. I was sreaming 'Jesus come and help me'. I even asked for epidural, they told me it slows down labour. To cap it up, I had to be induced because I was on 4cm for hours and I became sleepy. I told the nurses I wanted to sleep and they said I could go ahead. I relaxed to sleep but the next round of pain was out of this world. I can't describe it.

They say when you see your baby you forget the pain and want to have another one immediately, na lie o! I just can't forget that pain.

To born plenty children no be my calling o! My daughter don reach to get brother but make I dey reason the thing first. Mbanu, that pain no be here o!

Obviously, she don dey do people this kain thing since. This one just hook her neck.
If na me ehn, I will make sure she vomits it.

Idowuogbo:
Na this nonsense dey vex me i swear! Idiotic thing!

Please, make sure you find her and get her arrested.
I can see she's unrepentant in her posts.
Even if it means spending all the money she owes you on police case, do it.
I hate her guts and I like to teach people like her lessons they will not forget in a hurry so they will become humble by force.
Obviously, she has done exactly same to some others.
Some people get mind sha!
You hold wetin no be your own, come dey add threat on top.

peachafrique1:
Send me my money, I don't want useless rags from u

Hello! Will you stop being proud and do the right thing?
You have her money and still have the guts to address her this way? Damn! Maybe you actually intended to chop her money?
Why do people not have conscience these days self.
What boldness!
I am so pissed right now.
Some of you don't just have the fear of God.

Jennylov:
tenny don't push me.if u do.I wol be very sorry.I have had enough of your insult here.if u push me I swear to God u can do what u like.I'm now dancing to ur turn.I'm not foolish. don't call me names I'm not a thief or scammer.if push me your bale and your money.u won't see it.I swear to God.so let's behave matutelyhere.

Thanks for this.

SAMBARRY:
I've broken it down before let me down again


parlour Parry means small party. The child doesn't have to invite all his classmates in school and Sunday school class. Tell him to just invite 3 of his close friends in class
3of his close friends in the neighbourhood and 3of his close friends in church making 9 children


there are affordable low price cakes. Find one struggling caterer you can tell to bake you better cake of not more than 5k.at most 7k



rice of 8 derica is ok . One derica is 200 naira, so making it 200naira x 8 cups is1600 naira.


tomato 400 naira, pepper 200 naira is ok then 100 naira onions, 50naira Maggi, thyme of 80 naira making it 830naira then buy 2kilo of turkey. A kilo is 800 naira so 2 will be 1600 naira




photographs shouldn't be more than 2k

A pack of plastic coke is 2k.mix it with fanta another 2k making it 4k.no need for dj.na parlour party. Just make the environment children friendly and put children music on


those that want to play video game should go to another section of the sitting room

No need to buy water. Water is in the dispenser near the dinning table. Any child that wants water should indicate


then pack of sweet is 400 naira

Big bowl of ice cream is 1500 just pour some inside small plastic cups for them


decorate the sitting room with balloons. Just buy 150 naira balloons


calculate all that money and tell me if e reach 10k talk more of 40k


.you people just believe that if you've not done a big party for kids you've not done anything


souvenirs too shouldn't be too expensive. Inside the souvenir will be exercise book of 100 naira. Put 3sweet and 3chewing gum. Buy sweet of 3 ten naira and chewing gum 10 naira making it 20 naira. Put eraser 5m 30 naira and pencil 10 naira inside the souvenir small nylon as take away for 9 kids lobatan

Madam, to be honest the money won't be enough. As per 1st birthday o!
If you intend to invite people, you will have to increase the money a little or leave the celebration till he is two. This will enable save towards it.
These are the major things you will need the money for: meat, cake, pictures, drinks for children and adults and at least a little thing for the kids to take home.
I don't know how many people you will be inviting sha.
Or you can make it just you, your husband and a few family members and just share cake and drinks for neighbours and tell them you did very small, that next year you will celebrate and invite them.
This is how I see it.
All the best!

Ronie24:
Hello Fellow mothers in d haus, am a mother of one. I jst wanna knw if 40k is enough for my son's first bday. As a middle class couple, we can only afford dat amount tho I don't want loud celebratn bt I want a perfect one for my boy.

I jst don't knw if it will be enough. I nid ur opinion on this pls. Thank U

Ok o!
Help us break the 40k down let's see how it covers everything na.
Me, I wan learn too against my daughter's next birthday.
It would be nice to save some cash, u know.

mrwonlasewonie:
I said small parlour Parry you this bush woman



you never go parlour Parry Oya come let me take you out to a children's parlour party of not more than 10kidd

Haba! The money won't be enought if she plans inviting people o!

Did you include meat in that budget @ all?
Those that would be invited will be taken there by their parents now, that means the parents mouth suppose join for the food too.

In fact, cake alone go chop like 15k self (about 15 or 16 inch).

The best she can get with that amount is to celebrate it in the child's school. It will be cheaper because most schools don't alow cooked food, she will use the money for that on party bags for the kids.

mrwonlasewonie:
Op it is more than enough.

You can also do a small parlour party and have him and invite his friends


let me even help you manage your money

photographs should not be more than 2k at most 2,500


you don't need dj just get a music player with speakers and some music cds



2crates of soft drinks is enough
a bag of table water


and food shouldn't be more than 20k.cake of 5k is ok. Then decorate the house yourself party tide niyen

Include your source now abi is it your story?

Why can't you remain in your husband's house and communicate with your family on phone?
Labour will not just start without giving you signs.
When you sense you are in labour, you put a call across to your people.
That dream was just a revelation as to what is about to happen, no need to be scared.
Have you agreed already that she should come over?

My dear, it took me some time to know that was his own way of saying sorry.

MrsAnyanwu:
isn't it nyz marrying someone dat understands u...

I already voted for someone else.
Is it possible to vote twice?

Victoriousvic:
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