Once I end a relationship, there's no going back!
I just can't go back for any reason.

NairalandSARS, I don't do PMs' please. Is there any thing you want me to do for you?

Hmmmm! It will be alright.
Don't forget to save all those threat messages o! You may need them some day.
You can as well block him on all your social media handles for now until you guys conclude your case.
My prayer for you is that, if your husband is being spiritually manipulated, the God that can do all things should step in speedily!

Juzzybabe:


Trust me I am very willing to grant him divorce but his condition is divorce + custody. I have been suffering alone raising this kid as a single mother which I never wish for myself. You need to see the petition he filed, so full of lies. He even send me threatening messages and call me to send him the ring and marriage certificate via DHL and assume we are divorced but I could not accept that as it was never the right way. Now out of the blues he wants to claim a child he has no love for but just to hurt me... not while am alive!

Juzzybabe, are you still on this matter?
You should have granted him the divorce since you were equally no longer interested in the marriage. On what grounds is he demanding for the custody of the child?
I am not a lawyer but I doubt if any court of law will grant him custody because the child is too small.
Please, grant his divorce wish and get it behind you.
May heaven give you all the strength that you need at this time.

Hmmmm! May God help you.

Emioga:
exactly what my sister said but I actually know why I have been living in fear why I haven't left, it's because I depend on him financially and my family is not ready to interfere cos they told me not to marry him and they fear him like mad. So I keep on being strong and hope I don't die in the office of "Mrs"

Abeg, no vex o! Must you remain married to your husband?
Can't you give him a little space for your sanity abi you want to die a 'MRS'?
Please leave that toxic environment for now.

Emioga:
am trying but it is getting worse. Yours is even better, they don't stay with you. They will abuse me to my face and smile when they see my husband. If cum report to hubby na bashing from him o

Bros, I think she likes you but taking her time to ensure it is not another mistake.
Pls, stop rushing her. She will come around.
Don't call her very often again and see how it goes.
May God grant your heart desire.

Loveprotocol:
Thanks everyone for your frank and honest opinions and advices, I really appreciate you all. Now, here's a new development, she just called me now again, saying she didn't hear me on air today (cos I anchor one of the most popular political and current affairs breakfast programme on radio in a station in the South West). I reminded her I was not feeling fine and she said she never knew or heard the other time she called which was last week, that I was sick. So she sounded concerned and was asking me the nature of my sickness and all. She promised to call regularly to check on me. Now what do you all think?

TV01, are you sure you are a man or a woman claiming to be a man on NL?
How can a man be so petty, why?
I always read your posts silently but I just decided to address you today.
Most men I know do not go on and on....on issues like you do.
Haba, since this post, all you and some people have done is to criticise without proferring any solution.
Please, you don't need to pull anyone down to make your point
Just make your point and move on
Moji has come back to say she's now good with her mum so why bring up a forgotten matter?
Some of us here need to understand individual differences, upbringing differ.
That you do not agree with some one doesn't make the person's opinion irrelevant.
Please, this is me speaking/writing my mind.
You don't need to agree with me and I don't want any back and forth because I am not a fan of plenty talk/writeup.
Thanks.

Her problem is laziness.
Just yesterday, a young woman came around asking what she could do for me (she had a little baby on her back), like washing, cleaning or any thing she could do.
I didn't have any thing for her to do but I made sure to give her something little for transportation because I discovered she came from a far distance just to look for work. These are the kind of people I like to give if I have not some one who decides to live a careless life.(quote author=Onegai post=50127734]

I was weak. We have girls in health section backing babies to look for work, myself I needed to buy some stuff from the U.S. for my child, I decided instead to teach myself how to sew by hand and she's there with a nanny even and she couldn't work. She started telling me "Morning sickness made me not work" and I was like "huh?!". Let Thorpido confirm if she has that illness that makes pregnant women not work (it's rare though) but I don't think she does. I don't know about drugs but this is all just entitlement. [/quote]

I knew she was the same person the moment I saw that op.
She needs to go back to her mum and apologise so the woman can continue to help her.
If we contribute money for her now, what is the guarantee that she will not get pregnant for another man again?
I don't blame her mum, I would do the same if my child decides to misbehave (God forbid) in this manner.

Onegai:
Eketem, tearoses, fynbabe, keepingmum and blank, it's the same girl.

To slap person dey hungry me right now, chei. Baby no.3 will show up very soon and she will be helpless again. What do you say to this person?? Why won't her mum be angry? She did the exact same thing, tried to solicit for se.x here before she knew she was pregnant, instead of her to pick herself up and work. The babe is educated o! She's not in one hovel suffering with no options.

Don't mind the op, she can't be serious.
According to her, her mum is very wealthy but doesn't like taking care of her. She said her mum prefers her younger ones to her.
The mum asked her to help in the shop so she could earn money but she didn't want that.
Na she sabi!

ayamAgenius:


Fynbabe wey still get sense... my kinda woman...

BTW, OP is trying hard to sound like a retard in a seemingly fabricated story. Yet IT was smart enough to create a new account and open a thread today with well garnished and steamy hot thought provoking phrases and scenarios.

OP! If you are and all your stated claims are for real, PM me. I swear with all I hold sacred to tender an open apology and play my own part to get you outta this mess.

Cc: Berlynn stand as witness (u stil never respond)

I honestly, feel no pity for her at all because of all the rubbish she wrote about her own mum back then.
I think she even admitted having a physical altercation with her mum self all because of feeding allowance for her child.
The op needs to grow up.

Mynd44:


I have heard her back story and if anyone comes here to blame her mum, the person should just do the world a favor and adopt the OP.

I remember this op very well but I can't remember her old moniker (that old moniker was Ayo something, something).

From her stories back then, the mum really tried for her child and herself. The problem she said she had with her mum was that the woman let her younger ones talk to her rudely because she went to SA(sponsored by her mum) and made a mess of herself by getting pregnant for an irresponsible guy that was in jail for a criminal offence. She said her mum expected her to go to the shop to assist with sales even with her little baby and she refused to go.

People advised her to help the mum in the shop but she bluntly refused that she couldn't do that with a little child. There were times she came back complaining that the mum no longer gave her money for SMA gold and cerelac. There were other times she praIsed the mum for taking good care of she and her child.

She said her dad left her mum to be with another woman because her mum is abusive.

The story long o! I will be back when I remember that old moniker.

You guys should ignore her, biko. Very rude someborry with a sense of entitlement(I got all these from her previous posts).

And why is she not back yet with the proofs abi she don commit suicide?

Was she slapped too? I didn't know about that.
It means their problem didn't just start, maybe they had issues even before her husband died.

izzieman:



Could she spend 14 days with people who stood and watched after her sister-in-law slapped her for mourning her husband? Greed is the motivation here. She will eventually triumph over people who want to reap where they did not sow.

Too bad.
This is one of the reasons why I don't subscribe to being a house wife.
Any thing can happen at any time and the woman will be the one to suffer.
Even women with children have been treated like this by some families after the demise of the husband.

creepsyme:
she didnt have children with the late pastor, a close family friend told me she was very saucy dunnoo hw true.

I have heard so much about them too from my mum's colleague as she's married to one.
Their customs are weird.
Let your sister be ready to submit her monthly salary against her wish all the time (the man can decide whether or not to give her from it),there are particular parts of a chicken she must keep for her husband if not, she will fall sick and die.
She MUST not cheat (this is easy to adhere to), if she does, she must confess else she risks loosing her male children and husband to unknown ailment.
Looking at my mum's colleague back then, you would never believe she went to school. She used to wear bathroom slippers to work, was trekking a very long distance and the dressing was zero all because she would have submitted her salary and the man was left with the decision of whether to give or not.
She said the husband wasn't giving her anything and she couldn't complain.
My mum said fellow women adviced her to be keeping part of the money for herself but she said the punishment for doing that was death.
My dear, these are the ones I can remember now because it was a very long time ago.

Coldfeet:
Please if you don't mind tell me more about the ogbadibo man, I have a sis who is currently dating one but the guys attitude is giving us concern. So many red flags and people who have heard/ seen him display always says the same thing! That ogbadibo men are like that. Please be kind to explain this for me as it's becoming too popular a phrase thank you.

No wonder!
Ah, I feel her pain. It is not easy to be married for 23 years without a child.
I read some where else that they asked her to go and remarry.
May God intervene.

bestestgirl:
she had no child for him sadly.
I'm sure that's why she is being maltreated

Most villages, no matter their level of christianity do not completely do away with tradition.
I am a christian too but there are certain things you will never know until you have lost someone very close to you.
Except you don't go to the village for burial, else, just be ready for those elders and their wahala.

majekdom2:
A pastor that believe in some strange "custom and tradition" needs to be checked. One could tell since the sister is a slapper.

I'm not Idoma o!
Where I come from, the widow is required to stay for at least 14 days before they let her return back to work.
This is so strange, I didn't know that such things are still obtainable in this modern time.

gudnex22:


Idoma girl I catch u.


That is how they behave in that part of Idoma and is the major reason we refuse to marry from there.

Are you alright at all? Why are some of you children of nawadays so rude?
Is it everyone you meet online that you talk to any how?
If christians don't go through stuff like this, then why is it happening to her now?
You rushed to type rubbish without thinking first.
Please, I beg you in the name of God, don't ever quote me to talk thrash again.

ireneony:
she is a christian.
ur talk is invalid.

Why exactly did she return to Abuja so quick?
According to custom and tradition, she should still remain in the village for at least 14 days.
Could it be because of her children's school?

Honestly, I am confused.
All those village elders ehn, God dey sha.
It is well o!

Op, if you are sure of yourself, go ahead and damn the consequences. If you are not sure you will make it in music, then remain in your father's house jejely.

The same way 2face was threatened by his parents back then.... Now I doubt if there's any bigger name than 2face in Nigerian music.

Most parents have in mind what they will want their children to become but DESTINY can never be changed.

Wow!
You are so, so intelligent.
The guy never talk true.
Big brother indeed!

frozenSun:


The Worst lie you can tell anyone is the lie you tell to yourself.
"SOMEHOW" you collected her number ? Somehow ? Seriously ? Please explain SOMEHOW!
is it that when you went to the restaurant to get food they served the food along with the number as toothpick ?

You try to tell us why you took her number. Remember the day you asked for her number and remember the way you asked for it.
and by the way, why didn't you ask for the mum's number instead, since it was for the sole purpose of ordering food.?

She started calling and you probably started it. She started calling and you were leading her on, giving her all the green lights. when she calls, you clear your voice very well before you answer so that you can sound sweet in her ear. Just like a bird She followed your bread crumbs and now you are telling us another thing and trying to look all innocent and pure.

Excuse me!
From ordering food to midnight calls to giving her your phone to read your messages and having conversations about females on your phone and showing her your Bsc and WAEC results. How come ?

She has been coming to your house and you showed her your SHINNING Msc and Bsc and Phd and GCFR results to ENCOURAGE her while letting her read your messages and talk about females on your phone as well as discuss about marriage.

What else are you not telling us?
You kissed her? Yes/No
You smooched her? Yes/No
She gave you head? Yes/No
You have been 4keen her? Yes/No
Or it is only your certificate and your phone she came to see in your house? No/No.

because this your story seems to have been painted and cooked up in a way to make her look bad and make you look like the victim.

You say you were just being a big brother to her. But that's how these things start abi? Big brother Africa.

Tell yourself the truth.

Really? I learned something new today. Thanks.

tabithababy:
. Kunu is african youghurt or locally made youghurt

Yomieluv, those provisions you bought may not work for her(speaking from experience).
Taking tea(with plenty milk) didn't work for me at all until someone suggested kunu(I don't know what it is called in English o).
I was busy taking tea and adding weight while my daughter was starving because she wasn't getting anything reasonable to feed on.
The moment I took kunu, it was like magic! I started producing milk like water, my side of the bed was always wet with too much breastmilk at night because she had too much and the rest was flowing freely whenever she wasn't feeding. I felt so terrible for punishing her for so long.

Note: kunu is very, very fattening. I added so much weight while taking it and had to do a lot of work to burn the fat after weaning.

dominique:


Thanks so much Fynbae, God bless you real good

Amen. God bless you too.

Hello...

Just to inform you that I already paid in my widow's mite into the First Bank Account Number provided on the first page of the thread.

God bless you guys.

jaybee3:


Thanks Ma'am

Much appreciated

Hello....
Ok, I will see what I can do.
Thanks.

jaybee3:
Hi Fynbabe

Please shake body for us. No amount is too small

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You always talk from both sides of your mouth, why is that so?
Always trying too hard to impress faceless people.
One time you disturbed us on every thread about your forth coming wedding and when the much talked about wedding didn't hold, you disappeared from NL for a long time and reappeared with your usual lies again. I remember someone asked you about the wedding on a thread and you became very hostile.
It is never a crime to be single, dear. You don't need to tell us you are married when you are not.
I don't think any body cares that much, because we don't even know you.

Ode!

:DIf they are equal, the man should stop 'stealing' from the wife now.

I know you love topics like this.

crackhaus:

Vex ke, of course it's funny and strange...but that's what equality means.

Or don't you people want again?

My dear, only if the man does not have a source of income will I support such o! (Temporarily)
Maybe the man drinks and smokes because I don't even know what N100 can do for him.

amtaken:
If he does will he be stealing his wife's N100.00? Think.

No vex, it's funny and strange to me

crackhaus:

The same reason some men give their wives pocket money, that's why...