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No matter how it turns out, you will be implicated. What you need to do now is to give yourself a fighting chance. Meet you account officer and block your account. When they come tell them your account is flagged that you are trying to rectify it with the bank. Report to the police and based on the level of trust you have in the said officers, you can get them arrested. If not leave them but let the police know, it will save you in future if there are issues. Your account officer will advice you accordingly but if you don't have issues in 3-5days time then all is well.

PaigeTaylor:
Hello house. I'm too angry to type. Been married for 10 years with a kid. 10 long hard years.

He always assures me and portrays himself as a faithful man. I have never suspected him of committing adultery, not because he's not capable, but because I wanted to give him benefit of doubt. I wanted trust to be in my marriage because I'm extremely faithful to him. He disvirgined me on my wedding night.

But he does A LOT of flirting on social media. Passwords his phone from me. This has caused a lot of problems between us, almost leading to marriage break up many times, until people advised me to stay off his phone, which I did. I lost my job since February and have been unable to get another one.

Now I'm learning some soft skills online, using my phone but it got to a point where I couldn't proceed because it's an old phone. I told him yesterday morning that I would love to use his phone, he said ok when he returned from work.

Only for me to go to his browser to enter a website address, I started seeing past searches from him.
LOVE SMS YOU CAN SEND TO UR CRUSH
LOVE MESSAGES YOU CAN SEND TO UR EX GIRLFRIEND.

The one that shook me to the bone is, HOW TO SEDUCE MY SISTER INLAW.

She came to visit two weeks back. She is very beautiful and plump and he has always told me he had a crush on her. So I know.
And those internet searches are RECENT.

I feel so disgusted by his presence now, so much that I don't allow his body to touch mine on bed. I feel for my daughter, she's just 6 years and I don't have any money to take care of her. He doesn't take care of me either, but I have put up with him, I have struggled and suffered with him all these years. Only to see this on his phone. I'm beyond depressed.

He's talking of us celebrating our 10 years anniversary by December and thinking of inviting few family and friends. BUT I'M NOT INTERESTED. The love is dead. I've been played all along.

HOW WILL I HANDLE THIS?

Compared to what I've faced in marriage, I will say this is a non issue.

BennyDGreat:


Why did you take the security job at the time?

The pay was good, very good. Better than most jobs out there. But like I later discovered, it was very stressful.

Peugeot 505

Standstrong:
I picked up the gate man job ending of last month out of no other better options at the moment and seeing what economic hardship was making me pass through, especially waking up with no hope of where food is going to come from, make i no go steal, God abeg.

I have been doing the job well. Yesterday, while strolling around the area, I heard one man saying he is looking for someone to cut grasses in his compound. Being something I can do to collect the money to help myself as i was hungry and peniless, I met the man and told him i can do the work and we agreed on N15k.

So as my oga went to work, i rushed down to do the work. While I was on it, i dont know what brought my oga back to the house and he didnt see me at the post.

He called me and asked me where i am. I rushed down to the house. I told him i got a small contract of 15k to cut grass for someone in the neighbourhood.

The man got so angry on why I left his duty post to go do another job. Worse was that the person i did the job for was more like his enemy, as i later learnt they've not been in good terms.

He sacked me instantly. I begged this man as a human being to please forgive but he refused to consider me again. He even said, "go before you go and collect poison from my enemy to come and kill me".

Please what is my business with whatever fight the two of them are fighting?

That was how I lost the small job i just got 3 weeks ago and now back with nothing. He should have paid me for the 3 weeks right away but he didnt, rather he said i will find a way to pay you for the services so far.

Please, the country is already very hard and all I needed was something that could give me immediate money to survive on first.

Sad how struggling citizens are being badly treated everyday even while legitimately hustling for survival. How he will pay me for the 3 weeks, he didn't say it.

It's painful but it is not the end of the world.

I will make it too. Amen.

I'm not sure you understood the job description before picking it up. How can you say you are doing your job diligently and the same time leave your duty post. It doesn't make sense. You were not trained before getting the job. I once worked as a security man to a popular bishop in Edo State. The man really liked me because of how I took the job seriously. The day I left the job, the second day I drove to the premises in my father's clean car and they were shocked I was from a decent family. They probably thought I was hungry. Learn from this experience. You were wrong 100%. If I were your oga I will not pay the 3 weeks because I will claim you had probably been leaving your duty post for other side hustle.

Lexiskillz09:


Your heart dey left. So, I stand with your left mind

Oga, the mind is the brain not heart.

HelpMeee:





Lol
Well,he said "learn" not master. I learnt mine in about that time.

Stop quoting me if you want to say nonsense. I repeat myself for people to hear. You cannot learn full stack in 7 days. Don't be bamboozled with rubbish talk of learning and mastering. You can't learn HTML in seven days not to talk of combining it with CSS and JavaScript. Who do you think you're quoting. Do you think we are babies here?

illicit:
Local fowl dey sweet pass poultry one

This is a misconception. At best it can be said to be false. What should be said is that older chickens are sweeter than younger ones. Chickens at home tends to stay for years before the owner kills it while those in poultry stays for a period of 3months before they are killed

Don't fall for this sh*t people. You can't learn full stack in 7 days. You can't even learn front end in seven days not to talk of full stack. I'm not sure whoever posted this is a developer

Fibonancy formula

BossGerald:
If you voted buhari twice in 2014/2019 and voted EBOLA 2023...then your IQ is not different from that of a He-goat.

Words on the marble

Actually a He-goat is an intelligent animal. It is more intelligent than a sheep. Their IQ should be compared to a piece of sh*t.

mayor1814:
This is a very good topic. Proprietresses and proprietors use teachers anyhow coz dey know they little or no options. And wen u leave they they can always get another set of teachers to employ.

May God help us.

I don't think this is the same in every state because here in Benin city, it is difficult to get a teacher talk more of using them anyhow. So using them anyhow is out of the question. You disrespect them they leave. If you want to teach, do part time teaching. The holiday lesson is requested by the parents not the school. This issue has been overflogged here on Nairaland. Most parents that go to work don't feel comfortable leaving the kids either with the uncles at home or let the kids roaming in the area so they opt for holiday lesson. In business, when there is a demand, there will be supply.

Stevosty:
uniben axis actually have more landlords than landladies, but away from that axis it is more of landladies.

Away from where? Oga you dey internet dey yarn dust. Mention the 5 areas and street that have such. If you want me to mention 10 areas that does not have such I will. If you also want me to mention the Uniben areas that such exist, I will mention it. Mind you Uselu market, Technical road, Ekoaodin, Oluku areas areas are regarded as Uniben axis. For example: mention one area at Upper Sokponba that have more landlady than landlords

leanonme82:
Well, i noticed Benin city has plenty female landlords than male landlords.

When you even find a male landlord you later learn it is his sisters' house and the sister lives abroad.

You just gave yourself out that you don't know Benin but only came to school in Uniben. There is no place in Benin other than Uniben axis that seems to have more female landlady. I challenge you to mention any other area in Benin city that have female landlady than landlord.

Obesity is a disease

jumper524:
Saying the truth is much easier than solving the reality.
Obaseki really doesn't rate Nigerians to have this level of Audacity to speak this.

since president Tinubu inauguration, Obaseki has never attended NEC meetings to raise his observation and proffer a much better solution but then again, president Tinubu who has been taking measures and counter measures against our failing naira as well as working towards salary improvement is the culprit here.

I beg to ask, Obaseki is the state governor of oil producing edo state that receives a much better allocation than kaduna, can he please tell us what his plans were that failed so badly in the state that made the state has the worst state secondary schools in Nigeria while kaduna is now having one of the best?

Or Obaseki was not amongst the list of governors who hoarded covid 19 palliatives?

Probably election is by the corner and Tinubu is the person to insult to divert attention.

Please don't even go there. The man is a useless governor. During the last state election, they were sharing different cash in government house. I would have want him as a person to state what he has done to reduce unemployment in the state. If his answer is none. Then let's evaluate what he has done to create more unemployment. As I'm writing this the man is considering shutting down some more private businesses around the state. The only businesses that thrive in the state are those owned by himself, Shuaibu, igbinedion and co.

mamaafrik:
don't mind don't mind the fool it's a military that cannot secure the the niger Delta from all pilfering who cannot secure Abuja railway, that cannot take care of her own environment and their barracks that cannot secure Jaji from boko haram and bandit
This brown brain is now claiming one silly military knowledge ,stupid people

Na laff I just dey. We know how many times Boko Haram has overrun different military bases in different parts of the country and they are claiming champions. If Boko Haram can gather enough intelligence to overrun a military Base, is it when we are fighting Russia that they will not do same?

Naijaboy18:

I’m not answering your irrelevant questions. I’m telling you exactly how it is based on the law. Criminals always looking for excuses for their criminal behavior

Actually the questions he asked you are relevant. Just say you don't know the answer. So let me help you: ECOWAS has not done anything to unite Africa infact the reverse is the case. The intention to declare war in Niger has splitted the various African countries, making them take sides. Africa is about to fight itself. Who does that? If ECOWAS care anything about Africa, they will call off the stupid idea immediately.

Rostikol:
As I'm seeing this map, I'm just imagining Malian and Burkinabe planes and drones flying into Nigeria from the left to drop all kinds of bombs!

I hope the military have that area secured!

Military wey never secure their base finish, Na area you dey talk of.

layuns:
A standard duration for a talk is 45 minutes to 1 hr, often with time for questions and answer at the end.. Even though it can be extended to about 2hrs per person.

You see that bolded part... Whoever told you that was saying rubbish. I studied Education and with my years of experience I can tell you there is a reason curriculum developers don't advise you spend above 45 mins. And that 45 mins is the maximum number you should spend for a lecture as the human mind will need time to digest information and can start going into fatigue if it's extended beyond that. Also that 45 mins is with the assumption that some lectures will be interactive not a one way class. An interactive lecture is a class like English language where the teacher will say a word and the student will repeat or in a maths class or computer class etc. A one way class is one adopted in the church or mosque where the leader or preacher teaches. where the audience is not expected to ask questions or they reserve their questions for later. In such a class, the best timing for a quality lecture is 15 - 30 mins. Anything beyond that, people get tired and some might even leave or walk out.

littleguy444:
please what is the fire brigade approach reading

Fire brigade is when it's two or three weeks to exam and you want to read and pass. This only works if you have applied the method the person I previously quoted earlier talked about.

majesticguy:


It seems you've been cramming and reading, rather than studying.

Try to study.

Read to understand and not just for reading sake.

Relate what you read to real life events and activities.

Jot down points while studying, it helps you recall what you've read.

Some folks read once and never forget, others need to read the same thing multiple times, so as to remember, find out what works for you.

Irrespective of the handouts, material given, try to read further to gain more insight and knowledge on the topic, but make sure the additional information you are gaining falls within the scope of the study materials or handouts.

Revision of what you read the previous day in the wee hours of the following day also helps memory retention.

Look for folks you can revise with after studying, ask them questions on what you don't understand.

Although, the above rarely works for the fire brigade approach.

If you want to adopt the reading for understanding approach, then you should have started from the onset of the semester.

You have given the perfect answer. Any other answer I give now will revolve around what you said. However from the OP question, it appears he needs a fire brigade approach reading. It should be noted however that only those that read to understand can undertake the fire brigade approach reading.

flokii:
Yorubas are the most tribalistic yet Akabueze, Igbokwe and other non-Yorubas like them got cabinet portfolios in the economic nerve centre of Yorubaland; Lagos..

Yorubas are tribalistic yet Obi an Igbo got votes in Lagos even more than what PBAT and Atiku got..

Yorubas are tribalistic yet Atiku won in Osun state..

The Igbos that are not tribalistic gave PBAT and Atiku less than 5 percent votes in all their tiny 5 South Eastern states.. gave Obi over 95 percent votes because he is Igbo..

The Igbos that are not tribalistic can't point to one non - Igbo (not even Yoruba now, just any other tribe) in their 5 South Eastern States cabinet..

When the Igbo can't subdue you or take what is yours to add to his own, he'll see every wrong in what you do. Those are the kind of beings we have been putting up with in Nigeria.. I before others.

See this is not about writing any epistle. Call any tribe that is neither Igbo or Yoruba and have stayed with both tribe to tell you who is more tribalistic between the two. I have stayed with the Yoruba for more than twenty years and have stayed with the Igbo for five years. The Yorubas are more tribalistic. It's not even a topic for debate. Call any neutral party and sample opinion.

NzogbuNzogbu:
he go too go waste money Sha

Labor would chop him and clean mouth, LP is going Edo central 2024

I know Obi would be interested in that Edo election to get some steam, so the delegates would listen to him and Abure recommendation.

A dying politician looking for straw no go excite obi and the delegates that would chop shaibu clean mouth know

The truth is that Labour party is in dire need of funds at this stage so they're welcoming everyone. When election time reach, some of these decamping politicians would be shocked. Edo central is next in line, everyone knows this. Some Labour party guys have even exited the party because of this reality

Jennyclay:


I’m scared of Men!!

I hate Men!!

I hate Men!!

I hate Men!!

At the end of the day Na man go still give you belle. That is after enough f*****g

DECENTBWOY:
Good morning nairalanders, I know its too early to post this but this issue has been troubling me for a while now.
I can't sleep, even if i eventually do, i can't stay asleep, for example if i sleep by 2am, i will wake up by 4am and thats it for that night.
It has been going on for months now, and i hardly sleep in the afternoon too..
If you observe when i made this post, I slept around 3am because today is my birthday, i was answering calls and chats from well wishers, now i am up again around 5, thats why i made this post, i am fed up...

Please can you guys suggest a very strong sleeping tablet for me? I really need to sleep and stay asleep, i mean lock everywhere up, eat, take the tablet and sleep a very deep sleep, a kind of sleep that i will not know what is happening around...

Please help a brother, i don even begin de slim like who them de squeeze blood commut for body....

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY HUMBLE SELF BTW...

Before anything, if you are above thirty check your blood pressure.

benardtotti:


He will come back to APC tail between his legs , majority of Nigerian politicians are actually not smart , they are like sports gamblers who like to just try their luck instead of making pragmatic decisions , only a fool or dummy will believe obaseki will hand over to someone he can't control, shuabu knew this and also knew how devious obaseki is but still decided to try his luck .

Same way pdp broke up into Lp and nnpp and still tried their luck against an intact Apc and believed they will win the elections .

Shuaibu is already with APC, those that are politicians in Edo State knows this. Infact that is part of the issues between them. Also Obaseki is sympathetic to LP. I won't be surprised if Obeseki sponsores the gubernatorial candidate of LP

Acekidc4:
Shuaibu don Counter Obaseki, it's Now Goal Goal. For Shuaibu to survive this Obaseki Tsunami, he should run to Baba Oshiomhole for help before Obaseki finally give am Straight Win 🥱🥱

Shuaibu is already with Oshiomhole. What is left is just to give an official statement for confirmation.

nonhuman:
I was just laughing at those saying they would reverse, coming sense is actually not comon

Most of them are not drivers. No sensible Nigerian driver would reverse or come down from the vehicle. I have driven several kilometres on only wheels before.

Unclebayo:
I will come down from the car and take away those trash problem solve

You are not a Nigerian. Every Nigerian driver knows what to do

VinnyBaba:


Goan Ask your Mother or Parents Questions.😕😏

Any child that passes through Normal Educational process
WITHOUT DOUBLE PROMOTION OR SKIPPING CLASS will get to Secondary school @11years old.

You are very correct. I can confirm what you said. I myself was born in the mid eighties and without double promotion I entered secondary school at 11.