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Lexusgs430:
My only concern is, why a 35 year in old, decides to have 5 children...........

I was thinking exactly that too.

WHY?

That said, those quoting great incomes they make in Canada or US or whatever are not doing a full service. You also need to quote your essential running cost of life; not just the income coming in.

I am not saying it is right or wrong to relocate. I am just saying paint a full picture.

I know, most likely, Canada will still make more sense than Nigeria considering the OP's current earnings and future potential earnings.

Catalyst4real:
If I had a dollar for every time I've told him this. Last year I got him a laptop, and encouraged him to learn skills on YouTube. That's where he learned poultry.

I have done a lot in terms of what a brother can do. Personally I believe more in self employment, being your own boss, learning the way of the street

I think he wants the security that comes with having a salary work, and feels it will give a good appearance for this girl he wants to marry.

I've lost count with the number of times we've submitted his CV. He's been talking about depression and suicide for some time now. But today's own was just too intense

Would I have done things differently if I was in shoes? Very much so! But he's older than me by 4 years.
I can only advice and encourage him. He keeps saying I won't understand

Your main problem now is not employment. Your main problem is his dilapidating depression.

The depression itself will affect his ability to execute he activities to improve his situation. So focusing on those activities alone might not help.

You need to either:

a) Focus on the depression and then later focus on the activities.

or

b) Focus on the depression and activities simultaneously.

I think (b) might be the best solution as you guys are not from a well-off family, hence can't spend long focusing on depression. When I say "focus on the depression", I mean get him professional help.

Secondly, not everyone is skilled and great at running their own business. As a matter of fact, majority of human beings aren't.

You can by-pass this challenge by getting him or connecting him with an unemployed business partner who is skilled at running a business and just lets your brother do the day-to-day work, like an employee, but they share the profits.

Osilama1:
you are a deluded idiots use the likes to prop ur stupid life bastard

You just feel like sounding more daft?

Osilama1:
bombastic fool and sadistic idiot

You are a moooron! Go back and look how people how people are liking my response to your "life achievement" of getting married.

Mugu!

Krismas:
U be mumu true true? Or u just dey play the role of mumu double-cast? The missile na hypersonic. And Biden is within striking distance easily. That’s all

You are a dumbo!

How did you know it was hypersonic?

Why are you people so desperate to demonstrate your stupidity everytime without shame?

MansoryMX:
When you get married, it’s your to stick with your wife or sleep around and carry infection into your matrimonial home. Not everyone is as loosed as some people of this generation. It’s a person choice and discipline.

Oga, I asked you to swear on it. Not to give a sermon and boast of being a "respectable, happily-married husband".

Oya, do the swearing na. Let your wife no say you never shag anyone outside.

Osilama1:
it still doesn't mean you ain't an idiot...

Someone who thinks marriage is an achievement is not smart enough to call anyone else idiot!

You should be looking yourself in the mirror and calling yourself that.

Krismas:
Omo na u be MUMU Hypersonic missile will fly 250miles in less than 4minutes and you won’t even see it coming

You are a moooron!

Firstly, did the report say it was hypersonic missile?

Secondly, so hypersonic missiles can't go 5,000 miles "and you won't see it coming"?

WriterNig:
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Foolish thread title!!!

And so what if it happened 250 miles or 350 miles or 5000 miles?

Just a senseless title! But when you look at the thread creator, you are not surprised!

https://www.nairaland.com/7035343/top-20-richest-poorest-countries/3#111151278

Unemployable "yoot".

@ImpregaTor @smeag0l come and see again o.

Gamesmart:
No, I am not!

I think you are lying and I have a perfect way to source out the truth from you: Swearing.

Say:

If I have never shagged another woman since I married my wife, Jesus is the true son of God, the saviour and the truth.

If I have shagged another woman since I married my wife, Jesus is a gay and liar just like me.

Oya, swear or run!

@MansoryMX, so you quietly went quiet, abi?

Philips9:
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Why don't you vote for Abacha's grand-child then since you want your own dynastical rulers, as long as they are young?

Shey na small hustle of buying you still dey hustle feed body? Na hunger go kii you eventually. Continue choosing and praising useless leaders and don't engage your brain.

somoyel:
Continue to enjoy your simple lifestyle jare

Yes. With your public money that he looted, Black Monkey.

Na that smelly gutter go soon be your home by the time the useless leaders you support finish with you.

Olam09:
He's an old wretched, embittered, broke, ugly, short man in his late 30's but he hasn't found his purpose in this life.. if his parents were as dull and unreasonable as he's, does he think he'll have a chance to come to this world.

Another reeetard who thinks procreation is "achievement".

ArewaTech1:
Everything you mentioned is 100% the truth.

I am originally against arranged & family marriages, but this is kind of a different situation. the girl was the one that made the first call. apparently she told her Mum that she saw so-so person(Me) and she likes me.

as you said we might not be compatible, I guess we have until '24 to find out.

we have permission to go on dates , which literally means I going to their house or she coming to our house...

Nice one!

Reduces the wahala/disadvantages for her.

If you are also reasonably nice to her and don't adhere to some religious restrictions of her (basically give her her freedom of choice and desires), then it can be a good marriage because she already likes you and she knows her culture expects her to be a feminine subordinate; not share the trouser like our modern mad feminists want to be.

If you want to get a second wife in future, that is your right; just be nice to the first one too.

MrBrownJay1:
- have you ever considered that the problem might be these same men having unrealistc wishes upon marriage?
- have you ever considered that many of these men didnt want to get married, but solely did so because of family/religious/peer PRESSURE?
- have you ever considered that many of these men not possess the mindset that it takes to be happily married?!

marriage is hard work, its not an easy walk in the park. many see their neighbors being happily married and think they will also be happily married, but sadly no two marriages are the same.... thus men AND women have to really want to make this union work for it to remotely work. nobody willfully wanna be miserable in marriage, what happens is that LIFE HAPPENS!

as for the men who visit prostitutes...let these men be blamed for the failure of their marriage... because creeping outside instead of facing their wives and letting her know what time it is, is NOT the solution. how do you expect your wife to get better (or change) if you'd rather be quiet and go meet oloshos, then go back home and pretend all is great? how is that gonna help your marriage? going to see prostitutes is the selfish solution to whatever issues a couple may have. if you need new toto, then (in the privacy of your bedroom) turn your wife into the dirty wh0re that you desire so much. do with her all the nasty degrading stuff that you require from these prostitutes....et voila!

Irrelevant considerations!

The point still stands: Majority of married men are not totally happy!

Olam09:
See your life outside everyone already knew you're over 30.. old shameless fool.. go hide your ugly face.

1,940 posts? Over 2 years? And you are yet to make sense?

You are a vegetable!

OriginalCEO:
I dont cal it 'saving for tough times', I call it backup funds and it did have its use one time like dat that i had my phone stolen with most of my money carted away with. I stomped on my backup fund, got a new phone and moved on like nothing happened. But it did happen and i did get depressed sometimes.

Bottom line: whether it is called 'tough times savings' or 'back up fund' or 'emergency fund' or just Savings, It can never be underrated.

Finally, it is best to put your finances in God's hands o, times are hard, people are more desperate. May God continue to secure you and yours.

You too obviously struggled to comprehend what I wrote and why I wrote it.

In your own case, with your last line, I can see clearly why you would struggle to comprehend it.

Your brain is on suspension. Prayer is your operating medium.

porthouse7:
everyone quoting me are still young and probably in 20s and 30s, I will like to have this conversation with guys of 40+, and don't always use abusive language

Young and smarter than you at your older age.

Hassanmaye:
Blood of Zachariah! What can a man do to satisfy that gender? No wonder men are running away from marriage and other are joining mgtow

Don't marry them is the best thing.

You are, and would be, sacrificing for nothing.

There might be a few worth marrying, but the stress of sieving through the dirt and finding these is not worth the effort.

porthouse7:
I use to be like u until January this year

You must be mad!

You can never be like me. You have no sense!

porthouse7:
so @ 40+ u are still struggling to get balance in life, I understand 40yrs is mid life crisis thou, but with a good wife u will enjoy it

You are a moooron!

Hope you know your post was the dumbest on this thread; signified by the probably over 20 people that quoted and corrected you?

Osilama1:
get lost animalistic fool and idiot

Your next achievement will be you had 40 children.

Dumbo!

Olam09:
You're over 30 and you still behave like a fool.. anyways i won't blame a jobless Nigerian who believed he was failed by the system.. It's so hilarious to think about the YA on your street shouting egbon not knowing the egbon no gbon at all.. Old shameless fool.

A 32 year old NFA man exchanging words with someone young enough to be his junior brother. I won't reply your mention again. Broda Ode

You are a pure cretin!

You made over 1930 posts and not once did you make any sense?

Can you see that your future is not bright then?

faithfull18:
You know the answer. Societal pressure, family pressure, you can add other factors

Please list all the "other factors".

Olam09:
E
Yea, e be like say your papa just hear the word Cretin

Out of 11 topics one made frontpage and this particular post that made frontpage was about salary, you posted that topic just to salivate on other people's huge income compared to your low salary even though you're working your ass of..

Fooool, this is how hard it is for you to show us just 5 of your 1937 posts on NL that you can claim you actually said something that is intelligent?

Osilama1:
your lineage are stupid and idiotic sadist bastard cretin

You can't find any sensible defence to state against your foolish statement of achievement except to call me what your lineage is?

So, now, you don realise you were a cretin to argue marriage was an "achievement"?

In the same Nigeria where your mates' achievements are to create apps that solves problems and raising over $30m of investor money? Your own foolish lineage are saying marriage is your achievement?

Una no be the thing you are insulting me with?

MrBrownJay1:
why would you say that? are you claiming that the majority of married men are not happy in their marriage?!

Yes, definitely!

Majority of married men are not totally happy (aka finding marriage sweet).

There are few that are at best enduring by being nice, loyal, religious and considerate.

Majority put up fake face and visit prostitutes on the side; if they cannot afford side chic financially or risk-wise.

faithfull18:
Like seriously Apart the money you guys always claiming you provide, what else do you bring to the table.

Even the money self, in today's world, more ladies are more financially stable than the guys.

Say something else please.

Answer the gaddam overarching question and stop beating about the bush:

If marriage is unfavourable to women, why are majority of women craving for it 24/7?

Hassanmaye:
You mean even if you give a woman your soul and everything she will still not be satisfied?

You try it.

5 days later, she will be saying the soul is not pink or in a cute enough size.

Everything you give her will still have something she has not gotten yet.

pekisdgee:
if i even shagging other girls outside at least i don sow seed for this earth.... but funny enuf i dont shagging other girls

Dey deceive yourself there that you don't shag outside your "blissful" and "enjoyable" marriage.