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sandra2020:
Omo you difficult o I pity the woman that will marry you,forget about it’s who you are it’s not even your gaddamn house I wonder what you would have done if it’s your house you gatto grow up and learn to be accommodating it has nothing to do with age,did you go to uni and stayed in a hostel you have no idea what my roommates have done on my bed when I’m not around but I come back and just arrange things if it’s too much I complain even when I moved outside school my bro comes to visit then his gf comes cause he didn’t have his own place then and sometimes I just give them privacy cause I understand life it didn’t change who I am today they give me the utmost respect when they come to my house now they respect themselves they only speak well of me because they know I’m actually very disciplined I wasn’t even having sex but I don’t force my decision on others but omo that thing ain’t that deep remove bedsheet and sleep chill no be you holy pass

I don't know you but I will still give you the benefit of my attention I said they especially the woman ought to wash the sheet, note here I didn't say they should not do whatever they want to do, but make the room, anyway, I'm no longer in the house so forget the God damn house part, I had already started my hustle in a city miles apart so don't worry about me, that's a man for you, and don't worry about the wife I marry, hopefully she will be a lucky woman, just that whenever we have sex in a shared room except a hotel we will complete our fun by washing and keeping the room tidy so that we can find somewhere for next time

Emeraldgreene:
[i think u opened this thread for attention.pls don't ever quarrel with ur mother or ur first brother,they are your parents now...U truly need a mentor...Learn to overlook minor shits...quote author=Gang90 post=99101929]
I quarrel with my mum, last year, I didn't want to go home but I had to go home just to spend sometimes with her but when I decided to go back on December 31st she said i should stay back to spend the new year with the rest of the family, I told her I came back since 25th, and I had been home all the while, other family members came back 29th and you want me to spend more time here when you knew I didn't want to stay back, later my elder brother were asking me why won't I stay back so we can all stay together through new year,I thought it was my mum that told him to also implore I stay back I confronted my mum and asked her so if I say no to you, why would you involve others, she made me understand they did not discuss it, and that if I want to go back it fine, I had to stay back anyway but that's the kind of water I get with her

How do you even see quarrel, don't you know it is important in a family to quarrel atimes, I used to quarrel with my brother but still it ends there, last time I quarrelled with him, after the quarrel he said are you still going to wash the cloth for me, I said bring the soap money, but we quarrel up to the point it really heated my mum comes between us, but even though our issues seems more violent, it always ends up with him telling my mother is are you sure that he is not reincarnated from your side, I try to hold back my laughter becuase I'm really boiling but that stuff is funny, then he will call my mum and say he is is trying to smile

ElSherriff:
Imagine the nonsense entitlement.
1. You are not sure they had sex there - you were not there, they may have been having a private moment together
2. You are 26, squatting, no mind of your own and still childish
3. You are holding grudges of "late father's properties to be shared". Like 26 years old and waiting on father's properties. Properties that rightfully belong to the eldest son in most traditions.
4. You have the audacity to say someone disgusts you. A wife that was simply in her home enjoying her marriage. Something you are incapable of doing (someone used your tracksuit and you trashed it).
5. You have insulted everyone here who has tried to proffer a solution which shows you are completely delusional
6. You are miles away from a house that you do not own but intend to return there after your 'slave' has washed beddings in her house for you to return to.
7. You are very mad.

If e sure for you, write your address for ground make I bring better bulala come whip your baby bumbum till mark show. Cry baby.

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You are trying to prefer a solution by calling me all sorts of name, I have my reason for being mad at them but what reason do you have for being mad at me, about my fathers properties yes, I'm more than proud to ask for it, cause it is better to stay in my fathers properties than to be treated with disregard and contempt in my brothers house ^[/sup][sup]

Emeraldgreene:
So u even quarrel with your mother?! Na wah for you.I have been reading ur posts and all the complaints u started since 1900. Lie in d floor, Take the sheets to dry cleaners tomorrow, always lock ur doors when going out,find a way and get ur own place.simple.You just hate that woman..takote author=Gang90 post=99073504]

My brother is a nice guy, but It not easy to be the only one they talk about, I'm like this kind of person that does not talk much but really loud, I don't want to bring issues to the family cause to my brother a wife is already a part of him, but to me the wife remains a stranger, my brother after that went out coming back this night, it a merry go round day and currently sleeping.

So how would I say or so, don't you know your wife or you should wash the sheets after doing like, lol that's the most ridiculous thing ever, I got pretend like honestly I don't even know you guys did something like this, I don't have to know that why a mature woman should make the bed and wash the sheets.

I don't tell her to wash my sheets, in fact most times I cook my food I love cooking, at home my mum do help me with washing and my mum is about the only woman I allow to wash my bedsheet, if it were at home my mum could have washed it, like once I quarrel with my mum sef I stop her from washing my football kits which she love doing, to me I don't naturally like just anybody washing my personal effects.

I don't ask her to wash the bedsheet on a good day, I wash my stuff myself I enjoy doing it and watch my fingers look clean but this is different, even in my room in my personal house, they can have sex there they are married, but after that, restore my room to earlier state. That's all I'm asking. And I don't have to tell them becuase somethings are not what you say, we can all send a silent message.

I quarrel with my mum, last year, I didn't want to go home but I had to go home just to spend sometimes with her but when I decided to go back on December 31st she said i should stay back to spend the new year with the rest of the family, I told her I came back since 25th, and I had been home all the while, other family members came back 29th and you want me to spend more time here when you knew I didn't want to stay back, later my elder brother were asking me why won't I stay back so we can all stay together through new year,I thought it was my mum that told him to also implore I stay back I confronted my mum and asked her so if I say no to you, why would you involve others, she made me understand they did not discuss it, and that if I want to go back it fine, I had to stay back anyway but that's the kind of water I get with her

litaninja:
Oshey Houseboy. They'd employ a maid to sort all those out in less than a week. Next??

Then they pay the maid, lol and the made will do all the things, lol like how old would the made be, I guess to be able to do all those at least 18, lol, they should bring the ugliest made in the world that my major plea, you think it is just so easy these days to bring a Made over, anyway that's no longer my business, I had fun eat, and drank today, I still got shelter please I'm already dealing with my life as you adviced they should deal with theirs for the time being

Uzi11enzo:
I'm really sorry this happened to you man. But well we both can't do nothing, so just try and remove the bedsheet and sleep on it like that. It's not the end of the world, it's just one night, just try to bear it.

I'm already miles away in another city

YemmyKamor:
You disgust me... same way your bro's wife disgust you.

Good, it your God given right to feel disgusted,

YemmyKamor:
seems like you have an attitude problem 8i might be wrong though).... but why and how can you use such derogatory word to describe your brother's wife... she disgust you??... or are you crushing on her and you're angry that someone went down with her on your bed

It really shows how low some people are, the act disgusts me, she disgusts me, even at that point my brother disgusts me, cause how could two grown up not know what right, it simple I left the house, let everyone answer his name abeg

2buffagain:
OP You sound like a phucking diva and I detect hints of the GAE in your speech.
You can wash man's body fluid but not woman because it disgusts you?

Remember your place in that house or GTFO.
It's very simple.

I said I can try if it were my brother, same day I washed my brothers clothes but I don't wash his boxers, you can read every other meaning into it, but that's just about it

blesoh:
Young man, are you her father?
You lack respect please pack out or wash the beddings

In my place any male can be a father depending on circumstances, If she has no respect for me, and has no respect for my brother should she also have no respect for my fathers, cause I let the issue slide not that I can't register my disgusts with at least my brother but what's the need, I can always make a move

berrystunn:
In your brothers house
You should cook for them to eat after sex
Did you do that ?

I could have done that if that's what they wanted, I love cooking all I said is they should wash the sheet, most importantly the wife becuase she's a stranger to me.

Lewisdinho:
Bro, stop complaining. You sound very weak in emotions. A grown up guy like you should know that it's proper you have more than one bedsheets should in case one is dirty you make use of the other one, stop nagging please. Just change the bedsheets and use another one. If the other still disgust you, throw it to the trash can or burn it. QED

Kiliwe, you emotions are so strong, did you read the part where I said last week she took the second bedsheet, and I used to have two pillows which she took both and I said nothing but there are limits to things I take

RoyalPearl:
Whew just reading the OP's post is very draining. I think you have Obsessive compulsive disorder like someone earlier mentioned. You also don't like your brothers wife(tribalism/bad beef etc) which just makes the matter worse because if it was your sister who did that would you be this upset?

I agree that it was wrong for them to sleep on your bed but you need to get control of yourself and stop whining like a brat. When you stay in someone's house most times there will be clashes but you either control your emotions or move out so you get your own peace of mind.

You say married women are hitting on you and entertaining you. How do they get your number or get access to talk to you? It means you are also entertaining them and enjoying their attention. If you don't want anyone to talk to you or bother you, you know what you need to do.

A lot of people here have said that you sound irrational and immature etc. Sometimes you need to look inwards and take the advice good and bad and try and be a better person. To be honest you sounded crazy talking about goats, evolution and all that ish. Sounds like you have delusions of grandeur and OCD. I think you are also asexual hence the lack of interest and desire in sexual activity. Try and get more control over your emotion and feelings. Don't let emotions control your life. You don't have to love your brothers wife but at least respect that she is his wife and let go of all the pent up anger and frustrations. Life is way to short for all that sh1t. It shall be well.

If it were my sister I will just call her straight to go and wash it, keep talking your shitty OCD, I had told you, they ought to wash it cause now they will still wash it, cause I'm no longer in the house currently miles away. Everyone can be a doctor but not all doctors are rational, you are giving advice, adding all sorts of nonsense I had told you what is the issue whatever you add, make sure it affords you a cup of garri

EmekaA125:
If there was no blood stain, then soak the bedsheet in water with detergent. If it's pure white no colored design on it, you can use hypo to help remove stain. Washing it won't reduce ur personality or remove anything from you. Thanks

Me that's already in another city trying to continue my hustle lol, it feels like puke nothing about personality or reduction

WoundedLamb:
Hahaha... my bro, but why are you wicked like this?

Seriously, let's not undermine his plight. Yes, the lady can use the room. But it's only fair that she washes the sheets too. It's just that the guy said no one was expecting him. So it's possible she planned to wash it later. Besides, the guy already has some deep hatred for her so nothing we say can change anything.

But your comment got me laughing.

I came back around 2:40, and left so they can enjoy themselves, she already knows I'm back those moment I stepped out, i spent about an hour coming back at about 3:40 if she wanted, she could wash the bedsheet within those periods, she knew I'm back,

cybriz82:
O pari niyen I tot aa much ur bro own d bedsheet also that's y fear no catch am to do d do on ur bed...n u can't never challenge them cus they will beat u in n out..

Lol, like beating someone dey hungry this one, lol I won't talk further on that, you in particular why not try to raise your hand at me, I won't talk further

RoyalPearl:
Definitely whatever the woman does he will always have a problem with it. My question is why force yourself to be in an environment you hate. After reading his post it's clear he is narcissistic, sexist and tribalistic. He also suffers from delusions of grandeur and OCD with archaic beliefs(imagine saying women of menstrual age are not allowed in some places). People like him should not get married and procreate. The society is already bleeped up as it is. Sad part is one day someone could marry him. Smh

The best part is, a lot of people really wants to marry me,

dohyn:
I read the first page and jumped to the last page now,17.

My humble opinion, this OP is just a fool

He has some deep seated issues with his sister-in-law and that is the crux of the matter. Leave the house and rent your place if you hate her so much. She's your brother's wife, not girlfriend.

Na him type dem wash toto water inside food wey no go know and go dey chop belleful.

That's without my knowledge and it got nothing on me but the moment I realise, such person's next stop will be hell

Badadvisor:
You eyes go soon clear for this world.
All these empty headed big for nothing last borns with one stupid feeling of self importance.
So you think your brother would choose you over his wife and kids? Keep living in your foolishness.
He's only calling you because you were placed under his care and by mistake anything happens to you he'd be held responsible.
But because of your stupidly false sense of self importance. You feel you're important

You need urgent help because you're a mental patient

This got nothing to do with choosing me between his wife and kids, remember, someday I will have my own wife and kids, nobody has a monopoly of wife's and kids, but anyway I'm important oo, very very important lol, self love, so now that you had seen that I matter maybe you should find the closest restaurant, eat very well, drink also then kill yourself, don't die hungry for someone you don't know.

You think I'm some lazy ass last born, lol it will shock you how things will turn around, those who knows knows, I'm an asset not a liability.

Badadvisor:
You belong to yaba left young man. You need to be placed on some mental injections before you bite someone.
You need urgent help.

It okay, how you abuse someone you don't know becuase of a situation you don't quite understand the implications to the other person, please go to your sister inlaw and after sex lick up the sheet, please you disgusts me

weedfada:
For someone who claims to be so religious and spiritually minded, exuding so much hate and bile towards ur fellow human being?? heck! Someone quite close to u as much as a sister in law... Ma niggar u is Bleep*d mehn!

Don't even wanna talk bout the inheritance part, that one is nauseating.

So there is something nauseating to you, thought everything can go, bro take a chill peal, I had moved out the city but my brother not stopped calling, he knows there is something about this particular move lol, and one more thing, I'm having fun currently, lots to eat and drink and no Niga is going to shag here without washing the sheet

philip0906:
He has clearly been ranting about his tradition and crap...If he is looking for courtesy, he should get his lazy, entitled self to his own house where he can live however he likes. The house belongs to the SIL and her husband and she can have sex anywhere she deems fit. If she didn't wash bedsheet, it is more reason he should get the fvck outta their zone to his comfy zone.

For all I care anyone can have sex wherever they wanted including the market, please no need for the fight any longer I had moved to another city

blesoh:
Young man, are you her father?
You lack respect please pack out or wash the beddings

Packed out already but my brother can't stop calling cause I told him I'm just going for a meeting in another city, he knows from the body language I'm up to something, lol, and hey, it fun also here, so the world don't revolve around anyone flat,

cdm4live:
Quite a good read.
It's good to know you have read all these books and yet failed at solving one little problem you encounter in your brother's house.
I am beginning to believe that you read these books to prepare for a fight with your brother over your fathers properties.
You read to learn but not to corrupt.
Like I said, you have done well reading these books and you think now you are smarter in life, good for you.
I haven't read many of those books and yes, I will read about them someday but I have read some other books many of Lobsang Rampas' with chapters of life being my favorite. I have also read The Saffron Rope, living with the lama, feeding the flame, candle light and wisdom of the ancients by the same author.
I have also read Three against paradise city, Want to Stay Alive and This way for a shroud by James Hadley Chase, Marked for Violence by Tex Bradley, The Mysterious Mr Quin by Agatha Christie, Ice Station Zebra by Alistair Maclean, Earth's Aura and many others.
I believe not all Nigerians are lazy in reading.

You see, non of the authors you mentioned lived their life complaining which you are now. With the vast knowledge from the books you read, you can't successfully and silently hit your brother or wife a surprise hit that will make them respect you instead you are opting for a physical challenge with people who are having fun with themselves.

You are pained because you have no girl who loves you and maybe you brag a lot. Live life easily, most of these authors you read about their stories never wrote what they endured in their relationship life with family and maybe friends.

If you leave the house, they will share your fathers properties so why are you afraid to ask for your own share of the property and instead planning to fight them.

Now, let me ask, did they know you were around, did you drop a written note to wash the bedspread after they have done the doing or you expect them to get up from sex and go into washing of your bedsheet, are they kids?

What stopped you from going to ask of a new bedsheet or rapper from your brother or his woman?

You have already conceived evil in your heart and maybe you may be planning something terrible.

For reading the books you mentioned, your title should have been "My brother and his wife had sex in my room and this is how I made her wash the bedspread or what I did afterwards that startled them" and not to come here to cry over loads of books you have read and yet couldn't solve a simple problem.

Now, why did you read about sex, because you are obsessed about sex and can't go for it.

We are not burying in our lives in sex no, but if you want to know a thing well you practice.

You can read well but have no love and maybe no life but your brother is enjoying his life having it in your room, maybe kitchen anywhere they want.

I know I don't know much about life but don't be carried away by lots of books you read. Apply principles in those books to situations that need them. Seek a way to maneuver out of difficulties at times without a show of strength.

Don't hate on your brothers wife, find yours and enjoy the life.

Do more and talk less.

"pearl harbour attack that changed the direction of the world war two"

This should be channeled towards conquering Nigerians problem and not to your brother except you perceive trouble from him.

In civil engineering, you encounter heavy mathematics which most times you don't make use of them for life on site.

Read and know but don't use it to cause problems where there is non.

Stay blessed.

I'm into politics in my public handle this handle here is strictly private and on a good day, I will deactivate, cheers, I had left my bros house, a good friend is treating me to some drink in another city, I will get back to hustling tomorrow, courage isn't that bad after all, I read to be happier man not to attack anyone. I hope hope to play in the big table in national politics soon

YorubaPrince:
Again, like I said, You're one rigid and complex individual who needs immediate help!

The immediate help I need is freedom from those with no regards

rooftops:
...is she younger than you?

No one is talking about age here, shes older than me, but I just said this act is disgusting to me, if you must do this, tidy it up, is it too big,

Freedomforever:
Baba just be cool he is Ur bro,is only a matter of time you will be out of his out.so just chill and endure......

I had taken that decision today, I'm out for my self, I left the house already so no big deal

YorubaPrince:
But dude, go and check yourself... You're one rigid and complex individual who needs help especially if you're still planning to be a prophet as you claimed.

I don't care about being any fucken prophet in a world where people are right becuase they are better off, if I'm 26, stays in my brothers house, my brother that I helped to see rise, but what every body here is saying I hate my brothers wife, that a grown adult will have sex in a room another will stay in and not seem it fit to tidy it up, I made it clear even if my brother won't wash it, the wife a woman should, after having sex they took their bath and but left some other places dirty becuase they are chaste to themselves but to me they are disgusting, let them have their house, let me have my sanity.

IamAsiri:
He dislikes her so much that it can't help but seep through his statements.

@OP, why do you dislike your sister-in-law that much?

Say what you want to say, I had taken my decision, if I hate her, it is my right to hate anyone, at least now I'm no longer in the house can you still have a reason why i should not feel the way, I wish ?

YorubaPrince:
Gang90, You're completely MADDD! You're such an ingrate and hypocrite. You're living rent-free in your brother's house yet, complaining about meagre stuff. You claim to wanna be a Priest yet, have so much hatred for your brother's wife. Just imagine this Fool!

Again, You're MADDD! You're one relative or in-law every normal human should pray against having. Damn!

You maybe right, thanks for the advice, I'm now in another city they should leave their life while I pursue my peace and life

MissprudenceD:
Why do you hate yourbrother's wife? Why aren't you holding your brother accountable for what has been done? You are old enough to stay on your own, its even more disgusting to me that you brought their private affairs to the public to judge, what were you hoping to achieve? You want people to insult your brother's wife too? You are too big for this, making a big deal out of nothing, if you are so disgusted, get the Bleep out of their house. Your brother and his wife did absolutely nothing.
Grow up and stop complaining here abeg

I had gotten out of the house, case closed they can do whatever they want and I can have my peace and freedom

smiliyB:
I have been reading through your chats, I can't really tell why you hate her so much but what I'll say is that's not really nice....and another thing, you should hold your brother accountable too, she didn't have sex in your room by herself, they were two of them. In fact, you should hold your brother more accountable than the lady, he suppose pick the bedsheet and make sure your room is in order as his brother. Don't just say the lady doesn't respect you, your brother doesn't respect you too.

AND As a priest you claim you wanted to be, I expect a more forgiving spirit from you, let some things go, free your heart from bad feelings and negative, that's the kind of heart God's Spirit will love to live in.

What you refuse to understand is that I did not say shes a sinner I said this stuff is disgusting to me, I wonder what's hard to understand here, why should I forgive her or not did i say she wronged me, i said they ought to make the bed or wash it, given that another adult Male will be there