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This guy fit dey serious oo, Hundred Naira no be small money for this Buhari Time oo, leme too go do my search

southniyikaye:
let him know since your intention is pure towards him.
You established a relationship already though he will be disappointed but still, let him know

These people can behave somehow, you may tell him now just for him to report you

I'm really speechless on this one

This is such an interesting piece, thanks for the nice write, wonder whatever happened to history, think we were closer than we ever knew, thinks this concept should be a welcome development

IamRichards:
Give it a go mr.gang90 if you can take care of her emotional and financial well being.

Emotional care of her is where the main challenge will erupt she seem to be in real demand, for financial, I can afford comfort although I can't be extravagant to any woman unless families though when I have ulterior motives I can go extra mile but for this particular lady, she's even employed in one of the big hospital here, I don't see her as a financial liability, she's stable and have a good sense of financial management, and naturally of simple taste

PattyMike:
U had better let the sleeping dog lie. Don't start what you cannot finish. You will only hurt her in the process and make her even more withdrawn after it ends. And it will surely end in tears, hers not yours. BTW why do u spend so much time in ur "married' brother's house, you will lose your respect when u always around, slowly but definitely. Normally if no be say ur sister In-law know ur parole she no for tell her friend to ignore u. Just one of those things. You may have good intentions but you're simply not just ready for what she wants.

You guys had killed me today, okay see I'm sincere with this moniker because I post the truth here, things I can't talk in my main account, the truth is though I'm a very free person, I'm not a player like my sister inlaw thinks, she used to see many girls come finding me here and when they will be gone, she will be hailing me like, oshey, in a week three girls can even come finding me and she keeps referring to them as her co-wives, I'm Igbo our dad is late and while you may not be conversant with Igbo tradition, I got lots of things to inherit which I'm not asking for how it is being managed now because I believe I can go into the world and make a mark for myself...that's part of why I stay in my brother's house because in Igbo land with your father dead your eldest brother assume the role of the father, he can't reject that responsibility or throw you out especially when your family is well to do, you can always demand your share of your fathers wealth and everyone mind their business, now I'm working on a travel outside the country before the coronavirus turned everything around so I'm either looking to use the money to continue the travel processing or startup a much advanced tech business here, that's why I shuttle between my house, my sisters house and my family house all in the same city.

1beat:
she as problem don't package her

29 years old lady intend to dating 25years old guy who lives in his brother house and largely depend on his brother for survival, this same lady happen to be the guy brother's wife close friend. we all the lady decide to settle for less because age is not in her side. is not her pray to marry 25 years old guy but she as know choice.

both of you have problem sef

I don even tire for una sef, I know even do again...the bad mouthing here is made in china lol, So I'm now less, no problem I'm even tired of pointing out that the relationship between me and my brother is not the way you guys are viewing it...but make una take the reality you guys are used to, she is not by the way the oldest person I have dated...just because she's 29 and not married doesn't mean she got a problem, when will we ever learn to judge people not from our expectations

Scavy:
your eye go soon turn you

Why all of us for this country dey vex na, haba, 90 percent of the comment here, no body don talk better thing, everybody just dey prophecies doom, The way wey everybody dey take tell me "your eyes go soon clear", "your eyes go soon clear," "your eyes go soon turn around" , I come dey wonder say I get eye problem sef", haba, person no even fit toast girl in peace again in this country. My first girlfriend I was 14 she was 19, I can't say she abused me as a minor then, I was a little too exposed for my age as a child and later a teenager due to my frequent travel, my avid reading, my exposure to technology and having a little more cash than most people my age living around by then. I don't know you people should look at this case with less stereotype, if I must be real I'm a little odd person and most time, I had been hooked with older ladies, they are more in grasp of reality than fantasy cravings adolescents

Cowbell521:
Whoever is taking you serious no get work. Your eye go soon clear

I don see things for life I swear, my eyes don clear but all the things I seen made me realise that no matter what you do in life you must have something to regret, tomorrow you may regret why you didn't use the money you spent in school to start a business, another guy may regret why he did not use the money he used to start a business to pursue a degree, life is designed for regrets, if at this age and you haven't done something you regret search well or get prepared the regret could be on the way, so I should be taken serious because I understand the worse case scenario

AmazingELixir:



Op you're as confused as your random thoughts...don't gaan find your mate be fooling around.

When you know you can't offer what she wants why not back out...you don't even have your own house... squatting with your elder brother and eying your brother's wife friend.

Children of this days...that is how you guys misconstrue niceties and friendly gestures for affection, continue your brother and the wife will soon throw you out of that house.

Guy you get bad mouth oo lol, so each time someone is in his brother's house it is cause such person don't have house, lol, you can just advice me not to go for her but the way you spoke is quite harsh, just because I have interest in my brothers wife's friend, he will throw me out, that's let's say I don't have options, haven't people passed through worse fate for what they believe in...Anyway my brother is not that kind of person, he is 38 and he is a guy man himself sometime if my brother wanted me to wash the car he wants to use and I'm with the said lady he will just Jejelly goan use the second car. See I'm that kind of last born that just looking for any chance to leave home oo, do you think I will be in this city by now if not because everyone is trying their best so i don't leave, guy my head dey hot oo, I'm that guy in the house everybody wants to be cool with oo, cause I got options oo, my siblings for other place wey dey beg me to come for long now never see my leg but this my brother me and am dey jell well, him sabi the scope but my sister still live in this same city and my family house too...My family house is not far na, just me my mum and the little boy staying with us, lol..

laosy:
Oga, I don't think it's genuine love you have for her, I think it's just a pity kinda love and you won't like to build your relationship around that type cuz she might guilt trip you with emotions. Nevertheless, you should just observe her well and try your luck but don't let her chain you with emotions.

She told me her story after we started getting along, we both like literature and we discussed a lot on that, we can relate on so many things, it is true that she had a slightly abusive childhood which made her a little introverted and she took interest in writing during those years, she said her parent didn't show her much love because she was the first child and being a female she did all the work in the house until she grew up and even now, she still have those controls hanging around her, I don't pity her but i have realised she is somewhat unlucky, it feels like people like her because of her good nature and not really because they are genuinely into her, often I watch her being abused and the truth is most times she don't even realise she's being abused often. To her love is like a reward for good work, these her attitude makes her be extremely nice just she can feel loved but looking at her she got several qualities that she should be loved just for being her. Not because she buys stuff while coming, not because she took care of so and so when they sick not because she cooks for everyone, she deserves to be loved, it not pity here it cause I see a quality in her that most people abuse

It is not healthy for you not to fall sick at all, you see sickness is to your body what exercise is to athletes, sickness makes your immune system battle ready given that you are young it could be normal for you not to fall seriously I'll, but stuff like cough, slight fever are all important that's a sign your immune system is active

JOACHINpedro:
Wetin come later happen?

I listened to the advise I got here, I didn't go again, I used the money I wanted to use to buy her chocolate to buy corn and ate in my room

Y

austine4real:





Let the ashawo brothers kontinu


It will end in tears

Guy better warn yourself oo

2dice01:
Your Brothers have gotten to age where their sexual attraction value is at the Peak

For ladies from 17 - 23
For guys 30 - 50/55

Women have limited time
But men are fúcking evergreen

So you see that girl doing shakara for you now when your get to your Peak her younger sister that is probably writing WAEC/JAMB now will be your Spec

This one give me hope die, so I'm yet to peak

Johnbestman:
AM SCARED OF THIS THING CALLED MARRIAGE, CAN I REALY STICK TO 1 WOMAN. SOON NOW DE WILL START ASKING OR TELLING ME TO GET MARRIED. ABOBI DIS TIN GET AS E B..

No you can't

1beat:
you think you can solve her problem but you can't solve her problem. let her be

I'm not trying to solve her problem oo, I only spoke that way in response to the guy that said just because I make her luagh and stuff like that and that I should go and hustle and hammer...On my own I don't think the girl have a problem, it just that we get along fine and I have told her earlier that I liked her, we were getting along, we fixed a date, but all of a sudden she changed, and my sister inlaw later told me that her friend is no longer at the stage of relationship that leads no where but marriage. I'm not ready for marriage now but I like her and she likes me too, it was when my sister inlaw realised that her friend is losing it that she must have intervened, once she told me "it is not that you are that fine oo" in my sister in law's presence so my sister inlaw jokingly said hmmm so it had gotten to this extent and that was the beginning of the end...

GraGra247:
For your own good and for her own good leave her alone.

But I know you won't listen cos you've built an imaginary love castle with her in your mind.

When things go south, remember you were warned... and that you caused it.

Okay fine I may listen to you and let her be but stop making it seem like I'm not being responsible just because I liked a lady,

GraGra247:
Village people are pushing this one.

That relationship won't work. Leave her alone. You're in your brother's and still being fed and you think dating an older heartbroken lady is a good idea.

You're even creating a fictitious imaginary affection with her in your mind just because she laughs wit you.

Hustle and hammer then you're ready for a REAL relationship.

I'm not in my brothers house in the contest you painted, lol like I'm a 25 years old able bodied man, like being fed in the context you painted is hell wrong, I'm an independent, hardworking young man from a comfortable family, my staying in my brothers house is temporal, I take your advice serious but you should understand the situation, liking her is not stopping me from chasing my dreams, meanwhile I'm doing well for the time, my stay in my brothers house is almost mutually beneficial as I attend to some things like tech related aspect of his business and sometimes I come over to stay with the kids if they are going out, I got another family house in this city. Also I really wish to use this opportunity to point out the tone in your write up especially the part that says "hustle and hammer" my dear that slogan is very common among our young desperate fellows, please let's not attach every aspect of life to hustling and hammering, i own a small business myself but this desperation to blow shouldn't be the motivation. First of all we need to think about creating a solution to existing problem, no one becomes a billionaire by conventional hustling rather one become wealthy by preferring solutions to a widely acknowledged problem and if you think by making this lady luagh i can't hit big, wait until i make one million ladies laugh

muchtalk:
Oga go for the kill

So maybe I should offer to buy her something like chocolate bar and then pick up a discussion on her favourite BB naija housemate, I don't watch it but it could be a discussion she would have the upper hand then I will listen and luagh accordingly as she expresses her preferences

EmptyGarden:
You again?

Guy it interesting thing happening around me oo, it is not my fault, I'm serious, this one is urgent baba, I need gingering

So I spend a lot of time in my married brothers house, my brother's wife is a nurse and has this cute friend back in the nursing school days that frequently come around.

This her friend is around 29 years while myself I'm 25, many times I got into talks with her, she is a very nice, intelligent but naive and vulnerable lady, with a very kind heart, and she was once able to open up to me about a very remarkable heartbreak she once had and it seems ever since, she had been single, her friend my brother's wife now has three kids and I guess it a whole concern for her.

At one time we were really getting so close, I began to like her genuinely, I don't think I did anything really wrong but I guess my brother's wife must have told her she better not waste her time with me.

Okay the truth is, I understand she needs to get married as soon as possible and I need to get married as later as possible but I'm truly falling for her. She had become a bit withdrawn from me ever since but just today, she was the last person I was hoping to see and when the doorbell rang and I went to get the door, she was the one.

She just said "Oga how far", I was like fine, apparently I had learnt to respect myself and not make it like I'm desperate for her but what do you think, Do you think it being disrespectful to my sister inlaw if I liked her friend do you think I should just look away and walk away, do you think I should go ahead and make her realise that no matter how short, how much we don't see the future, present happiness is worth a try.

She seem broken and lonely inside, there's always this life she Express whenever we are together, She's free and luaghs her lungs out when we are together, there's the charms and the connections but maybe the thing wrong is because it is me and also age is a concern, maybe while it may seem impossible for me to put a ring in that finger it is very much real how I put a smile in her face.

She is in the house now, she is sitting in the living room, I'm playing music and surfing nairaland right here in my room, my brothers wife is cooking in the kitchen, she really needs a company but it shouldn't be me because maybe I'm the wrong guy, I should be playing music in the room instead or should I go out to this pretty lady I feel for, I'm not playing her, it risky to play her when my brother's wife is involved.

What do you think

EmptyGarden:
From your own gist, and the definition you have so kindly provided, Philanderers seems to be apt.
Maybe you'd prefer adulterers?

Anyway, those are besides the issue on ground.
To help with your question, Ladies do claim that married men are better at taking care of women.
Like giving more and demanding less.
Some ladies are scared of absolute commitment, with a married man, you wouldn't worry about that I guess.

Edit: those labels were on a much lighter note.

I can guarantee you that my brothers are responsible family men, see one fact remains that 60% of married man cheats or have the tendency to cheat, 30% are likely restrained by some factors like financial instability, the fear of consequences and the desire for a peace of mind the remaining 10% could just be fateful because it is their nature to be or maybe they are really into their wives, coming to that, I can bet you that my brothers are really responsible, it is not my job to monitor their relationship life but it is my duty to claim ownership of the CD when they are finally cought with one that's brothers for you,

Tocheagle:
Wear a fake ring and have the mannerisms of a married man. Girls will fall for you. I know of a man who refuses to wear his wedding ring to work cos according to him. It attracts women to him and he doesn't want to cheat on his wife. Ladies love married dudes. The excitement they derive from married men coming after them is unexplainable

Do you think it will just be possible to wear the mannerism of a married man, like for me now, when I'm not wearing Jean (torn or normal) with shirt, I'm wearing three piece suite or shirts with plain, or just about any cool combo, don't see myself wearing those Ankara, Senate, isiagu or babariga etc more associated with the responsible and groomed family men, also, I'm not ready to treat a woman like an egg anytime soon, Well I still do open car doors for the ladies but that's when the handle is broken and the car can't open from the inside...lol don't mind me oo, atimes I can just be silly

EmptyGarden:
So you're saying you have 2 philanderers as role models?

Na too much Eglish be your problem, why you no use word wey person fit understand without consulting goodle, wikipedia or oxford dictionary, why didn't you just use simpler word instead of philanderer.

Well from the screenshot below, I don't think they are philanderers, they could be in a classical case of victims of tempting attraction

So I hang a lot with my two brothers, one is 38 married with three kids, my second brother 35 also married but I think women are more inclined towards them, there is less hesitation when these two asks for a girls contact than when I do...

Most times on the drive, my brother pulls over and hey in few minutes he is already at the create new contact option but for me and I guess most other single young guys it a little different, cause the girl will be like I don't give out my line to strangers.

I can't say it about the looks, while my first brother looks a little taller than me or in a more realistic view a little more handsome than I may be, though I look more athletic and masculine, I'm arguably more handsome than my second brother but the big question is why does these two get the women despite being married.

My first brother is politically inclined and have this composure and oratory, like most first and second born, he is an astute leader then my second brother is a simple science inclined pragmatic and action oriented individual both are intelligent in their own way for me, just like most last born I may be subtly intelligent, inwardly stubborn and have this penchant for tech.

Now you may already be able to guess our personality, so why are the women more into them, is it an issue with their personality or women just prefer married men, I'm 25 years old now and few years back before they got married like 6 years ago, I used to get the girls, but how did things changed suddenly.

Did my personality depreciate, did their personality appreciate with marriage, I'm not going to downplay the impact of financial security but in this regards, I'm more likely to spend on a woman than either of them can do because at this stage in my life I don't tend for anybody, even my mum don't ask me for money.

Can anybody explain to me the sudden increase in these my married brothers attractiveness, don't get it wrong I'm not a pushover when it comes to the women's games, my friends frequently acknowledge me as a badass but how much I become nearly insignificant in the presence of my two married brothers is something strange

For instance, if we attend a party together, the fine single attendant is going to serve them with utmost respect and even personally offer to be called if they needed any further help but for me, I will waite until one concerned old lady from the other corner works up and say, my son have anyone attended to you...

I'm not going to downplay the impact of composure, charisma and other charms of individual make up but remember that we are chips of the same block, we have our differences but our similarity far outweighs.

Now would anyone be kind enough to tell me what have changed and remember it had not always been this way, I used to be the flame.

Zzor:
what did you smoke

I smoked misquito urine, Do you think mankind can totally exclude our humanity while still alive...God is wonderful and to an extent worldly, so if it even the bible account and God made man from the soil, is soil a spiritual concept, in as much as humans are spiritual beings also, we would know when to address things from that point of view...You are human today blood running through your vain that's worldly stuff...

Zzor:
she was stupid to start with,you on the other hand is confused.Wordly people

Look at this one oo, worldly people indeed, you are already in Abiss abi, how you gon be in the world still breathing the worlds oxygen still got say worldly people lol

Palema007:
Dude I will be very sincere with you and will tell you the truth most pussy inspired redpillers on Nl will not tell you. Don't ever let anyone puncture your self worth or value. You weren't ready to have sex with her, you didn't want it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with your decision. You did want you wanted at that moment, don't be guilt tripped by anyone into thinking you offended the lady or you missed a big chance of fvcking just another hole. For heaven's sake stop attaching too much significance on sex you didn't want!

Just move on! Life isn't all about sex. If she comes back wanting it, fine. If not forget her. Your personal value is all that matters!

I had started thinking I had become another guy who couldn't live up to conventional expectations, thanks for your words, I feel better knowing I didn't go against the norm

cappucino925:
Written in these walls are the stories that i cant explain....

Your parody is as complicated as the wall itself, but these sorts of story don't need explanations