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Marpol:
Your problem is not the sex. You dislike your brother's wife.

Just remember you will marry one day and expect your brother to like your wife!

If I dislike her it my God given right to do so, and I owe no one no explanation, I had taken the decision to start a new life, for your info I'm in another city now so that's it stop teaching me who to love or hate

Kylce042:
Ya so sounding like a gay.

I'm not gay, if I sound like one, I had hinted several times that I have girlfriends,

lefulefu:
hope u have left that house.what ur brother and his wife are doing is giving u enuf hint to leave their house.u should try and pack and if u don't have enuf try and save and leave there as soon as possible.if u can't save then go back and live with ur mom.there is no shame in living with ur mother wen u down and I said I have a lovable mom.pack for ur own sanity and peace of mind.

I had left the house I can rent a flat with my cartel men and share the room, even if I happen to share a room with a guy, whenever he feels like bringing a woman who ever that is should be reaready to wash the sheets.

SURElee:
Big and respect demanding 26yr old living with his brother who doesn't see his brother's wife as one flesh, kindly move out. If you have money to be considering going to a hotel to stay, please go out and go rent your own space.

So that the couple can have freedom to perform their conjugal rights wherever and however they feel like it in their own space.


Begin look for house.

Say whatever you want to say, I'm now in Another city I had been on transit for the past hour or so, when you marry get a brother inlaw that sees is you af one, please let le be I had taken my decision

emrain:
Mumu, at 26 you still think you're a baby. Don't go and rent your own house, stay there and be crying over sperm on a bedsheet you did not buy. Idiot.

Thank you, I had been on transit that's why I had not been able to reply I'm now in another city

IbrahimSkiba:
That's what you are...

Why do you think I'm a psycho

wisemum:
You can gently talk to your brother about it or even joke with him about it, instead of fuming inside you or seething with rage.

On a more serios note, I hope when you get married, your other siblings will also detest your wife with same intensity. When she eats and leaves her plate because of the baby crying , i hope whichever relation is putting up with you then, will take her plate and soak it in hot bleach water to get your wifes filthy mouth germs off the plate.

You should go back to your father for adulthood Trainings

bukatyne:
Very very funny thread

The couple was wrong to have sex in the room the OP is staying in and doubly wrong for not cleaning up after themselves.

I can not process having sex with my husband in a room not mine and not cleaning up.

I can't imagine sleeping on a bed people had sex in and not cleaned up.

We all know what is right by decorum and courtesy.

Let's not let our 'disagreement' with the OP's outlook towards life change that.

He also stated somewhere that he expects his brother's wife to wash the sheets because she is the stranger to him and would require same from his sister's husband. (Well!)

The OP is obviously one who believes in traditional spirituality and has OCD hence his disgust for women (fluids, periods, pregnancy, childbirth etc) and rigidity. Some do not share a bed with their wives when during her periods. Some don't eat her food then and other crazy stuff. Some do not even share bedrooms or bathrooms with their wives. Such men are also very 'traditional' to the point of misogyny.

If the OP sieves through the thread, he has been given enough counsel. He should also ensure he marries a lady who has same outlook towards life like him.

Thanks for your understanding, although honestly I'm not quite traditional, I'm a science freak and I get disgusted on the thought of menstruation, and all of that, from medical stand point am a bit of an extremely neat kind of person, non fresh human blood irritates me and all these, and a couple other things, to think that yes shes my brothers wife but I don't share any blood connections with here and I lie down in a place knowing someone not connected to me had sex there it makes me instantly cold, and I might through up, these things the best way I can define it is disgusting, and as such person keeps doing such they look more so to me, I can easily relate to my brother bodily fluid becuase he carried me as a child and I must have once urinated on him and he must have laughed it off he didn't throw me away for that, but this is a woman I knew not much just that she's my brothers wife and everyone expect me to even it her shit becuase her husband pays the tent and tomorrow I will be someone's husband too, if I'm married and living in the same room with my wife would it exactly had been the same all I demanded is they should wash it, even if it my brother he should wash it, same yesterday I washed some of my brothers clothes but I can't wash his boxers unless he is sick so what's hard to understand here

cybriz82:
Who bought d bedsheet?

My brother gave me money to buy the bedsheet and pillow, now I no longer have any pillow, that's no issue this is different, she had two pillow initially but when I bought my two she disposed off her own, she took one first, and when I travelled she collected the other one, the bedsheet used to be two, when one gets dirty I wash the other and use but last week she collected the second one and yesterday now this happened

JLM:
From the number of the word "disgusting" you have used here, about a room in a house that is not your own, I am led to strongly believe, you actually NEVER actually liked that your brother's wife.

In fact I put it to you that you have absolute hatred for that lady. It has got nothing to do with bedsheets. You can argue with your conscience, but that's the only truth I see here. For you to bring this to nairaland, from all you expressions, you don't get along with her, especially in your kind. You need to plan to move out.

Personally I don't know why many women probably out of desperation marry into families where they are not wanted. It's better mother's should look for wives for their son's, so that they will love and accept the lady.

I have a son so I am really worried about all this. I would prefer to stay away from my son and his family completely if he insists on marrying someone I don't like, than punish the lady with hatred and all these inlaw gimmicks. Please just plan to move out.

Who is talking about like, love or hate, I know what disgusts me and as far as she keeps it that way, nothing is changing my views

[quote author=GodisFirst post=99085208][/quote]You are right, can we move on, I had told my brother today I'm travelling tomorrow can we stop talk about this already

IbrahimSkiba:
PSYCHO

Why are you calling me a psycho

Pwhitelaw:
You keep saying the same thing over again.Take the damn sheet to the dry cleaner and move on.You have a reason from creating this thread and despite all opinion and ideas given to solve your problem you keep taking the issue like something serious.....You will end up using the same spoon they used after having MouthAction abi you go burn the spoon too.

I'm leaving the damn house, they should wash the damn sheet when they are good

bmaks:
God will continue to guide, prosper and protect you! Your glory will not be covered in Jesus name.

I don't even know if I should say Amen becuase if my brother which I know could have be carried away, cause, he had been drinking that same yesterday, did that with same intention these people here are saying which I know he didn't cause if I confront my brother on that he will wash the bedsheet but I know I'm not staying with them forever but this morning I told him I will be travelling for a meeting, he don't seem okay with that he seem to observe that I'm up to spnething, but I'm a grown up.

But I got start somewhere being a man rulling my own world.

AceRoyal:
If you cannot respect your brother's wife then you have no respect for your brother.
You have been publicly insulting his wife out of pure hatred.
You have big psychological and emotional issues.
At 26 you're very immature and lack emotional intelligence.
You should work on yourself.
You wanted to be a priest yet you have no love, respect or tolerance for people. You're so judgemental and feel so self righteous/sanctimonious while your heart is filled with so much hate and bile.
You maybe a grown up but you need to develop emotionally and psychologically.

If you were my younger Bro and I stumbled upon this thread, heaven knows I'll deal with you squarely.
You're a very immature and disgusting person!

I prefer a 1000 slap than what you expect to be so common to you, this is me my brother can discipline but If i can't discipline him cause he pay the rent, where is the justice, I had respected him enough to stay up through the night and I will also take all the advice I'm getting here, so it all good

harmony75:
guy calm down and learn you're too arrogant pls calm down you're with your brother yes you will learn somethings that can also help you in your own marriage when the time comes �

And one very thing I have learnt is that it disgust some people to sleep in a an after sex sheet, no body is an island, and nobody is empty, so we all learn everyday, I maybe Arrogant but that doesn't not mean nothing can be learnt from me

Osashalom:
Op, having looked deep through your write up, the problem is not that they had sex in your room, the problem is still not that she didn't wash the bedsheets but the problem actually is that you hate your brother's wife. If the hatred is removed I am sure you won't be angry over anything here at all. Finally my advice to you is love your brother's wife as you will love your sister,

You had looked through everything but saw me through your view, this stuff disgust me, this got nothing to do with love or hate, my girlfriend once asked if I should ever help her wash her pants, I told her as far as your two hands works that's not happening, people are different

chccho:
Go n eat shit

Well God has to say that First becuase my motivation does not come from outside but from within, I reject being a refugee or or being squatted as you think, you don't know...

chccho:
thunder fire u and that your yeye culture!!! So u are still here defending your emptiness? U just displayed your follisheness to over 20,000 people online if u don't know. Shameless entitled squatter!!!

That was yesterday, I was a shameless squatter in my brothers house because I wished they washed the bedsheet, I keep clean, but today, I'm a free born with great destiny

Rushna27:
bro u funny oooo.. Kai!!! under d roof wia u take shelter u hate d woman of f house dis much. if she wants u out of dat house she wud ave done dat but here u are showing aw hateful ur mind is towards her. fine, wot happened in dat room is wrong knowing someone else's occupies dia but dat does not stops u from doing d needful. u can't touch it den get a dry cleaner to do d job.. sleep on d couch in d living room.. den plan on leaving d house asap..... just Kip ur ego and hatred inside ur brief case....

So simple for you to say, lol, if she wants me out lol, as if I had been staying here all my life, why do some of you women not understand your limits, same way if I want her not to step her foot in my family house she won't and heaven will not fall, is she the only one that has right to some space.

tunapawizzy:
GUY HOW FAR...WHERE U COME SLEEP LAST NIGHT

I stayed up hustling with my laptop till day break, brushed my teeth, took my bath told my brother I want to travel tomorrow, I got find a same a suitable environment to continue my hustle

Freemasonry:
You're just brewing a storm in a teacup. Give the sheets to a laundry guy and have them wash it to a dazzle, if you like they can sanitize it too.

Going forward learn to keep them in the loop on your movements as it pertains to their house, that should help you avoid awkward situations like this.

I'm not defending your brother and his wife, but sex in odd places can be a tonic for most couples, so don't get too upset your room was used.

That was yesterday, I had stayed up through the night, they will still wash it whenever it is okay for them as for, me God knows that I was not born to be taken for granted

bmaks:
Ehhhh! My brother I think you are the proud and entitled one here ooooo.... You complaining of your brother's wife disgusting you in HER OWN MATRIMONIAL HOUSE..... so if you don't wash the car or run the errands they will die abi Mr Man dats your responsibility to do as part of being grateful they housed you! .... Just Negodu dis nwannem madu

Wake up and get off your high horse and go get your own house if you want them to stop having sex in your room..... You might soon wake up to find that your brother's disgusting wife lock the door of that room with key and Union Padlock while you are inside or gone out one day!

Thanks for the encouragement, that's exactly what I started doing since yesterday, lets see whose life will really be affected without the other, maybe the next person that will stay with them will be totally a saint who will lick their after sex sheet

PreetyAngel4U:
Sorry to hear, but in the context of marriage, you are now the STRANGER. You get?

That's what I'm saying why would she let a stranger sleep on her after sex sheet without washing it, where is morality gone in this generation

Mindlog:
He would not have made it to the Priesthood even if he had managed to scale through to get admitted, he would likely drop off by his second year in Philosophy (with about 7-8years more to go before being ordained a Priest) because hating sex and women is not the prerequisite of Priestly vocation.

I don't hate sex neither do I hate women, I hate untidy environment,

YouareaBITCH:
If that disgusts u so much, change the sheets with new ones. I assume that’s their house like u said, their bed and also their sheets. Yesterday was val, mayb they wanted to try something new but u kinda restricting them. So find ur own place since u can even afford going to spend a night at the hotel. Lastly a good bed sheet u can manage won’t cost u more than 2,500... so stop ranting. You sound so entitled and jealous

I told you it was only about yesterday, I already have solution today, you knew yesterday was Sunday and val, I couldn't go buy bedsheet, so today i already got it fixed so why don't you read between the lines and not jump ro comment based on emotions, I had two bedsheet, she took one, okay I had two pillow now she took the two, so what exactly do you expect me to do

Greyworld:
You are here complain, the woman is somewhere thinking about the next nice sex position she ll have with her lovely husband in their house.

I have reasons to believe this whole shit has happened just once.

Why would someone who wanted to be a priest be so unforgiving. calling someone disgusting.

maybe you don't know how disgusting it is to av a 26 year old hateful entity living in your house.

Yes I'm hateful but I tell you I'm not here to make you feel good, if you do same I will outright call you disgusting

harmony75:
is their home so if you don't like it gerraout Mtcheeeeew as if you've a choice it's her home so? you wound have preferred if your brother was with a strange woman shaaa you will asked the strange woman to wash the bed sheets?! just because you know this woman is that why you should be complaining like a little child without respect, the facts he's your brother and his wife should give joy that they're happy couple wishing same for your mumu self � you're even the one that's disgusting. your brother must have taught of a different place since is val to make it different for his sweet heart �

If my brother was with a strange woman what I did is what I will do, I didn't sleep in the bed yesterday and they will end up washing it themselves, cause me I'm not taking it, Marty first before you understand the meaning of happy married life lol, I have no problem If they are happy or not, I only said at this point I can't take this, take to the bank that's me

bmaks:
Seriously??..... Lock his room...... In the house he is paying rent for abi?

Imagine person wey dem borrow motor still they whine say na quarter tank of fuel dem leave for am inside the motor

#EntitlementMentality

This is why you could remain poor becuase you think family is that way, do you think I'm a liability and I make no contribution, I told him today I will be travelling tomorrow and he really feel it cause he knows my use, don't think everyone is a liability, running small errand like washing cars, fetching water, doing type setting and most office work are things I do for him, you think i won't be missed lol, calm your pride every family is different

bmaks:
Are you sure your pain is not that YOU NEVER NAK AKPAKO sinceeeeeeee


Talking of you saying the wife is Disgusting, such words may earn you your way to the veranda soonest from your own blood brother!

At 26, you had beta be grateful to God dat your brother still cares enough for you to stay under his roof without paying rent

My advise it's high time you carried your bag and go rent a room even if na face my i slap you to with.

Honour starts with you carrying your cross by yourself.

Let's not feel entitled here !

I wonder how much pride people got, so are you saying that if I'm not under his roof I will be sleeping under the rain, God had a plan for me before I was formed

nnekaike:
please don't get married anytime soon,you need to GROW UP.

A lot of things are needed to get married including neatness, if you are untidy, I will leave the space for you

Greyworld:
No offence but that dude sounds evil demented and cursed. You can't hate your brother's wife and still live with them.

To imagine he said he wanted to be a priest "off" me. No wonder God rejected him.

If God rejected me I wouldn't be here just learn your lesson you are not even my brother, next time you have aex, try and wash the sheet if you know someone else ne sleeping there, you are also disgusting