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Voltage131:
Why do you hate that innocent woman? (your brother's wife) or is it because she didn't allow her friend to date you?

Not because of that, I don't even know she exist in real time, she's the one always attacking me for no reason, exaggerating any little thing I do, my brother don't even use to tell me so many things she says about me, for instance about a year ago, she was taken home for her disregard of some aspect of our tradition for married women, when they went to her house for peace talks, can you imagine I was not even there neither was the issue about me, but she said all sorts of things against me there, my sister who now is late told me, what she said about me there, my brother did not mention that to me, but still sometimes she travelled, I was home alone and sick, light finished, she came back asked me if light finished I said yes, she walked away called my brother who is not in town told him that I finished the light but did not recharge it, my brother told her, why don't you pity someone that had stayed for days in darkness but have issue that he did not recharge the light, what is my business with recharging light, my brother did not tell me all these but told my late sister who told me, later that day my brother sent me money to go and recharge the light now, my elder sister that leaves in this city and used to tell me all what she says behind my back is no longer here, I had been trying as much as possible to avoid any trouble with anybody, becuase my case will be discussed in places no one will speak for me, so that's it since you went back to dig up my old post, I dont hate her, I just feel indifferent.

GerogeI:
On the other side of things, nobody expects a 26 year old to spend the night of 14th Feb in his room in his brothers house. On the flipside, am a prudent person like you.

On the reality side, I just want you to know you are missing a huge part of your life now. The girls or girl you are suppose to find now, you will never find once you cross your 30s, not because they are not there, but because you will be a madman, looking for a needle in a haystack, where everything looks like a needle. So do not do the prudence thing beyond 28. Next year also ensure you have a girl hanging on your arms on 14 th Feb, not observing your bed sheets. You do not need to have sex with her, just have her with you. That alone is a lesson you will need.

I work for a small news corporation which I traveled to gather some news, women are a lot disturbing and I will be in trouble tomorrow for not taking anyone out, and even yesterday a spiritualist told me to be careful of women, I have at least 7 women that wants to be with me today, of which two are married, I had been serially avoiding women.

That's why all these things looks horrible to me becuase I'm running away from women, my two main lines had been off since morning, I have a project I need to deliver by tomorrow, the way it looks I prefer to stay home so that every girl will think oh, he didn't go out today, but even the home proved no more peaceful

GerogeI:
Are you from where?
You think things will be divided just because you want it done. Better go ask your elders, that you are agitated does not mean you inheritance will be handed down especially if you are likely to waste it away as you sound quite immature.

Lol at 26, the right thing to do in Igboland is to share the late father's properties among the boys, I never cared a lot about all those things especially when my brother had most times, taken his responsibilities as a father since my father's passing, I can always ask for my share of my fathers properties any day any time, well I had never looked that way becuase I believe I can make a name for myself but not when my peace is threatened and people making me feel like a liability just becuase I'm spending a temporal phase in my brother's house

CHoccolaTE:
Anyways, I understand.
I stayed with my sister and her husband once when I was still job hunting and the husband brother was also staying in the house too because it was a very large house with many rooms

One afternoon I came back from my outing and when I got to the room I was staying I found the door locked. I wanted to knock but before I was able to I heard adult noise/ sex noise coming from inside the room so I just stepped away and went to wait in sitting room for my sister husband brother ( ) and his girlfriend to come out, I knew it was him in the room and it couldn't have been my sister and her husband because both of them had jobs that they work 9 to 5 and are never at home in the afternoon.

Anyway after some time the guy came out and came to sit in parlor to do his office work on the laptop. He didnt even look embarassed or anything, just greeted normal greeting and started arranging his work station in parlor, meanwhile the girlfriend was still in the room, probably sleeping. I couldn't force her to go out so that I can enter my room to freshen up and rest so I stayed inside parlor waiting for her to wake and leave.

After some time she sha got up and joined us in parlor then her boyfriend ordered shawarma for both of us and we ate and then he ordered uber for her to take her home then she left

Chai

When I got back to my room the whole bed looked like iyamma to me, I even saw empty carton of postinor 2 on the bedsheets to confirm that they were doing mummy and daddy on my bed. I dont know why they didn't use their own room.
I dont know why they didnt lock the house door and do it in parlor, why they chose my bed instead.
I told my sister about it when she returned from work and she laughed and said I should lock the door next time and go out with the key.

Since I couldn't sleep on that iyamma bedsheets where two people did their yamayama I turned the mattress over and dusted it hard and spread like two wrappers on it to sleep that night.

Then I washed the bedsheets in washing machine.


The end.


Chai, I too dey talk sha. Who asked me for my life story sef?


OP sorry about all this, regardless of what anyone says, it was very wrong of them to have sex in your room, very wrong and unhygienic.

Sleep on the floor or remove the sheets and sleep on bare mattress. Tomorrow wear nylon bag on your hands and wash the bedspread.

Ndo

Lol, this situation is quite horrible, I might not even sleep tonight, I just can't wait for day to break, I'm allergic to cold floors and also has Tommy pains whenever I sleep on extremely hard surfaces, i could however work till about 5 o'clock then tomorrow morning, i can go back to my family house for the time being or go spend sometimes with other of my siblings.

Then I will plan for whatever place I stay, it is terrible for me, if I didn't have options then it will be manageable but I have options, and staying here is not adding much values, my job I'm supposed to be travelling about but just becuase I stay here it feels somehow becuase I do work here and shelters had never been a problem to me and I can feed myself so why do they carelessly take my peace away, today is valentine day, if I decided to stay home, there couple of women and friend out there, why won't they even leave a little peace. Responsibility should have shown the woman that since there will be someone else in the room, it should be washed

GerogeI:
If am your brother, you will also sleep in your own house and cook your own food, with your own pots.
Frankly, you are just immature. Better go wash those sheets before I open my eyes.

That the best I will be in my family house and i will make it faster and we divide everything for a start, and I will be a landlord

stupidmod5:
my point, when u married u will have d nodge to have sex every where, because bed room sex get boring u wont know this cause u are still a virgin.

Let them have sex even inside a burning furnace and I won't care as far as they leave no traces.

There are husband and wives with children, all living in one room and no one knows how they have sex, so what's the difference, here wash the bedsheet after that's maturity, if you must use a room another sleeps in keep it clean, sex is more than two married people breathing fast and sinking deeper into one another, it a connection that points to everything we are it only little kids that takes sex as flimsy, do you know how many forces act during sex

stupidmod5:
when u are married u will even have sex in d kitchen

Did I say they shouldn't have sex, I only said they especially the woman should have washed the bedsheet early enough, kind of some non mature act, you know how to have sex but don't know how to keep tidy

PAWG:
My guy’s bro had sex with his babe in his room and they left poop smeared on the sheets


I wan laugh die

Lol, if it were me, I will burn such bed right after disgusting, lol, poop kwa, say you be my brother no reach that side ooo, let everyone carry their evil spirit, the one I'm carrying dey enough

stupidmod5:
am. sorry to say u are grown but not mature

Okay, thanks for the kind statement

Aderr:
Why would I leave my own room to go and have sex in my brother's room even if the house is mine? And then leave the room untidy?

Guy, they want you out of that house and the earlier you leave the better.
But tonight, just spread a cloth on the floor or turn the mattress over to the other end. People having sex on my bed disgusts me too.

I can even try to understand that since I had not been around if they decide to have sex anywhere the urge cought up with them it understandable but after, what they especially the woman ought to do is to wash the bedsheet knowing that another adult Male will be in the room.

I brought out my rapper my mum gave me, washed it around 4:30 now it dried but the bedsheet is even thicker, even if I decide to spread my rapper at one side, I'm a careless sleeper and I know I could turn ro still get to the other side.

I could be overreacting but sex in reality had never been something quite clean, I get think of gross things like bacterial through the night, people are different, I might go back to my family house for some times.

tasalanoni:
This young man is definitely an idiot. People like him end up simps. Disregard the fake show of manliness he's trying to put up. Let nobody waste time replying him.

A simp is actually the one who advises everyone not to waste time replying but did so with a reply lol

vincentjk:
This is somehow funny but I see you're serious about it.

Just get yourself an apartment if you can afford it and move on. Period.

I will start with a little space from tomorrow, and at the end they get to wash the sheet and more, and I get be free and pursue my destiny, shelter and food is not enough for an able bodied with some packs of talent and alternatives to be treated with contempt,

HellVictorinho:
Then,leave them with their issues that require the services of a maid or a house help.
Find your own apartment/house!

I will update you any time soon, I will just spend more time in my family house, lol. What you don't get is that 26 not 16 able bodied and easy going with potential, if i set out, it won't be long and I'm okay lol, but for those who have no or little regards it won't be funny

rooftops:
It seems you don't know you are discomforting them?..they are trying to be freaky you dey bring your bad Belle inside..
You said you will go and sleep in the parlour who told you they didn't start the action in the parlour before moving to your room, I am sure you are thinking of the kitchen right now...who told you they haven't done it on the kitchen counter?
You shouldn't use their spoon again also because they could have given each other head and used the spoon...
You dey person house you wan create your own rule

I said I will stay up and work through the night then tomorrow, I can sleep a bit in the parlour cause I said I will not touch that sheet until after 24 hours, I had brought my work chair from my chair stack and I know what I'm saying, tomorrow, I might take the bedsheet to the cleaner or wash it with hot water, that's me but I have other reasons to take a little movement, 1. The well is almost dry and the pumping machine no longer works effectively, I wash two cars at least once a week, I help with the school runs or staying with the kids if they are going out, but now that it clear they have no regards whatsoever, I'm going to take a little break until at least work is less, let me see how the wife will not wash the sheet herself this time, she will draw water from over 20 feet underground and my brother might wash his cars himself or go to the car wash and myself will be more than happy to work from home even if it in a car wash, if I wash two cars a week it will be #1400 a week it not a bad start if it even the only option

tonyson010:
Don't hide under culture or religion. You don't like the lady or perhaps women as u seem to sound.

Go rent Ur own apartment. Give access and rules the way that pleases u

I like women, I have a girlfriend, I just don't like people not taking responsibility and the more you do it, the more you look like your actions to me.

Walkee:
take it to a dry cleaner. You live with them stop carrying shoulder. Your mates work in a hotel where they wash sperm stained sheets and take out used condom all the time. It's sex not murder. Go rent your own house and stop doing as if your brother and his wife are smelling

My mates not me, your mates also works as astronauts, why are you typing on nairaland with a phone with broken screen, look, what you don't get is that my stay in my brothers house is mutually beneficial, cause after sex tomorrow they should also get ready to go downstairs and draw water up from over 20 feet water well, cause it is dry season and the pumping machine can no longer work effectively, and me I even need rest, so he wash his car or take it to the car wash, I guess the charge #700 now, I wash two cars every week that's about #1400, do you think if I worked in a car wash from my family house that I can't feed myself not minding that my mum is too happy to feed me.

Since she can't wash her after sex bedsheet, not only will she wash it but she will draw water from a well over 20 feet and my brother, well, he can afford at least #1400 in the car wash every week but he's got sit there and watch it being washed that's what you get when you take some people for granted, at 26, what else do I really need from people that I can't get on my own with the help of God.

Look, I also help with school runs sometimes I guess now either of them might have to stay home more or hirer a maid or get a house help. Case closed.

elmagnifico411:
Oga, go and rent your own house. You're here ranting yen yen yen cos about couples that could make use of any room in their house. If u don't like it, pack out! What I sense again is: it's not just about the sheet, you don't like your brother's wife. And who says she must be the one to wash the sheet? take your balls somewhere let a Dame suck it for u and feel good. Stop hating on the young woman.. quote author=Gang90 post=99062116]So guys it valentine's day, I'm really disgusted, okay I stay in my brothers house, I travelled, I came back around 2:30 I wanted to enter my room but my brother told me wait a while, with my adult mind, I realised they having some couple time, I dropped my bag in the living room and head out.

But I came back to find out the room is scattered and the bedsheet there, a responsible woman should at least wash the bed sheet noting that a grown up Male stays there.

I will be 26 this year, I had not really had sex so all these things imagining a strange woman's bodily fluids in my bedsheet is disgusting. I can take it from the side of my brother but not the wife, she disgusts me honestly, she is not my girlfriend, not my sister, not my wife, not my mother why should she expect I wash her after sex sheets for her or why can't she just pick the sheet immediately and wash it, it could have dried by now. And it really feel awful for me if I try to wash it, honestly.

This is about to be the worst valentine's day for me, I'm planning to head out and rent a room in hotel but who knows most hotel rooms will be disgusting today, what do I do please advice.

I'm hating knowing already, cause if I didn't know it could all not be so dirty to me, now my bed looks so dirty to me and I can't attempt to wash it until at least 24 hours and I will wash it soaked in hot water, I hate nonses just cause my brothers accepts you does not mean everyone in the family sees you as one flesh.

I have made up my mind and from tomorrow, you will understand that I'm not a refugee or a helpless person, I made my decision not becuase of the rash reviews I'm getting here from sorry excuse of so called men and women who don't understand the moral and spiritual implications of sex, if people chose to work in a hotel those people are not me, whether their secretions taste like honey and vanilla is non of my business, but I have said what I have said personally I can't take that, if you like go and build a sex house for couples that's your business as for me, I said these things disgusts me and the only thing stopping me from doing what I got to is few hours to tomorrow.

I know what to do, there are limits to the things I can take and when you look at it closely the one mostly in need of help may not be the one you presume, hopefully I will update you

Kayberg:
I understand your situation very well, even with the little I've read from your comments, but I won't want to talk about it.
But what I'll still advise is, once you have the capacity, try moving out of your brother's place. Then, you'd have your privacy.

Good luck bro.

It is just that I get attached to my environment and I'm the last born and almost the major cord of unity in my house, if I move out of my brothers house rashly it may affect him, cause it not even so simple, it takes a lot of strength for me to be here, I was supposed to move out of the country so that's why the whole apartment stuff not making sense right away, even my sisters living in other states had been begging me to come but I get attached to my family house and here.

Kayberg:
I won't be saying much about your brother and his wife making use of your room while you were away. They might be sending you a message, or they ain't aware you might be returning that soon.

One thing is, if you have the capacity, get an apartment and try leaving your brother's place. I imagine you saying you don't like her, hit the point, you hate her; and that ain't healthy for your soul.

Even if she doesn't respect you, learn to ignore whatever will poison your heart. When you ignore it, they will have no impact on you no matter what they bring along. You'd have that inner peace.

But one thing I'll advise you on is, to be a priest as you said, you will have to put up with many things. I am way older than you and I am also a virgin but I won't go into details on why I am still a virgin.

If you tend to find people disgusting to you, you still have a lot of work to do on your person. I'll be frank, being a priest even isn't what you need now, but being a workman for the LORD in His vineyard.

I still have a lot to say, but I'll pause here….

Now you had spoken like someone who understands a bit of my plights, I don't hate her despite that she had shown me lots of hate attitude, and body languages that shows shes the boss, I don't complain, my brother had warned her several times to stay out of attacking me, but this particular situation is non of that, my brother is equally a culprit here, and if care is not taken my elder brother may have to wash this sheet or pay for a hotel room for me tonight, but I have decided to work overnight, tomorrow I will sort out everything, you didn't see me complain about petty things like food or trying to show some hateful attitude towards me, this is a different issue.

And if I raise this issue, my brother will not waste time before he washes the bedsheet or take it to the dry cleaners but some things are even shameful that two grown adults will not know the right thing to do.

I said she disgusts me, I never said I hate her despite the way she treats me, i see those as things my mum and every family members had said I should have patients that it a matter of time but this is a different situation. It is disgusting to me.

ceeceeuwa:
If this is not made up by you, then I think it is just hatred for your brother's wife! You could simply tell her you would like to change the one in your room. That will simply drive home your point. Most house wives have a spare bedsheets to spare in case the one in use needs to be washed. If you feel disgusted to wash it yourself, you can load it in the washing machine if you have one. Be calming down okay!!

I have a spare bedsheet here which I usually wash and keep, about a week ago she collected the washed one, okay, last week I washed this one, twice, she knows that I'm a neat freak, I wash my bedsheet at least twice a week, but now she took the spare one, my brother gave me money to buy another set of bedsheet and two pillow, she had her own pillows but at one time she took one of my pillows, I did not complain then she took the second one, no complaints, last week she took the spare bedsheet, today she made out in my room and left the room scattered and did nothing it, my brother had warned her to stop attacking me, I'm a really quite person, I don't complain but this is not cool at all

Kingdemu:
I pray that after you wash the sheets, she comes tomorrow again to masturbate and squirt on it. Go and get your own house

I won't sleep on it today, I will stay up and work, work and work until I can afford my own house where at least if you must have sex in my room at least wash the sheet

ProtectMyMoney:
The person that used your bedsheet is right beside you.

All the energy you used to write above epistle could have been spent telling her to wash your bedsheets in a polite way.

I have no problem with her washing it, I only said they did whatever they did around 2:40 while I dropped my bag in the leaving room and left coming back around 4:30 of which if it were washed then it won't dry, that she could have made the room and wash the bed sheet then since the sun was still up by then, how can I even if want to wash it, wash it by 4:30 it won't dry, tomorrow I will sort it out but since she had time then she could have washed it.

COdeGenesis:
You are a big mofo. I am done with you. Reading your reply irritates me. I wonder the kind of MEN parents put forward these days. Tufiakwa

You are not an african Male, you are a disgrace to African culture, I wonder the kind of daughters you will raise

tonyson010:
I see hatred here.

Cut the crap, pack out if Ur brother wife disgust u so much.

Rubbish talk.

I'm an adult Male, and woman of menstrual age do not even enter all places in my culture talk more of sex in my room and not remove the signs, if it angers my faith you will understand, you will see my uplift and you will realise that someone is deeply hurt

COdeGenesis:
Are you her father? As far I am concern you do not have a room. You just a stranger in her home and she can send you parking if you continue to misbehave. You are truly childish if you continue to reason this way. You need to overhaul your circle of friends and make friends with mature people so your mentality can change.

These things are abominable, but I won't talk much to you of no moral or spiritual consequence, I'm my fathers son and if you can't do it to my father don't do it to me so that you won't invite some consequences, I only said she should have washed the sheet since an adult Male uses the room, but it okay

uncleck:
Goodluck

Thanks

COdeGenesis:
You have no respect for your brother that's why you talk carelessly about his wife. You will soon be kicked out. If you want to live on your terms then go and rent your apartment. They feed, pay for the rent, and yet you still open your dirty mouth to talk rubbish about your brother's wife.

For this thing you say, one day you might meet your must terrible disgusts, I will no longer reply to you cause you don't have respect for others feelings, maybe becuase they depend on you does not kill their humanity

Bankerboy:
The did has bin done, u can't do nothing abt it. Remove it, may be 2moro u go give it to a dry cleaner. You complain like a 5yr old kid. Idi kwanu 26yrs old . . Mara kwanu dat one biko nu .

It okay since no one understands my plight but rather keeps pushing it to the angle of childish or not, let me ask you, can she do same in her fathers room and not wash the sheet especially if shes aware that the father is aware, some things looks strange how lacking in moral this generation is, soon she will spread her menstrual blood around so it is her house

COdeGenesis:
You stay in your brother's house and you have no iota of respect for his wife. If you disrespect his wife then you indirectly disrespecting your brother. What's there to shut your mouth and wash the beddings? You will soon be kicked out

What is respect for you, that a grown woman should have sex in a grown Male's room and not wash the sheet, Jesus, people can be disgusting becuase of material things

uncleck:
Unfortunately, the world does not care about how you feel. Whether you're strict or not does not change anything. You're the one that will still suffer it

I will suffer for what I believe in an no one will contaminate my life whether I have my own house or not rather it will give me the push I need, I'd better be sleeping in goat shit

light099:
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You complain too much lad.
You live another man's property, yet you wanna run things on you're own terms. You already made your point, the wife should have washed the bedspread, except that you're starting to overestimate and overemphasize the whole shiit.
You sound so much like a spoilt brat. At 26 years old, you should know how to handle this maturely instead of coming here to wail all day like a cry baby. Some people younger than you sleep in traffic over night 24/7.

Remove the soiled sheet, replace it with your blanket just for tonight or sleep on the mattress without the bedspread or sleep on the floor. The options are many. Then, get your own apartment and your own wife so that you can run things on your own terms, instead of castigating a grown up man in his own house, who was nice enough to give you a whole room.
Do those and stop being a cry baby.

The blanket I use is the only one left, she took the second one which I usually wash and keep a while ago, not minding that she didn't take the dirty one earlier but took the one that I washed I did not complain now, it the only one left abd she is with the other spare one. What do you want me to do, I'm 26, many people sleeps in traffic, that's fate.

The fact I'm 26 does not mean I'm all round perfect, many guys my age rent out their room for sex but people are different, foreign bodies irritate me, I'm medically conscious, so get me straight everything is not about house ownership or age, people are different. I'm a last born but I'm not spoilt, sex stuff irritates me especially with strangers, don't you have something that irritates you, some people can't see any sight of blood, stop judging me with your Yardstick, I prefer to live in slum than have strange woman's sexual secretions 10 meters from me

greatiyk4u:
No shoprite in that vicinity?

Not too close and I just came back from a journey, and I had no plans for all these, that's what people don't get