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You made me laugh guy, Buhari is indeed trying to get her estranged wife jealous lol

Omoslim26:
Op I totally concur with your submission

but first and foremost they should agree dat they are a militant group first before we start talking about armnesty

they are still living in the dellusion of being a regional security outfit wey nobody send them message

#armnestyforesn

Is it what they call themselves or what they are, the very truth us they are illegal armed group so #armnestyforesn, please if you are Igbo let's get on the hashtag if we can

Adasun:
why do I have this feeling that your brother's wife cajole your conjified brother to have sex in your room,all just to spite you since you dislike her.



women are masters of mind games.

Na them Sabi, I had moved on since many days ago, I don't even remember those episodes anymore life is a continuum

iRepNaija1:
OP, I read the rest of your threads, all the other ones you've created since 2019. It seems like you've been residing at your brother's house for quite some time. From your other threads, I've learned that you either can't cook or you don't want to do serious cooking because you survived on noodles and tea during one Christmas holiday when your brother and his family weren't around. Moreover, your sister-in-law seems to do a majority of the cooking based on another thread you started.

You seem to be awkward and hesitant with women because you wonder why your older, married brothers seem to get women's numbers easily and you can't, you had a crush on an older woman and assumed that your sister-in-law told this older woman not to waste her time with you because you were 25 at the time, and you tried to have sex with a woman you picked up from a Christmas party but ultimately put a stop to it because you didn't want to have unprotected sex.

You seem to also have a lot of anger toward your sister-in-law. You won't even call her 'sister-in-law,' just 'my brother's wife,' even though she and your brother have welcomed you into their home and she cooks most of the meals. This dislike and lack of respect are even exacerbated by your fixation on your sister-in-law and your brother having sex in your bed and the soiled sheets. I bolded part of that sentence because it was both your bother and your sister-in-law who participated in the sex, but you seem to have reserved all your anger, disgust, and insults for your sister-in-law. Let me say that again: it was your brother and your sister-in-law that had sex in your bed. Not just your sister-in-law.

I'm not going to offer advice because, after 22 pages of responses, it seems quite pointless. But your dynamic with women, in general, is just weird and off-putting.

You have many unfinished story since 2010 on nairaland but na for my matter you wan carry shine lass lass, first of all are you male, female or intersex, did they later break your virginity, or you still be virgin since 2010, lol your life is like the story of 2pac lol, stop being miserable, I was not the one that made them not to call as they should, or perhaps you are ugly or what on serious note, go and finish your teenage fantasy story, I guess by now you are in your late twenties or thirties, lol, strange fellow, are you still unmarried, don't even look my way genderless someone.

MarieSucre:
You called her a woman who sexs for material things, or do you think we are children and cannot decipher in between the lines.

I'm referring to the people who is saying all sorts of things just because I stay in my brothers house, the house is the material things and the people who are saying things just becuase the house is not mine I should not have feelings is the ones I'm referring to

NovusHomo:
You should be busy getting your own space.

I'm busy working on project I had been a little lucky since I left the house on Monday

NovusHomo:
Because it's their house and they want the "free-loader" to leave. He' too stupid to understand.

I had been a lot busy, with my life that's why I had not been so active, I had left, hope w everyone us okay now,

[quote author=ghettogirl18 post=99183530][/quote]Agreed I have issues which I had fixed by moving on, Mr Recovering another persons issue, face your life,

berrystunn:
Sorry I used the word stranger, you are not a stranger in your brother's house, but you have limit there.

I wanted to ask you, your age but no
I also want to know where you came from.

What do you understand by sister and brother in-law?
Do you have a limit in your brothers house ?
What do you understand by privacy?

Your brother immediate family is who and who?

Life doesn't have a rule, I have limits in my brothers house, my brother have children, I used to be his next of kin but but now he got children his child becomes his next of kin, it might surprise you that I'm planning on making my brothers first son the one who inherits my landed properties and my sisters children inherits my businesses but in my will they must be at least 18 before having access to those.

So, I can survive on my own but in Igbo tradition the first born is like a father when your father is late, so I stay in his house as a result of the respect I have my father not becuase I can't survive, so as much as I'm concerned, why a married man should accept his wife completely it does not extend to other family members.

And the worst part is people stressing it her house, should I also throw her out of the family house maybe during Xmas becuase it is my house, yes even my brother her husband built a house at home but I can still throw her out by declaring her a trespasser in any perimeter of my property, the husband did not buy the land he built on but my father bought it so.

Last time we had issue at home I had made it clear that my two brothers wives must be excluded in our family meeting until I'm married and it is so, myself and my two brothers held our meeting.

I even told my elder sister that she must not be part of my meeting until she show remorse for calling me a small boy and saying that it is not a must that I be informed of every decision, the day we held the meeting she was at home but was not part of the meeting she was crying, next day I was not feeling fine she gave me money to buy whatever I needed.

berrystunn:
I don't know where you are seeing it from.
They did it in there house not yours...
In that house you are a stranger.

You don't even have any right there .
Take anything you see there in good faith,

what you are complaining of is like booking an hotel room for a night, telling the hotel management to buy a new bed spread for you because too many people must have had sexx on the used washed one, how possible is that?

You have a problem, a house is not what defines a stranger, if I book a hotel room and people had aex there when I left, I have right to not just sue the hotel and demand damages but also beat up the stupid manager cause a scene in the hotel and request his dismissal.

If they had sex the night before, it a different issue but not a hotel room that I had booked for the night, in fact new blankets will not solve the problem but a refund of my money or a new room.

If a stranger live in the same house with you for years does that qualify such stranger as no longer a stranger, if your brother travelled for years does that make him no longer a brother, so what about people sleeping under the bridge do they not have brothers and even within the under bridge do they not have strangers.

You don't seem to understand that being a stranger is far beyond living in the same house, put yourself in your place you are a wife, that's the end of it, you are not my mothers daughter you are a stranger to me, that's it. My brother's house is not mine but what about my fathers house, if she comes there won't she mind her husband's room.

LilMissFavvy:
Your thread has about 70,000 views and uncountable contributions. If it was only the female genders who contributed in your thread, you'd probably say the females are sentimental. As you have seen so many men complaining about your actions and attitude, is it not enough to convince you that something is definitely wrong with your attitude? I'm just amazed wondering how you scaled through school and how you cope at work . Believe me, you are harsh, strict, inconsiderate, stiff, etc. If your sister in-law fought you or committed a bigger offense, I would have understand the reason for your deep disgust, but the situation whereby having sex on your bed became the bone of contention, is not a bad enough fault. Think twice, nobody knows tomorrow, be careful, be wise, make sure you make peace with your brother.

Yes nobody knows tomorrow, maybe tomorrow such actions wont disgust me, I don't follow the crowd, deal with it, if you were bone in first century you will certainly believe that the earth is flat, but today we know better, just because everyone thinks so does not make it right.

No one knows tomorrow you are right at that, she had done other things which you could term offensive but I didn't judge much with that but this is a total turn off for me, so I can't take it, you should take, everyone else should take it but I can't take it.

And I'm not here to please anyone, the men or women I don't care, this won't be the first time the public would be naive, whatever you feel is up to you, the world is run by the few men who knows what they want, not the majority who are like the rest, I proudly don't give a damn.

I hope you folks learns your lessons here, anytime you have sex in a place where someone else will stay clean it, your house or not is inconsequential stop behaving like a pig

verminnel:
You guys have time to answer the attention seeking idiot.. it's not ur house yet u want to call the shots? Pack out already looser!

How laughable to say I'm attention seeking yet you give me attention

schendy:
You have a lot of growing up to do really.

I believe by now you slept on the roof top?, Rubbish and entitlement. Next time pack yourself and your load to your family house.

Talambout You can't wash sex sheets yenyenyen, so you don't have wrapper to lay on the ground?, Mr allergic to cold ground, and you can't sleep on a bare natress for the night?, Anyway you could throw out the mattress too, since the sex took place on it.

Your brother's wife disgusts you yet you stay in her house, I hope you are so angry you have rented your own house overnight, or better still built one?. Rubbish n konkobility.

Everything you said is right but how have your ranting betters your life, at least I had moved out and moved on

ImaIma1:
From your complaints and outbursts, it shows you are still a young boy. When you are older, you will be more enlightened and wiser in some areas that you lack right now. Enjoy your moving on, disgusted fellow.

It is quite pathetic on how you vent your anger on someone you don't know but still I have forgiven your nonsense,

berrystunn:
That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh." Genesis 2:24.


No don't move, stay with your relative. If you are not a stranger why did you leave.

You should be ashame staying with parents not to talk of your brother and his family.

Your thinking is so confusing that you contradict yourself now look at your statement from this perspective, two of them are one flesh = Correct, I'm not one flesh with two of them = Correct, I'm one flesh with my brother My Father and Mother = His Father and Mother, I'm not one flesh with my Sister inlaw whether by blood or by Marriage, now why would she now being a foreign body to me, use somewhere that I share and not clean it it off. I'm not doubting that her and my brother is one body but the important thing is that both of us are strangers to ourselves, that's why shes a stranger to me and I'm a stranger to her. So that's the logic I hope you understand now that you did nothing but throw more light on my argument like I said, I had moved on.

Most of you shallow minds are talking in relation to the house or in relation to the rent but a house is not a home, they gave me a room in a house thanks to them but I wish I could have a home where my personality and personal comfort matters

ImaIma1:
You choose who and what disgusts you.

It seems you have a problem with your brother's wife and it goes beyond having sex on your bed.

Just look for a place to rent and stay on your own so that no one can disgust you. As it is, you might cause problems in that marriage if you stay.

You are so myopic that you think marriage is the most important thing in life, I had given you reasons, for my disgusts, deal with it or locate the closest transformer, and hang yourself with naked wire. Don't go and focus on your life, keep trying to defined for another person what should disgust him and what should not, I had moved on

berrystunn:
Lol stranger in her husband house.
You are the stranger there.

You have to move

I wonder whether a neurosurgeon removed the thinking part of your brain, I'm I talking in relation to the house or in relation to me, anyway I had moved out and moved on

ImaIma1:
You have been saying she disgusts you, and it didn't sound like it was just because of the sex in "your room". And you castigated her so much absorbing your brother of blame. He doesn't disgust you.

What's wrong in cooking right after sex? I didn't know one had to do 3 days cleansing before being allowed to cook.

If you feel this bad about it all, why not tell her? And if you cannot tell her, don't insult her at her back.

Why would my brother disgusts me, these things looks simple to you but it disgusts me, and as she keeps doing stuff like that the rate of disgust increases, there are aspects that my brother is not cool in but those are minor for instance my brother knows how to lose phone charger, even when charger is cheap, in a month he can loose like 3 phone chargers, he will go out with the cord to use in the car and before long he won't come back with it, but that's weird, I can't say he's careless becuase he had never lost his car key or misplace money, but thats not disgusting.

Voltage131:
when are you coming to Enugu? Let's have a drink.

If you honestly want to have a drink, I will send you my bitcoin wallet lol, this account don't exist lol, the only thing you can know here is that I live in Enugu...Don't try to find me. Or still, I can leave you a parcel containing a later and enough money to buy three bottles of beer, Isiewu, fish or perper soup but you won't find me, I can drop the parcel on top of the pedestrian bridge in Mayor or Holly ghost, I can also tape the parcel under the first sit in the last row of The Cenema in Polo park or Spar, I could still tape the parcel on top of that rugged scoreboard in That miniature Obiagu field behind Afia 9, I can also drop such parcel under one of the holes in the UNEC stadium or tape it under one of the cement chair in IMT love garden, you know behind UNEC there is an Apiam way that burst out to Maryland, Ehe if you follow that Apiam way there is one elevated ground more like a mountain, I can keep it under one of those play equipment, shey you done burst out to Ngwo before following the mountain side Abi, better still if fit put it inside that coal truck statue at Akwanta, or Ukwuaki, Abakpa but if you enter Enene by Aiport Apiam way I fit keep am for barbed wire, or under that plane sculpture close to airforce base, or I should just branch to gariki and drop it under a meet sellers table, okay make we enter lion building side you know that rugged market for gate, I fit drop am for you there, G, I rep 042 but I can't meet.

Lucrativress:
You'll realise with time that life is nothing without people living with people
You won't even get to old age before you realise that

I live with people, what about the kids I spoke about in my house who are my minions, I play football and a lot more, I have lots of friends and families, so I'm not as lonely as you think,

ImaIma1:
You keep going on and on about hownyour sister inlaw disgusts you. That is your brother's wife that you detest.

Do you eat the food she cooks or it disgusts you too?

You are claiming room rights in someone's matrimonial home.

You need to be specific, if you keep doing things that disgust me, at a point you begin to look disgusting, it depends, I had told you what disgust me in particular, and I had told you that after sex they took their baths, so why would they leave the room dirty, is it healthy for her to go make food right after sex, both her and my brother took their bath so why wont they wash the sheet, focus on the issue at hand, by the way I left the house since yesterday, currently in another town

majorbravo:
I seriously can't get how you twist advice given to you. When I said I was living on my own abroad at 26, it wasn't to tell you i'm better than you. I was giving you an idea of how independent I was, and achieving stuff without looking at my mum or siblings like you have and to alert you to how you too can be independent at such an age, not to see yourself as still a baby waiting to be spoon fed.

How much my father is worth isn't the topic for discussion here. I never said he was poor like you are suggesting. But if my father didn't rely on his own father's inheritance to become as great as he did, I don't see why I should.

If this is how you want it, so be it. Better pray then that your dad wrote his will and you have something of worth in it. It's a dangerous line you are threading here, cos if any, even just one of your elder siblings think like you, you are gonna be in for a rude shock when you find out how heads roll during the fight for who gets what. If you even get lucky, your type with your current lack of ambition to make something on your own will see whatever you get from it squandered in record time.

I repeat. Be wise and start thinking about the products of your hand not what others are doing.

Look, I get your advice but life is not the way you see it, if my elder brothers say heads will roll, does anyone have the monopoly of violence?, thank God that you are the last born, why do you think oh, so you can have it your way, look I don't depend on my fathers properties, but that does not mean I don't care.

I don't mean that your father is poor financially, I mean if you are his only son then he is poor. How would you feel if after you suffered to buy properties and you die tomorrow and your children don't care about your legacies, my Dad owned a mini library I wish to expand it, if my dad built a secondary school I build a university but I need the secondary school as a guide and experience base. Uphold your lineage and heritage.

Nigeria is shambles becuaee majority is like you, you want to work for your own and your grand fathers house is decaying, go to UK you said you are not in Nigeria there are houses spanning generations, I don't even have time for my fathers properties now, I'm thinking about my grand fathers properties, my grand father built a mini estate in the fifties he was a Chief, my mothers father and only the head son of my grand father who is old lives there, the rest of the house is decomposing, last time I was home I visited my uncle told him I wish to convert some part of the house to some public library and recreational facilities.

If I let my father and grandfathers work lie in ruin what makes me think that my children and grand children won't let mine go to ruin when I'm gone, maintenance culture is non existent in this part of the world, that's why Nigeria is messed up becuase no one cares about the other person's legacies.

On your methods of advice, you are what you are mostly becuase of what's available to you at a time, nothing comes out of nothing, even Jesus needed water to make wine, so tell me what you were exposed to and I tell you who you will become.

Some people could misuse opportunities but that's individualistic, but you can't become anything unless the ingredients necessary for such reality is available.

Again don't think becuase of the part of me here that I'm a person of no substance or some spoilt brat, this issue represents a particular outlook to a particular trigger, I'm an interesting person in reality and you will be surprised at the kind of friends I keep, is just that family is family otherwise, you don't even know who is who.

murtalaa:
It does not matter where you go, if you don't change your attitude (and your bad writing), you will not amount to anything in life.

It is funny how people waste their emotions on someone they don't know lol, you don't know me, neither do you know my brothers wife, I expressed how I feel, do you care if there is justification for my anger, but here you are putting Limitations on someone you don't even know lol, if you have such power why not declare that you will be the president, why not declare that your president progress or not if he doesn't change, please I changed what needs to be changed and that's my environment, lol.

You say my writing is bad lol, you know not how much wonders my writings had done.

murtalaa:
First, I think you are an entitled prick. No one owes you anything in your brothers house. Its not your house and his wife, that you so despises, has stronger claim to the house than you do. At 26, you have the mentality of a 16-year old and you should be ashamed of living with even your parents, let alone your brother. Lastly, 99% of sexual fluids comes from a man. So, redirect your misguided anger to your brother and not to a soft target. Even of we take your juvenile ranting serious, your brother should do the washing and not his wife.

Who ever do the washing is now up to them I had moved out now in another city, so calm down no hard feelings, I'm up with some minor job already, life does not start and end in a flat, I'm young, I could go as smart and handsome, I got grace, I will survive, don't worry about me sweetheart, I had moved on, chill, peace bro/sis

clarion30:
get a new bedsheet and make sure you place the old one where she will find it. that's what i'd have done.

I had moved out, now in another city, thanks for your concern, they can wash it whenever they want, I have dreams to chase

Romanoff:
See this one.

You're insulting me about values or respect. If you respect your brother, you would not bring his business to social media.

What happened to a heart to heart?

Small children go get android phone and small data come dey run mouth for social media.


Omase o.

So nairaland is social media to you lol, this is a forum, and I told you this is my private handle and I don't even reply DMs here so don't worry, highest in two days, this post will be way down in archives of nairaland and I can still deactivate my account, so chill nairaland is not social media, you don't know me neither do you know my brother not the wife

majorbravo:
Dude I'm having a headache actually trying to piece together all the stuff you are on about.
You say you aren't spoilt but you brag about how your mum treats you like a King and how everyone else besides her should follow suit. I don't know what other definition exists for a spoilt child than the above.

I am a last born like you but way older now (in my 30s). At 26, I already had a masters and lived on my own abroad. Heck, I even moved out of my father's house at 22. I can't and have never imagined myself chasing after my father's property cos following the culture, last borns like me are on the tail end of the spectrum when it comes to who gets what. This is something every last born has to put up with and this very issue made me more ambitious to make my own mark for myself in life and for my future family.

Now to the issue at hand, don't you think it's a bit weird that you came on nairaland to say all these about your brother's wife? You say she took your pillows, do you even bother to know why? Even if you feel mistreated, are you a hopeless child to not be able to get the clue you aren't wanted around and move on with your life? Arent you mature enough to know that your brother and indeed no one on this planet would pick you over their spouse? If that house were on fire and your brother could only save you or his wife before the whole house is engulfed. Who do you think would be saved? The mother of his kids or an entitled little brother who thinks washing his car once a week is the lottery? Even your sister would never pick you over her husband. So then, don't you think the best payback for maltreatment of any kind is to ensure you make it in life on your own?

You obviously still enjoy being a child and being pampered by your mum and brother. You claim you are an adult male but you're just having a taste of what it's like to be an adult and you don't seem to like it one bit.

Success stops unnecessary mistreatment especially from those who were once in authority over you. Your dad is no more (God rest his soul), your mum you say treats you like a king won't live forever and neither would your brother nor you.

Stop waiting for your father's property (you wont make half of what Jeff Bezos or Elon Musk is worth if you relied on it) or for anyone to clean the sheets or the very ground you walk on. Spend your time trying to build your own life and less on what your brother or his wife is doing. If you had any iota of self worth or principle, you would spend your usefulness (which you claim you have spent on helping your brother out in his house) on yourself, instead of laying claim to the respect you feel his wife should give to you.

You even said your family made your brother what he is today cos they invested in his education. Dude, if your brother was busy looking for who slept on his bed while he was studying and working, all that money the family spent on him would be a waste today and you won't see a house for you to claim a room in. You lie to yourself and deny the efforts your brother put on his own to convert the opportunities he was given by your family(which also happens to be his family) to become somebody today. You have been given same opportunities but you would rather whine about another adult male's wife's activities in her own home.

People like you make others think last borns aren’t sensible.

Dude it is great you counted your blessings but we are having it all differently, you are in your thirties congratulations in your achievements but don't compare our lives you don't know what challenges the other person is facing, you might have gotten your masters at 26 but I could also become a governor at 36, don't ever feel proud becuase you are better than someone at so and so stage, you could be older than Marckzukabag but he is among the top 10 richest people in the world, give advice devoid of ego.

You have not heard my stories you had only heard my disgust, are you saying your poor father obviously left nothing to be proud, because if he were Bill Gates you would be assembling lawyers now to claim his properties, look I'm proud of my father and above everything I would want to inherit his mini home library, even if I can't have all of it at least most of it.

So calm down asking for your fathers properties is not a sin becuase if he were owing money you will still pay it, don't be carried away by societal pressure, so you got strife on your own lol, why do they inherit kingdom in England why won't the prince or princes go get himself or herself a brand new Kingdom.

StacyO:
Op yaff catch feelings for his brother's wife


Sorry oo


You don't know anything about life. You just seem too emotional and too irritated by little things,signs of an overgrown baby.



You want to be a priest or whatever you wrote on the very first/second page but,you don't know how to tolerate others shortcomings.



@Gang90
Sleep on the floor till tomorrow
Make use of a wrapper
Pack your things and go back to the village.
Sleep in the couch
Sleep outside
Or better still,go and lodge at a hotel.




Stop running your mouth and washing your dirty linen in public here.
No iota of respect whatsoever sef.

Thanks for your advice, I had parked out, currently in another city, I had started my hustle here, I told my brother I got a meeting, in few days time i tell him i got a job and may not be coming back soon, lol, no hard feelings, this isn't public, this is private, you don't know me, and hopefully you will never know cause once I'm done using this account i deactivate it, get a clue, I'm not intolerant, I only said they should wash it, you are a shameless person, I said I wanted to be a catholic priest at a younger age, being a priest is not synonymous with being a nice person or being tolerant, what I tolerate is up to me not you, and I owe no one no apologies.

I ain't packing to villa, get it straight, I got family and friends in most major cities in Nigeria Abuja, Lagos, Enugu, Bauchi, PH, Onitsha, Owerri, etc are all my cities, so calm down, no be say you dey see Johny dey swim you go come call am fish.

I had never met anyone in my life that does not recieve many folds the Goodwin they offer me, so if you are hurting me, seriously you are missing a lot, the good I did years back got my back, I entered this city yesterday, a friend took me out, find small writing job give me, I write also but don't give me job here lol, so I'm busy, get busy bro/sis I had moved on.

blank:
To come and wash the sheets for him

I had parked out now in a city far away

Nadoson1:
this is the most acceptable advice to me so far, bros me you've once done something worster than having sex in your bed before to someone before now and the fellow overlooked your flaws and moved on so please take it as nothing and have the sheet washed like nothing happened then you will come to realize that the incident was nothing.

Let me make something clear to you, I wash the dishes atimes, I wash the car, I wash my clothes I don't, sometimes I wash my niece and nephews clothes, but honestly I won't wash this one, and I had left the house, at least I didn't fight with anyone so it is the will of God, and today I'm fine, I started work way too early today, i need this space and this peace of mind. I'm thankful and on a good day before I deactivate the account, I will slowly read all the great advice here, that's after much much sha, but a world where justice is premeditated, oh, what everyone is painting is a psychopathic individual filled with hate, well this is me, if you have sex in my room clean it,