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MarieSucre:
Ask your brother to wash the sheets. Afterall, she did not have sex with herself.

[/becuase of material things]

So you're calling your brother's legally married wife a prostitute? How has no one called you out on this?

I'm taking about the people responding telling me to park out just becuase I said, the act is disgusting when they could not even wash the sheet, I don't know where you read prostitutes from lol

PreetyAngel4U:
Next time, inform them when you are returning back to their house. Why you no let them enjoy their val alone? Tell your brother to wash it then since you're uncomfortable, or he should inform his wife to. You no get other bedsheets to change?.. you could ask them. Unmarried young adults should be considerate in such things.

I have no problem that they has sex, whatsoever I only said they should make the bed and wash the sheets

MummyD2020:
Firstly I condemn the act. But you sound like you dont like the lady in question. Secondly, shes your brother's wife and not a strange woman like you qualify her

Strange is this context, that she's a stranger I mean, I don't know her before and we have no blood connection, if it her children my brothers children that's my family but she's my brothers wife and that's it

koolaid87:
Niggah you dumb mehn

You're definitely a spoilt preppy.

Crying like you're more than what you are...Niggah, you dont deserve sh1t.

Learn to live with any shit, at least you're not paying rent or get the fvck out of their house and go get your own place.

If they come to your new acquired house to fvck on your sheet, come back here and complain

Until then, shut the hell up

Some people are so mentally poor they can take any shit just cause of shelter and food, that guy is not me

gr8child:
Go and rent your own place.

I'm on it since yesterday

IbrahimSkiba:
Lazy?!

So I'm lazy for not wanting to read your long bullshit?


Nigga pls

You are lazy for asking for summary quite cheap of you

Sixfeetbelle:
You missed the point of my question entirely.

Why do you keep expecting her to wash the sheets? For all you know, your brother could have been the one who insisted they have sex in your room.

I said they should wash the sheet, but if you are being sincere, you know that shes the stranger between the two, if it were the wife's brothers room then my brother ought to wash the room becuase my brother would be the foreign body there, but this is my room

IbrahimSkiba:
Please summarize or better still make it concise next time...


You are so fuçking exhausting

And you my dear is lazy

Missmossy:
This is a very funny thread OP you need to grow up. At 26, some of your mates are fathers already, you are a man for crying out loud so act like one.

You keep on emphasizing on how your mom treats you like a prince bla bla you should have been staying with her so you can enjoy the feeling of royalty forever. Shior you sound like a last born with all your whining from page 1 till this present page.

Fine, your brother and his wife are wrong to carry out their romps on your bed. I guess that's what you want to hear. The house is your father's house right?? so you have a right to it also, it is this silly mentality that will ruin you.

If truly you have sense like you claim to do, make the best of decision and stop sounding like a spoilt child whose sweet was collected.

You ain't even a teenager to start with but a grown assed man. If you don't change your beliefs you would end up having a very miserable life and no lady would even want you!!! keep that at the side of your brain.

You saying some married women want you bla bla sounds like a gibberish talk as you don't even have the maturity it takes for a single lady not to talk of a married woman.

So just grow up and change your archaic sense of reasoning maybe things will get better for you then.

Young lady, let me make something clear to, yes I'm a last born but this not it, I responded to being treated like a prince given the attack is they gave me on finding an apartment, how it is my brothers house and all of that, I'm a last born but not the grumpy one at all.

You need to know I had never almost had relationship with people my age, well I always enjoyed chatting with my late father, even my brother this morning he had started noticing some body language cause I just told him I will be travelling tomorrow, what you don't get is when people treat you like a liability but you are actually an asset, at 26, if I'm not humble, what will be doing under this roof when I can get better offers out there.

Talking about women and me, you had never met me, but I had always been lucky with women, since age 12, I had been a whole lot womens favourite, sometimes people say I'm a nerd but I'm not boring at all, I got a fascinating sense of swag, and class, oh I forgot I'm Igbo too, so you could also add that I could be loud, no apologies.

On the contrary women love men that are confident, like I said I'm not sleeping in the bed neither I'm I washing it, and in less than 24 hours I already have another plan, women want a man that will figure out the shortcut to the labour room to avoid stress, that guy is me.

I know what I want, I'm not effected by mob mentality once I'm certain that what I feel is right, I don't mind how many people that thinks otherwise, okay you agreed that what they did is wrong so what's now the fight.

So you throw it at my face how I'm childish, well being childish is not a crime but I tell you what I'm not sleeping in a bedsheet where two grown up couple made out and could not do the very needful thing of washing tidying up.

Who is really childish here, you that covers injustice up to score cheap point or me that says this is wrong even though majority don't agree with it, wrong is wrong irrespective of who's doing it.

Should you defend your fellow women or the intuition of marriage just becuase you feel like oh this guy is too filled with himself but I tell you what, I try to understand married women who cheats, you will cheat someday and my wife too and myself, since most people tags sex so high tell me why people won't cheat.

Even the married woman that sometimes derail and fall for me, I try to make them understand it is absolutely not their fault but we can work it back to that other end becuase no child deserves a broken home and more so no man deserves a broken heart from a detailed women whose life will be shattered, I keep talking about forces becuase the universe is practically made up matter, forces and energy nothing else.

I realised that over 50% percent of women are not marrying the ones they love and even more men are not marrying the woman they love, becuse disparity in societal coming of age means that women marry a ready man where men marry available women.

So many people are in love with their childhood sweetheart, who they could not afford in time or the ones who they could not afford to wait for, tell me now that if you walked into my office and I tell you that right there, you are pretending that your relationship is perfect won't you will try to defend your relationship and I'm going to look deep at you with my leg crossed and and I will look into you and say what manner of man will not treasure a woman that defends such a horrible relationship.

Tell me in all honesty, that no matter how professional I try to be, two in every 10 women that opens up to me gets attached and they want to call more often and often most especially those moments they fight and all they need to hear is baby please stop crying I know I had hurt you but I'm sorry. Tell me, if you are the woman in my office and I you had not read this post would you have same opinion of me that you have now.

Investorlex:
Turn the other side of the foam and sleep

It late already, it been since yesterday, I had certainly gotten over that, I'm looking up to the next phase

pek:
Go back and read the last sentence of your post. Read it slowly. It is your hate for her that is fueling this deep resentment over nothing. I'm sure that sheet is not stained in anyway. Even it were, it is your brother's fluid. But you have tactfully left your brother out of all these to focus on his wife.

Don't worry, I made it clear that if it were just my brother I can take it, the parr you are not getting is that my brothers wife is a stranger to me, and it goes with a lot before I psychologically accept someone as part if me, even when the person is not trying so that's it, don't worry I didn't use the sheet anymore I stayed up and worked through the night next phase

zexy2030:
Shioor, self righteous priest.

Let me make something straight and clear to you, all parties are lucky I'm just taking this as minor family issue and just personal view, cause if I take the issue serious I can boldly tell you that my brothers wife or sisters husband could be stopped from trespassing on my family property, she should go live in whichever place the husband and her paid for until my family property is divided and she knows which belongs to her husband, people don't know the implications of some things they say, as if my brother just flew from heaven and bought or rent the house, was it not the education, support and every advantage my family gave him that gives him the privilege then, it easy for all of you to talk trash becuase you think owning an apartment is enough to justify humanity,

zexy2030:
Shioor, self righteous priest.

It okay, I don't know how what we are talking about concern righteousness but who cares, it my life and I don't give a rat ass Bleep what you think, yesterday is gone for good let's start a new chapter already, don't be bitter in a case that does not concern you, on a very bad day I will still give a middle finger ovation to all you MFs, who thinks living in an an elder brothers house is equal to a refugee camp, cause my brother can't say any of those shits all you guys been saying, but anyway, it a new day, and I don't have to dwell in the past

zexy2030:
Omoh, u got time to xplain shit to this kid. He just wants sympathizers.. Oya let's tell him.. Eyahhh.

You are busy thinking it about sympathy, well I just unlocked a new phase in my life, I live to either celebrate or regret my decision but I'm happy it is entirely my decision

rooftops:
This is my second reply, you are becoming self absorbed. There is a thin line between enlightenment and insanity. You being treated like a king by your mum does not mean others will treat you like that. I also can't sleep on a bed where sex just occurred but that doesn't mean I will be getting worked up.
The spiritualist telling you to be careful with women is funny, which adult male shouldn't be?why is yours so special

You are misunderstanding the whole scenario, people had been telling me it their house I should respect myself or park out and go find my own apartment, I'm trying to tell them look I'm not a refugee, I have a home where I'm treated like a prince now why would anyone unjustly treat me with contempt, first of all instead of treating the rooth issue which is people having sex in a room and not tidy up, they kept saying how that is so and so's house, without even understanding my efforts in the house.

Yes I'm very happy to be treated like a king somewhere it makes me realise the whole world is not together in not seeing my values, so I don't have a father anymore and I do know so many people that neither have father nor mother nor brother nor sister, but the message here is, don't let anyone make you feel less of yourself, in the face of tribulations always remember, that somewhere there is always someone without you the sun doesn't shine.

GerogeI:
Jeez Bro.
I understand you, you are a nerd.
The problem is you do not understand what people are telling you.

Let's do this your way. What most people are telling you is that you have a build up of testosterone. The effect of that sex hormone is that your body will unconsciously push you to fight for a chance to mate.

You will pick a fight for no good reason just as you are doing right now. But in your heard it is perfectly logical. But to the average person, your reason are nonsensical.

You have sexual tension you do not acknowledge, that's the stuff I was telling you that after a while you will no longer be able to avoid sex as you are doing. You body clock is even way ahead of me. And there is nothing wrong with you, that's just the way we are made.

Talking about goats, what do you think makes a he goat or lion or bear leave its comfortable home, head over to someone else's and start a fight that can lead to death just to mate. So yes, you are not humping around with a female like a common animal, but you are still breathing under sexual tension like a common animal. This leads to masturbation, this is why a lot of smart nerdy people masturbate. Those one who are not educated and with good income start visiting brothels.

You are not by any means the first person to think that sex is too animalistic. But our designer tied the ropes too strong, you cannot escape it. If you continue as you are doing, one day you will enter a public space and take offence that a man there is holding his woman. Why will he hold her in public. It's an eyesore to your eyes. Oh, they should get a room! It's not logic talking, but your dick doing the thinking by flooding your system with testosterone.


In fact, this hormone is what makes men more aggressive than female. If you where living in Bush men era, you would have way laid any woman by now.
Go get laid and leave off spiritual bullshit before it ruins you. If you are an igbanje, let the women enjoy your ogbanjeness. If you have a child, what's the big deal. Better still get married. But being an Igbo boy, I know you are far from ready. Get a girl and stop avoiding women. They are wonderful, beautiful creatures. Half of what you are told about women is crap. When you find a good one, she will add to your life spiritually and physically. Your brain will be smarter.

If I was in Lagos, I would have invited you to hangout. Any professional matured Igbo man whose got the time, should connect with this young man, mentor him and pull him out of his shell before he loses him self to Prophets.

I'm not as spiritual as you may guess, the designer of sex did not make it practically voluntary, sexual urge does not exist, it all evolution playing a fast one on all of us. Whether you have sex or not, your body produces sperm everyday, which if it ends up not being used, it goes off in form of wet dreams and all of that, like you also noted a couple of people masturbate but don't worry, we are not fully in control of sex especially as human, other animals can be a question of self control, but as humans whether you like it or not you must have sex whether consciously or unconsciously, human brain is powerful enough to handle the sex process unconsciously.

Having answered that, I'm not in any tight corner or sex starved, and I'm not a hater of affectionate people, you are comparing public space, to shared space and private or personal space. What you had refused to acknowledge here is that I only asked for them to wash the sheets, which is the right thing to do, I made it clear when I got back and they were already in the room, I left.

The situation here is not of aggression as you are making it seem, how is coming online to talk about my displeasure any form of aggression. I simply said this contaminate the environment at least restore it to the original, I have no business with why two adult couple have sex, I only said if you must contaminate my personal space, disinfect it.

If you are trying too hard to glorify sex and create an animalistic view of humanity, I tell you of a truth no one enjoys sex, we had all been playing to evolution.

I'm not trying to say that sex is too animalistic but I was saying that the point on the other side, puts human sexual reality at par with the rest of the creatures which shouldn't be so, the reason for sex needs to be defined, okay so you decide to have sex today, why are you having sex, okay you want to make babies: fine go make babies, or oh I want to feel relaxed oh, okay go feel relaxed, or I just want to prove love to so and so, okay go do what ever pleases you but make sure you don't over inconvenience the next person especially in his or her private space

But everyone else thinks oh as as far as it is sex between couples in their house, it could go on any where they want it or any how they want it, that's the situation, are you so sex crazed that you forget the needs of others, I think people like you are the real sex starved ones, cause in the presence of sex nothing else matters.

The question is would they sleep in the sheets if they knew I had sex with my girlfriend on it without washing it, would you sleep on your bedsheet if you knew someone else maybe apart from your parents had sex in it, now why won't they wash it, are they expecting me to wash it for them, as what, as a gynecologist or what.

See there are limits to insults and there are absolutely limits to the things I can take, first of all I'm not sex starved neither do I lack women, it just that there are other priorities and I don't see the needs for sex, everything sex gives for now have fitting alternatives, relaxation, I play football listen to music read, sex for exercise, I play football, swim, take walks, sex for fun, I hang with my girlfriends, I sometimes drinks and club with my friends, making babies, well I'm not quite prepared for that, prove of love, I'm a lot loved, like so much so tell me why I should just go out there and get laid, just so I get laid and be like 96% of the people, why be like the rest when you can be special.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
As you set out on your journey to discover self love, remember you need to understand that everyone must not be you..this is a simple issue. As you can't wash of the sheets the best would have been to replace it tomorrow.. except you already had plans of moving out before the incident. I hope you are not just looking for an excuse to be free..maybe with your brother you aren't as free as you would have loved to

I had long realised that a perfect world does not exist and I had also learnt when I'm being a freak, I know that sometimes you just got to go out there and face your fears, some days I was going to leave home be a Man, maybe fall in love, have beautiful sons and daughters that may or may not technically be mine, I don't care so much about so many things in life, the life we live is not ours, even the houses we live in today is not ours, the roads we walk, some day we will all disappear and given enough time the roads too and so many more things will go.

The universe is so fascinating, it is not beautiful in the sense of the smell of the rose flowers nor the looks of a butterfly, but honestly it is beautiful, sometimes I feel like I got to talk a walk around the world when I can, I stay in this little space, just needing a room and some food everyday and I got compassion I try to give as much as I take.

But if you are not seen, if your plights doesn't matter, only the momentary urge of extreme canals of some people, when you try to see people's reason for hurting you but they don't even see the slightest of their errors, you got to set out in a classically strange world, where there is a fit for everything only if you search well enough, that yes, we don't live in the waters but the fishes does, then I believe somewhere in the world, an ideal space for me abounds and it is definitely not this house.

I'm going to set out and search for it, either I find such place, or I promise myself I will never give up, a fish out of water will die faster, but a place for me exists, the universe never made anything that got no place, if after my adventure and I have no place. Then until then but for now I got to set out.

lefulefu:
why would they have sex in ur room?
even if its your brothers house dont they have a master bedroom?
or is it that its only a single room apartment and u sharing the room with your brother and his wife?
Its kinder weird u washing the bedsheet that both ur brother and his wife had sex in
a normal lady would object to such and pick up the used bedsheet after sex
if u can afford renting ur own place i would advice u get ur own place cos i believe both of them shagging in ur room is giving you a hint to pack out of the house
No normal couple does that

They have their own room, though I understand my room is where the Children don't frequent, so I say I understood that part, but why can't they keep the room tidy as they met it, why won't the woman at least wash the bed spread, thats I asked, definitely sex can happen anywhere including in an elevator but responsible people shouldn't be selfish enough to only care about their own satisfaction

cdm4live:
My senior called me yesterday and I knew he was coming with a girl. I left the house telling where I kept the keys.
When he was done, he called and told me he left the bed sheet outside. I got home saw it outside and left it there.
I have wanted to tell him to stop carrying women to my house but I remembered when I was still living with my dad and mom.
I have a friend I run to when a woman comes around. One day, I knack this babe and the whole bed was wet.
I turned the bed the other side and spread the bedsheet still wet with our sweat.
I left and till today, he hasn't said a word about wet bedsheet and bed, I still take girls to his place.
Today morning, I have washed my bedsheet.

Could it be you are fancing your brother's girl or you are just jealous.

You kissed a girl and you no knack her and you never kiss again hmmmmmm
Go try dey rassle woman o. Make sex starve no come kill you.

If no get money get sense n if you no get sense get money.
No dey like boys wey get money and no get joy. Nothing pass joy and happiness.

Weytin I talk sef, no mind me o

You don't know what happiness is, have you read the complete works of Shakespeare, or taken a look at some of Tesla's models, have you read the republic by pluto, or seen anything about pearl harbour attack that changed the direction of the world war two, do you know about the Manhattan project, how much do you know about marry Slessor, oh I I shouldn't tell you where lord Lugard was born, for some of us the beauties of life does not always lie in sex, sex is great no doubt but it was not designed for some random kids.

I definitely know more about sex than you will ever know even if you sleep with a thousand woman, do you know why you or most people moan during sex, your sex experience brings you closer to goats and dogs, be human why not study and understand sex

When you don't enjoy some peaceful mental time but glorifies sex, tell me how you are different from donkeys, even 2 months old rats have sex tell me how are you different from them, perhaps your brother or you is not disciplined if he sees your room worthy of being a sex brothel, he should have washed the sheet becuase he wont have had sex there if it were hanging outside when he came.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
So what do you intend to do now that you can't wash the bedsheets? You have alot of options. Sleep on the floor, sleep on the naked bed, go to a hotel, or sleep on the kitchen cabinet.
You are not more strict than most of us here even without ever thinking of becoming a priest or whatever. I don't share my person things with anyone in my house. If my sister's wears my clothes, I won't ever wear it again. My only sister for that matter. We ear the same size of shoes but I don't wear her shoes and she doesn't wear my shoes without me giving it out to her.
Most times we buy identical items and then each person puts a mark on hers. But we are very close.
You are disgusted that your brother bleeped his wife on the same sheets you sleep on, what do you intend to do about it?

I'm staying up through the night, look up some computer software models, then tomorrow morning, I, take a short nap to avoid sleeping in the bus and then a new location somewhere in the map in my heart awaits me, I can go to a lot more learnt to keep my peace of mind and self love and respect, it understandable if people don't respect you but if you fail to respect yourself that's the very terrible part

Sixfeetbelle:
Why her though? You keep going back to this and it makes me wonder, would the bed sheets even be 'clean' to you if your brother had washed it?

Till then, but I had told you what i expected them to do, if they washed it, why won't it be clean, this is what I will do if I ever used another persons room for such, just wash its, them that had sex, didn't they certainly take their baths, so why would I be the one to sleep in whatever, I'm I the one that had sex, is it my sex obviously it looks funny to me now, how majority of the people think, so imagine me sleeping on a sex stained bed, just to please some class of people who thinks becuase you stay in your brothers house then everything and anything can go,

MISSCONGENIALITY:
it's simple. Remove it and replace it with another if there is another of sleep on the naked bed and go for another bedsheet tomorrow.

I'm already staying up through the night, I'm kinda enjoying it, got some things to do, later today, I sleep a little in my chair to avoid me sleeping in the bus and I take another step in my adventure of life, I know for sure that life never ends, today we have bodies tomorrow's we will be some piece of energy hovering around, while i lived this is the man I am. That's what matter to me, may still change my mind tomorrow though.

Sixfeetbelle:
On the contrary, you do hate her though. You may think you don't, you may even have convinced yourself that you don't, but the more I read your replies, the more it becomes evident that the hatred is a mutual feeling between you too. You keep saying she disgusts you in the same vein you talk about how she likes picking quarrels with you. If you didn't loathe her, you wouldn't use disgust in the same sentence when you talk about her. Perhaps, the only reason you haven't noticed your hatred towards her is because you're a 'peaceful' person per se but I suppose that, too, like many facets of your life is a facade

Hate is a very strong word my dear, if I declare hate, you will understand the implication, I feel nothing. Disgusting is in the aspect of this whole sexual escapade, not in the whole contest, if shes totally disgusting, I won't even eat her food, if I hate her, i won't even stay in the same house with her, disgusting is irritating, which is the whole mental picture of sleeping in such unhealthy and non hygienic environments, disgusting does not equals hates, disgusting is about conception hate is a state of perception. Disgusting will fade out over time, hate grows stronger that's the disparity, I can't say I hate her, I can say her actions especially the one of this evening disgusts me

Lucrativress:
Which forces want to bring you down Iwo Oloun
I'm just reading this well sef
Why not think logically na
You seem receptive which seems to be making people interested in you
Cause there's an air of class and receptiveness then probably "omo olowo"
A bit of nonchalance and sexy arrogance,can't you just see the logical reasoning in this
You remind me of a relative,I tell you if you continue like this,you'll be lost in yourself,you really don't want that, it's the loneliest thing to ever happen to anyone
Don't be boring bikonu
Live and live and keep living
Don't talk about forces,just think and next time think of a good solution,don't tell me you're the everytime Church and Bible type o

I'm not religious oo, far from that, I'm just sailing in my own strange ship, lol, first of all I believe there are lots of forces in the universe that it becomes unwise to doubt or completely accept anything. I had not gone to church for over two years willingly unless sometimes when my brother almost force me, and I keep telling everyone you guys are some bunch of people emotionally blackmailing God.

So you pray so God gives you money, well God gives you money then you stop praying what do you think God will do, I believe God himself is up with a lot of problem and God is not the way we had all been told, those spiritualist I do tell them straight out there, I know what you saying is crazy but it even more crazy to live in a world this complicated and not see reasons in everything.

I believe Religious people are the most unbelieving in the most part, how can you look at the sun and the stars, and the oxygen that abounds on earth and still needs miracle to believe in God, in the most part, even believing in God shows how much how we don't believe in God, religious people is not the problem, the problem is God whatsoever who always wish to let people believe he exists that's by the way if all these are not lies.

If you live in my world you will realise how sweet lonely peace could be, no conversation is ever better than speaking to your inner self

Lucrativress:
Your problem is that you expect people to behave in a certain way which is right
Stop expecting much from people
Expect the worst and work on how you'll handle situations when people act disgusting cause the truth is,expect your disgust to be ignited again later in the future.
And the only reason is cause we're humans and not gods and we're not the same.
Sorry okay,don't feel bad again
Just be happy you have options to choose from that's all,don't get worked up over this issue

I will just stay up to night which in few minutes time it will be tomorrow, options available to me is 1, get the bedsheet washed with hot water, 2. Go home and spend some good time with my mum, laugh and get angry over any small thing and get treated like a king, at home they also cook what I like and I have two boys and a 17 years old girl staying with my mum they are my minions, they feel so happy to obey my commands, lol, but here I don't expect anything but I'm okay, like I don't eat Abacha, I don't eat vegetable soup for swallow, most times if my brothers wife cook those, she don't even care that I don't eat them but I can honestly take care of myself.

Lol, what most people don't get is that everybody is not the same, happiness is free, success will come if you are happy, I can also visit my two sisters living in other cities they had been begging me to visit or visit my second brother, but that's not my main issue, the truth is that work is about to get really hectic in this house and me, I no too like stress, cause me I can't come and kill myself lol.

I will just give them space for some weeks, then show up again when it feels right that's maybe rainy season lol, that's if it turns out a wrong decision but honestly, I got spend more time with people like my mum.

That's why me I can't even tell anyone why I'm saying making any move lol, I will just say, I'm going to this place so tomorrow, I just pack some few things I need tell my brother I got this call I got be in so and so place, cause if you register your displeasure, that means you don start matter them go start reason am make them settle am, if I so strong head commot on top issue and in case I chock up for where I dey enter na my bros I go still call make he send Tfair, so I go visit.

So that's it, tomorrow or next I will just be like let me go see so and so's office, not sure of coming back today.

GerogeI:
God made us to be with women. Only be prudent enough to marry them before sex. I think your spiritualist is just using your head. You are too young for such bullshit.

God, the creator designed you to see and savour women folk, because He needs you to give birth to the next generation. God has no plan of filling the earth with Jesus. He choose us, imperfect sexual beings. You do not know it now, but the truth is that you will be extremely deflated, probably depressed and sad if you do not have women folk around you in your midlife 35-50. So take the church drive for sexual Righteousness with a pint of salt. You need sex, it is a physical need, you cannot avoid. A few years from now, you will no longer be able to avoid sex, you will end up with masturbation if you remain alone. That's a sin as well, so why the hell should you avoid women. Just better find one to marry at the right time.

These are part of the reason why the bible went further to write it, that it's not good for a man to be alone. Do not fornicate, but do not run a way from women.
At every point have one you choose for yourself and keep her close.

Stop consulting spiritualist they will ruin you. If you are so afraid of life at 26 when you have nothing to fear, what will you do when you are much older and have real fears. Just trust God, and have a stubborn self confidence. Make your plans and try your ideas, you will makes mistakes, but from them you will learn the lessons that will help you build a successful life.
I can also see u did not spend a lot of your adult life with your father, and your brother has not filled that role well. Maybe he is too young.

Get yourself a mentor. Look in you work place for a man beyond his 40s or 50s, who you admire, his character and achievements. Meet him privately, and ask him to be your mentor. Tell him that you feel he can help you bridge some gaps you might have in making the journey into manhood. He will not say no. Do not choose a man with a broken home or hideous Character. Choose a man that is being celebrated, your CEO, DCEO, etc. Cheers and welcome to the life of a man!

My case with women are quite complicated, I didn't go to seek advice on women but after telling me other things they told me the major problem I should be careful with is women, they are not referring to my brothers wife or some random women, some married women are over my head and I know from that moment that if I make mistake it could be costly, it not simple, even yesterday I spoke with my mum, I told her there are enough kids in the world that needs love, why do people care to bring more kids, she asked me what about these number of women that came to see you during Xmas what if one of them comes back and say they are pregnant for you, would you reject the kids, so if I even get a decent girl pregnant, my family especially my mum would be more than happy, even my brother knows my girlfriend here and he only advised me, to try as much as possible to find a good woman that marriage is not something you wish to go with the wrong woman.

The problem I could sense is not on regular women, it is from married women who seems easily in love which I don't know why but I had learnt to see that as not as a result of whatever potential, I see it as a plot by some forces to bring me down, that's why I avoid women, they easily fall in love with me then give the excuse that I'm Ogbanje and that's why women easily fall for me and find it hard to let go.

Lucrativress:
Do you know that to solve this issue calmly you could have simply conversed it with your brother in an understanding way,it's his House you know,trust me I know how it feels when you expect a sibling to be sensible
Try not to act irrational
Either that option or just burning the bedsheet quietly, do you know silent acts sends stronger messages and allowing hurts in and fuming inside?
You only create discomfort for yourself alone and later you'll know you're all alone in this World.
Splitting inheritance is not the thing, your brother seems like a real nice person,why not communicate with him or even send him texts if you can't look at him while saying it?
These things are normal things that happen,as disgusting as it is,it can be handled peacefully while you work on leaving the House

My brother is a nice guy, but It not easy to be the only one they talk about, I'm like this kind of person that does not talk much but really loud, I don't want to bring issues to the family cause to my brother a wife is already a part of him, but to me the wife remains a stranger, my brother after that went out coming back this night, it a merry go round day and currently sleeping.

So how would I say or so, don't you know your wife or you should wash the sheets after doing like, lol that's the most ridiculous thing ever, I got pretend like honestly I don't even know you guys did something like this, I don't have to know that why a mature woman should make the bed and wash the sheets.

I don't tell her to wash my sheets, in fact most times I cook my food I love cooking, at home my mum do help me with washing and my mum is about the only woman I allow to wash my bedsheet, if it were at home my mum could have washed it, like once I quarrel with my mum sef I stop her from washing my football kits which she love doing, to me I don't naturally like just anybody washing my personal effects.

I don't ask her to wash the bedsheet on a good day, I wash my stuff myself I enjoy doing it and watch my fingers look clean but this is different, even in my room in my personal house, they can have sex there they are married, but after that, restore my room to earlier state. That's all I'm asking. And I don't have to tell them becuase somethings are not what you say, we can all send a silent message.

stupidmod5:
ur own good, be feeling fly

I'm young, and got grace, I will spread my wing, if i crash it is my decision, i really needed this push, I will buy her a gift if am ever made.

stupidmod5:
lol go tell ur brothers wife to wash the sheet

She will wash it, I don't need to tell her, I'm up until tomorrow and I will give them a little space not only would she wash it, she will draw water to wash it. Let them have it to themselves and have sex as much as they wish to, before a month, it will really be up to them to wash it or not

Voltage131:
She don't want you around her,you're suppossing to be living alone in your own apartment not with your brother and his wife,it good to live with your sister with her husband,than to live with your brother with his wife.

What I'm I blocking from her, it is not even about her husband's house, even if we go home in my family house it is that way, I can remember the other time there is more than five buckets in my house but I wanted to wash car I had put water in the bucket, she said she brought out the bucket to use I didn't say anything I brought another bucket turned the water, sometimes at home if I get to kitchen to collect food she will say, why I didn't ask if everyone had eaten, but she don't extend such treatment to her husband or even my second brother, my first brother (Her husband) like few days back we went home together, they are cooking another food but the food remaining, he said I should eat it, he can wait until the other food is done. So I can't tell my mother all these, she will be hurt, and my elder sister I can speak to is no longer there, sometimes I just come to nairaland to just talk, cause I just want to talk, but even when I speak about unrelated issue you guys finds a way to rope hate into it, I made a complaint, people having sex in my room at least tidy it up after it is irritating to me that's all.

stupidmod5:
my friend will u wash ur sheet, stop showing ur virgin self u are just being bitter, keep it to ur self.

jeez u go sch self, even in university people b having sex on ur bed, wen dey don wash n continue stop acting like a class captain what kind of adult are u, u must be a loner bro that just bad

I went to school, I lived in a self contain, never had to share a room, even on matriculation day cause so many people came, so boys had some people who had visitors I allowed their visitors to sleep in my room while I slept in my other friends room, they had sex in my room left a pack of condoms and even used, heaven knew how those guys later disinfected my room, this is not about virgin bulshits, this is my way of life, school or no school people are different, I just don't like people having sex in my personal space and not take responsibility, if you must have sex in a young man's room at least wash the sheets, I'm not a house maid or a laundry guy for crying out loud

pek:
I was wondering where all these was leading to until I read the last sentence. You hate the woman. Why don't you get your own place?

I don't hate her, more like indifference, I had left several times but my brother wants me to stay around cause his business keeps him on the move and sometimes, I need to help with taking care of the kids