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The man sha no get sense o, he just missed an opportunity to get a brand new wife now he may go to jail and live with the guilt of deforming his child

Let's look at it from another angle,as a man I can afford to have a nanny do all the work and still be the breadwinner does that make my wife useless then or should I turn her to my gatewoman, so if a man cannot afford to be the breadwinner he should pay for his daily bread by turning into a cook. I tell people if my wife don't see cooking good meals for me as an expression of love but a task she better stop cooking, I do the best I can to help out, most times I cook dinner on Sunday's, even my two year old twins are used to it. I will do anything for a good woman but with Ronke's attitude if it means using my car for taxi or even farming, I will, rather than collecting a dime from her. May God deliver us men sha from their type. It's a lack of understanding of the roles of a husband and wife that makes people like her talk like this. My wife is my soulmate.

freshvine:
Madam, you're not cooking for your husband, you're cooking for the family. Drop this feminist toga abeg. Better still, hire a cook.

If you allow your husband to be visiting markets, grinding egusi, okra, pepper and bargaining with market women, your family will be butt of jokes and ridicule.

Here is Africa, we don't go to shopping malls with plastic bags to source ingredients for pasta, we go to Rural markets with majority of women population to buy our ingredients.. . Your husband will be mocked.

If you are Rich, upgrade your husband and play your traditional roles. No need for excuses or role reversal. If he's beneath you and you can't imagine cooking for him, divorce him and look for a wealthier man

God bless you ma, that is why as a man I will prefer to stay in a one room I can afford, than move into a duplex paid for by a wife like Ronke

In issues like this there was no need you confronting her, give her all the love and care she needs and do DNA secretly when the baby is born. But the truth can kill o, I can't imagine somebody coming to say my kids are not mine

Is this the first time he is hitting her, how did she say what she said? guess our women need a course in diplomacy. If she had told him honey just wait till evening I'm planning something really hot this just make you come back home prepared, d guy would probably be the one ironing her dress to the conference. Possible she told him he was being unreasonable. Not every guy has full control of his emotions

tintingz:
Are you marrying her because you love her or because of food?

If you want her to be your cooker, you can employ her to start cooking for you.

Don't be deceived, many girls can deceive you to be professional in cooking but they are simply buying food in nearest mama put, Iya basira, Mr Biggs.

Sometimes love alone is not enough.

This is business class in a commercial flight now

My Nokia Lumia 950 goes off and tries to come on for ever, in addition one of my sim slots is not working took it to your warrior shop and somebody called me to tell me my bill was 100k to fix because somebody had worked on it previously. Not an update or battery issue

I was coming from church today I put my son in the front sit while others were behind he felt caged and lonely I feft bad and relocated him to join the party behind. My question, how will you feel if 5yrs down the line u are not so lucky and you have a sickler child going through a crisis crying asking you mummy why am l always sick. My sister love alone is never enough.

And nairaland is the best place to resolve church issues, no talking and praying about it like brethren. What happens to if you not received dust ur feet and leave. Social media bullying. Sit back and let God's will be done.

I think there is a lot of focus on counseling before wedding but little or nothing after. I think the transition phase from fiance/fiancee to husband/wife is a critical one. There should be a 3-6 months post wedding counseling programme to help the transition
Might help reduce divorce rates

Sex alone cannot sustain a marriage there are so many other things that are needed. For me divorce is never an option, don't want my children end up being products of a broken home a sacrifice I will make for them. So if you have kids save a video of them playing and laughing on ur phone so that anytime the thoughts of divorce comes you watch it to cool temper.

For the unmarried folks pls avoid premarital sex cos it blinds you from all the traits, there are things that you must never overlook in choosing ur partner of you must be successful in marriage
Meanwhile continue to pray

Like someone said relevance is subjective. While some may prefer a full time housewife some may prefer one of the others. I think the real purpose of a woman is companionship (it is not good for a man to be alone).So it is the responsibility of a lady to identify the area(s) of loneliness in the man she intends to marry and determine if she is willing to provide help, until you do so no matter what you do you may just be a perfect square peg in a round hole. And to "to be" husbands pls do well to communicate these expectations when she is doing everything to impress.

Assuming her father is irresponsible is it enough reason for her to be rude, can't we bring up our children making them understand that people's actions or inactions should not define them. At twenty I didn't want my dad anywhere near my social media account. My dear pls. dont help propagate the bitterness your parents share, kill it with love, I know you feel rejected but God treasures you so much. My wife had the experience growing up it has been easy, when she starts it's like she is possessed when it ends she will be remorseful. My mum continues to pray for us every day. In addition an outburst will this makes it look like your mother has filled you with bitterness which may not be true and puts a tag on you as a disturbed person

I hope u guys have confirmed this for sure before posting her pics, imagine the irreparable damage if it turns out to be false

Looks like u re hurting, it is well. The answer to ur question differs from person to person what I hold most valuable may be different from urs. So I think you need to get a boyfriend with your same mindset. Some ladies will not collect anything from a guy they are cool with the love and attention. Half filled or Half empty all correct

1. What is ur definition of stingy, is it capability or willingness?

High Risk tolerance & low risk perception

dominique:
She looks smart, the hijab is not overflowing- can't possibly get entangled with wires. Though she should have worn overalls, I don't see and safety hazards in her dressing in my opinion.

Only the living can practice religion, her entire outfit is unsafe for the job, if gets entangled as she climbs down or wind blows it an it touches a wire it should not touch. The DISCO she works for should take note, if anything happens to her family will be asking for compensation. No allow them use your matter for case study. If she is ready to kill herself, her family is not prepared to lose her. Let's think how bad can it be

I have tried to be helpful but it begins to get frustrating when it is an everyday affair. Is this a phase or for life. Anyways I have heard u all, ur words were helpful good to have a cold eye's view

Efe sure say u no go collect money value, 25m big for mouth but go lost for inside market

Suggested getting help but she said she is not comfortable. Beginning to think single life is far better.

My wife and I got married two yes ago, bless with two kids(twins), we are quite comfortable at least we can feed well and plan for other needs. Early in the marriage I noticed she was the rude type a trait that was not visible before marriage. Her niece stayed with us early in the marriage to help out but most times I come from work the sitting room is very dirty if I complain she gets angry and vent. I am the quiet type and has sworn never to hit my wife. I complained when I noticed she was allowing her niece (18) come to clean our bedroom, she concluded and said I dont see anything good in her family, her mother is late never stayed with her dad. She doesn't have a good relationship with him step mum so i complained to my mum who is my church's head of marriage community she spoke to her alone and later with both of us, thought that will help but turned out worse. She told her niece to leave since she felt I didn't like her, she is left only with the twins which is hectic have suggested a helper who comes in the mornings and leave by evening she refused now so many things suffer. Currently she has not been speaking to me because I asked her why she left a kettle we use for food in the toilet, not like I can't take it back but it has turned to a habit. Really tired of the whole scenario don't want to do anything that frustrate the Grace of God in my life. Need your advice, help me see things from different perspective. Sorry for the length just had to let it out

So what do you hope to achieve by this post, so UBA go dey monitor who their workers sleep with, is your sister's husband a baby abi the girl rape am. I hope say no b because the babe no give u green light or UBA no pay compensation. Stop spoiling the bank's reputation because of ur randy in law and a loose girl.If d girl worked for mama sikira buka will u be making all this noise, BTW what is ur particular interest you say they are settling what is the point coming out with their pocs.

Personally his performance was embarrassing, the platform was too big for this type of Bleep up. Ik pls. don't yab him on highlights with IK

I will think this is a short term plan, guess initially the plan was to grow our depleted forum reserve to a comfortable point then begin to pump a percentage whatever we then make into the market. Guys Nigeria is too corrupt if we say we will try to grow other sectors of the economy and leave speculators, hardship will kill us before the economy finish growing that is if the speculators allow them to grow with the amount of foreign exchange in their possession. On the other hand, speculators will keep selling their dollars to sustain the policy while CBN tactically withdraws its funding. In summary CBN has started speculating too