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Glory be to God

This is a big lie, such unverified stories could endanger people's live. It is a requirement for all oil workers to be in 14 days isolation before going offshore people that do not present any symptoms afterwards will be allowed offshore. All oil companies are doing same now. If Ekpan boys vex go there and injure people wearing Sahara reporters gain. And Sowore want to become President; Is that how he will rush and be taking decisions based on unverified information The way he runs Sahara reporters he still has a lot of growing up to do

What is the total population in Zamfara State?

She may have been quoted out of context, I would want to think she didn't mean literal darkness as in just bulb switched off

Next time she asks you for Money, tell her you will be more comfortable if the request comes from the husband, that is if your concern is the woman asking and not the frequency.

Can the seizure/take over happen at board room level without all the unnecessary drama which often results in Job losses and brand damage

Akinwumi Adeshina

Conduct from the guy was unprofessional

pek:
Why withhold the name of the bank?

Maybe they are in negotiations with the bank, just releasing this part of the whole story to see if the bank will be pressured to improve theìr offer

South East where Atiku/Obi has greater support then one group comes out to say boycott election to favour Buhari alias python dance. Kanu and IPOB go and brush Una mouth, yeye

Which prodùct/company has the best stone coated roofs

For me it's ok as long as I get the best ranking/appraisal from him or her at the end of the year. Every system know their productive people, good work does not hide

I will never support wife beaters nothing should make you as a man bring yourself to that level rather he should have left the house for her to continue slamming the door on herself. If you can afford it get another apartment. If you kill her now you will go to jail if she kill you it will be Gone too soon. Some woman do not have good home training even bible said is better to stay in the roof top than in the same house with such.

Where are the best Nebosh training centers in Nigeria

Unnecessary talk, we are the light and salt not threat

Where can I get first grade second hand clothes in Lagos

It's not normal but possible. Depends on all of you, I am married I have a very close female friend who is also married we were classmates her husband attended same school, same department but a year ahead of us interestingly her husband and I are colleagues at work. Noticed lately husband was getting uncomfortable and she was also not helping matters she sometimes tries to compare so I started keeping my distance, so point is it happens but there should be history but if any party is uncomfortable then cut it, my coming here to say it is normal or not is not what matters issue is do you trust your wife, are u comfortable, do you know the guy and his family. I am not comfortable though that the bestfriendship started after marriage(redflag)

ZIMDRILL:
In my opinion your 1st paragraphy ill advising

Why

The guy is not supporting the wife, the wife is learning so that one day she qualify get a job and bring more income on the table, we mainly work to provide for our kids to have better future or start in their lifes

Looking after kids is nolonger s traditional role of women? The world has changed forcing women to go out and wotk like men, hubby should supoort wife by either hubby finding a maid, sending kids to after skol care or arrange a pattern that works around there kids

A maid or after skol care are expenses on their own if the hubby was bringing enough on the table, one of the two would have happened long back and they couldnt be fighting right now


Sure what time of men who let wife go with kids to work/learning place

Whether wife wants to uplift herself atlist she getting herselft educated to provide for the kids

Sometimes tradition doesnt put food on the table u need to adjust with times, all the ladies u see in streets didnt wait for traditional roles for hubby to go out and work while they just sit home doing house chores, hunger and desire for better life made them go out and put few dollars on the table

By His Grace finance has never been an the issue, I am not against her self improvement plans also, get a maid, no ! (mind u I will pay o)

Phut:
OP why do you not want to babysit and/or bond with your kids? To the extent of telling your wife to take them with her while she is going to the pharmacy. What then will you be doing with all your time off? Being a father is not just about providing materially. When the children grow up and aren’t close to you, you’ll be the first to complain.

So I have been doing the babysitting and even more I get to clean the house anytime I am home and the fact I am on break doesn't mean I still don't get online and work. There are days I notice she is stressed I have take the children out to give her time to relax, these are just measures that are meant to ease the burden but doesn't solve it, get a maid so some of the workload be delegated you refused. I leave the house by 6am come back by 6pm. I am not supposed to be tired too

Thankyou all for your advice, scoldings, reassurances etc, sometimes we need to vent. At least the family forum on nairaland provides the forum without been accused of taking family matter outside. There is hope.

Mindfulness:
You are not a supportive husband so do not expect any support in return. It is not your job to kill your wife's dreams but it is your job to look after your children.

Don't draw hasty conclusions, my not agreeing with the pharmacy thing had nothing to do with killing her dreams cos I brought up the pharmacy idea but timing without plan for the kids, I suggested a maid she refused but said we will manage I told her later you will feel trapped and overburdened she did not listen, now this and I am not supportive, fair enough I have gotten some great insights from what some posters have said which I will explore. Thanks all the same

Eketem:
You don't seem supportive of her goals and aspirations and it seems she has gotten frustrated with your lack of support and is lashing out.

How can you ask her to take the kids to her work place do you take them to your own office? Are they her kids alone?


Getting a househelp who will pay?

It seems you had an agreement that she will stay home for a while then learn a trade or go back to work and now it's time you don't want to support her.

She sounds like someone tired and fed up

You both need a neutral party preferably a qualified counselor so both of you can open your mind and listen to what the other is saying and meet in the middle

Twice I have made attempts to get a house help through an agency but she rejected, right from day 1 I told her I don't want a sit at home wife, I used to do all the helping evening going to market after work etc but all of these were never appreciated, I still help in every way possible, but for how long should we continue like this when it can be better, I have her pharmacy as part of my plans so when you talk of support I need more insights

Holocene:
When did all these behaviour start coming up

A little after our marriage

I have a very good job but have been on break for a couple days now, she did not go out to fend for the house but insisted she can't just sit at home with the kids(3yrs) doing nothing. Sometimes feel I should just go get another apartment and let her be but always having thinking impact on kids.

I am always having issues with my wife, she has little or no regard for me, she can shout and say anything that comes to her mind when she is angry, when she's done she walks away not providing opportunity for us to discuss it. Recently we had a disagreement she wanted the kids to stay home with me while she goes to the pharmacy shop she is learning, I told her to go with them like she has always done and I did that because her decision to go for the pharmacy I disagreed with it from the very beginning but she said she will only go when kids are in school but now she takes them with her whenever they don't go. I have always told her to get a house help that will come assist and go back home in the evening she refused, I come from work all I hear is stress this stress that, she let's out her frustration on us all, what really gets me is the things she says with so much bitterness, sometimes I ask myself if I am a bad persin. All this reoccurring issues make me feel like I have failed inspire of all the successes in my life. Pls advise

The property should have been in both ur names, don't know if ur decision was intentional. If your parents were sick and you used ur part, will you be happy if he uses his name alone? For him, it was childish sending u out if house

If they must stay together the man should relocate, he should first start looking for new work in his wife's location

What did the husband say after she refused, I think he should have made the all important decision, I also think on the approval of a consultant gynecologist and if proven that CS is the only way then it should override all decisions. I hope one day we will not see instances where people take police to court for preventing them from committing suicide. I can just imagine the had I know that will be in the man's mind now.

This situation is 11yrs old, i mean it was not like this at the beginning but deteriorated gradually to this point through the yrs. My wife comes from a broken home too and has some of these threats l'm naturally a quiet person so you expect she will always ride me, I started by telling her that she can leave if she wants then she says she will leave with the children and we argue then she thinks she has a strong weapon (the children) against me, one day I got so mad and told her to leave my life, she came up with the children gist, I told her carry your children and leave my life in peace, I could see the shock, my point is we can put some of these excesses in check sometimes, my advice to you is start by leaving her and the kids in the house go somewhere and relax for one week (not with another babe o) just be by yourself. My friend's wife locked him out of the house because he came home late the guy just enter motor go back where he was coming from after a few days the wife started calling every body up to his parents they finally track the guy and the wife said he came late because he went to see another woman, they asked her are u hungry, does he take care of the children her answer was yes, then they told her if her can afford it he can marry another woman (this might not have been the best response but it achieved the intended purpose the wife pepper body calmed down). My point in all of this is you need to take control not by shouting and violence but emotionally. No how to play with her emotions to achieve the results you want, make her feel you can be happy without her. Prepare your food, make your bed, go out with friends, watch movies, read books go on trips just recreate your life without her and monitor her reactions

It's her money she can do as she pleases as long as it is not ungodly or illegal or wasteful, last last I own her and her money

Good one Angela, the one that baffles me is that they could not at least say something nice about their biological fathers or other father figures instead they were busy spreading bitterness, claiming to be fathers not minding that their kids will read all the rubbish. These are the real hate speeches that requires flogging as punishment, we are still trying to recover from the concept of homosexuality these morally deficient ones want to introduce another new one. God is watching una

Wine will do but ask if he takes alcohol so you know whether red or fruit wine. Careful with gifts as I bet you the father might read it read it differently if you over step