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Good evening members in the house. I purposely brought this topic to this section (family) cos I blive i'll have a mature responses and contributions.

I'll try to be brief as possible.
I met this lady 2014 but we started dating November last year. It took her a whole year for her to accept dating me.

But then, she told me that, there is something she will tell any man who desire to marry her bt, depend on the level of seriousness of the man.

Then, I took what she planned telling her hubby to be as nothing serious nt until d relationship began to wax stronger. After being in the relationship for a while, I discovered she posses virtually all d qualities I desire in a lady and wouldn't mind spending the rest of my life with her.

I tried to make her tell me what she has in mind that she plan to tell her hubby to be, she refused. At this stage, our both parents re aware of our relationship and we planned to have our INTRO this June.

I proposed to her last week, she accepted and busted to tears. Initially, I thought it was a tears of joy, nt knowing it was something entirely different from my thought.

I took her home with different feelings within me since she couldn't stop crying. When we got to their house b4 she alighted, she hold my hands and told me me 'she's HIV positive'

I was startled for minutes. She said I should think about it if I still want the relationship.

I have make enquiries from Doctors if both of us can marry and He said yes Bt the am nt still convince. Please, Nairalanders, I need ur sincere advice on this issue...

Does his death changes anything? Please, let the toothed General be!

That's not true. Is just a blasphemy

It is not as if people did not know removal of fuel subsidy in 2012 was a right decision... but people protested because of insincerity of people in power...

Now that the subsidy is successfully removed; only a fool would protest against it...

Nigeria will laugh at last. Let's be patient

A time is coming when 'some' private Uni will have the best facilities to carryout teaching properly than this public Universities.

Mind U, I went to a public school

Congrat the legend

- Nurudeen
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-Aminu


D list continue...

A good project. I wish to build my own house next year too. Amen

Na every month she dey change husband?.
This was nt d man I saw in her last pics that claimed the dude was her new husband. And now this

De all belong to same caucus. Never would a bus carrying coffin be pick passengers on d road nt with dis shady business

1-Things re cheap and offordable

2-there employment

3- the rate of crime was low

4- we still have politicians who still have Nigeria at heart

5- there's still little trust among brethens

The list is endless...90s is still d best decade

I see nothing bad but simplicity

R.I.P

Only God knows the best for all. R.I.P Ocholi.

Inconsistency in NFA

All work without play makes jack a dull boy

Ur name really portray U. Av u also check ur boxers maybe they are complete?

Am not surprise, most of Nas indigene don't like Education. I served in their State uni some years back.

mylove4him:
You are right jare. The Op has some ego issues he needs to deal with. He felt at that moment that the front seat is his entitlement. He should have stood up and let the friends wife be the one to tell him not to worry.

jashar:
mtcheeeewwwwwww.......... instead of some people to respect themselves and buy their own car. they are busy dragging front seat with a married persons' spouse.
From what I've read, the op is egoistic. I guess that's what the wife was reacting to not necessarily the seat per se.
I blame the husband. Birds of a feather they say...

cococandy:
@bold is the summary. He's obviously more sensible than this OP.
At least it means nothing but he recognizes that it may mean something to you since everyone is not the same hence he gave You the opportunity to go with whichever you prefer.
Personally I'd consider a lady who insists on taking the chair somehow petty. so you telling him to never mind is just in line and normal with what any mature person would do. And him offering it is also what a mature guy would do.
Not the OP kind of fellow. In fact the woman didn't even say anything to him but he read facial expressions and came to create thread on NL.
Agbaya

Miami11:
The issue is not even the seat, the issue is posters arrogant attitude of trying to engage the wife in a tug of power, saying his known his friend longer than the wife and such, no wander the wife threw you a dirty look, you lack respect poster.

Ioannes:
op, if you don't know that the wife is more important than any yeye "best friend" please don't get married yet. at least until you do. na beg I dey beg o.
when they say don't put asunder what God has joined together didn't you know that they were also referring to situations like this?
your wife and you have become one flesh and one spirit. she should be your best fwend.
you shouldn't have been told before you hustled your arse to the back seat.

Mamatee07:
I don't think the major issue is the seat but the fact that clearly you lack respect for women and i'am sure your friend's wife has noticed your attitude. A gentleman would offer her the seat and you'll see she'll ask you to stay there while she moves to the back. It's that gesture that shows respect and that's what you are lacking. As others have mentioned would it be okay if your wife's friend acted in the same way to you I guess not and pls stop saying no African man believes in gender equality in the home because that is not true. There are any well exposed and travelled African men with good upbringing who believe in gender equality all through

Enough of the insults. We are all in learning process. I think a lesson has be learnt. My perception has change. Thank u all...

U'll definately get. But, please, be careful with ritualist who will come in disguise

naniawini:
As 4 me, front seat ooo back seat ooo i dnt care cos it doesnt change who i am 2 my hubby...

Exactly dear!

EggovinMma:
This guy really dey fight for thus position like it's his birthright. It baffles me to know a man will force fully want to share a woman's position in a man's life.


What kind of life is this bikonu?

Sharing ke? Sitting in front seat of my frd's car has nothing to do with sharing ooo. Me and my guy no de share anything ooo, abeggy!

Moana:
this is the reason why you don't have a car! is he married to you or his wife? Does he have an obligation to share his property with you or his wife?

When others are busy getting married and buying their own cars, you are busy competing with other people's wives! Infact how old are you sef? You no get shame at your age?

Is that an indirect way of asking how much I worth and if am still in a marriageable age? Sorry dear, this dude is booked!

Marriage and buying of car(s) has nothing to do with age my Dear. Beside, u don't knw me.

netizenbuzz:
If your wife was the one driving her car and her friend was in front with her, will you like it?

YEEESSSSS! Even if it's my car, I wouldn't let her(my wife's frd) move to the back seat for me since she's there already. 'what's the big deal?'

pet4ril:
yeah...very well. Don't try to be stubborn, you were supposed to know your seat which is the back even before the wife came out from the office

Funny U. So, u mean I could sat at back seat even b4 picking his(friend) wife? Hhhhmmmm!

cococandy:
you're still not his wife.
Go and find your own husband.

U mean to say wife, I guess?. Very soon...

EggovinMma:
My dear he is aware o.
Before we decide to walk the aisle, I already sat him down and asked him,"Can you cope with me? Do you understand my grievances and know how to handle situation maturely? Because he knows my head they knock anyhow. I don't pretend oooo. Even his family knows my engine dey knock when I'm pissed, but them still like me like that o.

"IRON LADY!"

freecocoa:
Op you are very mannerless and I am sure that's part of why the woman doesn't like you, but she also seem to have married a man who doesn't respect her enough.


EggovinMma you are crazy.

Well! Incase u dnt knw, her hubby is my childhood friend. I was there when they started, resolved so many conflict between them. U dnt have idea hw closei am with her hubby (is just like my brother)

chizobamgbume:
Both of you are definitely bleeping each other.

Is dat the only contribution u can offer?

EggovinMma:
That's why some men will keep having troublesome wives at home.
There are many meanings that such single action will bring about. You know, I might begin to question my husband's fidelity to me, because I will begin to wonder if his friends disregard to me is as a result of the fact that he sees me like other women they probably might be fuccking outside?

Because I will sit down and take my time to analyse such disrespect! And as a woman, i will remove my thinking cap and replace it with a vengeful one.And i don't create a war i know i will lose.

What fidelity re U talking about? This are guyz thing which I expect every exposed woman should understand

tellwisdom:

You women get wahala aswear. So few minutes importance sitting at the front wey u suppose give am, na em dey hard u?...In short, come drive

I wonder ooo