₦airaland Forum

Arkhanmu:
I married my wife in Kaduna two years ago. During those period we were dating, we were very much apart due to distance. She stayed in Kaduna while I worked in Lagos.

During few times of my personal meeting before our wedding, I noticed huge communication between her and this man. I called her attention to it but she just waived it aside saying they are just friends as Ex (stuff). She joined me up in Lagos after the marriage but the communication between them still continued.

This is a woman I have sacrificed so much for in my life by providing her basics need with the children even though not huge like that. She told me the Ex is a Doctor and they have nice experience together while dating back then. I have adviced even begged her to stop this communication as it it very hurtful and insulting to my personality but she won't stop. Instead she secretly calls and requests money from this guy in almost different occasions.


she is still sharing her soul and body with the two of you. Walk away from her(pain) and get your life back on course. You can still make it.

At a point in time in the past when she went to Kaduna to get her transfer from work place to Lagos, she still visit the guy even as she is heavily pregnant that time. I was able to get the idea through her bank account statement when the same guy send her money for what business I don't understand. It is almost 2 years of our marriage now, I am starting to regret why I marry her initially even as I noticed much difference between us; she is from Southern Kaduna while am from Ibadan.

I wish I have married my tribe whom I can easily understand. Just yesterday night I see another 4k alert from the same guy to my wife. I am really pained though I have not confront her. See guys, I have 2 boys, twin, I take care of them, buy food and all.

Though my work is not going fine but I try my best to make her happy but it seems she is not built for me. I don't really know what is going on again in my life as I am heartbroken.

Maybe the man is even in Lagos most times self. Many things are just running through my mind.

bukatyne:
Has anyone bothered to find out what started the chain of murder-suicide?

Or will it be swept under the rug of 'all men are evil'?

Someone would feel a certain level of hopelessness to kill his wife, his MIL and himself.

siofra:
This one is true.

Rich people like to think they can get away with things like this.

Ladymogana:
Life taught me that all men are useless, that men are hypocrites, that men are not important to the world.

Sarang:
Most times when I come to Nairaland.. I wonder how Nigerian ladies deal with all of you.. 1st, 2nd, 3rd comment and so on..so childish!

pocohantas:
I wouldn’t know what else I am supposed to say. Na normal thing. Maybe the custom officer’s wife was not submissive and he found the perfect woman in OP’s wife. Nothing stopping them from being together.

Beremx:
Eleribu, so the custom officer is predictable?

FlordFlorez:
I fear who no fear woman. Abeg people, if u wants to marry, try marrying ur friend/bestie. I'm currently dating a girl that was once my bestie for 3years. Its 99% sure im marrying her cos since we've been dating (for 2year), no quarrel whatsoever in our 'table of contents'.

engrMikemd:
Northern state of Nigeria?

Waspy: Sh!!t.. I'm easily bought.... This write up just won me over. Pro-Putin!!!