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chival:
Happy birthday to her. It is also my birthday today and for that reason I decree that your daughter will be a beacon of light in this generation and for generations to come.

happy birthday to you too dear

ramatuoyiza:
So emotional.. It got me speechless.. One thing, I know is that if I love someone truly, I become their fool.. I cant and will never do this to someone I love, talk more of one who doesnt want to see me suffer.. Advise for all, know the limit in which your family decides your marital life for you...

chaiiiii
babe you fine full everywhere

izito:
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In 2016 she told me her salary was #50.000 And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only #5000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. #400,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine. 

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.” 

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?” I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?”  He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”


My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Last she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a divorce, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions. 

*What's your take?*

I just taya for some women
to talk heavy my mouth sef
nawa oh
sorry bro, so sorry

mrdharkchild:
I went through a missionary school and I OK /certify that flogging and punishments as means of proper discipline.
Before you get into a missionary school or a minor seminary, prepare your mind that you are sending your child to a correctional facility.
Those marks are even small self. It'll heal in no time.
If it's a student that flogs u like that, the school has a disciplinary committee, direct it to them, than share the pics and bring the matter to the internet. This will only facilitate your expulsion.
Missionary schools is a military school in disguise, where u learn perseverance, discipline, as a man.
Indomie generations would never understand. All they care about is defaming and sabotaging the names of missionary schools. but to what end?
For once the discipline never killed me.
It only made us stronger, and taught us to device means to survive (SOHK).
I fought, I scavenged for food, I took a swollen eye, a swollen face, monkey yansh, slaps, velentino belts, koboko, wire, nepa wire, wood... Name them. I won most fights, I lost some, broken wrists. Learnt how to bend rules, not break them. It was an adventure you can never take out of my life.
When I complained to my parents and they kept me mute, then I knew what I signed up for, the plan was to aim for SS3, or get a school father. It was like a game of Chess and cards.
You can either decide to pay attention to instructions, or suffer d consequences.
Your parents signed u up for it.
If not, take your kids to other schools.
Missionary schools r for discipline. Same as military schools.
No priest is a devils incarnate.
Check your forms of undertaking.

I went through lumen Christi, uromi.
Commisioners and top politicians usually dump their kids in my school, even some kids from abroad, to b corrected.

From my jss1 till SSS1 I was hated and flogged, the picture posted above is a child's play flogging.
I encouraged myself, consoled myself, learnt alot of lessons from that school.
I don't have a single Cain or koboko or wire mark on my body today.

We even learnt how to persevere with the punishments and bear the pain, and even turned it to a joke.
When flogged, we'd bone (which is d word we used back then) the cane, it became fun. And for 6years.
Today I use those punishments as exercise in my early mornings.

We learnt how to manage suffering, because it is by suffering that character is birthed.
This generation don't know how to manage when suffering, it's y many marriages, when the men lose their source of income, the woman leaves.

This generation, at the slightest frustrations and discomfort, they feed it to the internet to defame others and spread spiteful rumors and most especially, commit suicide.

We r men, we were built to b strong and masculine.
If you don't know how to take a Cain, how to fight, how to take a punch, how to manage pain, how to frog jump, how to be tough, then try the feminine gender.
Thank u.

your point is valid
my dad is a retired personnel
I'm an X boy,
same with all my siblings and I can totally relate
my son/ kids are going straight to the military school
stand tall and stand tough, then work smart with God's grace
Indian mic mic
huraaaaaaa

the App charged you 1300 and you chose to pay 1100 Haba auntie u sef check am na
who you wan leave the 200 for?
and all the insult you give the driver you nor tell us oh
next time enter molue if you nor get money

una tomatoes Don dey rotten Abi

Zzor:
Agbaya,his mates are showing off their cute kids and family.

I dey only notice you for foolishness
empty Kom Kom
sadistic bitch

rukky44:
some thing new in Nimasa about watch keeping and clue share up

is this thread still alive

how we go take know say she love you? she don kuku tell you say she love you less

you wan brake my president waist Abi lol

OyinO:
I already know that one day, the biggest fool on Earth will call me fool. So enjoy your foolery.

lol you be foooooooooooooool

OyinO:
You full, there's nothing like Devil in this life.

now I believe you are a complete fool
not full Oga
u be fooooooool

PotatoSalad:
Nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity.

make e pain you die God is still doing wonders

erico2k2:
U get sense at all Did they mention schiil fees there? Did it say free school? It said public use.its a bit ambiguous

ur sense nor complete sha

PotatoSalad:
I observed it too.


You're a proud fool.
You people take constructive criticism as bad belle.
Like I said, you're a fool and proud of it.

make e pain you die, Glory to God for the achievement,
u will die a pained person, go donate ur own, mumu man

Wahala lol

to God we give all the Glory

erico2k2:
OP question B4 the praise 1 Is it free? 2 Howmuch are the fees? 3 Who is paying the academic staffs?

read it again, this time read slowly so dat u go get sense

Asadujames202:
Looks more like a motel than a school

No space for recreational activities

do ur own make u put space na goat

OyinO:
Capitalists in deed. Donates school to who? It can't be free.

see as devil tie wrapper on your brain

chariisGRACE:
Apostle Chibuzor of OPM don blast this one and Oyedepo tire... Ibiyeomie run open school.

taaaah quiet
humanitarian work has always been synonymous with David Ibiyeomie

Creditalerts:
10-100

Lol still got the lion share

make e pain you die the kingdom of God is moving forward

mynd4409:
With offering/tithe money abi

keep quiet and do yours
if you can't say something good, please SHUT UP

BF69BF:
They'll start the suffering all over again.
Lol, welcome back to the zoo.

I like your picture, you are beautiful

freezing freez saaaaharaaaap na ur money? mumu man

u suppose use expo before? society done make us feel say we need to be celebrated for doing the right thing
we owe it to God and ourselves to always do the right thing.
well u try sha, good work.
but I charge you with this.... that's "intellectual" try "INTELLIGENCE"

girl weh supposed dey school, Dem carry gun give her to support their mumu ideology

WhyNa:
cc @Palazo, @kingskim @clicked @dlordy100 @techjeff and my beloved followers...

Before replying @palazo's epistle (I swear even me tire to read) (@palazo nawa o. lol), I had to go back and skim through the thread from around April or so last year to find a particular comment I made. If anyone stumbles on it, please quote it cos I still didn't find it. maybe because I only had time to skim or it was probably one of those hidden by the ogas.

Anyways, back to the point....

I remember sometime last year , I gave a shout-out to the nairalander who trusted me with his money. NO it wasn't just words.

Truth is, Palazo did send me money in MARCH 2020 asking me to help runn his visa. one week later, everything shut down and lockdowns began. I had his money up until last week JANUARY 15TH 2021 when he said he has decided to venture into busness and would like a refund.

The purpose of this?? Nothing really but I didn't like the way he was beeing attacked. See, I am the grateful one here because it not easy to trust someone you don't know with amount of money!

I turly understand the times we're in now and how nobody can be trusted and all but I had to speak up. Notice he didn't even mention my name.

So please, he wasn't telling a lie. Forgive the long epistle though. So except he is now an agent or has another agent he is working with or talking about, WHAT I HAVE WRITTEN ABOVE is what transpired between I and Palazo.

Peace

good job, now am very proud of you for speaking up and having #integrity #integrity and #integrity
you earned my total respect ma'am

guy so you dey Mexico like dis?

kc4ujesus11:
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