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solz007:
Wow!! I'm So Happy For U Bruh! More Love To The Relationship. Got some questions What Can U Really Get A Girl That Has Everything?? No Hard Feelings What'd U Get Her?? & How'd U guys meet?? Nah U Toast Her Abi She Just Dey Feel U?? Just Curious ooH

I don't think you'll need anything to attract such kind of decent girl other than faithfulness, trust and being there for her when she needs you, respect her and honour her feelings and you'll see her drooling herself over you. Don't let them realise that you're after there money, never be a burden to them, give them reasons to confide in you......... And as for where I met her, its started from our teenage years, she took the first step after so many admirations and I accepted her too, she was bold, confident and that's what made me to respect her more.......she's my life, she changed me. She's a worker too! I can still remember the first day I visited her unannounced in her work, its was so amazing for her.......I'll explain more if you want.....

buttlover:
oh God I'm so in love with your girlfriend already. I need to pack out of this street.

Hahahaha.....oh really? God's gonna bless you with one! Trust me, good girls exist dude!

mezarddinny:
you sound like she is doing you a favour by dating you

No, that's not how it seems! When people do good, praise them! She deserve my accolades. She's ain't full of herself. I'm just being grateful for having her!

khingTony:
such girls are rare,

unlike the species we have here on Nairaland

Hahahaha........some nairaland girls a amazing too!
Thanks anyway for your comment

haymekus:
So touching

Of course it is, I can't imagine how I felt when she cried when I shew her the gift! I love her from the bottom of my heart

Divay22:
Awwwwwww
So nice.

God bless you! I thought I could just show her I love her in my own little way

dingbang:
Awww.

Thanks a lot!!!

So, I decided to buy the love of my life a gift, I never could've thought she'll be so happy and super excited. She's financially okay than me, exposed than me, socialised than I do although she's naturally from a rich background. She was never proud, pompous, arrogant or disobedient to me, she never intimidated me in anyway either by rubbing her achievement on my face nor has she ever claimed to be successful than me! She never called me broke, she never complained about my inability to fend for her womanly needs like other ladies does. She takes care of me, gifts me a lot even though she knew it that I'm broke and poor or not up to her standards. She accepted me the way I am. I'm ashamed of myself sometimes. I have never given this girl a gift in my life, although she knows that I don't have any but today, I experienced an exceptional, romantic and emotional moment from my love!

I gave her a gift, yes I did! I know its little and it's something she can afford on her own, but alas, this girl was too ha

Oga me nko?

stone350:
that man no go enjoy that marriage at all.. in a few years time the woman will be the one controlling and giving him orders.. if she can't respect this little wish of his then I don't think she will when they eventually marry

I also thought about that too!!! Respect

Tamarapetty:
So at this point, none of them understands each other?? Little thing like this can even make them breakup?


Since she has all the quality he wants in a lady, he should go ahead with the type of wedding her parents want, afterall, didn't he know she was from such a family before dating her? Las las all the party go end one day. . This shouldn't be an issue sef, it might even turn out he'd be the one to enjoy it most.

You may be right man....I thought of this too, the funny thing is that she was even ready to foot the bills herself...... I wonder why no one wants to concede defeat! Ego is guess

stone350:
that man no go enjoy that marriage at all.. in a few years time the woman will be the one controlling and giving him orders.. if she can't respect this little wish of his then I don't think she will when they eventually marry

The worst is that non if them is ready to back down for the other..... This the beginning if their problem if I may say..... Thanks for your comment

Darkseid:
Same thing I've been telling my family and I hope my future wife can read it from here; there won't be more than 20 guests at my wedding and any two people wearing the same material in the name of asoebi would be bounced at the gate.

But on a serious note, I think your bro should give the lady what she wants, one day wedding won't kill him. He is probably introverted like me and having too many guests would make him uncomfortable but he should just try and manage. The lady might have been dreaming about that day all her life.

He's also an intovert, It's just that his own is too much.... Staying in the company of this people makes him uncomfortable...... I'll try pleading with him to give her what she wants.....I think she need it so badly....... He loves her too! Thanks

F22RAPTOR:
Tell your cousin to give his girl the wedding of her dreams since finance is not an issue. He should stop being insensitive to her. Wealthy people keep their connections by showing off, the wedding is another opportunity. If he truly loves his girl, he'll oblige her this one time, for heaven's sake, it's the biggest time of her life. Let him drop his principles for her just this time if not he'll regret it because 5 years down the line, this wouldn't have mattered at all.

Thanks a lot man, you're almost saying exactly what I said to him, since the expenses is not from you, why deny her her dream wedding.... Its common among the rich to show off.....this is another door for connection if I may say just as you've stated......I'll give him this points of yours too! Appreciate your advise..... Thanks

LordIsaac:
Marriage: the coming together of two compatible people. See how they cannot come to a compromise before they begin, how on earth do they ever think they will agree on anything later? Africans like stepping into problems that common sense and logic would have prevented and when the problems arise, they will start disturbing God and blaming "PDP".

You're right my brother, its so hurtful that either of them could not back down for the other....its very unfortunate!

Hello nairalanders, please help advice my cousin brother. I've been in this forum for quite a number
of times and i've seen people post their problems here and has gotten numerous solution from experienced people, so i thought i could share this here!

WARNING: might be a lengthy post!

My cousin has been in love with his girlfriend
for about 3years now, she was loving, caring, remorseful, respectful, intelligent, exposed and understandable girl. she's the dream girl that any guy could imagine and ever wanted! though she's from a rich background but has never used her superiority, class or exposure to downcast or contradict my cousin in any form.
My cousin in the other end is a working class guy with some enterpreneural investment as well, he's finacially stable and can carter for any finacial uprising. he's decent, tall, handsome, educated, learned and connected too!
Fast forward to 2months ago, he decided to take it to the next level(walking down the aisle with her),
few weeks down the line, our people went to her's and the introduction was made and the bride prise has been paid as well, he has performed all marital rites that is expected of him as it's recommended by the culture and traditon of where we come from. The white wedding is coming up in few weeks but a very big and gigantic problem eventually emerged recently, my cousin called me 2days ago and was telling me to advice him on what to do, my cousin has been living a low key life even right from our childhood days,
the latest trends doesn't freeks him, he's isolated(Not primitive), he's a gentle man always never wants unecessary attention for whatsoever
reason just like me too, but his fiancee was this classical hell of a girl who wants an elaborate wedding, a wedding that is so expensive and luxurious
to be the talk of the town, may be it's due to her background i guess but my cousing in the other end does not fansy such things, a wedding causing road blocks or unecessary commotion all in the name of getting married. Not that he could not afford the money or afford the expences, he earns from 190,000 - 230,000 monthly, i think finance is not the problem but a choice of prefernece and life style. i can remember some years back during our teenage years, he once told me that he wouldn't want more than 30 people in attendance for his wedding,
just his family, the girl's family and close friends and collegues. this might sound a bit funny huh? lol. The whole thing is now getting so serious as the girl insist
on her point of view of the wedding(classic and luxurous). he called me somtimes yesterday and was a kind of threatening to call off the wedding if the girl could not adhere to his perspectives and choice but she insist, i'm afraid guys, he's family knows about this, his parents know him even from childhood, this is his life!

As funny as this would sounds, its becoming very serious as the girl is not ready either. I tried explaining to him that
as a girl, she would like to impress her friends and collegues too, she'll want to have dignitries and other repuatble people in attendance, she even told him that she would foot the bills and cover the finances herself since he has done his responsibilties as a man, i think this is mormal for girls. i tried letting him know that its a thing that invloves two people, you and your fiancee and her voice and perspective must be considered too......

i've spoken enough, so please say your opinion on this and advise us on what to do on this, thanks!

Send me a mail.......

Yes you will, but only when you abstain from it for like weeks, months and possibly years...... But normally a week or two cuz by this time your sperm count might have increased with better quality (Not watery) ..........abstain from masturbation bro.... Its bad and addictive!

Please tech and experienced IT expert in the House help and clarify things for me.





What is the difference between "computer science" and "computer science education"



I applied computer sci. And was offered computer science education



Can they both work in the same level (company)?,

Is there huge difference between the two?,

Is there little similarity?

Should I study it and work on my skills or just forfeit the admission and try again?



Does course matter or the skills?



Please help an ignorant novice on career exposure.... Thank you for your contribution!

castrol180:
Not teaching only but can as well do whatever computer science major do. Computer sc. Edu even has advantages over computer science. Leave it or take it

Thank you all for your response

virgoquin:
studying computer related courses is a big waste of time in Nigerian universities.

Damn! it's so frustrating and annoying because you are only taught theories theories and theories with little or no practical.

Exactly, you're just too right and correct! Only theories and little or no practical....... Thank you for you comment

mechtronics:
do the math then along side manage to do some certifications.

because if u want to apply for some Job abroad my bro u need degree as a criteria . am not say if u dnt u will not . bt i knw of someone rightnw that has gotten job abroad doesn't have a cs degree bt he is making fine dtho here in nigeria.

when he was interviewed he was ask abt degree after the interview bt he has none . he was told due to the country law or shit u need to do that and tha.
bt he passed the interview perfectly

Thank you so much for response......I appreciate it!

mechtronics:
i feel your pain . let me tell you a little story.

before admission i choose mechatronics because of my passion for robot embedded system . bt i was i given physics .

i wasn't happy bt i continue along the line i began exploring tech. not minding the course given to me. i started learning to code and do some stuff my self. not saying because i was give physics i should not be serious. moral there is (i didn't let something that wasn't my choice defeat my passion).
so i develop interest in physics as well and love it.

the issue of i can code , i can do these does not should not stop u from doing the math course given to u.

i can vouche computer science in uni is rubbish
without a cs degree u can work as a programmer(let it sound in yur ear)

me myself , i self learn programing.
i can code in php,python,java and also i am a data scientist
i do must web ,AI,android
and i have 2 years working experiences.
i google udaity android certificate ,and am currently pursuing Microsoft data science cert etc
and am in school.
now am doing my internship in a data company

so don't let the rubbish of i was given math which is not my choice , i knw some guy in cs that can't code shingba even am doing some of them project.
so go on with it

You are absolutely Right, it all about self development. It's very unfortunate that our educational system is just too bad......thanks man!

greatnaija01:
NO NIGERIAN UNIVERSITY WILL EVER GIVE YOU TRUE COMPUTER SCIENCE KNOWLEDGE THAT IS APPLICABLE IN THIS CENTURY


So it is a blessing in disguise. HE SHOULD GO AND DO ABOUT 6 CERTIFICATIONS in the area of ICT that he is fit for, and IF HE IS DILIGENT, HE WILL BECOME VERY LUCRATIVE IN IT.

University is simply APC and POLYTECHNICS are like PDP.

God is trying to tell him that there is NOTHING FOR HIM IN UNIVERSITY with regards to computer science UNLESS HE HAS MONEY TO AFFORD A PRIVATE UNIVERSITY then he is safe.

He should NEVER have written jamb.... CERTIFICATE is NOT SABIFICATE.... people will only pay the person who has SABIFICATE.

How Long is the duration for obtaining a certified IT certificate and how much can it cost one?

ayobamiJR:
Sorry, We can't read this long story

I understand, thanks for viewing....!

greatnaija01:
NO NIGERIAN UNIVERSITY WILL EVER GIVE YOU TRUE COMPUTER SCIENCE KNOWLEDGE THAT IS APPLICABLE IN THIS CENTURY


So it is a blessing in disguise. HE SHOULD GO AND DO ABOUT 6 CERTIFICATIONS in the area of ICT that he is fit for, and IF HE IS DILIGENT, HE WILL BECOME VERY LUCRATIVE IN IT.

University is simply APC and POLYTECHNICS are like PDP.

God is trying to tell him that there is NOTHING FOR HIM IN UNIVERSITY with regards to computer science UNLESS HE HAS MONEY TO AFFORD A PRIVATE UNIVERSITY then he is safe.

He should NEVER have written jamb.... CERTIFICATE is NOT SABIFICATE.... people will only pay the person who has SABIFICATE.

God bless you for your advise .....thanks

A friend text me this, and I think sharing it here on Nairaland will be good, as it will be exposed to wider opinions, idea, advise and perspective.

Experienced elders in the house, please give an advice on this issue.

In his words "
Computer science has been a course I've been so passionate and engulfed with, I don't think I could ever do anything aside of computer related career.

I've been applying to different universities and computer science as a course of aspiration for the past three years, I've never scored below 200 in my utme exams and my O level result is too neat with no deficiency, the first two universities I applied never gave me admission even though I think Nigeria's academic atmosphere is having a high degree of intense decadence ranging from poor academic practical equipment with outdated curriculum. I've seen people with lower cut off Marks being admitted, I know it's almost 65% connection this days unlike the 70s, 80s, 90s, its no longer on merit all the time.

I've started coding at the age of sixteen, I can write codes proficiently in HTML, CSS, JavaScript, jQuery, php and mysql, java, little of C++ and little of Python. No one thought me all this, i watch tutorials and practice my ass out! This is my career, and its my dream. I'll be glad even if I graduated with a computer science degree and still become unemployed, I will feel I've arrived and satisfied at the same time.

There is this joy derived in doing what you're passionate about.

I recently got admitted in on of the country's university, unfortunately, my course was changed from computer science to mathematics, not even computer science education or any other computer related course (Don't know if it can be reversed though). I feel I have to try or apply again, even if I bag bachelors degree in computer science at the age of 30, I'm still fine with that provided my dreams comes true.

I've vowed never to give up on my dreams, I'm not under any societal pressure nor family pressure, my parents are very understandable set of people, they support me.

The world is an IT driven world, computer experts or people with IT knowledge are in huge demand everyday. This also elevated my quest for and passion for computer.

We are all responsible for the decision we take in life, I don't want to regret later in life, I will not be influenced by Any one to Change my dream, this is what I want and ever wanted and will always want. I also want to have a certified IT certificate after my degree so as to boost my chances in the labour market.

Now here comes the question.

Should I forget about computer science degree and go for a certified IT course in any of the IT training school in the country or still pursue admission and later get a certified IT course after my degree? Or just have the degree? Cuz I know that computer science is not all about having the degree, it also about building yourself and self development. I know that there are graduated of computer science that can't even write code.

Please I'm confused in this stage of my life, advice me on what to do.
I don't want to regret or take a wrong decision that I'll later say " Had I know "

Help a brother, and God bless you as you respond.

ganie:
OP...the true test of love is time. I hope you both pass because I failed it.

Oh.....I'm so sorry about that, very unfortunate, GOd will give you another one!!!

Thanks a lot

Ironman15:
Op first nd foremost i will say a big CONGRATULATION.....you are so fortunate..u found a wiffy material


buh i understand your points,i think you are overwhelmed by her too much of love...its nothing to worry about
you just make sure you don't hurt her feelings nd show her a thousands of reason for her to love u


meanwhile few years time i will be glad to see your invitation card......lol


congrats once again

Oh my goodness, I can't help but shout!!!!! Thank you so much for your kind gesture! I wish everyone could have a good girl like mine! Lol.......sincerely speaking I appreciate your comment...... Thanks a lot

amaniro:
OP it's a no for me. Such people become very possessive afterwards.... "After what I have done for you" becomes the topic of the day.


Sorry, I know you're in love ; love is wicked.


Dump her.....


@Genesizero

Oh my gosh....easy man! Don't you think that's too harsh of you I think God will locate you with one of these kind of lady, then, you'll have a clear understanding of my plight....


Thanks for comments.... I appreciate it

Ray97:
welcome. I have a friend like dah. She is too kind, nice and welcoming. She even invited me to her house and introduced me to her mum just like dah.. It felt so unreal i had dis feeling dat she is hiding somtin dat she is a scam because to me gals like dah dnt exist i mean such people are only in our fantacies. This is som1 dah gives her phone to me without me asking. I mean she is damn open. My friends vowed not to forgive if i let her go..that i was scared of the unknown..

If I may say, I think you should cherish her too, except you don't have feelings for her. When we come across such people, I think there is every need we handle them with all sincerity and honesty, they are very few.

Thanks for your advise!

Ray97:
welcome. I have a friend like dah. She is too kind, nice and welcoming. She even invited me to her house and introduced me to her mum just like dah.. It felt so unreal i had dis feeling dat she is hiding somtin dat she is a scam because to me gals like dah dnt exist i mean such people are only in our fantacies. This is som1 dah gives her phone to me without me asking. I mean she is damn open. My friends vowed not to forgive if i let her go..that i was scared of the unknown..

If I may say, I think you should cherish her too, except you don't have feelings for her. When we come across such people, I think there is every need we handle them with all sincerity and honesty, they are very few.

Thanks for your advise!