SweetCunt97:
Some may simply reignite that spark. Afterall they saw something special to marry the person... So they should get their freaky on.

That's not how it works in the real world my dear. Growing apart is a thing!
Besides, not every wife's c*nt is as 'sweet' as yours - see what I did there

RiyaGoddess:


I have heard some testimonies of how this lock down have been a blessing to some marriages and families. I heard some men who never had time for their wives and children now have all the time for them. This stay at home period have strengthened marital and family bonds, even relationships. It increased the love in the home, day by day, couples and families are getting to know and understand each other more, men are beginning to help their children out with their holiday assignments, men are beginning to help their wives with house chores, family play and fun time is increased, they pray and study the word of God together and of course not forgetting the endless sex lol! Some bachelors now see the importance of marriage as they have unexpectedly become so bored due to the COVID-19 lock down.

Nope!

This lockdown will cause the breakdown of many marriages.
Couples who are used to having their own space will be forced to deal with the reality of their already broken relationship. Husbands and wives will get sick and tired of each other, children will be bored and will end up witnessing numerous arguments between their parents.
It's gonna be a sh!t show!

CHoccolaTE:


When I keep saying men are generally selfish creatures they will say I hate men or I am a bitter feminist
Women are already severely disadvantaged in Nigerian marriages and the only thing they have rights to claim is the financial contribution of their husbands. Men in Nigeria are not expected to or obligated to do anything else in marriage except provide. Even faithfulness is overlooked for them, now they want to complain about their one single task in marriage

Lol! and your gender WILL forever remain disadvantaged no matter how many pages of bitter vitriol you type up on nairaland. It's the rule of nature my dear. Go and die if you can't cope

RisenPhoenix:


You feel that women can only contribute by bringing money into a marriage? That is not my view. Much more important than washing your dirty dishes, paying half the rent or paying a third of the school fees, is what women contribute by making the home emotionally conducive for the rest of the family, providing a base of rest and comfort from which the husband goes out to fight in the rat race every morning, and nurturing the bodies and minds of the progeny. That is their primary and only duty. Do not underestimate that contribution, it is very important to society. In fact, the neglect by women of this primary duty is what gave rise to the sick society we have today, with rebellious children, stressed husbands and criminal behaviour everywhere. Anything that helps them in that duty; like getting a househelp to take away the less important functions; should be enhanced and encouraged. Would Boeing waste their chief engineer's time by asking him to count bolts and nuts in the store?

The only problem is that women are failing in their primary duty because they are not encouraged to perform it. Rather, weak and lazy men try to get their wives to do the men's duty instead of theirs, and men judge them on that basis. Witness the op.

Where did I mention women contributing money?

What I'm saying is women bring absolutely NOTHING to the table. How many women actually do the highlighted in reality? Why is Nairaland littered with threads of men who have been totally emasculated, abused, cheated on and neglected in their own homes despite playing their own part by providing?

Away from the virtual world, take a look around and tell me that you see submissive and supportive wives all around you - tell me you dont see entitled, ret@rded, lazy 'wives' who commit child abuse by employing small girls to do their house chores. Tell me you dont see women who cockle their husbands, tell me you dont see women who have the idi0tic belief that "his money is our money, my money is my money", tell me you dont see whores who spend their youth sleeping around for money, committing abortions and then waiting for captain save-a-hoe to come marry them out of their father's house.

In fact, I cant shout - these days I try to limit my involvement in gender discussions on this forum as there would always be one pvssy-starved simp desperately seeking female validation by refusing to acknowledge the truth. Even women here are calling you out on your bullsh!t.

I wish you all the best bro. Simpin' ain't easy.

RisenPhoenix:


They might, they might not; such women do not marry men who are unable to take care of the home front without help from them. Women typically marry up financially, not down. Their marriages are also hardly the kind of marriage most people aspire to.



No matter her character, no woman will truly respect a man who cannot fully provide for her. Though some women try to conceal the contempt for their dependent husbands out of fear of societal disapproval, it is a natural ingrained feeling. That is why you see women feeling contempt for their old, non productive husbands and transferring their 'love' to their productive sons and daughters who now provide for them.



I am not against women working or making money; even becoming wealthier than their husbands. My premise is that the ultimate financial responsibility of the home should always remain the husband's. The woman should be satisfied with that which her husband can provide comfortably; and the husband should not force her to give him out of her money to maintain the family in a standard that he cannot sustain singlehandedly. That is what I am against.

Disgusting! Absolutely disgusting way of thinking.
It's like this quarantine period has affected your brain. You gon learn one day

quentin06:
sounds like lazy men thread, its good fie your wives to chip in, but marrying a woman just because of her money should not be the ultimate goal in a man s life.

I hate gold diggers and detest loafers disguised as would be husbands.

And I also hate gold diggers and lazy wives who contribute absolutely NOTHING and use househelps to do their chores you silly Puta!

@RisenPhoenix everything you've said on this thread is beyond shocking - especially coming from you! Majority of our women employ the use of househelps (with their husband's money) so please explain to me, what the fvck do Nigerian women bring to the table?

Belafonte:


Sounding daft as always. How can one person be ugly, stupid and bitter at the same time? What kind of misfortune is that one?

Lmao!
I'm glad I'm not the only one who's noticed how dumb funmisticqueen2 is

Wizpa:


if you have nothing reasonable to say, then get the f.uck outta this thread.

Lazy youth

Don't bother my guy, this social isolation has done a number to the brains of a lot of these lonely hags (such as Winneygirl and Amanee) - that's why they cannot post any reasonable thing without insults. It's their fada they are insulting not you.

Erediauwa:
Even though your Creator has blessed you with the resources to take care of any child you plan to bring into this world, it doesn't give you the entitlement to start producing children like Rabbits...


Two is more than enough and I support that.... Don't always think with your penis that there's strength in numbers.


If you don't have anything to do with your sperm, donate it to any health centre.

Who gave you the right to dictate to him how many kids he should or shouldn't have?

Erediauwa, the fact that you have nothing doing with your sterile sperm doesn't mean he shouldn't utilise his own as he wishes.

Winneygirl:
9. I want my name to last for as long as it can

Which yeye name?

The same yeye name you are bearing for your father

Look at these hags acting like their doing their husband a favour by adopting his name

Keep your father's name na abi what value does it add to your husband's life By bearing your father's name, is it not a man's name you are still bearing? So much for matriarchy!

In fact, I insist that you keep your father's name, then your children must bear your father's name alongside your husband's - you must also encourage your offspring to do the same - so that 4 generations down the line, your great grand daughter's name would be Atinuke Adebola-Olagoke-Ariyibi-Ayinfele-Matthews

Nonsense.

*Yawning

Oh please! this is an overflogged, redundant topic of which most of these points have been clarified by the below thread:

sweetmelanin:
“Second Class Citizen”
The above phrase is a popular ‘jab’ that those in Nigeria use towards those abroad. They say “id rather live like a king in Nigeria than be treated like a second class citizen abroad”. However, I’d really like to question how realistic this statement is - aside from the very FEW wealthy folks in Nigeria, how many people actually live like ‘kings’? Is it leaving your house at 4-5am every morning to return home by 8-9pm at night due to nightmarish traffic? Or returning home to no electricity and the overbearing heat that comes along with that? Perhaps it is being harassed by blood thirsty, illiterate policemen and SARS officials... or the terrible customer service you experience in almost every bank, restaurant or public service area if you do not know anyone there or you are not someone considered to be worthy of basic human respect. What about tribalism which has consistently plagued the Nigerian society.

Don’t get me wrong, racism is a thing abroad – but it is also highly subjective and very subtle/minimal especially in this day and age of inter-culturalism in the western world. Now I can’t speak for all countries but the UK is a highly culturally diverse society – the Nigerian community here is HUGE. You can successfully live in most parts of the UK without ever coming to terms with the colour of your skin (ask those in London, Birmingham, Northampton, Nottingham, Manchester, Cambridge, Essex etc..). There are areas within London which you will only find Nigerians living there.. Racism in the UK is non-existent in some areas and covert/hidden in others – needless to say, you WILL get a job, a good one at that (if you are qualified). You will not be spat at or violently attacked because of your race, you will not experience weird stares (these people have been surrounded by blacks & Asians for years) we are used to seeing all shades of skin tones and you will blend in just fine ok!

I say all this to say that even if those abroad are treated as “second class citizens” (which is in itself not true).. better a second-class citizen in Heaven than a first class citizen in Hell.

Loneliness & Boredom
Another assumption made by many in Nigeria is that those abroad are living in loneliness – which is a subjective matter. The opposite of living a “boring life” is living a “fun-filled life” right? Fun in itself is a very subjective matter which is wholly dependent on the personality of the said individual. What many call ‘fun’ in Nigeria could be the parties/owambes, hanging out with friends and family or perhaps just the noise pollution and chaos on the streets which guarantee that everyday is filled with drama of some sort.

But what if, just what if, those things are not what tickles your fancy? What if you enjoy your privacy without having anyone in your business? What if you don’t like parties? What if you enjoy living in a sane climate? What if you enjoy the company of the few friends you DO have abroad? What if the hustle and bustle of living in Nigeria wears you out? Would you consider ‘home’ a happy place if you are an introvert? So my dear ‘abroadians’, before you start assuming that those in Nigeria are “having fun” stop and think twice. You may not necessarily enjoy the lifestyle over there (especially if you are someone who has spent a reasonable amount of years abroad). The lifestyle in Nigeria is of high stress NOT freedom or ‘fun’.

Bills, Mortgages and Finance
Many in Nigeria assume those abroad are laden with bills and rely heavily on finance (i.e. paying monthly for cars, houses etc). Now I can’t totally dispute that fact but I would like to correct the negative connotations associated with this. Firstly, not everyone abroad finances their cars, but most homeowners do take out mortgages on their property.

However, for those who do use finance, I don’t think it is a thing of shame to pay monthly to drive a modern luxury car that you love … neither do I think one should be ashamed to obtain a mortgage to purchase a lovely home to raise your family in – everything is subjective especially when you compare things to your counterparts in Nigeria who claim to have paid in full for their cars (which is in fact an old run down 1999 – 2004 model 'lexus' which is equivalent to a mere £2000 - £3000 cash).

They could also claim that their houses are “mortgage free” but will omit the fact that majority of Nigerians live in rented houses/apartments and those who own their homes have spent years building it – some spend their entire lifetime trying to complete a building project whilst living as tenants .. so in reality, how is this any better than paying mortgage for a few years? At least with a mortgage you get to live in that house you are paying for unlike those in Nigeria who do not get to live in their building projects until years later and they are nearing old age.

It is therefore a very regressive way of thinking when Nigerians look down on those abroad who take out finance when the lifestyle in Nigeria is quite appalling to say the least.

Menial Jobs
This is very much dependant on your circle of friends/associates and immigration status. However, in my experience, the Nigerians I see around me are doing exceptionally well abroad – we are Business Analysts, Engineers, Scientists, Senior Social Workers, Occupational Health Therapists, Project Managers, Accountants, Solicitors, Pharmacists etc.. meaningful careers that pay well. Some of us here are real hustlers, getting certified and working contract jobs that fetch up to £450 per day (ask those Project Managers, IT technicians and Business Analysts). Therefore, the myth of menial jobs is very much outdated and perhaps only applicable to students or new immigrants in their first 1 – 3 years.

Feel free to add your points.

https://www.nairaland.com/5683503/debunking-myths-living-abroad#86594222

Mstick:
Damage?! Says the guy that spends 100% of his time talking about women.

But hey if you think I am damaged then so are majority of Nigerians because there's NOTHING NEW in what or how my father behaved, that's the story of majority people born in during my time even till today men abuse their wives so PLEASE say something else.

Isn't it on this same forum men are encouraged to treat women poorly



The dog of red pill association had to go dig up my old posts to use a weapon.
LOL!

You will die miserable if you don't get over what your father did 20something years ago - never seen such a big baby like you in my life "my father this, my father that"
Move the fvck on!

Mizwisdom:



Hmmm I used to respect you for your contributions but you have highly disappointed me with this one

What's this one feeling like
..who gives a fvck about your respect .. smh

Kathleens:
I have to create another account for this reason,

Hahahhahahahaha. You must be one of the active NL misandrists on this section constantly insulting men and forming 'girl power' - Now you created another profile to confess your sexual frustration

This is why il never take women seriously on this forum. Sexually starved pigs!

9jaRealist:


Fix your country like they fixed theirs....
People create nations, not the other way around.
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Lead by example - start fixing Nigeria first then il join you

slyfoxxjoe:
Baba no vex but who will stay and develop this country, in fact what is the incentive to develop this country if the richest, most educated and most privileged of us can always run abroad for the most basic amenities that should be available to people here??

Your own PRESIDENT goes to London for medical treatment. That is not laughable

I don’t think you understand how much this single factor contributes to the underdevelopment and outright degeneration of this country, if not you will be more angry than I am.

Americans fought hard for the prosperous country they enjoy today. 200 years of blood and tears, it didn’t happen overnight. Let’s do the same thing for ourselves and stop running away like BASTARDS and COWARDs. Yes I said it again.

In a way you have a point, but bro, Nigeria cannot be fixed

cooltola:


Good weather, Not feeling out of place, no racism, getting to see family . Overseas is not as easy as some people make it to be . If only you knew what some people do oversea and how they survive. You will be thanking God

Dude stop deceiving yourself

You call this scorching heat good weather?

Not feeling out of place? In this country where NOTHING works? I love how you conveniently ignored the constant feeling of frustration when trying to get anything done is this hell hole, oppression from SARS etc..

No racism? I guess you've never witnessed or experienced tribalism before.

Getting to see family? This is the most overrated sh!t! How many people actually enjoy the company of their nosy, dramatic extended family?

Look take me abroad, give me a chocolate goddess and 3 kids and il be the happiest man alive!

DexterousOne:


Nigeria cannot be fixed

Whether as a unit or divided into bits
The mentality in Nigeria and Africa is FVCKED

All you can do is to hustle and make some money to provide some cushion against the mess in the zoo.

That's just the fact

A country that believe so much in superstition
Does not encourage merit
And are wicked to the core
Cannot develpp

Amen!

jayfolarin:
I am no fan of buhari in anyway but inclusion of Nigeria in the travel ban list is nothing but racism!

I will never understand why Nigerians support trump, a known and verified racist. It's even more ridiculous when you realize that Saudi arabia, the proven number sponsor of wahabism and terrorism in the world do not have their citizens put on a travel ban list. Rather Saudi military personnels are trained in the US and their government supplied with weapons and logistics to commit genocide in Yemen. BUT Nigerian immigrants who make a huge bulk of highly successful integrated list in the US and who have been actual victims of terror get put on a list?!! Absolute madness!

Any nigerian that celebrates this as some good news because of your hate of the government should have their heads checked. If you think this travel ban will only affect northerners, think again!

And sincerely, if you are black and you are a trump fan-boy, you are a dunce!

Spot on! you took the words right out of my mouth