Biglittlelois:



Wait, so mothers are now the ones at fault for the new generation of simps we have, it's no longer ladies fault, lmao, confused lots, I'm sorry for those taking y'all serious.

According to this one's logic, mothers are not ladies

obiekunie2:


exactly!

and that is why kids are turning to monsters - new world order has totally eliminated the father-figure from the whole equation.

mothers wants to be both father and mother at the same time. hence the reason new generation male are all turning to simps!

Trust me, this will backfire on women big time. They don't realise how the elite have used feminism as a tool to destroy life for the female gender.

After driving men away with thier nasty attitude, you'll see these mentally deranged women on fathers day calling themselves "kings" and give themselves accolades for being a 'father and a mother'

I pity those of them with sons - with the amount of toxicity they deposit into their children's lives, no wonder some of them are being murdered by their own seed

I believe the guy.

Nigerian women tend to develop severe mental issues when abroad or in a position of power (in this case, playing God over the life of her son).

A lot of African parents are straight up narcissists but we give them a pass out of "respect" and our barbaric culture.

novakk:
I earlier posted this story:
https://www.nairaland.com/5694171/4-out-5-pastors-said

In the initial writeup, I said how someone I wasn't getting along with someone I was dating, prayed about it with different people since we were very serious, and how majority said we were meant to be together. I however wasn't fully convinced as we seemed to be different, constantly having little issues, different views and values in life.

Moving to today...
I decided to move on from the supposed "wife". I went with someone that gives me peace of mind. I also thought its better not to live my life based on "pastor said this or that"
However, I've had recurring dreams about the 2nd lady (that gives me peace of mind). The dreams always center around us been together and she suddenly leaving, I won't be able to find her later in the dream. 2 days ago, was the 3rd dream of the same nature.

I am now slightly worried, I don't want to give in to dreams, and want to believe I can pray things are successful and go well between us. Conversely, based on our traditions, maybe I am the one not listening to advice. Between the 1st lady and I are no longer on talking terms.

What do you think? What advice do you have on how best to move forward? I want to learn from other's experience, those who have traveled this road before me.

It's 2020 and I can't believe folks are still running to pastor's to chose wife for them in this day and age

Listen guy, a confused individual like you has no business getting married in the first place. Na by force? Please stay single since you keep getting tossed by dreams and comments of so called "pastors" - you are not fit to run a home.

Rozz:
see as he be, Ikorodu Anthony Joshua lol

See as she be, ojuelegba black Chyna

Lol.

All these NL tired hags are not tired of the same debates over and over again. Sassysure, buka, rozz and co (I'm sure the remaining will join later)

Your feminism doesn't go past kitchen matter; who can cook or who cannot cook. LMAO! Lazy pigs

etrange:


<deviation>
I also know the talk of "skin-to-skin dey sweet pass", "condom is for boys", "real man go raw and withdraw", etc. Maybe those are what you shouldn't have listened to. If, when looking back, the major mistake you see and regret is getting married to her, then you need to think some more because getting married to her (though avoidable) was a only a consequence of a bigger mistake. The deed has been done, selective regretting can gain you Nairaland sympathy but that won't change a thing in your life. So don't just say you regret getting married to her (that makes it look like she is the protagonist), regret going in raw (a mistake you both made).
</deviation>

Sorry for that deviation, I had to let it out.

Now, I'm not an advocate of sticking to marriage if both parties are not happy, it makes zero sense and it could turn violent easily. Having separated parents is much better for the kids than a violent home. If you guys aren't happy together, I'll advise you go your ways to avoid stories. You have to understand this could result to you not participating actively in your baby's upbringing; a price you pay for your freedom. We just can't have it all.

If she's happy and contented in the marriage, it gets more complicated. Kicking out a woman who is happily married to you with your kid is not an option. True you can't easily cultivate love and you can't find what was never there but if what you don't like is her classlessness and not that she's always nagging, overspending and/or any such vices, then you could still make a friend of her. The so-called passionate love burns out after some years, friendship is what keeps couples going afterwards. If you make her your friend, at least, and she begins to understand you want her well-being, it will be easier to communicate the changes you want to see. Communication is key.

I know my take might not mean much cause it's a very difficult situation but the summary of what I'm saying is, don't be selfish in whatever decision you take, consider the other two parties involved.

Best of luck!

Best advice here.

bukatyne:


Brother Ollins,

If this lady is as terrible as this, how were you able to get an erection to stick it into her?

How did you start the toasting to get her into your bed and arms?

The same magic you worked to get her pregnant, use it again.

It is in you like peak!

One thing you women don't understand is a man can sleep with a lady he detests! As long as there's the desire to bust a nuut .. once a hole is available, that it.

OP, love cannot be forced. If y'all ain't feeling each other, call it off abeg. She's probably just as miserable so what's the use of hanging on

BlackNeo:



He better has it. If he doesnt, hes a dead man. You men are relying on sentiments. Right now in the Western world women hold all the aces on rape cases. This baba is a dead man if this issue goes to court and the woman gets a lawyer. He will be slaughtered and nobody will ever hear of him again for eternity! Good for him defender of women!

Bola Aseyan seems too dumb to realise the advantage she has here. If na correct sharp babe, the guy would already be in jail by now.

Dpharisee:
She wanted a serious relationship with him but he wasn't interested in her and wanted her just for the sex, she felt scorned and decided to accuse him of rape even though they have been fcking each other by consent after drunken fests.
These type of accusers make situations difficult for actual victims of rape

In contrary, I believe this was the other way round bro.

A typical Nigerian girl would wanna lock down a successful, popular man and on paper, Dr Olufunmilayo is a doctor, a twitter influencer and quite popular on social media... I remember when he was showing off his mortgage-bought house sometime last year .. so yeah, which girl wouldn't be on her best behaviour after such a guy has sponsored her abroad.

However, we can see in this case that the girl didn't really wanna sleep with dude. She even had to be drunk the first time round just to get wet! Second time seems to be like a consolation gift to the beta simp doctor to show appreciation for "housing" her - or perhaps he forced or threatened her to release that punni since he's been feeding her and she had no choice but to comply.

There's something repulsive about the said doctor which is why he can't seem to hold a chick down despite his "achievements".

Fair enough.

Please go ahead and keep your father's name but, realise that your family members have no right to collect a single Kobo from any man in the name of "bride price". Afterall you are not a piece of property and both of you are equal! Why should he pay to marry you?

Better yet, don't get married at all so you won't be faced with this name change "dilemma" in the first place

meobizy:
Zero. Hypergamy is a thing inherent in females. She’ll spend any free time scheming to catch a better man.

Facts.
Coach Greg Adams exposes this on a daily. Hypergamy is ingrained in the female DNA

Genoa:
That woman is barren for goodness shake.

May we not marry and Abortion specialist IJN.

What if our nigga Banky is the one shooting blanks?

pocohantas:


Pathetic... I bet some of them have more NL mentions than WhatsApp messages.

Speaking from experience? Since you spend all day and night on Nairaland.

Mariangeles:


At that stage? Please!
Moving Olumo rock to Oyo state would be easier.
She owns you at that point.

Nah. HE owns her at that point. At 40 a woman is expired goods!

At that age no man, I repeat, no quality man will willingly house a post-wall hag with a terrible attitude - she's as useful as a jug of spoilt milk.

crackkhaus:
@Titi03, @Kuns84

What happened with my comment on that biased moderators thread?

I just came online now and noticed the thread has reached multiple pages and has been locked, but I can't even find my very expository comment about their malevolent ways...

Yo, that thread is wiild!

Looks like there were several versions of the same thread which got deleted - the one posted in Politics Section is what morphed into this major one:

https://www.nairaland.com/5836678/biased-moderators

HarunaWest:
Chairman you and I know that what your wife has told you is the truth, so what are you nagging for mehn?
She wants you to stop a habit that you recently adopted cos it's getting on her nerves, but you no gree. Only you Snoring, bad breath and adding weight ahn ahn you wan kill the poor woman.
Truth is she is not attracted to your physically that's why she's been doing her Social Distancing for over 6 months now.
Dude you have no option than to conform with her demands. Shed that weight, loose that breath and stop staying up so late everytime...

I don't joke with fitness - Fitness to a man is like beauty to a woman. It's an asset you must maintain at all costs! It determines how you are perceived and speaks volumes of your discipline and self-control.

Just read OP's previous threads, clearly someone who has no love for himself, allowed his family take advantage of him and ruin his marriage. Now he's outchea getting fatter and fatter! What a twaat!

Say no to effeminate men

Sundrus:
Before a clean decent woman willingly & happily open punà for u, u suppose dey neat & attractive. Whether she be ur wife or not.

Bad guy

Softapplez:
Ha!!! There is more to me than meets the eye.

There is a reason why they called me prophet samurai years ago in nairaland.

So immediately Pocohantas opened the thread and when reading, i kept seeing your face all over again and again.

That's me for you, I'm spiritual.

Let me tell you something cococandy, your next baby will be a girl and I'm seeing her coming before summer next year.

You will call her Jane.

By the order of the Peaky blinders.

By the order of the Peaky blinders.

Lmaoo
Let's see sha. The impossible can be made possible either through prayer or witchcraft.

shogsman:
The OP is bound to fail with the look of things, not only is he lacking in the experience department he also likes jumping the Gun which means automatic failure.

Agreed

ElasticStone:


Bro, u be mumu o.

I am buying my mom a brand new Toyota Corolla 2010 by August this year. I cant buy my dad cause I cannot afford to buy him a car better than the one he drives now. Not everybody is hungry and in need of money like u.

#Proudy Simp

"Proudy" LMAO.

Dude grow the fvck up!

You childishly came on NL to announce a job you haven't even started yet without considering the potential implications you've exposed yourself too . You'll soon learn that not everyone on this site is a human being.

I pity your life.

Xisnin:
Because of the foolish citizens, some dangerous culture, and the government that cannot plan.
The most violent fool often ends up at the top while the one that is not gets dwarfed by the majority.


Some will blame colonialism but Romans colonized Britain and that didn't stop them.

Just look at this Coronavirus saga.
The dumbest of the dumb are the ones making the most noise without being put in their place.
How can such a society progress?

And no, revolution is not the answer or we end up with the Somalia scenario.

All your posts lack credibility or intellectual prowess - you also reek of bitterness. Smh.

Officialgarri:
There's only one reason

Africa has contributed nothing to the world

Western world see us the same way we look at a Fulani herder when he sits next to you in a public transport

In your mind, you'd be like ; where's he going to?
Can't he trek? Only God knows when last he took his bath!

Facts.

Xisnin:
Picture 1:
Overfed obese imbeciles protest against staying alive.
It is surprising that some of them were on mask.

Picture 2:
Poorly informed women protest against hunger.
The government should have planned better for the lockdown.


One is a legitimate protest, the other is a show of shame by entitled white men.

I've been seeing your posts all over NL - you really need reorientation. Did you go to school at all?

Listen dude, those 'white men' are not the cause of your misery ok? Why not hold your leaders accountable for the lack you suffer which doesn't allow you the ability to feed, not to talk of being "overfed".

Those in civilised climes are overfed and yet still demand accountability from their government - that is why their country is as developed as it is now. But Africans, especially bigots like you will turn a blind eye to suffering and oppression once an obese, monkey-resembling politician throws you pitiful bags of rice and 200naira garri

No wonder Nigeria is in the state it's in today.. too many poverty stricken folks with non-functioning brains who wait for situation to reach devastating levels before taking action - all it takes is the distribution of agege bread to those poor aged women and they will shut up and go back to their dark huts with no electricity.

Pitiful!

sammyj:
This shows the incompetent of this governor. Just imagine playing cheese wit peoples life. As if the virus too has a free day of its own!!

Smh.

You and your likes are free to imprison yourself at home then if you're afraid of contacting the invisible 'virus'.

Others have the right to go out as they please. Ce' fini.

engrchykae:
you are silly because you think as Nigeria government do rent protesters so do sane governments.
In your politically corrupt mind,if people protest, opposition must be behind it.
Physics is physics,protest is CONSTITUTIONAL RIGHT.

Preach it brother

Acidosis:



Quarantine is destroying your business? And now you want to destroy the lives of your customers because your business must thrive?

Make this comment make sense Acidosis, please make it make sense!

If people wanna lock themselves indoors like zombies they are free to do so. But no one, I repeat, no one has the right to tell the entire population to sit at home and close their businesses down.

Your mindset baffles me sometimes

engrchykae:
as a Nigerian who only sees things from the lens of politics.
If u happen to be a scientist,you will say pdp physics textbook misled apc waec students.
Stop being silly

Haha I also noticed that Xisnin character chats a load of sh!t

CTPlayer:
It is absurd how Covid deaths are categorized. If you die and test positive they list that as death by Covid even if you had a heart attack and other pre existing conditions.

Facts.
It's crazy how many people are blind to this.