Thank God she has a son.
In 27 - 30 years time, your son's wife will also disrespect her the way she's currently doing to your mother.

cococandy:
What about wives that are very generous to the in-laws without waiting for the husband?

Some people never see the full picture.

Some money comes directly from the wives accounts. But because our culture hardly appreciates anything women do, the default thinking is that the husband is the one providing it. Or at best the wife is encouraging him to. Hardly does anyone think that maybe the wife gets her salary and forwards money to the in-laws without waiting to be asked .

But can you say this about yourself? You that married your ancestor for financial benefits - who took you abroad and is still housing and feeding you till today.
How much have you given your inlaws?

So far I haven't had one .. but I do know of a certain pathetic NL misandrist called Breaststroke who was humbled after receiving a one month ban so she came back to nairaland and went on a spiritual cleanse thus deleting all comments on her profile after realising how uttely lowly and stupid she has been.. thank God for deliverance!

I don't know what you were hoping to get out of this thread - this is a matter between you and your wife

Breaststroke:


For someone who said I will die on top of his matter, it is laughable that you are the one who follows me from thread to thread and can't leave my moniker out of your shitty mouth.

I said before and I will say it again. I will keep mentioning you and you will do NOTHING, absolutely nothing my dear - but to continue drooling over me like the toothless bulldog you are

Watching you run mad is food to my soul

saucecoder:

Lamentations of cococandy AKA breaststroke
Even if u deaactivate dis one this second, you and I know u will still be using all your other handles

No mind am. I saw where that puta said she'll leave nairaland by the end of 2019 LMAO!
How is that even possible? Someone whose entire existence depends on receiving praise from that renowned witch called cococandy.

@Breaststroke, it's like that ban reset your brain small hence why you reduced your gutter lingo (you dey fear another ban ey? ) Nothwithstanding, you and I both know you can never leave this site. You will die on nairaland.

The great Ubunja!

Breaststroke:


Honestly, that wasn't me


I wait out all bans on my moniker. I don't open a new account.

Indeed

Breaststroke:


Lol, like I said you start fires but you can't take the heat, then you go running to the mods to report folks.

Lmao!! Same way you used an alternative moniker to report the delectable comments of sweetmelanin because you were banned and couldn't stand the pain

AfroKnight:




You don cause wahala here

salford1:

Or just maybe he saved an higher down payment which is a very good idea. That one year of extra savings could be the difference between a 5% or 20% DP.

He did mention saving £1000 per month for 3 years. That totals £36000 - this is quite a good chunk of cash to put down for a house - meaning the repayment balance might not be much

Akiliogidi:
Good for him...
But then, stop this unnecessary comparison, like Drs in Nigeria don't make money??

Modified:

If you had said 3 yrs, that's quite understandable but 15 yrs?? no na..
I can list countless Drs that are making money, some have even resigned from the govt owned hospitals to concentrate on their clinic. What about the one in my street, married to a barrister, have 4boys all below 17yrs, have 2 SUV, 2 saloon cars & he is into real estate & he his presently building a duplex after destroying his bungalow.

Bottom line be say, Drs do make money in Nigeria too
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I am not in the medical field o & even if I am there, I will still travel & I must travel, make man still dey find money, I go come tell my story

My guy, there is always an exception to the rule. I'm glad you mentioned he's into real estate because clearly one cannot achieve all this while depending on a doctors salary in naija.

My background: I come from a family of doctors. My father is a medical doctor, my elder brothers all doctors, my sister an occupational therapist, I'm currently in medical school.

My father attained the highest rank he could in medicine and at his age the old man is still completing his "mansion" in our home town - he never had the knack for business so his salary is all he ever depended on - to make matters worse, the man had 5 boys and 1 girl to train and send to school - sometimes, pops had to collect bank loan to sustain the family. He's retired now and its we the children that are contributing to complete his life long building project.

I'm talking from first hand experience so I can confidently tell you that if you ain't doing something on the side alongside medicine in Nigeria, you will die broke!

claremont:
Fair play to him. The house is on a mortgage, the car is on finance. These are things anyone on a basic income in the UK can acquire, you don't necessarily have to be a doctor to get them. Give it a few more years, the excitement of owning these basic things will soon wear off.

Mortgage and finance isn't a thing to shame or downplay like its nothing. My understanding is that one needs to have good credit and stable income to get it - and that's quite a big deal.

A mortgage is always an investment whatever way you look at it. You don't have to wait x amount of years to pay it off, you can simply sell the house anytime you wish and collect the equity you've built up on it, plus any additional profit the house has made if the value goes up. It's actually a quick way to accumulate a lump sum of money to invest into something else.

I prefer the western system of financing rather than what we have here where you will spend your whole life trying to complete a building project in a village because building in Lagos is almost impossible for the average middle class. Most people will never own a home in this Lagos or better still Abuja- last last na land!

midnighter:


You started bullying her first, when you said this:









You think the way you spoke to her was okay just because you were fake-polite and passive-aggressive about it? If you're so concerned about her and you're such a "bystander" you would have put your points across without embarrassing her.

We know your type, who try to disguise spiteful comments by coating them in honey first and then claim innocent when the other person loses their temper.

As for the insults, well, let me be as biased as you are and say that you deserve them! People like you never learn so let me be a hypocrite like you and take sides with her so that you can understand yourself.

You are a bully. Maybe a well-spoken and subtle one, but still a bully.

Think well before going about picking on people in order to make yourself feel superior. You're busy lecturing people about dignity and class when you yourself are a classless manipulator.

This proves my point. Keep insulting each other o - girl power!

cococandy:


If I remember correctly, I simply told her I wasn’t interested in having a pointless back and forth on a feminist topic seeing as it’s unproductive. So I must be ready to argue at any given time?
That’s your definition of bullying? If that’s bullying, How would you then define this your NL hobby?

You do like to sow seeds of discord between female posters on NL and then sit back and enjoy the drama (if they are naive enough to fight other ladies because of your posts). I only feel sorry for any lady who hasn’t seen this your tactic for what it is. What will you gain from it?

All women on NL don’t have to agree. Don’t go into a frenzy and pop out your popcorn every time ladies disagree



@bold, unless the poster is a male parading as female, I don’t see how any right thinking lady would even think you’re okay.

The hate is real.

I don't need to sow any useless "seed of discord" anywhere - you women do a great job of tearing each other down with words and you do that on your own without the need for an instigator.

So, does it make me a bad guy when I sit down with my popcorn and enjoy the show? Women naturally hate each other with a passion and will forever be in competition with one another - you know this and it ain't my fault darling.

crackhaus:

Guy leave my baby alone, she's so not used to Nigerian aggression and hot-headedness.

Tell cococandy that o - na she dey bully your wife pass

cococandy:


The day she doesn’t agree with you, you will turn around and call her all kinds of names.
Weren’t you chums with missjo until she had a simple disagreement with you and ended up insulting her life. Even using a simple argument that I had with her to make fun of her.

How does that make you feel?

Don’t worry about answering

Nah I will respond witch!

I was never chums with that weakling called missjo - you in fact, bullied that girl into oblivion and I simply reminded her of that! Don't act like her spokesperson now after treating the flat-chested simpleton like a non-entity. Yes you and your coven members!

sweetmelanin:


That's your mother not me.

Hehehehehe! Where have you been all my life?

Breaststroke:


When it comes to your fellow men, you agree to disagree and move on because you have more respect for your fellow men than most of the senseless women on nairaland.

Now that's more like it!

This is the same place that men are expected to chuck mouth during the act God help us!

salford1:

It's the same for every profession and not just restricted to a particular one, and most important is that there is a good credit system in place that lets you finance cars, houses, furnitures etc

True. I'm just tired of this country to be honest. We have a long way to go