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So, where are the pictures? I love weddings!

I just opened the vault! Brain tasking though!

God has the final decision.

Nadia is prettier but Rita is sexier! I will chose Rita anyday, anytime!

bluespice:
na na na na na na
next time when a lady says no, u stick ur weiner back into ur underpants

olaolaking:
My problem is that I feel I will not be able to withstand the embarassment

You have to learn to deal with embarrassment. You will not die from it, you should learn how to laugh at these things.

Please rephrase your question.  It should be 'what is right in marrying , ' 
I started to list the wrongs but changed my mind as I could not think of what could be right. Seems everything is wrong.

On the train of my Ex's wedding??     That will somehow strange.  I would say no outright, it is bad enough attending the wedding without giving people something to gossip about.  If you can stand the questioning look from the guests who know you as an ex; and if your present partner does not mind and you really want to do it, then go ahead and join the train.  Otherwise I will say leave them alone, just  attend the wedding have fun and go home. 
I will definitely frown at my bf being on the wedding train of his ex gf except she is marrying his relative or a very close friend of his.

chaircover:
He is not totally detached from his ex and you are just filling a stop gap
This is the most romantic period of a relationship and you should be enjoying that rather than playing second best.
Please leave the guy. He is not ready for you yet.

I totally agree!

Very nice. Thanks.

You have to have 'liver' and be prayerful! If you need to ask this kind of question, you should not cheat on your wife!

Guys cheat cos they are guys! Its in them.

In my organisation:-

1. Maternity leave is 12 weeks
2. All allowances are paid in full
3. You resume same time but close an hour earlier
4. Medical insurance is available and covers delivery even through CS
5. You can go for maternity every year but not twice a year
6. No welfare package for new baby

Yes, I have! Very bad experience and I dropped him immediately.

None!

First work on yourself.  Develop self confidence and take care of your appearance.  You can go out as a group with your friends and talk to the girls.  Do not start toasting or talking about sex or relationship.  Chat about what you have passion for or have knowledge in like football, music, internet etc.  Try to establish friendship with ladies first before moving on to talking about relationship with them. 
But I want to find out if you are shy with all girls or just with those you think are not 'clean & beautiful'?

Nothing wrong with a girl chatting a guy up first,  if she is bold enough and can stand the disappointment if the guy says no.  I will not chat a guy up first but I can make my attraction known in a subtle manner like smiling, greeting him etc.  I have never chatted a guy up first but I have acted in nice friendly manner that showed my interest, to which some guys have reacted positively.  I agree wtih Busybody on her comment below. The word is be friendly and approachable!

[quote author=Busy_body link=topic=293246.msg4146227#msg4146227 date=1246923884]It is a no no for me, I ain't even gonna sit on the fence for this, what if she gets knocked back and gets an iso, ouch and i heard that iso thing really hurts too
One thing I have learnt over the years is that if you fancy a guy, smile at him to put him at ease, if he likes you, he will approach you, if he does not fancy you, you still have your pride intact and have lost nothing.
I found this out when i discovered that we had this friend who was not that goodlooking yet always managed to draw guys attention to her to the extent that they'd come over to where we all were and only single her out to talk to her
I was already plotting how to broach the subject of what soap/cream she was using to do the trick, when one of our friends pointed out to us that whilst the rest of us ladies were flaring our nostril and had the look of a bulldog chewing a wasp, like a typical naija lady, she was all smiles and had a welcoming friendly disposition that made guys comfortable enough to approach her . . . [/quote]

I am shocked that ladies and gentlemen share same bathrooms in your establishment!   But to answer your question; do what you want to do!  If you are interested but fear that people may catch you, let her know and agree to meet her after work outside the premises to do your thing. 
Some of the posts in NL are getting rather worrisome!  Very soon I will post my own that the guy I am harrassing is refusing to go all the way!   Haba!!!

Love letters?   I can't remember what they look like!  That stopped with mobile phones and email addresses. Just send a text or email or call!

Interesting as it may seem, it is the worst type of romance you can think of.  Do not go into it except you are sure it is going to lead to marriage.  The disadvantages far out weight the advantages.  For me, it is no!  If your partner loves you he/she will talk about it and if he/she is just using you he will also talk about it and you tend to lose some respect.  Keep your love affairs/romance/personal life out of the office.